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  • ccsmod2
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    Hey there,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We understand it is tough to reach out and we are so glad you did. I'm sorry that your parents are not able to provide a safe place for you during this time. You are very brave for reaching out and trying to find what options may be available to you.

    It sounds like you have gone through a lot in both houses and we are sorry to hear that your parents do not provide a safe place for you to stay at and do not awknowledge the people they have brought around you. You do not deserve to be treated in such an unfair way. Since you are still 17 years old, you are still considered a minor which means your parents still have a say as to where you live. If you decide to leave without their consent, there is a possibility that they can file a runaway report and that just means that the police would be notified and we are not legal experts but what that means is that if they find you wandering the streets or at a friends they may detain you until your parents pick you up or they take you back home. What this could also mean is that if police find you at a friends, it can put your friend at risk of being charged with a misdemeanor for harboring a runaway.

    It seems living at your mom makes you feel unsafe because of her abusive boyfriend. If you do ever feel like you are unsafe for whatever reason, you can send a text to the number 44357 with the word SAFE and your location (address, city, state) and they will reply with the nearest safe place to you. Along with that, if you feel like you do really need to get out of those homes, if you have any close friends or family members who would take you in until you are 18, that may be an option. You can always give us a call at anytime and we are able to provide resources to safe places as well as information about emancipation in your state if that is something you may be interested in.

    You have a right to report if you are comfortable with that. We are sorry that living with your father makes you feel unsafe after what had happened. You can contact RAINN, they are the Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network and they are experienced with situations in which they will be able to provide resources and information on reporting or if you just need someone to talk to. Their number is 1-800-656-4673 or you can start a chat with them at www.rainn.org.

    Another resource that may help you through this time is contacting Planned Parenthood. They would be happy to answer any questions you may be having about your pregnancy as well as your options. You can contact them at 1-800-230-7526 or you can go on their website for any information at www.plannedparenthood.org.

    If you want to talk more in depth about what is going on or have any more questions about what may be your options, do not hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or start a chat with us at www.1800runaway.org. We are 24/7, 365 days a year and we are here for you and here to help and support you.

    Best of Luck,
    NRS

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    I'm pregnant almost 17 and live in Minnesota. Can I live on my own without parents consent. Neither of my parents houses are safe. I was raped at my fathers and my mother has an abusive boyfriend that she wont leave help.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I haven’t felt safe in my own home for a while, I can’t ever seem to get along with anyone in my family. They are incredibly conservative and strict. They never let me do anything with my friends and I can’t even be myself around them. I feel more at home in my friends home and wants to move in with her. The only problem is that if I do run away and are then forced to return home i fear that my parents will cut me off from civilization and become more mentally abusive.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hi I live in Minnesota and have had a hard time getting along with my family for a while. I dread going home and have had anxiety attacks on drives home after school. I really want to live with my friend because I feel more at home in her home than I do in my own home. My parents always blame me for things and don’t listen to me when I try and talk to them. I thought this was normal but apparently not. Can I safely leave? Because if I go back there would be such harsh punishments that I fear being locked in my room and forced away from civilization until age 18. I am merely 13.

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  • ccsmod10
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    Thank you for reaching out to us in your time of need, it can be hard trying to find help when you dont feel like you have any support to begin with. Trying to find your own way in the world is difficult, it can be especially hard when your parents aren't open to other ideas than there own especially when they hold to those ideals so strongly, We are sorry that they've been so agressive to you about your own ideals.

    About whether or not you could leave without your parents consent. We are not legal experts, but we can say that it depends on the state whether 17 is qualified as an adult, if it doesnt, it is possible for them to file a missing child report and have the police look for you. If they have knowledge of your whereabouts they could give that to the police so they can find you easier and pick you up. However if things get worse at home and your are in need of another place to stay that they do not know, there is the National Safeplace for you to go to, they do help find shelters for youths in need.

    Their website is Nationalsafeplace.org. Again thank you for contacting us in your time of need it was very brave of you, it can be hard to try and figure out your options which is really good to see you taking the initiative to help yourself. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us at 1-800Runawy. We're here to listen, here to help.

