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  • #76
    can you be arrested in Georgia fir permitting a 16 and a half runaway spend some time in your home?

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    • ccsmod8
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      Hello there -

      Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can.

      Now we aren't legal experts here but like we tell a lot of our callers, the laws on that specific subject of running away vary from state to state. If the youth is filed as a file a runaway report, the parents can choose to press charges on those for harboring a runaway (ie. friend, neighbor, etc). Harboring a runaway is when that party are not giving accurate information on a runaways whereabouts. That could lead to a number of different legal issues such as misdemeanor charges (fines or jail charges). From what we know it isn’t something that typically happens, but it is in place to detour individuals from helping runaway minors from not returning home or lying on a runaways behalf. So it really just depends on how the youth's parents are going to react.

      Hope this information helps!
      Last edited by ccsmod8; 06-14-2019, 03:35 PM.

  • #77
    Hi I'm a 16 yr old living in an emotionally abusive house, and it's so frustrating, it's been like this for as long as I can remember and it hurts so much at this point. My parents fight and say stuff in front of us, and whenever I try to help or anything I just get told it's none of my business. My mom moved a stranger into the house before after her and my dad broke up and he was super abusive to me. He had told me to kill myself, cut myself, that I should've been aborted, that I was the spawn of the devil, and much more. I'm not a bad kid I don't understand why I have to live in this hell. My mom didn't really do anything about it until he told me to kill myself. Then he got kicked out, she eventually ended up getting back with my dad and (present) they've recently broken up again and me, my brother, and my mom got kicked out of our appartment, and my dad has no where to go but we're living with my grandpa. I have abandonment issues from when my dad "left" when I was younger (he was kept away from me by my mom) and abandonment issues from my mother too. They both say things that tear me apart. Today I told my mom that if they're going to treat me this way why don't they just get rid of me, and she said she's trying to find a solution, insinuating that she was thinking about it, and my dad when he gets mad and they fight, my mom will say he's a bad father and he said that he wouldn't be our father for long and that I could find him when I'm 18. I love my dad but that hurt terribly, he explained after that he didn't mean it that way but I feel like I'm dying inside. I've have very bad anxiety and depressiom issues and I was thinking what would be best at this point is to get emancipated or move in with a friend, but my mother won't let me, I'm not sure what to do, I've tried ways to stop the pain but they never work I just feel trapped, I'm not going to kms or anythi g I just... I'm tired of this pain I feel like I wanna scream and cry because the pain in my heart and I don't know what to do

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension between your parents and yourself. You should never have been told such hurtful things by the person living in your home. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      It sounds like your parents aren’t listening to you when you are trying to express your thoughts and feelings about your current situation. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom or dad so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

      You brought up that you have been having anxiety and depression and have some issues regarding feelings of abandonment. It can be really hard to face these kinds of issues alone. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-877-726-4727 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • #78
    Hi I’m not scared to tell you who I am. My name is Katelyn rose and my mom is abusive. If I say something she doesn’t like she hits me. If I try to tell her about my depression and anxiety she tells me that I need to go on medicine and to shut up about it. She rolls her eyes when I tell her I’m having a panic attack she says I am being dramatic. I’m 16 turning 17 in August I can’t live here anymore mental health is deteriorating fast. It seems like all I do is make her mad. I can’t voice my opinion I can’t stand up for myself. I have told a very close person that all this is going on and they are trying to help but don’t know how. I can’t stand being threatened and slapped around. I shouldn’t go through that. She says that I talk back to much. I can just ask a question and she’s in my face screaming and spitting on me. I need out but what can I do?? My friends mom wants to take me in as her own. I can’t get emancipated because she won’t let me get a job. She won’t sign off on the papers. I take care of my 3 brothers and sister. I raised them. I stay up till 3 waiting for her to get home after hanging out with a friend ( she doesn’t do it frequently ). I need help before it becomes to much. I feel like this is the reason why my cousin committed suicide in Jan 13, 2017. Too much pressure to much abuse to much stress

