Parents kicked me out at 19

[Unregistered]

So, some issues came up within my family and I decided it was not a place I wanted to be. I'm 19 years old and live in Illinois.

They made me leave their house at 12:30 in the morning. I have somewhere to stay but I'm unsure of what I need to do.

I have none of my belongings and they emptied my bank account leaving me with $50. I had $1,052 in a savings account because I had to pay for my college tuition. Before my parents were in agreement that they owed me $1,448 because they needed money so they didn't get overdraft fees. I complied to this to help them out.

I contacted my bank and there is nothing can do about the money my parents took because my step moms name was on the account with me. I also contacted the police department and there is nothing legally they can do because it's a civil matter. The police officer came to their house with me. And I was able to get a little of my stuff. Other than that, I am no longer allowed on their property under any circumstances.

My step mom told me that she took the money out of my bank account because they bought my braces ($5,000) when I was 17, and bought me a car ($3,900) for my 18th birthday. Considering I was a minor, under their responsibility, when I got the braces, can I fight her in court saying that I do not have to pay for them? Also, the car is not in my name, therefore I should not have to pay for it.

I just need legal advice on the steps I can take to try and get my money, and all of my belongings back.

[ccsmod7]

Re: Parent kicked me out at 19

Thank you for contacting us with your questions and concerns. It sounds like you are going through a really tough time right now and trying to figure out what your rights are. You mentioned that your parents recently kicked you out and took money out of your banking account. It sounds like you have already reached out to the police and the bank and they are saying there is nothing you can do. You may be able to file charges to get them to pay you back but you probably would need to speak with a lawyer to see how you can go about doing that. We were able to find some legal aid numbers that may be an option to check into.

Legal Aid Society of Metropolitan Family Services – 312-986-4200
Legal Assistance Foundation – 312-341-1070

Hopefully those resources will be able to assist. If you would like to discuss this situation more in depth you can always call us at our 24 hour hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We also have a live chat available from 4:30p to 11:30p CST. All of our services are confidential and anonymous and we are always available to discuss safe options and resources. Take care and feel free to reach out to us anytime.

[Guest]

I'm getting kicked out my mother house at 19 and I dont know what to do or I don't have anywhere to go
What should I do

[ccsmod7]

Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

Sounds like you are in a rough situation being kicked out. Here at NRS, we are concerned for your safety and truly want to help.

If you are on the street with nowhere to go tonight please call or chat us (1-800-RUNAWAY or www.1800runaway.org) if you would like us to look for resources in your area. You might also call 2-1-1 to see what emergency resources are nearby. If you have any informal supports you can reach out to such as friends and family you might also try to reach out to them to see if you can stay the night.

Looking more long term passed tonight, there may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We can look to see if there are any transitional programs in your area if you call or chat us as well.

Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

I was kicked out of my dads house 2 weeks before I turned 18. I went to go live with my mom and have lived with her for a little over a year now. But now she says that I have 30 days to move out and I have nowhere to go. I don’t have any money or any friends or family to help me. I have a car and that’s it. What do I do?

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear your mom has asked you to leave home and it looks like you may be on your own soon. Here are a couple ideas to think about:

1) Perhaps you can talk to your mom and try to figure out if there is a way for you to continue living there (if you want to). Maybe ask to see if there is something you can do to persuade her to let you live there longer.

2) We can look into shelters or transitional living programs in your area, if you like. All we would need is your city and state. The best way for us to help with that -- and in general -- is for you to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via the chat feature at www.1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 and are confidential.

Please be safe and we hope to hear from you soon!

NRS

[Guest]

Hi, I'm 19 and I live in ******. I'm trying to go to college, I will also have to move out in order to go. I have already been accepted and registered for classes, but I still need to pay for the classes.
My dad and I don't get along and if I don't pay for my classes I won't be able to go to college. I am currently unemployed due to not only the COVID virus but I was also unable to work for the first 6 months of 2020 and have been having a really hard time finding a job especially because of my disabilities, one of which is having seizures. I have no money and I have been doing everything that I can to find some sort of income.
My mom is helping me pay my phone bill currently but doesn't have a ton of money so she's already doing what she can to help me and she lives in another state so living with her is not an option.
I have already started the process for SSI I've already been told I wasn't eligible for Financial aid, I was not given an explanation as to why though so I will be calling the school on Monday to figure out why. My classes are supposed to start on the 11th. I'm just looking for some advice and suggestions. I really don't know where to start.
My dad is not supportive of me going to school and he also has no interest in helping me pay for since my sister messed that up for me when she went to school and he helped pay for some of it and she dropped out.
I don't have any family that could help me and all of my friends are also currently in school. Anything would be helpful.
Are there any resources I could use?
Do you have any advice or suggestions?

[ccsmod3]

Hello! Thanks for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. First off, congratulations on being accepted into college. While it sounds like you do have some obstacles in your path, that's not an easy feat. Kudos to you on your acceptance, especially while juggling so many other things.