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    my parents are conservative christians and do not allow me to practice my own religion. today, my mother found my pagan tools and my father burned them and told me that i am “sent from satan”. they are incredibly homophobic and when i came out to them they told me they didn’t want me in their house so i stayed with friends for about a week. once, my dad entered my room and heard my non-christian music playing and broke my lamp and threw my speaker at the wall out of anger and told me to move out. i am 17 and merely want to spend the weekend at my friends house (btw sleepovers are forbidden for me) for relief from all the tension, however my dad grounded me indefinitely. at this point i want my parents to kick me out so that i have an excuse to leave. this toxic version of christianity is limiting my ability to think for myself and develop a mind of my own because it’s been affecting me my entire life. i want to be done having to determine what is brainwashing from my parents and what is reality. i would like to know if it would be possible for me to leave home for a couple days without my parents consent? they would be made aware of my location and i wouldn’t be in any imminent danger

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you for reaching out to us here on our public forum. Hopefully by helping you through your crisis, there are others in similar situations that can find it helpful as well. It can be hard not to know what do to in this situation. This must have been pretty bad if you to run away from your placement. From what we know, most caseworkers are required to report a child missing when they run away in their care. After that it seems like general runaway rules apply about leaving the state. We answer that question a lot on this forum, so please refer back to the rest of this thread or others.

    Hope this helps! Please reach out again if you have further questions via phone or online chat.

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    Guest replied
    Im sixteen i ran away from a group home and have a place to stay out of state will the state that i am from Pursuit to find me?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It sounds like home life is really rough - you shouldn't be abused, harassed, or told that you deserve to rot in a cell (which you don't, everyone makes some mistakes). Everyone deserves to live in a home where they feel happy, safe, and secure. We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your mom can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor (like smoking or gambling, etc.). If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your mom.

    It sounds like your mom isn't listening to you when you are trying to express your thoughts and feelings about your current situation. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Currently I am 17 years old and for a few years now I have been dealing with verbal abuse, false accusations, arguments, harassment, and on several occasions, almost physical fights. During this time, I have been called many names by my moms boyfriend and constantly argue with him. Finally reaching a breaking point, I have told both my mom and her boyfriend that I will not stand around and let them treat me like a peice of ******** and have attempted to find a way to make the home environment better for everyone within it. Sadly, the response is the same every time, "You're not the adult." On several other occasions I have sat down and talked about me moving out, the response was "You can move out, but if you do we're going to call you in as a runaway." Other times I have just been told to move out, but I'm concerned with the potential legal consequences that I may have to deal with if I am reported as a runaway/ I have already talked with the parents of a close friend of mine and they are willing to let me stay with them. I have also considered emancipation, but the court process could be a while and it's also not the cheapest thing. After dealing with legal consequences once before for possession of an illegal substance, I had been told I deserve to rot in a cell and I had been told that the only reason I'm still here is to be their **********. Like I have mentioned before, I have attempted to discuss terms to make the home better for everyone, but it just results in an argument where I am told to move out or I am told that I am worthless. All of the arguing and harassment is really just becoming excessive and I have been considering moving out. If I am to move out, what are my potential risks? Will I get into legal trouble? If I leave, am I required to return home at any point?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - you should be able to live somewhere safe and secure. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. You stated that you did have some hesitation reporting the physical abuse that has been going on. We aren't legal experts here at NRS but filing a report with CPS can have varying results which means that your parents might not face any type of charge but you might be placed elsewhere. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    As a minor, you cannot legally move out on your own without parental consent. If you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your parents.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    I am a 17 year old girl and I turn 18 December 4, 2019. My parents physically harm me and I don’t want to press charges. Can I legally run away from home? I live in minnesota

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really hard time right now. We are not legal experts but we do have general information on the laws.
    Before leaving home you may want to consider getting it in writing of your dad giving you permission to leave. If you had it in writing it may be more difficult to file a runaway report. If your dad was able to file a runaway report and the police did find you they most likely would bring you back home.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS
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