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    • ccsmod9
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      Hello,

      You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

      If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

      Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
      Take care,
      NRS

  • #79
    My names paige I’m 16.
    im currently 9. Weeks pregnant
    I live with my dad whom got full custody of me because my mother is unstable .
    my father is very mentally abusive . He wakes me up 9AM cleaning my room while mummmering words about me or hell wake me up to tell me about how we’re broke n he doesn’t kno how I’m going to raise a baby. Before I got pregnant I smoked weed . A lot. My dad provided money . I’ll never hear the end of that. To him I’m a loser I will get nowhere like my mother he loves to say . I’m 16 everyone else my age is out late n I have to leave my baby daddies house at 10PM on the dot. He is munipulitive . I don’t have a pair of socks with out a hole in it but he complains everyday we’re broke but he goes out every Friday Saturday night to drink n snort coke n but strippers /: I’m very mature for my age . I’ve been put this this mental abuse since I turned 13 and I got placed here . My brothers n sisters don’t live with me but they all know exactly what I’m going tru and want me with them but they live out of state n I could’ve leave my baby daddy.. my dad compares me to my mother n her side of the family making me feel belittled like nothing . He tells me when he feels like dying he makes me want to die as well . I want go leave home so bad I’m so sad sitting on my bathroom floor jus holding my baby belly wanting to die /: he tells me I can’t leave home and that if I do he’ll call the cops tell them my bf has weed on him or something and that stops me from leaving what can I possibly do I need out or I can’t Handel another day ..

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    • ccsmod9
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      Thanks for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline and sharing your experience with us. It is a courageous step to take that is not always easy. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation. Becoming pregnant and feeling unprepared or unsure of what to do next can be a scary thing to face. We are always here to listen and help as best as possible. Taking this step by step can help to make this stressful time a little less overwhelming. Identifying people in your life that you can trust to support you during this time may be a good start to seeking help and exploring your options.If you suspect that you may be pregnant or are currently unsure, confirming pregnancy is a good first step. This can look like purchasing a pregnancy test after you have missed a menstrual period or you can get this confirmation by possibly going to a local clinic for a blood test. If you are pregnant, proper health care can be important in whatever you choose to do. One way to reach a doctor and find useful resources that specialize in women’s health/pregnancy is to contact Planned Parenthood at 1800-230-7526 or go to their website at https://www.plannedparenthood.org/. If you’d like additional support or resources please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY 24 hours, 7 days a week or chat with us online by going to www.1800RUNAWAY.org.

  • #80
    Im 16, abused, engaged, and pregnant.

    Hey, I'm 16 and I live in Kansas. My parents are separated and re-married but both households are extremely toxic. My boyfriend has been my lifeline through this all and has been a total sweetheart to me. We recently became pregnant and as he is almost 18, he has offered for me to go live with him and his family. My dad has awful anger issues and has said some pretty nasty things that I will never forget. Things such as talking down on my self-harm and suicidal thoughts. He has an extremely bad temper and when he found out I was pregnant he called me a ********ing whore and was screaming at my face at 6 AM. My mother on the other hand is mentally ill and extremely narcissistic. She guilt trips me constantly and tries to make me feel bad for her life turning out awfully. Neither household is healthy to raise a baby in, my father wouldn't ever allow my fiance (baby's father) to be around me or the baby, and my mother is very contradicting in her own actions and let's my bum of a stepdad rule the house and make our lives hell. My father had previously threatened that he would kill me if I ever became a teen mom, and seeing as that is now my reality, I am not comfortable in his house. He is extremely strict and we can't eat certain foods without getting into trouble, or talk to friends late at night, or even get up in the middle of the night to get a drink or use the bathroom. I can't see how I'm supposed to raise a baby with either of these living conditions. Both of my parents are emotionally and verbally abusive, to the point where I can't remember the last time I wasn't depressed. I guess my question is, would it be smart to move in with my fiance and his family (who are very supportive and understanding about everything) and if so, could my father take any legal action to cause drama between both families (as I assume he will try)? My fiance doesn't want his kid living in either of these conditions and I don't either but I also want to raise my baby alongside him instead of our baby living with my fiance until I'm 18.

