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    ccsmod7
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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s been going on. We are glad to hear that your granddaughter was located safely. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If a minor leaves home without consent, those they stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer your legal questions as we are not legal experts here at NRS.

    We are here to help and support as much as we are able. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    Be safe,
    NRS
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    i am 64 y,o grandma who got a text from my older daughter on Thursday that her niece , my oldest granddaughter 13 1/2 had been missing since tues. night. they got the police involved, took days off and closed in to find her safe and sound, is the parent of her friend liable to harbor a minor without notifying her parents that must have been sick with worry. this was in iowa city, coralville iowa area. she said she did not feel loved by her family that could not be further from the truth

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  • ccsmod9
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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. Be safe, NRS
    National Runaway Safeline | National Runaway Safeline
    Call 1-800-RUNAWAY if you are thinking of running from home, if you have a friend who has runaway, or if you are a runaway ready to go home.
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    im 13 years old and im wanting get away to a friends house will i get in legal trouble

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  • ccsmod15
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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline. It was brave of you to reach out for support. Please know that we can always provide you with the support you need. It might be a good idea to see if you are able to call in or chat online (1-800-786-2929 or www.1800runaway.org) to get more specific details regarding what to do in your situation. We have many resources that can help youth find shelters, counseling services, legal information, and much more. We can also help you report any abuse that might be happening at home so that a caseworker will be notified to assess your situation if necessary.



    You mentioned that you want to run away to your friend’s house. Some information that might be helpful to keep in mind is that those who are younger than 18 typically cannot leave home without their guardian’s permission. So if you were to run away, your parents can call the police to file a runaway report. If that were to happen, they could look for you and bring you back home if found.



    You are going through a lot, and we appreciate you reaching out to us. Please feel free to contact us whenever is suitable for you as we are open 24/7. If you feel that you are in immediate danger, please do not hesitate to contact the police (911) to get immediate assistance.



    We hope to hear from you soon,
    NRS
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    I'm 10

    I'm 10 and I want to run away to my friends house. My parents treat me like sh!t and get angry at me easily. when they do they beat me with a belt. sometimes the belt breaks and i have scars. will my friend be in trouble if i run to her house

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  • ccsmod16
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  • ccsmod16
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    We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    We are always here to help you discover what your options are and to talk it through. Please reach out if you need anyone to talk to over the phone or through the chat on our website. We're here 24/7!
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    I have ran away to my friends house and i dont want him to get in trouble i am 12 and he is 24 years old . he has his own place anyways we live in California. Is this legal or illegal????

    i ran away because my parents abuse me so much and he understands because his parents did the same thing.

    What do i do?

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    My best friend wants to run away to my house because her parents are disrespectful and treat her like she is a moron. We live in Wisconsin and she has already runway before. Could I get in trouble for letting her stay at my house?

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  • ccsmod2
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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.
    Being pregnant at any age can be stressful, and we are sorry to hear that your parents have threatened to kick you out if you became pregnant. We want you to know that because you are a minor it is considered neglect if they were to kick you out which you are able to report. If you wanted to report your parents for neglect you can call Child help at 1800-422-4453. You can also call us or your local police department to make a report.
    There is support out there for you to help you with your pregnancy and you can consult with a doctor for any health related questions. You can reach out to Planned Parenthood at 1800-230-7526, they also have an online chat at plannedparenthood.org. Another resource that can help you is called Heartbeat International and they can be reached at 1800-712-4357.
    We also know that you mentioned wanting to leave home, we are not legal experts but do have some information on leaving home as a minor. Because you are a minor if you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you it is likely that they would bring you back home.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS
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    I just turned 14 and im pregnant and my parents said that they would kick me out if i ever became pregnant. My babies father and i are still dating but he lives in florida and i live in virginia but his parents are very supportive and said i could come live with them so im planning to run away and his older brother might come pick me up or i can ask a friend and they can give me a ride down there and ill pay for gas money. would it be bad for me to leave and am i too young to have other ppl be my parent or guardians?

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  • ccsmod15
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  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks so much for reaching out to NRS. Abuse is never okay, and no one deserves to be put down like that. It's understandable you'd be looking for a way out of that environment.

