im 16 & might be pregnant. can I move out at 17 and live with my boyfriend?

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

Thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. Caring for an infant is hard work, and we're sorry to hear your dad isn't offering you any support or assistance.

The easiest way to leave home before you are 18 is to get permission from your dad. If he approves your move, you can stay with a family member, your boyfriend, or we could help you try to find a transitional living program near you. If you decide to attempt this conversation with your dad, it could be helpful to think about times and places when you and your dad communicate the best. IT can be a hard conversation, and we would be happy to help you create your plan or practice your conversation.

If you do decide to leave home without permission, your father may decide to file a runaway report with the police. We are not legal experts, but we do have some general knowledge on runaway laws. When a runaway report is made and you come into contact with the police, they may potentially return you back home. This could occur from the police having the address of your boyfriend's house or if you were to come into contact with them in a public space. It is generally not illegal to run away, however, any legal adult who houses a run away, may potentially be charged with harboring a runaway. This doesn't happen very often to our knowledge, but it is definitely something to consider.

We would be happy to talk with you further about your options and/or helping you create a plan. You can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or you can live chat us through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). We hope to hear from you soon.

Stay safe,
NRS

I’m 16 and have a 4 month old I want to move in with my boyfriend my dad is making things too hard on me

[ccsmod15]

Hello There,

Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It takes great courage to reach out for help, and we are glad that you have decided to reach out to us.

If you have permission from you parents to move in with your boyfriend, you would want to get something in writing, if not you might be considered a runaway. As long as your parents approve of the move, everything else should be fine.

We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are available to you 24/7 to listen and to provide support through this challenging time. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

Best of luck!

NRS

Im 17 And Pregnant Im thinking about moving in with my boyfriend and his family mainly Because he lives 1 hr and 30 min away it would so much easier for him to attend the doctors appointment do you think that’s the best decision to make he has a stable job we both are very capable of taking care of our child, I wouldn’t be dropping out of school I most likely would do online classes to graduate

[ccsmod16]

Hi,
Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did.
It sounds like you and your girlfriend are going through a very stressful and difficult time since your girlfriend's father says she can't have the baby. But that is not true. He can't prevent her from having it and the law is on her side. We may be able to provide her with a referral to get more information on this, but no one would terminate the pregnancy without her consent.
The part of your question involving her living with you is more difficult and we hope that you or she will reach out either by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) of through our live chat services through this website.
We are here to listen and help with this situation and we can go into more detail if you reach out to us in a way that we can have a conversation by phone or chat.
We truly hope to hear from you and your girlfriend soon.
Sincerely,
NRS

I am 16 and my girlfriend is 16 and she is pregnant and her father won’t let her have the baby and I don’t want to lose my baby so my girlfriend said she was gonna run away and live with me but I told her we need to do this the right way Nd go to the court Nd get a paper sign to say u can take care of your self at 16 I really need y’all help plz help us

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Hello!

Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline. We can see you are going through a difficult time and are here to help you in any way we can. What you are going through is of importance to us and we want to help you in any way we can.

You mentioned that you are feeling overwhelmed and depressed. Your mental health is a priority so that you can take care of yourself and your baby. Running away from home is a really big step to take and you want to be sure that your plan is solid in-case anything does go wrong. You are not only have to think about your own safety, but you have to think about what is going to be best for your seven month old child as well. You stated that things at your current place have just started to shift. It could be helpful to open up about those shifts you feel with your Aunt so that everyone is on the same page. Being a mother is certainly challenging for sure and you might be struggling with issues that someone else can't physically see.

Now we do offer a service that is basically a Conference Call where the parent/guardian, the youth, and us would be on the phone talking about what has been going on. It might be a great way to talk about what you are going through and where this feelings might be coming from or to maybe build on your relationship and make it better. So maybe that might be an option for you and your Aunt. Something constructive so that it certainly opens the lines of communication, but that services is completely up to you.

You can also contact NRS through call or chat if you would like more guidance to processing your choices. We might even be able to help you get into touch with some mental health resources in your area that can help process what is going on so that being at your Aunt house isn't so bad. Once again, thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline. We appreciate you taking the step to find out more information regarding your concern.

We are a 24 hour service that provides guidance and support, so feel free to contact us.