    Would much appreciate any advice, thank you.

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there, thanks for posting. It sounds like you are handling quite a lot on your own right now with the pregnancy, your parents, and a new engagement. It takes a lot of strength to reach out! We are here to help!

      You mentioned abuse and your dad threatening to kill you. That sounds like an unsafe environment for sure! Child Help is the national child abuse hotline and can provide more information on that: 1-800-422-4453, childhelp.org. We can also help file an abuse report, only if you want to do so. Otherwise we are completely confidential and anonymous and you can call (1-800-786-2929) or live chat through this website anytime, 24/7.

      You also mentioned how much your dad's abuse and mom's mental health has affected you. Seems like it has all taken quite a toll, which is so understandable! We are here 24/7 if you want to talk more about this. You may also consider finding a local therapist or support group here: samhsa.gov. We have a database of resources too if you wanted to find more youth services near you that are affordable and accessible.

      As far as leaving home, we are not legal experts. Generally, you can do so with permission, through CPS or through emancipation which can be a bit of a lengthy and expensive process. We are not legal experts, but can give you general info and refer you to legal aid.

      As far as your dad dismissing your self-harm and suicidal thoughts, that is very hurtful and we are so sorry you are experiencing that! twloha.com has information, blog articles, resources, etc written all about self-harm from others who have experienced it. If you are ever in crisis and feel like you may hurt yourself, the national suicide prevention lifeline is also an option, 24/7 by phone or live chat online: 1-800-273-8255 suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

      Thank you again for reaching out. Your situation sounds very stressful, especially being pregnant. We have loads of resources for housing, pregnancy, youth services, etc so call or chat to talk more directly: 1-800-786-2929.

  • #81
    13 and being emotionally and verbally abused

    Hello, I am 13 and and can't stand living at home anymore. My mom has constantly told me i'm fat, stupid and ugly. My parents will yell at me and then act like everything is okay after. If i cry My dad tells me I am to sensitive and need to grow thick skin. Since I was 10, my parents have been disregarding my opinions calling them stupid. My best friends believe me and are telling me to get help, but i'm afraid to. My parents are nice some of the time, which I guess is why i haven't done anything about it. My parents have caused me to have depression and I just don't know what to do anymore. My parents have also never supported any of my dreams. My dad just has started criticizing everything i do. It just makes me sad when i see have dinner at my friends house, and see her family watching TV together talking and i wish i had that. I just don't know what to do.

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there, we are glad you reached out! Sounds like home if super stressful and really taking a toll on your mental health.
      You do not deserve to be called fat, ugly, stupid by anyone, especially your mom. That must feel so hurtful! You mentioned your friends are supportive. Perhaps there are other adults who could support you too: a school counselor, teacher, neighbor, aunt/uncle, grandparent, or cousin. You could also consider finding a local counselor to speak to. We have a lot of youth-friendly services in our database. If you want some resources in your local area, call or chat us anytime: 1-800-786-2929 or chat through the link at the top of the website.

      It sounds like your parents are not as supportive as your wished they were. This can be very hard to deal with and handle. You are very brave for reaching out and talking about this! For more support, you can call or chat us here, we are 24/7. The Crisis Text Line is also 24/7 and can be contacted by texting the number 741-741.

      You have shown a lot of strength in reaching out! Please call or chat if we can provide more support or resources!

