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  • #16
    I'm 17 and live in Veneta, Oregon. I'm thinking of moving out of my house and I dont want to be brought back home if they call the police. Can I refuse to come home if they do find where I am staying? My parents also talk down on me and they are basically controlling like I am a maid at my house. I want to live with my best friend in Eugene. If that doesn't work our, I'll be moving to Junction City. If I encounter the police, could I tell that it was consented by my parents? My stepfather said word for word, "If you want to move out, we will not stop you." Could this be my stepfather testing me or should I take that as an opportunity?

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    • ccsmod3
      ccsmod3 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline as it sounds like it has been stressful at home and also confusing in what you are able to do. We aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, they may return you home to your parents since you are a minor, but you are in a grey area since you are so close to 18. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who is safe, and have reason to be there then they may not make you go back. One thing we encourage youth at 17 is to reach out to your local non-emergency line number and ask to speak to someone who knows runaway laws and ask how they might respond. It is good to be aware that there is something called harboring, which is a person who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring.

      We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.

      -NRS

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  • #17
    I am 13 and live in Oregon. I am afraid my father will hurt me and my mother doesn't care. He has a bad temper and says he is getting help, I don't believe it. He has blown up at me and chased me and grabbed me etc. I was wondering if it was legal to run away and the likely hood of getting caught. Also, doIi have any other options? my mom was threatening boarding school and my dad is out of the house right now because I am deathly afraid of him.

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    • ccsmod5
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      Hi, it looks like you've reached out to us through one of our other platforms (email, chat, phone, etc) about your situation. We hope that was helpful, but if you have further questions or want to talk more specifically about your situation, feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929. We are here 24/7.

      --NRS

  • #18
    Im 17, I have a job and im graduating school this year. I'm an early grad. My mother is making it impossible for me to save up money, making me paying the heat bills, house hold items and give her money when ever she needs it. She refuses to get a job and is making me pay for most everything. Recently she has taken my truck away and beacuse i am an early grad i have a special situation with my school. I got to three different ones. Both of the high schools in my town and also the community college, she refuses to give me rides and the buses dont go with my schedual. She also says if i dont go to all my class i wont get my truck back for longer, if she keeps this up i wont be able to graduate this may. She is making it almost impossible for me to go to school. Can i legally move in with move one that is not my parent or a legal gardian? And if not what is the policy of 17 year old run aways in oregon?

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    • ccsmod10
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It’s great to hear that you’re working towards graduating early despite the obstacles that your mother places in your way. It must be really hard to live into a home with so much tension. Leaving home is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      The age of majority in Oregon is 18 which means that you are still a minor until then and cannot legally move out on your own. If you do opt to leave your home your mom can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If you go to stay with someone without prior permission from your mom, the adult in the household where you are staying could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor. Penalties for harboring a runaway vary from state to state, police officer to officer, and how your mom views the situation.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      All the best,
      NRS

  • #19
    I want to know really not just the laws but how to work with them. I am not running away myself, but there is someone I know who may find use of this information. He is 17 and his mom is mentally abusive, uses him, hits him when he doesn't listen to her, doesn't take him to school when she doesn't feel like driving him, makes him go to work with her (which she recently made him go help her work even though he was sick and puked) I know she has told him at least once that he can't eat dinner with her and his sister, and she gives his sister everything. It's like the basic Cinderella plot. Where the step sisters get everything and do everything while Cinderella does all the work for her step mother. So ignoring how the story ends that's how it works. His mom manipulates him into believing her and makes him scared of her so he won't leave. His sister takes into this as well but is still friendly with him half the time. Also his mom takes his money to buy things she wants. He wants to save money to get a birth certificate so he can get a car but she takes too much of his money for him to do so. He can live with her but honestly I believe he has to leave. I do want to mention I have great parents, even though my dad used to be drunk all the time becoming mentally abusive to everyone, and we had to leave home to get away from him for a month or two. My dad has gotten so much better and my family is functional again. But this persons situation needs to change. There is no fixing it without him leaving, as much as you can wish. He is scared to leave because he is scared of what his mom will do. So I've been trying to help hin deal with his situation, but his high anxiety gets in the way of many options. He doesn't trust talking to a counselor. I'm trying to help see if there is a way that he can legally leave without his mom knowing about the process AT ALL. If she even hears the idea of it happening she will shut it down immediately. He also doesn't want his mom to be charged with anything, so Idk how that works. But yeah. Shortened version, he needs to leave without his mom knowing without being considered a runaway. What are the legal options to help him get out? Also he was suicidal and srill thinks about self harming because of the family dysfunction, but he doesn't need a suicide hotline prevention thingor any of that. And I know I just wrote alot but I can't read a whole lot. So I need a shortened down answer for who he or I can call or who to go to about this, how he can legally leave, and all of it without anyone knowing other than who he will be moving in with. This is in Oregon, and he still does need to go to school. Sorry that's a lot to read. And sorry I'm asking for a short response but I am unable to read long text without zoning out every 3 seconds.

