running away to another state

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Re: Jayden

Hi there,

Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are unhappy living at home and you are looking to see what your options are. With regards to flying as a minor, each airline might have their own policy with regards to flying, however most airlines allow people of your age to fly without an adult. Might be good to look into that online or by calling their customer service. As far as the cops returning you home, that might happen if you are filed as a runaway. Runaway reports are nationwide, so if you have been filed as one by your parent or guardian in Orlando and the police pick you up in Washington, they would be able to see you are a runaway just by running your name.

We are happy to discuss with you your situation and plan in more detail. We are here to brainstorm with you ways that you can stay safe if you decide to leave home. Feel free to call us at our 24 hour number anytime: 1-800-RUNAWAY.

Best,
NRS

[Shawnee12345]

how to run away to a different state?

Okay so I can't handle staying here anymore with my parents they abuse me and its horrible. I live in California and my bf lives in Texas he said I could move in with him but I need a way to get to Texas me and my friend are going and I'm 15 she's 16 and my bf is 17 almost 18. We want to take the grayhound bus but do you have to be a certain age? Do my parents? Need to be there to put me on the bus?

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Re: running away to another state

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really difficult time at home. No one should ever have to deal with abuse, especially from a loved-one. It sounds like you have a good support in your boyfriend. Leaving home can be a challenging step, so a couple of things to think about would be:

• Where you would go if plans to live with your boyfriend fell through.
• What you would do for school/work, or how you might support yourself.
• Whether you’d want to maintain contact with your family, or what you might do if they filed a runaway report with the police.

For Greyhound, each station has different rules as far as youth boarding. We here at NRS would recommend contacting the station you would depart from to learn more about their rules and whether you’d need a parent or guardian to place you on the bus.
It takes a lot to make the first step forward in ensuring your safety. Thank you again for reaching out. If you’d like to talk more about your situation, you can always call us. We’re open 24/7 and are always here to listen.

NRS

[Unregistered]

I'm 13 and I want to run away

I'm 13 and I live in Kentucky and I hate my family I wonder how would I be to run away to Myrtle Beach I would pack my bags with a bunch of food and water and a jacket
When I move to run away to a new state and get to my destination can the people I live with take custody of me I also get whipped

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Re: running away to another state

Hello,
Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.
It sounds like you hate your family and would like to run away to Myrtle Beach. We are sorry that you get whipped and that things between you and your family are so bad that you are thinking about running away. It is great that you are thinking of items that you will need. Running away can be a big task and it shows a lot of maturity to reach out to sort the details.
We know that you mentioned that you are thinking about things to pack. Have you given any thought as to:
-How will your parents react to you leaving?
-Will they call the police?
-Do you have a safe place to go?
-What about school? Is continuing an education important to you?
-How are you going to survive? Food? Shelter? Transportation? Money?
-Who can you depend on if you were to leave home?
- What is your plan B if your first plan does not work out?
-Who have you reached out to make things better at home?
-If you were forced to return home, what do you think that would look like?

We are here to try to provide you with support and resources so that if you do decide to leave home, you are doing it intelligently and safely.

You asked if the people that you runaway to can get custody of you. We want you to know that we are not legal experts nor are we affiliated with the police so we can only speak generally about what could happen if a youth leaves home without the consent of a guardian. Leaving home without parental consent (running away) is not a crime, so the police will not arrest you. If you do leave home without permission your guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. Running away is not a crime it is a status offence (something that only a minor can get in trouble for truancy, buying cigarettes, etc.) this means that if you have any interaction with the police they will simply return you home. On the other hand the people that you are found to be staying with could face legal consequences that vary depending on state. So chances of them being able to adopt you are extremely slim .You can find out more about how runaway’s reports are carried out by contacting your local police department. If you would like we could contact your local non-emergency number for you or with you. Just give us a call and one of our trained liners would be happy to assist you.

We hope that all of this information encourages you to give us a call. We would like to talk to you more about what is going on. 1-800-RUNAWAY

[Unregistered]

Re: running away to another state

Hi. I live in California and I want to go to Colorado to run away. Since I'm only fourteen, could I just go? Plus what is the best way to run away. Thanks for the help.

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RE: Re: running away to another state

Hey there,

Thanks for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like things at home may be causing you to want to run away. You're wanting to know if you're allowed to go to another state on your own. We are not legal experts, but generally you must be 18 years old in order to make the decision to leave home. If you left home without permission, you could be filed as a runaway by your parent/guardian. If you are found staying with someone else, those individuals may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway which comes with different legal consequences depending on the situation and the state that you live in.