  • #82
    I am 16 and my parents call me terrible names they say they’re stupid ugly retarded mental worthless lazy the devil I wish I never had you your mistake all of these terrible terrible things and I hear them every single day when I wake up to when I go to bed I don’t want to live in my house anymore I don’t feel safe even though my parents just call me names sometimes my dad said that he is going to kill me and sometimes I think he will and every time I try to go to so I called the police everyone takes his side and I have no self-esteem I think so little of myself I am hurting on the inside so much I feel like I am not worth it i I don’t belong here don’t feel safe I just need help

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    • ccsmod6
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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. What you are going through sounds truly awful and we are so sorry that you are being treated in such a hurtful and inappropriate manner. It is absolutely not okay for your parents to call you those names (or any) and it is even more not okay for them to threaten to physically harm you. We want you to know that we hear you and we are here for you and that no matter what, you are worth it. It is hard for us to talk about what your options are without knowing more about your situation. One option could be to file an abuse report with your state’s CPS or DCFS agency. If you want to learn more about that option and more about what reporting might look like, you can always give a call to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. Otherwise, please give us a call on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org if you would like to talk about what other options there might be and how we can best support you.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • #83
    Hello I am 16 I live in Connecticut I have no job no permit or license and I have a mental abusive father and a mother that hardly ever stick ups for me. I have a girlfriend and her family and my mother’s parents that are willing to help me but I cannot stand living with my dad anymore all he does his scream and yell and give attitudes and I’ve had a headache for almost 3 weeks and he blames it on me not wearing glasses but it’s actually the stress that he puts on me and when I’m not near him and I’m in my room I end up crying and he also doesn’t want me to be happy cuz my girlfriend makes me extremely happy but he told me I can’t talk to her but I talk to her anyways so I can be happy and have have her forever and ever but my father has been mentally abusing me lately and I need out what can I do?
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 09-23-2019, 11:41 PM.

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi, thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like you have a really hard situation with your dad screaming and yelling and causing so much stress that are manifested in headaches. You don’t deserve to be treated this way, and we are sorry for all that you are going through.
      We are glad to hear that your grandparents are willing to help you and maybe they would have more say in this matter, along with your mom. We are also glad that your girlfriends parents are supportive of you as well. With a cell phone, you can reach out to www.nationalsafeplace.org and choose the TXT 4 Help option to discuss your situation with someone from a local youth agency. We aren’t able to call you, but there are two ways that you can discuss your situation with us and help you discover your options.
      We are here for you to discuss this further in a way where we can have a conversation. You can contact us either by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or via live chat through the website www.1800runaway.org We are here for you 24/7 to listen and to help.
      We hope this helps and that we might hear from you soon.
      Sincerely, NRS

  • #84
    My girlfriend is 16 and I live 5 hours away her mother is emotionally and physically abusive towards her and threatened her when I was there I didn't feel safe going home and leaving her there the day before I left to go home she begged me to take her with me as she was terrified that her mother was going to hurt her again. Is there anything I can do to help her to get away from her abusive mother. I am 19 she is turning 17 this year. She doesn't want to leave her pets but she doesn't think she can survive being there longer if I am not there so I am wondering if there is anything I can do

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    • ccsmod6
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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry to hear that your girlfriend is living in an environment where she is not being treated kindly or appropriately. It is good to hear that she has someone who is on her side and supporting her through this very difficult circumstance. Her mother is completely out of line to be acting so abusive towards her and it might be a good idea to consider reporting the abuse to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org.

      While we’re not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is not illegal to run away. Your girlfriend’s parent/guardian could file a runaway report on her but this would NOT mean that she would get arrested or charged with anything. It typically does mean that the police could return her home if they encountered her and that would be that. Police typically do not actively search for a runaway youth. However, they will go where the parent/guardian directs them if they know where she is staying. Additionally, police can sometimes be more lenient about runaway situations the closer you are to 18. She can attempt to calmly and respectfully deny them consent to touch you or take you anywhere, and it would also be worth it for her to stress that she is in a dangerous situation at home where she does not feel safe. They may give up on trying to return her home. They also may not, in which case she should comply with what they tell her to do for her safety. This can also depend on the state she’sin, the county she’s in, even the officer that happens to be handling the situation that night.

