im turning 15 in a week and i want to run away from home

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I am living with adoptive parents and im tired of all the abuse. They constantly yell at me and say "you mess up everything" or "you never do anything", and it hurts me and when I get tired of them yelling I yell back and they think me yelling back is talking back to them but I'm just trying to defend my self, there is no other way for them to listen to me..they took me to a therapist cause they thought I had "anger problems" and was put on ADHD medication and they think that was supposed to stop me from DEFENDING myself and this morning he started yelling at me and first asked "why is it when I tell you to do something and you dont do it and I tell you to, you get mad?" I said I dont, (because last night I was cleaning my room cause he told me to and half way through I went to my sisters room to find my clothes and he came in at that time yelling and said"now I told you to clean this room and you ain't dont nothing!" I said "I have cleaned half of it I just went to get my clothes" and he wouldn't listen to me and said "well you ain't going to sleep until this room is clean!" I said okay! Then I cleaned the next half after I got my clothes.) and I told him I was half way through cleaning and I went to get my clothes when you came in he said "no you wasn't you hadn't dont anything to that room since I told you to." I said "well its clean now." and he started threatening to not buy me a car or something and said I domt do anything he tells me to do and said "if you don't start listening yall ain't about to get nothing" I said "what are you talking about my room is clean I cleaned it last night like you told me to!" he said don't you talk back to me! And he grabbed my arm and I said "dont grab me!" he said "I can grab you all I want to" and pushed me with both hands gripping my upper arms and made me knock over a chair then I said "dont touch me you have no right to grab me like that!" and he said you know what and grabbed the fly swatter and i ran and he got behind me and hit me REPEATEDLY at least ten or fifteen times and left red marks and welts all over my arms and didn't even care and he yelled at me to go in the kitchen and i bent down and he hit me again and i said "I'm trying to get my purse!" and he said "dont you talk back to me!!" and snatched my purse from me and hit me again..and when i left for him to drive me to the bus, because I'm in a camp volunteering and a bus takes me there, and I'm just tired of all of this because it isn't the first time it has happened and i took pictures of it this time..but i just hate this they are so unreasonable and always say the meanest things and i don't know what to do anymore i want to run away from here or get out of this home but i don't want him to go to jail because my sister lives with her mother there and she would have to be taken out too and i don't want them separated, and her mother agrees with the husband that has been doing all of this and she has verbally abused me too and i just wanna know how long it would take the police to find me or if i would be sent to Strickland or just simply taken home i just want to know, this is in the state of Alabama by the way, and i just want to get out of this home without changing anyone else lives or just be able to get away for.a while i just dont know what to do ):

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RE: im turning 15 in a week and i want to run away from home

Hello,

We are glad you decided to reach out to us on National Runaway Safeline bulletin board. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult and frustrating time right now. No one deserves to go through this and we are here to support and help you in any way we can. We are so sorry to hear that you have been dealing with an abusive parent. Have you ever considered filing an abuse report? You mentioned that you do not want your dad to go to jail, but you definitely have the right to report any abuse to your local police department or child protective service in your state. If you were to call in to NRS we could walk you through the process, help you file the report, and talk about your options. If this is not an option for you we would be able to discuss others as well.

It sounds like you have been thinking about running away from you home to get out of your current situation. If you were to run away, what kinds of things do you think that your adopted-parents would do? If you are under that age of majority and still considered a minor, you adopted-parents can file a runaway report. What that means is that if a police officer were to pick you, they would see that you have a report filed under your name and take you back home to or hold until arrangements can be made to take you back home. Now if you tell them about the abuse and show them the pictures that you have taken, they might not take you back to your house, but instead a safe place. What is your overall plan of you do run away (i.e. housing, transposition, financial stability, school options etc)?

It sounds like you are very exhausted from dealing with this situation, so know that we are here to listen and help at NRS. We are confidential and anonymous. You can reach us 24 hours a day, 7 days a week 1-800- RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you would like to discuss these options or even different options or resources we would be glad to talk to you. You can also chat with us from 4:30 PM- 11:30 PM (CST) 7 days a week.

We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck!

[aaa360]

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Thank you, and my adoptive parents would most likely call the cops as soon as they knew I was gone. But all I want to do is be removed from the home, however I dont want my step sister or anyone else to be removed from it. I dont know how to get out of here without telling the cops and having him arrested, but I won't do that because I do not want him arrested or anyone else in the home to be taken away. Only I want to go and I am the only one that is abused. If I could go to another home I would go to my grandfathers house, he works offshore sometimes but his daughter, my aunt, lives with him. He is well off financially and could easily take care of me. All I want is to be moved away from here without changing anyone else situation and I dont know what to do without taking him to jail and I just can't do that and ruin his reputation in our town and leave his wife with no money to support herself so I don't know what to do!

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us again here at National Runaway Safeline.
So it sounds like making an abuse report is not something that you want to do. We want to let you know that it is always an option if you ever decide that you do in fact want to make one, and we will be here to help you through that if you would like.
It sounds like you have a safe place that you would want to go to if you left home. Have you talked to your grandfather or aunt about this plan?
One service that we offer here at NRS is conference calling. If you were to call into our hotline, we could call out to your adoptive dad and facilitate a conversation between the two of you about your wanting to move out to your grandfather’s house, or talk about anything that you would like. This way you have someone there to make sure that you are not being interrupted or yelled at while trying to communicate your thoughts and feelings.

Please call into our 24/7 hotline at 1 800 RUNAWAY (786 2929), or join us on chat through our website, 1800runaway.org from the hours of 4:30pm to 11:30pm CST if you would like to discuss your situation any further, we are anonymous and confidential and here to help the best that we can. We hope to hear from you soon.

Good luck and stay safe,
NRS