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  • ccsmod10
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    Thank you for reaching out to us in your time of need, it can be hard trying to find help when you dont feel like you have any support to begin with. Trying to find your own way in the world is difficult, it can be especially hard when your parents aren't open to other ideas than there own especially when they hold to those ideals so strongly, We are sorry that they've been so agressive to you about your own ideals.

    About whether or not you could leave without your parents consent. We are not legal experts, but we can say that it depends on the state whether 17 is qualified as an adult, if it doesnt, it is possible for them to file a missing child report and have the police look for you. If they have knowledge of your whereabouts they could give that to the police so they can find you easier and pick you up. However if things get worse at home and your are in need of another place to stay that they do not know, there is the National Safeplace for you to go to, they do help find shelters for youths in need.

    Their website is Nationalsafeplace.org. Again thank you for contacting us in your time of need it was very brave of you, it can be hard to try and figure out your options which is really good to see you taking the initiative to help yourself. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us at 1-800Runawy. We're here to listen, here to help.

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    my parents are conservative christians and do not allow me to practice my own religion. today, my mother found my pagan tools and my father burned them and told me that i am “sent from satan”. they are incredibly homophobic and when i came out to them they told me they didn’t want me in their house so i stayed with friends for about a week. once, my dad entered my room and heard my non-christian music playing and broke my lamp and threw my speaker at the wall out of anger and told me to move out. i am 17 and merely want to spend the weekend at my friends house (btw sleepovers are forbidden for me) for relief from all the tension, however my dad grounded me indefinitely. at this point i want my parents to kick me out so that i have an excuse to leave. this toxic version of christianity is limiting my ability to think for myself and develop a mind of my own because it’s been affecting me my entire life. i want to be done having to determine what is brainwashing from my parents and what is reality. i would like to know if it would be possible for me to leave home for a couple days without my parents consent? they would be made aware of my location and i wouldn’t be in any imminent danger

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you for reaching out to us here on our public forum. Hopefully by helping you through your crisis, there are others in similar situations that can find it helpful as well. It can be hard not to know what do to in this situation. This must have been pretty bad if you to run away from your placement. From what we know, most caseworkers are required to report a child missing when they run away in their care. After that it seems like general runaway rules apply about leaving the state. We answer that question a lot on this forum, so please refer back to the rest of this thread or others.

    Hope this helps! Please reach out again if you have further questions via phone or online chat.

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    Im sixteen i ran away from a group home and have a place to stay out of state will the state that i am from Pursuit to find me?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It sounds like home life is really rough - you shouldn't be abused, harassed, or told that you deserve to rot in a cell (which you don't, everyone makes some mistakes). Everyone deserves to live in a home where they feel happy, safe, and secure. We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your mom can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor (like smoking or gambling, etc.). If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your mom.

    It sounds like your mom isn't listening to you when you are trying to express your thoughts and feelings about your current situation. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Currently I am 17 years old and for a few years now I have been dealing with verbal abuse, false accusations, arguments, harassment, and on several occasions, almost physical fights. During this time, I have been called many names by my moms boyfriend and constantly argue with him. Finally reaching a breaking point, I have told both my mom and her boyfriend that I will not stand around and let them treat me like a peice of ******** and have attempted to find a way to make the home environment better for everyone within it. Sadly, the response is the same every time, "You're not the adult." On several other occasions I have sat down and talked about me moving out, the response was "You can move out, but if you do we're going to call you in as a runaway." Other times I have just been told to move out, but I'm concerned with the potential legal consequences that I may have to deal with if I am reported as a runaway/ I have already talked with the parents of a close friend of mine and they are willing to let me stay with them. I have also considered emancipation, but the court process could be a while and it's also not the cheapest thing. After dealing with legal consequences once before for possession of an illegal substance, I had been told I deserve to rot in a cell and I had been told that the only reason I'm still here is to be their **********. Like I have mentioned before, I have attempted to discuss terms to make the home better for everyone, but it just results in an argument where I am told to move out or I am told that I am worthless. All of the arguing and harassment is really just becoming excessive and I have been considering moving out. If I am to move out, what are my potential risks? Will I get into legal trouble? If I leave, am I required to return home at any point?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - you should be able to live somewhere safe and secure. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. You stated that you did have some hesitation reporting the physical abuse that has been going on. We aren't legal experts here at NRS but filing a report with CPS can have varying results which means that your parents might not face any type of charge but you might be placed elsewhere. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    As a minor, you cannot legally move out on your own without parental consent. If you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your parents.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    I am a 17 year old girl and I turn 18 December 4, 2019. My parents physically harm me and I don’t want to press charges. Can I legally run away from home? I live in minnesota