      While there isn’t much risk for her, her mom could possibly try to press charges against you for harboring a runaway if she knows where her daughter is. Additionally, it can be a felony to transport a minor across state lines without parental consent. While harboring charges are not often successfully pursued, they still are definitely a risk. If you wanted to share more about your situation, we would be happy to provide you with more specific information where we can. Please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • #85
    I am 16 and live in Laramie wyoming. My mom passed away and I was forced to live with my biological father. It all went down hill from there. He says hurting things to me, playing with my emotions and he enjoys it. Family services got involved and they didn't help. They tried working things out amd it only made it worse. I don't know how much longer. Is there options to get me officially way from him?

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      Hi,

      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being emotionally harmed.

      It is important that you know that you do not deserve to be treated this way. You should feel safe and supported at home. It sounds like you have utilized family services, but it was not effective. Now, it seems your main goal is to get out of the house and away from your father. In most cases, 16-year-olds are not able to leave their home without parental consent. We are always willing to discuss the situation with you and your father over the phone to help you procure consent. Sometimes, too, talking with a trusted adult, like a friend’s parent or another family member, can be useful as these people can advocate on your behalf. We can also discuss other options with you like emancipation or legal aid in your area.

      We hope that this information was useful. If you would ever like to call us, you can dial 1-800-786-2929. We are also available to live chat at 1800runaway.org. We are always here to listen, here to help. Stay safe and strong out there.

      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • #86
    So since I was about 8-10 years old my mother has called me fat, trash, slut, hoe, whore and so many other rude, disheartening words. I'm 16 now. I've tried talking to my dad about it and he tried talking to my mom but she doesn't understand ig. She's continued to do it and since my younger siblings has heard all of this while growing up, they've learned from my mom to do the same thing to me and again I tried talking to them and nothing has changed. It's gotten so bad I've had thoughts about killing myself or running away, but my fears of killing myself is the tramatic experience for my younger sibling, for my dad, the rest of my family and for my friends and boyfriend. I already have multiple homes I can live in and safe people I trust and a few bucks. I even have someone that would fully adopt me but my parents refused to sign rights over. I'm scared if I do run away, the police will find me and just drag me back and my parents will just lock me up in my room until I'm 18 or older so I can legally run away and my life will just get so much worst. I don't want to ruin my education either and I would continue to go to my high school, but my mom works there and has connections everywhere. My best friend and boyfriend go to the same high school and they both have at least 2 places I could live with them at. I would do chores and get a job if I do runaway. I just don't know if it would make the situation better or worst but I'm just so exhausted of dealing with the constant words of saying I'm worth nothing because I am 20-30 pounds overweight. I just need some help and guidance and advice.

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
      It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

      You don’t deserve to be treated unfairly or have your family call you bad names.
      You have feelings and those feelings should be respected. As a person you deserve to be respected.
      It is not your fault that they are treating you this way.
      You were very strong to reach out and share what has been going on.
      Running way sounds like it just may present a new set of issues for you.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of options that may lead to ideas previously not thought of. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone.

      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe and stay strong,
      NRS

  • #87
    Im 16 from Pennsylvania

    i have a verbally abusive dad, he constantly calls me things like “ whore, good for nothing” and more, he also brings up my past and jokes about the struggles that ive been through, i have been getting suicidal thoughts and i just wanted to know if i runaway to my bestfriends house does he have the right to file a missing persons report and will i get into trouble.

