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  • #16
    I'm 17 and live in Veneta, Oregon. I'm thinking of moving out of my house and I dont want to be brought back home if they call the police. Can I refuse to come home if they do find where I am staying? My parents also talk down on me and they are basically controlling like I am a maid at my house. I want to live with my best friend in Eugene. If that doesn't work our, I'll be moving to Junction City. If I encounter the police, could I tell that it was consented by my parents? My stepfather said word for word, "If you want to move out, we will not stop you." Could this be my stepfather testing me or should I take that as an opportunity?

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    • ccsmod3
      ccsmod3 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline as it sounds like it has been stressful at home and also confusing in what you are able to do. We aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, they may return you home to your parents since you are a minor, but you are in a grey area since you are so close to 18. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who is safe, and have reason to be there then they may not make you go back. One thing we encourage youth at 17 is to reach out to your local non-emergency line number and ask to speak to someone who knows runaway laws and ask how they might respond. It is good to be aware that there is something called harboring, which is a person who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring.

      We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.

      -NRS

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  • #17
    I am 13 and live in Oregon. I am afraid my father will hurt me and my mother doesn't care. He has a bad temper and says he is getting help, I don't believe it. He has blown up at me and chased me and grabbed me etc. I was wondering if it was legal to run away and the likely hood of getting caught. Also, doIi have any other options? my mom was threatening boarding school and my dad is out of the house right now because I am deathly afraid of him.

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    • ccsmod5
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      Hi, it looks like you've reached out to us through one of our other platforms (email, chat, phone, etc) about your situation. We hope that was helpful, but if you have further questions or want to talk more specifically about your situation, feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929. We are here 24/7.

      --NRS

  • #18
    Im 17, I have a job and im graduating school this year. I'm an early grad. My mother is making it impossible for me to save up money, making me paying the heat bills, house hold items and give her money when ever she needs it. She refuses to get a job and is making me pay for most everything. Recently she has taken my truck away and beacuse i am an early grad i have a special situation with my school. I got to three different ones. Both of the high schools in my town and also the community college, she refuses to give me rides and the buses dont go with my schedual. She also says if i dont go to all my class i wont get my truck back for longer, if she keeps this up i wont be able to graduate this may. She is making it almost impossible for me to go to school. Can i legally move in with move one that is not my parent or a legal gardian? And if not what is the policy of 17 year old run aways in oregon?

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    • ccsmod10
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It’s great to hear that you’re working towards graduating early despite the obstacles that your mother places in your way. It must be really hard to live into a home with so much tension. Leaving home is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      The age of majority in Oregon is 18 which means that you are still a minor until then and cannot legally move out on your own. If you do opt to leave your home your mom can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If you go to stay with someone without prior permission from your mom, the adult in the household where you are staying could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor. Penalties for harboring a runaway vary from state to state, police officer to officer, and how your mom views the situation.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      All the best,
      NRS

  • #19
    I want to know really not just the laws but how to work with them. I am not running away myself, but there is someone I know who may find use of this information. He is 17 and his mom is mentally abusive, uses him, hits him when he doesn't listen to her, doesn't take him to school when she doesn't feel like driving him, makes him go to work with her (which she recently made him go help her work even though he was sick and puked) I know she has told him at least once that he can't eat dinner with her and his sister, and she gives his sister everything. It's like the basic Cinderella plot. Where the step sisters get everything and do everything while Cinderella does all the work for her step mother. So ignoring how the story ends that's how it works. His mom manipulates him into believing her and makes him scared of her so he won't leave. His sister takes into this as well but is still friendly with him half the time. Also his mom takes his money to buy things she wants. He wants to save money to get a birth certificate so he can get a car but she takes too much of his money for him to do so. He can live with her but honestly I believe he has to leave. I do want to mention I have great parents, even though my dad used to be drunk all the time becoming mentally abusive to everyone, and we had to leave home to get away from him for a month or two. My dad has gotten so much better and my family is functional again. But this persons situation needs to change. There is no fixing it without him leaving, as much as you can wish. He is scared to leave because he is scared of what his mom will do. So I've been trying to help hin deal with his situation, but his high anxiety gets in the way of many options. He doesn't trust talking to a counselor. I'm trying to help see if there is a way that he can legally leave without his mom knowing about the process AT ALL. If she even hears the idea of it happening she will shut it down immediately. He also doesn't want his mom to be charged with anything, so Idk how that works. But yeah. Shortened version, he needs to leave without his mom knowing without being considered a runaway. What are the legal options to help him get out? Also he was suicidal and srill thinks about self harming because of the family dysfunction, but he doesn't need a suicide hotline prevention thingor any of that. And I know I just wrote alot but I can't read a whole lot. So I need a shortened down answer for who he or I can call or who to go to about this, how he can legally leave, and all of it without anyone knowing other than who he will be moving in with. This is in Oregon, and he still does need to go to school. Sorry that's a lot to read. And sorry I'm asking for a short response but I am unable to read long text without zoning out every 3 seconds.

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like your friend may be being abused. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If your friend is at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage him to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, he has the right to report it. If this is an option he wants to explore, he may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/.

      We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if your friend does opt to leave home his mom can file a runaway report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and your friend is located by the authorities, he will most likely be returned home.

      It might be a good idea for your friend to contact us directly so we can talk more in-depth about his situation and other options that he may have available to him. He can chat us via our website or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re 24/7 and here to listen and support as best we can.

      All the best,
      NRS
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