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like your friend may be being abused. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If your friend is at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage him to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, he has the right to report it. If this is an option he wants to explore, he may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/.

      We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if your friend does opt to leave home his mom can file a runaway report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and your friend is located by the authorities, he will most likely be returned home.

      It might be a good idea for your friend to contact us directly so we can talk more in-depth about his situation and other options that he may have available to him. He can chat us via our website or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re 24/7 and here to listen and support as best we can.

      All the best,
      NRS

  • #20
    My parents are moving but I don’t want to so I’m planning on running away cause I’m 14 and i have a kid on the way but they don’t know that

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    • #21
      Reply: My parents are moving


      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. Running away is a big step and it sounds like you think you might be pregnant. We understand that things might feel overwhelming but it’s good you are reaching out.
      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Take care,
      NRS


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      • #22
        I am a 15 year old runaway, and wondering if I have to worry about cops taking me back to my house.

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        • ccsmod6
          ccsmod6 commented
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          Hello and thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We hope that you are in a safe place currently. While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. Our understanding is that if your parents have filed a runaway report with the police, usually the cops will be entitled to notify your guardian and take you home, so it definitely is a possibility. If your parents have not filed a runaway report, the police will likely not be looking for you but may find a minor alone outside suspicious and may approach you. If you would like to talk a little bit more about what’s going on, we would be happy to go over other options or other ways that we might be able to assist you. If you are interested, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us on our confidential 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or on chat at 1800runaway.org.

          Take care,
          NRS

      • #23
        I am only 14 and thinking about running away cause I am not happy were I am at. I was wondering if I did could I get arrested.

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        • ccsmod5
          ccsmod5 commented
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          Hi, thank you for your message. It sounds like you are not happy where you are and are considering running away. It’s smart of you to reach out for support. We aren’t legal experts here but can give very general information. Since you are 14, you are considered a minor in every state. If you leave without permission, your family would have the right to file a runaway report and if the police find you they would likely return you home. Generally, running away is not something that you can be arrested for, but it is a possibility that the police could detain you until they can locate your legal guardians. We hope this was helpful! If you have other questions, need resources, or just need someone to talk to, we are here for you 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929. We wish you the best of luck.

          Sincerely,

          NRS

      • #24
        I'm 16 and live in Idaho and I was wondering if there was a way I could run away without getting in trouble. my best friend is 18 and I would be staying with him but I don't want him to get in trouble. is there a safe way for both of us to get out of this situation?

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        • ccsmod9
          ccsmod9 commented
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          Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
          While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
          We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
          Be safe,
          NRS

      • #25
        Hi I’m 17 and I want to run away will the person I stay with get in trouble for having a forum away in there home I police in Oakland Oregon

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        • ccsmod9
          ccsmod9 commented
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          Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
          While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
          We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
          Be safe,
          NRS

      • #26
        I am almost 17 and pregnant. My parents have cut me from talking to anyone or seeing anyone. They keep telling me that I am not going to move anywhere with the baby. They told me that I am not allowed to see the babies father. I am not certain about running away but, If I were to go and stay with the father, what would happen?