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    • ccsmod15
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      Thanks for reaching out,
      That seems like a really unhealthy situation to be treated like that by a parent. Parents are supposed to support us and help us grow not to bring us down like that. If you were to run to a friends’ house your dad could file a runaway report on you. So if police found you they would bring you home. Your friends’ parents could also potentially face a harboring a runaway charge depending on if the police chose to file one. It seems like reporting him for emotional abuse is an option, if you want to know more about that you could check childhelp.org or you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      If your suicidal feelings get worse please don’t hesitate to call 9-1-1 for help or the suicide prevention lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. It may also be worth looking for counseling resources in your area. Your school counselor (when school is back in session or through email) may be able to help with that.
      Hopefully this information is helpful for you and allows you to make the decisions you think are right.

  • #88
    Hi, I'm 14 years old and my name is Ruben,

    I am well aware I'm not old enough to "legally move out", but I have been suffering from verbal abuse for many years and I can't hold it inside anymore, I've been doing research for few years now and figured out emancipation of a minor would be to hard when i'm of legal age of course! But there are many other way worse things going on that I'm not going to mention on hear but still I feel alone in this world. My grades are bad and I can't focus everywhere I turn my legal guardians are fighting with me or my siblings, way to much stress on my shoulders. It doesn't help when Kelli (foster mom) calls be stupid and retarded to, really tears me apart. When I'm 16 I want to move in with my brother which is 18 now or my bio aunt, is it legal to move out at 16 without emancipation? Or does it come down to running away? I can't really reach out to anyone because I have no physical evidence. Please respond and thank you for your times,
    ps I live in Michigan

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey Ruben,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Kelli shouldn't be saying such hurtful things to you and you don't deserve to be abused in any kind of way.

      To answer your question: We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your guardian can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor (up to the age of 1. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

      You mentioned in your post that Kelli is your foster mom. If you are already working with a Child Protective Services (CPS) caseworker it may be a good idea to talk to them about the possibility of guardianship changing to your brother or your bio aunt, either now or in the future. In the meantime, it could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with Kelli so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

      Stay safe,
      NRS
      Last edited by ccsmod1; 04-25-2020, 10:28 AM.

  • #89
    Hello, I have recently turned 16, I live in Minnesota

    I really want/need to get out of the household I'm in, I've had enough of how my parents and sister treat me. Both of my parents say they don't like how eachother is treating me, my mom hates how neglectful and rude my dad is. Then my dad hates how aggressive and loud my mom can get. All 3 of the people in my house treat me very badly, my mom will go off on me for the simplest things, then whenever I try to explain something to her she takes it as me back talking and tells at me, then she makes me feel bad for explaining how I feel, I'm done dealing with it! My sister used to hit me a lot when I was way younger but now she just treats me bad and whenever I try to stand up for myself I get yelled at. I had a giant breakdown a few says ago and couldn't stop saying "I want out, I want out, I need out, I need out" I felt defeated and worthless, my mom heard me, and sat on my bed, she got mad when I told her I hated living here, hugged me, kissed me, and said "I'm not letting you leave honey." I can't stand being here anymore, I can't even tell my parents about how I feel or they get pissy, I just need a solution, I just need to get out! My whole life I've been the emotional punching bag, and my mom always brings my issues and mistakes up at family gatherings using me as an example of what not to be. Please help...

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      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems like communication within your household feels impossible right now as well.
      There may be options and other support you can receive since you aren’t getting if from your family. You don’t deserve to be their emotional punching bag and it seems like even your parents know the other one isn’t as supportive as they could be. It might be worth finding a family or personal counselor for you and/or your family so that you can be listened to and your parents might receive some coaching on ways to be more supportive.
      As for running away, while we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #90
    16 and living with emotionally abusive parents

    My parents have been emotionally abusing me for years telling me how I am a disappointment, disrespectful, an asshole, and more. It has led me to deal with depression, suicidal thoughts and attempts and it’s only getting worse. I need to run away before it gets worse. I have lived with them for a while now and tried to get better but all they do is hold things I have bought or been gifted over my head. They are manipulative, emotionally abusing, and do not care for my well being or my mental health.

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

      If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe and stay strong,

      NRS
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