    We're not legal experts, but generally when a youth is reported as a runaway, it gives the police the right to find them and bring them home -- but running away is not a crime. It is very unlikely you were formally charged with anything, but If you're concerned, you can call the non-emergency number of your local police department to confirm.

    In terms of next steps, one option you have is to report the abuse you have been experiencing. You can do this by telling a teacher or nurse at school, or calling the Oklahoma Child Abuse reporting hotline at 1-800-522-3511. If you'd like to ask some questions about how abuse reporting works and what could happen after that, a good resource is called Child Help. They are an anonymous hotline like NRS and their number is 1-800-422-4453.

    It can be very hard to deal with the stress of abuse by yourself. Sometimes it can help just to have someone to talk to and get things off your chest. Another option to think about is finding a therapist or counselor. Your school may have one on staff, or if you want to call us at 1-800-786-2929, we can find resources in your area.

    It shows a lot of courage that you are reaching out for help and researching all your options before making your next move. We are here for you 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929 if you want to talk more about your situation or brainstorm other ideas.

    Take care,
    NRS
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    I’m 16 years old and have ran away before because of my relationship with my mother. I am mentally abused and constantly put down or getting yelled at. I understand that at 16 I am legally allowed to get emancipated but I don’t think it would work considering the fact that my mom won’t let me get a job and I’m on certain medications. I live in the state of Oklahoma and have read that a runaway is technically an unemancipated minor who is voluntarily absent from home for 48 hours or longer. This confuses me because I now have charges for running away yet I was gone for only an hour at my friends house then came back. I have no idea what to do and I need some help.

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  • ccsmod15
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  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks so much for reaching out. Sounds like you're in a very challenging situation with your family. No one should be treating you the way they are about your gender and sexual identity. It is wrong. First off, let us answer your specific questions:

    Given your age, in the law's eyes, your parents are responsible for you. If they report you when you run away, and the police find you, they will return you to your parents. Depending on what they do, your parents could file charges against any other adults that you stay with for harboring a minor.
    Running away is usually not considered illegal, but if the police find you, though, you probably will be returned home.

    We'd like to suggest some places where you could receive some support for what you're facing. Here are two support hot lines for support on the issues you mentioned:

    www.glbthotline.org (1-800-246-7743)
    The Trevor Project (1-866-488-7386)

    Another option is to find an adult you trust to talk to you and get some support from someone who is on your side. You can also see your school counselor, who should be able to talk to and support you in what you're facing. Finally, if you want to talk about reporting your parents for the emotional and physical abuse you're experience, that is another option. You can do that through us or through www.childhelp.org (1-800-422-4453).

    Good luck and don't hesitate to reach out again. You can always call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY as we're here 24/7 or chat with us via www.1800hotline.org.

    Stay safe,
    NRS
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    Hi, I’m 13 years old and I want to run away to a friends house but I’m afraid that they and their dad will get in trouble for taking me in. My family doesn’t accept me for my sexuality and gender identity and the way I dress. They make constant jokes about when I was self harming, and my sexuality. I don’t feel safe around my dad or brother because they always sexualize my body. Living in this household makes me want to kill myself, and my mom verbally abuses me. She told me once that she never wanted a “daughter” like me and always treats my brother better. I understand as an older child that I have to make some sacrifices, but the treatment he gets is beyond simple. Sometimes my mom would get so angry at me she’d start hitting my closet doors, taking my blankets away so I’m cold for the night, and ripping and destroying my safe space (a part of my room that I made for me that I hide all of my pride stuff and clothes that my mom can’t take away unless she finds it). A lot of my friends and their families are willing to take me in, but my parents might press charges against them and take me back and never let me out of the house again, or at least never give me any privacy ever again. I’m still traumatized from the time I was 3 and my mom beat me with a wooden spoon. My mom thinks she’s always right because she’s older (common in my culture) and she’s says I’m lucky that she’s taking care of me, but I remember when she lied to me and told me abuse is normal in here in America (we lived somewhere else before). I’ll still go to the same school since my friends still live close to my school, I live in Minnesota. So here are my questions:
    1. if the police never found me would my parents be unable to press charges or take me back?
    2. if I were to run away but not stay with anyone will I be the only one in trouble?

    thanks

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