Figuring out how to pay for a college education can be an overwhelming and stressful process. It sounds like you might've applied for the FAFSA, but if you haven't, doing so is the only way to determine your eligibility for financial aid. If you applied and were told that you were ineligible, there are a few reasons that might be: it might've been determined that your parents make too much money and you have not demonstrated a financial need. Because of your age, you're automatically considered a dependent student and your parent's financial information HAS to be considered in your eligibility. You are considered an independent student when you are 24 years old, OR married, OR a grad student, OR a veteran or a member of the armed services, OR an orphan or ward of the state, OR you have your own children, OR you were an emancipated minor, OR you are homeless or at risk of being homeless. You may also be denied financial aid if you do not satisfy citizenship requirements, if you are a male between 18-25 who did not register for the Selective Service System, or if any of the information you provided when completing your FAFSA does not match with the records of other government agencies to confirm your identity. You can also be denied if you were convicted of certain crimes. If you're unsure of why you were denied financial aid, you can try logging into fafsa.gov to see if any documents were uploaded into your account that explain why. You can also try calling the Federal Student Aid Information Center at 1-800-433-3243. Otherwise you can contact the school that you are hoping to go to and they should be able to help you determine what happened. It might make sense for you to learn more about claiming an independent status based off being at risk of being homeless.

In general, connecting with the financial aid department at your school would probably be a good idea. They can help answer your questions and offer additional resources that may help you pay for your education. While pursuing other routes of paying for your classes might push your ideal graduation date back, you can also consider applying for a work-study job, scholarships (check out some ways to find and apply for scholarships here: https://studentaid.gov/understand-ai...s/scholarships), or taking out a private loan. Reducing your tuition expenses will also make your payments smaller, so taking fewer classes might be an option as well.

If you'd like to chat more about what's going on at home with your dad, your health, need more support in figuring out paying for school, or anything else, please feel free to reach out to us by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or by chat at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

Take care.

NRS

[Guest]

Hi, Thank you so much for the information that you have provided. I was wondering if you had any resources that could possibly help me find affordable housing near my school. I have already packed all of my things for college as I need to move out in order to go to school. I was hoping that you might have resources on how to get an apartment that is more affordable or if there are any programs that may be able to help me pay for an apartment. My college is in Cumming, Ga and I live about an hour from the college. I have started the process for SSI already but unfortunately will not know if I'm eligible for that for a little while. I plan on calling the college to talk about why they have told me I am ineligible for financial aid. I have been trying very hard to find a job but so far I have been unsuccessful. I really need to go to school as it would be very beneficial to me. If I can figure out how to get an apartment and get settled near the college, I would be fine because there are lots of places I could apply for a job by the school. I really need to move out and go to school. Since my dad is trying to kick me out and because he's trying to kick me out that is putting me at risk of potentially being homeless, Do you think that would qualify me to apply for financial aid myself?
I would appreciate any assistance or support in trying to figure out how to get an apartment. I do not have any money and the apartments I have found so far are around 1200-1500 a month and generally, you have to make 2x the amount of rent and if I have a guarantor then they have to make 6x the amount of rent. Any support or assistance is greatly appreciated!

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
Calling your school is a good first step in finding possible housing options. You might want to ask about on campus housing as that can be easy to get and has meals included as part of it in many cases. It might be helpful to bring up your challenges due to disabilities and see if there are some special programs that qualifies you for. Also make sure you have the FAFSA filled out as you might qualify for loans or other assistance though that which influences what kinds of financial awards the college can give you. Another big point would be to find a roommate if you cannot afford a place on your own. There might be sub-leases by other students choosing to stay home because of COVID that need to rent out rooms not in use.
We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

I was kicked out of my parents placed today, iwas accused of something I didn’t and she didn’t want to believe me. I just graduated high school, i dont have job and nowhere to live or stay what can i do

[ccsmod5]

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a stressful situation at the moment. We understand it can be difficult to reach out and we are glad you did. You mentioned having graduated high school recently, so you might be 18 or over. Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. Being that your mom had you leave the home, she wouldn’t be able to do anything to legally get you to move back in.
As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.


Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

First of all, I'm an Indian. So, it works different than most of the countries. I am currently doing under graduation, but circumstances, got kicked out. I have nothing with me but myself. I was studying in a rich private college, that is a state afar where I live. So, my current college continuation is gods sake. Since I have not a penny in my pockets, I'm on streets. All my relatives are on clash with my parents, that I can't ask them for help. Since most of them are money minded, it's even pointless to think of reaching out. And I am not sure any police Or any can help, since I'm legally an adult. Me being in dorms almost my entire life, I have zero experience in this world. Not sure how to survive or swallow some sleeping pills. Pls help me in any way possible

[ccsmod7]

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out it shows a lot of courage. It is understandable to have questions for what to do next. It is important to remember you are not alone in this situation and that there are plenty of people and organizations that want to help you. It could be worth exploring talking to your school about your change in circumstance since they might be able to offer you some resources. Just a reminder that NRS is located within the United States and that most of our resources are located within United States because of that. If you are not located in the United States Childhelp International is a great resource Child-Help International - https://www.child-help.international/.

If you are located within the United States, there are number of resources that might be helpful. One resource is the Homeless Shelter Directory www.homelessshelterdirectory.org this resource provides information on shelters that could be in your area. If you are feeling immediate distress, please consider contacting The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) which is a 24-hour, toll-free, confidential suicide prevention hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Another resource to consider is Mental Health America their number is (800) 969.6642 they offer counseling and support group which is important to have when you are dealing with such a large change.

The more information you can provide about you location and circumstances the more detailed resources we can provide you. It is important to remember that you are not alone and that you can always reach out to us. We are 24/7 and can be reach through chat or phone at the following number 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and our website https://www.1800runaway.org .

Stay safe and stay strong,
NRS