I’m 15 and currently have a 7 month baby I Will be 16 in 4 months... I’m in foster care and was placed with my aunt but right now things have took a shift. I’m so overwhelmed and depressed and just want to get out I have a safe place in mind to go but I don’t want any of my choices to affect my baby... what should I do if I ran would I get placed into placement.?

[ccsmod13]

Thank you for contacting NRS. It sounds like you are going through a tough time and we’re glad you reached out to us.

Perhaps there is a trusted adult in your life you can talk to about this. Maybe a family member, teacher, or counselor. They may have advice or ideas that may be helpful to you.

Fortunately there are resources available that may be helpful to you. A potential resource is Planned Parenthood at www.plannedparenthood.org . Planned parenthood offers a wide variety of health services and may be able to offer advice that may be helpful to you. Planned Parenthood has no locations in Wyoming, but they may be able to direct you to other resources in your area.

Another potential resource is the Wyoming Health Council at www.wyhc.org. They provide a wide range of family planning and health resources similar to planned parenthood.

You can also always call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We have volunteers available 24/7 to talk and to help you find resources that may be helpful to you. Depending on where you live, there may be youth shelters or other resources available to support you.

Thank you again for contacting NRS. We wish you the best!

I’m 14 and pregnant my boyfriend is 17 and he lives in Bangladesh. I’m almost 5 weeks pregnant. I don’t know how to tell my family. His mom knows and so does his friends. I live in Wyoming. How can get checkups for the baby? I’m really scared to say something to my mom. She wont support me. What can I do?

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you so much for reaching out to NRS through our public forum-it takes a lot of courage to do so especially during this difficult time. We are very sorry that not only are you getting emotionally abused, but also have to take on motherly responsibilities at the same time. It must be very tough to deal with the abuse as well as thinking about the best future for your baby. Since you are so close to being 18 (keep in mind the age of majority in your state and what is stated in the law; it could be possible that the age of majority is 19 in your home state), it could work in your favor if police in your area are more lenient. Protocol can vary by state and even county so it is hard to say for sure. The general protocol and most likely scenario, however, is whoever you are staying with at home could file a runaway report on you and if the police do locate you, you would most likely be returned home. Turning to a trusted family member or friend to talk about what you are going through may help a bit, as well as seeking out help from staff at a planned parenthood to have that extra support could be helpful as well. Planned Parenthood can offer low cost and even free services (www.plannedparenthood.org). If you would like to talk more in depth, please reach out to us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We are here to help 24/7 to listen and help to the best of our ability.

Be safe,
NRS

I am 2 months away from being 17 and i am pregnant. I get emotionally abused and it is not safe for me or my baby. what would happen if i leave home at 17? will i go to jail? would i go to juvie? will they let me stay where i am if i am safe?

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Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you and your girlfriend have left your homes and are expecting a child. We understand that this presents a difficult situation for the two of you.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
NRS is here to listen and here to help.
We would be glad to speak with you about strategies or options that might help you to cope better with your situation.
We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more about your situation and we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

To locate emergency safe place shelter services check the link listed. www.nationalsafeplace.org

You did a wonderful job reaching out today. Good for you.
We look forward to hearing from you.


Take care,
NRS

I’m 16 about to be 17 in December, my girlfriend is already 17 and she’s 5 months pregnant, is there any way I can get my Own place with my girl and we would be tight with money so what would we do besides jobs?? I live in the state of Florida.

[ccsmod15]

Thanks for reaching out to us. First, we hope you are getting adequate care for your pregnancy. If you need any assistance or questions answered about pregnancy feel free to contact Planned Parenthood at https://www.plannedparenthood.org/

As for your question about leaving home: You are under your parent or legal guardian’s supervision until you are at least 18. If you leave home without permission before then, your parents could file a runaway report on you. Running away isn’t a crime, but it is a status offense like breaking curfew. If found, the police would likely bring you back home. Perhaps more seriously, anyone you stay with could be accused of harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor in most localities. We don’t share this information to persuade you in any way, but only to give you some things to think about.

We'd like to help out further but need a little more information from you to see how to assist. The best way to do that would be if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via the portal at www.1800runaway.org. Please be safe. We hope to hear from you soon!

All the best,
NRS