We cannot give any advice or tips on running away. We are a crisis support services. If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore some ways that we may help, please consider calling out to us here at 1-800-786-2929.

We hope to hear from you soon,

NRS

[It'sMe]

16 and unhappy.

My parents don't abuse me in anyway, it's just the relationship with them is overwhelmingly bad and I honestly can't handle it anymore. I currently live in Georgia and my friend lives in FL. My friend is 26 and offered to help me vanish, if we were to get caught, what charges could he possibly face? Would I be forced to come home?

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Re: 16 and unhappy.

Hello,
Thanks for reaching out to us during this difficult time. It sounds like things at home have gotten overwhelming and frustrating to the point where you are thinking about running away from home. Just to let you know, we are not legal experts. Although typically running away isn’t against the law, anyone you would be caught staying with could possible be charged with ‘harboring a runaway’. Your legal guardians would have a legal right to press charges against your friend for ‘haboring’ or possibly kidnapping, depending on the state. Typically the police or child protective services would require you to return back home unless there was abuse or neglect present. Have you discussed with your friend what would be expected of you when you get out there? If not, that might be a good discussion to have beforehand.
There may be other options to consider before leaving home such as talking to a counselor, family counseling, talking to a trusted friend or family member to help mediate. Another option would be to contact us and we can help you have a conversation with your parents, or leave them a message if you did decide to leave. Please remember that you can contact us at any point in time at (800) RUNAWAY. We're here 24/7.

Best,
NRS

[catscratches707]

Running away to a different state?

Im fourteen, going on fifteen in february. for the past year and a half ive wanted desperately to run away. i dont really have a reason other than my parents make me feel worthless constantly. they havent ever physically abused me, nor do i believe they have the intention of, but living with them has caused me immense stress. my room is messy constantly, so i get yelled at for it, my grades are slipping due to the stress and they cause more stress by taking things away. i met this guy on a social media website a few months back and he's two years older than me. we've chatted and stuff, but we've never seen eachother in person. he knows how bad it is here, and so do my friends. he hasnt specifically said he would, but if he were to drive down here (i live in texas and he lives near indiana) what would i need to legally stay with him? what would happen if i wasnt ever caught? if he says he doesnt want to drive down here, ill either plead an older friend to drive me up there or ill wait till i have my liscense and drive up there myself. how would i go through with that? what would i need to pack? my family is poor and we dont have much money at all and im too young for a job, what would i do?

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running away to a different state?

Hi,

18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

NRS

[Arizkaa]

New York run away to Missouri

Hi. I'm a university student at the age of 18. I currently am living in my dorms, however I plan to run away instead of going back home for December break.
My family has been physically and emotionally abusive, and the emotional abuse gets worse every time I go home.
I want to run away, but have little money to do so. I could afford the train tickets to Missouri, but I want to find a place to stay there so I can find a job and eventually be able to rent an apartment there.
I plan on bringing a backpack and a suitcase with me, is that okay to do when running away, or should I just pack a light bag?
Also, my family can't do anything as long as I leave a note in my dorm room saying I'm running away for police, right?
Thank you so much. I need help ASAP.

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Re: running away to another state

Thank you for reaching out to NRS. We want you to know that no one deserves to be abused, and you should not have to go through that. We are here to support you and help you in any way we can.

It sounds like you are thinking of running away because you don’t want to go back to the abuse over winter break. That sounds like a really tough situation. We’re not legal experts here at NRS, but generally, your parents and the police can’t do anything if you run away from home since you are a legal adult. You asked about what you should pack if you run away…running away is different for everyone, so you could consider thinking about all the things you would need to survive if you ran away and how permanent that move would be. There are many resources out there that can help you get resources, work through issues with your family, or help you with anything else you are struggling with. You may also consider reporting the abuse you’ve experienced, or telling a family member, friend, or school counselor about what you’re going through. If you want more details about any of these resources, or if you’d like to talk more about what’s been going on, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

Again, thank you for reaching out. You’ve been going through a hard time, but you’ve shown strength by reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.

[Unregistered]

Running Away

hi im chantelle and i wanted to know if i would get in trouble by law if i run away with my be who is older of age. im a minor and have this planned with my older bf but im scared of getting caught

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Re: running away to another state

Hi Chantelle,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case.

Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. A good way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

We may be able to provide some legal aid resources to you to answer some of your specific questions if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or open a chat with us and we can talk you through that option.

Take care,
NRS