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        • ccsmod16
          ccsmod16 commented
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          Hello,

          Thanks for reaching out to us. We’re so sorry to hear that your parents have cut you off from talking to others. It sounds like home is feeling really restrictive and you’re contemplating your next steps. We’re not legal experts, but from what we understand, if you are considered a minor in your state, your parent or legal guardian decides where you live.

          If you leave without their consent, then your parent/legal guardian has the right to file a runaway report with your local police department. What happens after that depends on how your local police department chooses to handle the report. If your local police is willing to look for you, and they come to your boyfriend’s family home, they would most likely return you to your parent/legal guardian. The best way to confirm how your local police department would handle runaway reports is to call them at their non-emergency number. You do not have to share any identifying information to ask questions of the local police, and if you’re nervous about calling them, we encourage you to give us a call and we can help conference call out to local police with you.

          Whatever you decide, know that we are here to support you. We will not tell you what to do, but we will do our best to help you stay safe regardless of what you decide. Please feel free to give us a call 24/7 at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929), or send us a chat. We’re here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!

          -NRS

      • #27
        I'm 14 and I plan on running away with my boyfriend. A lot has happened with my dad in and out of jail and my mom going through rehab. But my parents don't care of me at all. She doesn't clean doesn't do my laundry she won't even cook dinner. If I were to run away for the 4th time and got caught again could that lead to legal actions? And also would my parents get Into trouble if I told the cops I wasn't being taken care of?

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        • ccsmod15
          ccsmod15 commented
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          Hi, Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. We are very sorry that you are going through all of this. Your situation sounds so hard, and that you have been through so very much. As far as your parents getting into trouble, we can’t know how the situation would play out with CPS, who the police would refer your situation to. Your parents are supposed to take care of your basic needs and, if your parents don’t take care of you at all, that is serious.
          Running away with your boyfriend is something I hope you’ll talk with us about. At 14 you are very vulnerable on the streets and we are dedicated to helping youth to be safe and off the streets. Maybe if we talk about your plan and your situation, we can help you identify your options. One thing you can do is to check out the For Teens tab at https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/ Their TXT 4 Help option will connect you with local youth workers who can help you talk things over, or there may be a physical location that is a dedicated Safe Place site. Another thing you can do is if you have an adult in your life that you do trust, maybe you can talk with them about what you are going through.
          We are also here for you 24/7 at either our telephone hotline at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or through live chat at 1800runaway.org Either way that is more comfortable for you to reach out, we will be here for you.
          We hope to hear from you,
          NRS

      • #28
        Hello. My family member who is 15.5 years old has a neglectful mother, who is emotionally and mentally abusive. She is a drug addict who says she is allegedly sober, even though she is still popping opioid pills and said so to me. My family member's father is dead several years ago tragically and traumaticly. My family member said their Mother took them to her new boyfriend house this past weekend and they had to listen to them have sex all day all night for days. This was the tip of the iceberg and the breaking point for them and now wants to run away from their miserable life at home. My family member and their mom live in Wasco County Oregon, and I live several counties away also in Oregon. My family member wanted to run away tonight. I told them that it would be best if I advocate for them to come to my house with their Mother's permission. She refused on the phone and freaked out like a lunatic. I called Wasco county non emergency police to ask for resources regarding runaways. They said the county does Not go looking for run aways but that the mom can file a run away report. I don't want my family member to run away, I want to get this dealt with correctly and maturely. It is not healthy or safe environment for my family member and I am worried they will take drastic action and this is their plea for an adult to help them. And I am trying to show my family member the correct way to deal with difficult problems is not to run away but address the problem and move forward. Should I hire a lawyer? I called child protective services many times during in the past in my family members life but DHS is worthless. I will not turn my back on my family member and need some guidance. Thank you.

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        • ccsmod9
          ccsmod9 commented
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          Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
          While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. However please know if you are experiencing any type of abuse please do not hesitate to gather evidence and report whatever may be going on. We also help with reporting so that you do not have to feel alone.
          We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. Be safe, NRS
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