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really hard time right now. We are not legal experts but we do have general information on the laws.
    Before leaving home you may want to consider getting it in writing of your dad giving you permission to leave. If you had it in writing it may be more difficult to file a runaway report. If your dad was able to file a runaway report and the police did find you they most likely would bring you back home.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    I have issues at home with my parents. I am 17 years old. My dad said he would not call the police if I left home. I want to stay with a friend but am concerned that he will eventually call the authorities and the friend I am staying with will get in trouble. Please help.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hi and thanks for contacting National Runaway Safeline. We are glad to assist and answer your questions and concerns to the best of our ability. Just so that you are aware, we are not legal experts and so, the information we give regarding this topic is general. It may be most beneficial to speak with a legal advisor if you would like more concrete legal information. To answer your question regarding if it is illegal to run away from a treatment program under no court order, it is not. However, the facility is required to make sure you are supervised, safe, and accounted for- as it is considered a liability if you are not. So, there is a high chance that you will be sought after by authorities if you were to run away from the facility. Whether or not you are taken back to the treatment program, elsewhere, or allowed to choose where you would like to be is something we are not sure about and would really depend on the decision authorities make regarding the matter. There is the possibility that there is an option for you to sign yourself out of the facility instead of running away if you do not have a legal guardian, power of attorney, or legal decision maker in place. A form you may be able to sign is called an AMA which means you are signing out of treatment against medical advice and that facility is not liable for you if you are to be harmed in any way post discharge. It may be beneficial to speak to a case manager or social worker within the facility to explore the options. We hope this information is helpful to you. Please, feel free to reach out again at any time should you need to. We are available 24/7 via our hotline and you can reach us by calling 1800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat with us live by visiting our website 1800runaway.org. Best of luck.

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    Is it illegal for me to run away from a treatment program after being released from the hospital with no court order?
    I'm 20 years old

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: My mom is verbally abusive


    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this.
    You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    ou may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    If you are feeling depressed or having suicidal thoughts contact the National Suicide prevention Lifeline-1-800-273-8255
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS


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    My mom is verbally abusive and sometimes hits me, she won’t let me see any of my family, I’m not allowed to hang out with friends or have social media and I’m expected to do all the cooking and cleaning in the apartment for both of us, I’m 16 and she won’t allow me to get a job or a driver’s license and I receive SSI Disability checks bc of my vision problems (I’m not blind and I can see just fine) but she has always taken the money and she won’t let me get a job bc it will lower the amount we receive from that which is unfair since it’s supposed to be mine, I’ve been wanting to run away for years bc I’ve been forced to take care of myself since I was 7 but I have nowhere to go and if I even tried to get emancipated she would probably beat me so idk what to do anymore, my depression has been getting worse the past few years and she won’t get me any help and at this point I’m either running away or choosing suicide.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 03-14-2019, 02:58 AM.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline and sharing a bit about your situation. We are here for you and are grateful for the chance to to be of assistance to you.

    Through everything you are facing, it is a sign of great wisdom on your part that you are planning to talk to many people and seek advice before doing anything. Life can at times have a way of throwing challenges at us that may not be possible to handle on our own, and it takes strength to find help. Furthermore, your awareness of your personal health and emotions, such as being depressed and scared to fight back is a very important and helpful asset that can serve you well.

    It is great that you have found the LGBT community. On the other side, it can certainly be hurtful to feel that your family wouldn't accept something you're a part of. Nobody should have to hide who they are in order to feel safe, or to be yelled at for things they didn't do.

    As mentioned previously, it is a sign of great wisdom that you are planning to talk to many people and seek advice. Something you might consider doing is to brainstorm and list everyone you can think of who you trust and might feel comfortable sharing your situation with. As you might have already pictured, these people could come from many different areas of your life, such as school, peers, health professional, counselor, a trusted parent(s) of a friend, LGBT community, or any other trusted adult.

    In addition, since you have mentioned wanting to stay for your mom, it may be helpful to ask yourself if you might be willing to ask her for a serious conversation in which you let her know just how much you are struggling. It may very well be that you end up deciding you don't feel comfortable telling her *everything* you are dealing with, but it may be helpful to have spoken with the one person at home who you do want to be around. Since she is not home often, something you might consider asking her for could be some regular, dedicated time to spend with her alone. Perhaps weekly, or at whatever pace may be accommodable.

    If you do end up deciding to leave, here are some thoughts you may want to consider while planning for your safety and health. Stability can be crucial to mental health, and it can be helpful to consider how much change you may be facing if you leave, especially if your first choice for where to stay doesn't end up working out or changes conditions. In addition, some other considerations to think about include provisions for your health needs, what happens if you become sick, and how to react to any strangers who make you feel unsafe.

    Again, thank you so much for reaching out to us. You are very welcome to call us anytime to speak about your situation more in depth, or if you just need someone to talk to. Our lines are open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We are here for you, and we wish you all the best!
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