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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi, we are grateful that you contacted us, and we recognize that reaching out for help like this is not easy. What you have described is definitely abusive behavior, and is not how you deserve to be treated. You deserve to feel supported, accepted, and loved at home, not ridiculed, disrespected, or unsafe.

    Leaving to stay with someone else is an option. It can be helpful to consider how your parents might react if you did that. Technically, if you left without them knowing, they could file a runaway report, which would authorize police to come check where you were. Considering your age, it is unlikely that they would forcibly return you home if you said that your home was abusive, but technically they COULD do so. Runaway laws are pretty inconsistently enforced so it can be difficult to predict exactly what would happen.

    Even if you are just staying with someone for a few days, it might be beneficial to your mental health to get some time and space away from home.

    We can talk more about your situation if you text chat us (1800runaway.org) or call us (1-800-786-2929). Discussing the specifics some more might help highlight other ways to improve your situation. Please don't hesitate to reach out; we are on your side.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi, I'm 16 and I live in a house where my dad yells at me a lot, and emotionally abuses me to a point I numb. Mom ignores me until I snap into a meltdown, she them gets in my face too closely and I shove her. It's happened a few times. They yell at me for eating, and always say I'm disrespectful, explosive and crazy. For years I've had to deal with this. Today, Mom did the same thing as previously and dragged me off my feet across the house to my room, throwing me on the floor and shutting the door. Dad came into the house after hearing me screaming and took her side immediately, yelling at me how he'd send me to a mental hospital for hurting my mom. She laughed at me while he was screaming. I told multiple people what happened and a couple of people have offered to pick me up out, I'm not sure if I should take their offer. But I'm not safe here either. What do I do?

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  • ccsmod10
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    We're thankful you reached out to us; it's not always easy. It sounds like your mom, despite not being physically abusive, has made you feel unsafe/unwelcome/uncomfortable at home. Emotional / verbal abuse are absolutely real, and they can have as deep of an impact as physical abuse.

    A change of environment can make a big difference in one's mental health, and staying in a new space might help shake off the suicidal thoughts you expressed. If you were to leave home, your mom could technically report you as a runaway, but that doesn't necessarily mean you'd be forced to return home. It would allow law enforcement to look for where you were staying, but every police department handles these cases differently. In the case where older minors (like yourself) are fleeing an abusive home, you are more likely to be given agency around where you stay. It is technically possible they could return you home even if you didn't wish to.

    You can look up the non-emergency phone number for your local police department and ask them how they would respond to your particular running away situation.

    We are here to help every step of the way. Please don't be afraid to chat us at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY to discuss things more. You don't have to deal with this alone.

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Im 16, and living in Ohio. My mother doesn't physically abuse me I must admit but mentally I feel as though she does... I can't explain it but I don't feel safe here. Can the police force me to go home if I tell them I don't feel safe? I have money. and i know if i run away ill be safe. Im scared of getting found. Not because im scared of the police, im scared of my mom. I dont mentally feel safe at home and it's triggered some suicidal thoughts..

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you were a run away when you were 10 years old due to some abuse that happened and possibly being trafficked. We want you to know that you did not deserve to be treated this way. It can definitely be helpful to talk with others who have similar experiences and helping provide support to others who are also struggling. A resource that might be able to help or give some options like that is the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 888-373-7888. You can talk to people who have somewhat of an understanding of what you possibly went through and might be able to provide you with some resources to connect you to additional support. If you would like to discuss further with us, please call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I live in Indiana also and was a 10 year old runaway because I was being sexually abused and believe I was being sex trafficked! It’s hard and there is something called the youth shelter in the town I live in and they could probably help you or give you some ideas of what the laws are. I’m so sorry for the pain you are going through but please know just keep fighting for what’s right and eventually your life with be better.
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  • ccsmod16
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi,
    thanks for reaching out; we are glad that you did. Your home sounds truly awful between the dirt and bodily fluids and the constant drinking. And your foot never having been healed with a doctor's help is wrong and awful too.
    If you go to your girlfriend's house and you tell her parents to call your state's Child Abuse Hotline so that this situation can be reported, they will not get in any trouble for helping you to be safe.
    If you want to talk further about this, please call us at our hotline 1-800-786-2929 or chat us through this website.
    We truly hope to hear from you soon.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm 14 and I cant stay here

    I live in Mo. We live and a filthy camper that my parents refuse to keep clean. This happened at our old house too. It was covered in rat feces and other bodily fluids, trash was stacked high enough it made it hard to walk. My parent's drink constantly and refuse to do anything to fix our situation. We currently dont have hot water or cleaning products of any kind. I'm constantly blamed for the problems we have and am forced to deal with it myself.

    I have had mental health issues over looked and blatantly refused to be taken to a doctor about. I had doctors appointments for a broken foot that was canceled after it became to expensive.

    I want to run away to my girlfriends house but I'm scared of what will happen to her and her dad
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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello and thanks for reaching out to the Runaway Safeline. Your situation sounds really stressful and you deserve to live some where you feel safe and taken care of.

    First of all, if you were to leave your home without the permission of your legal guardian, they could file a police report and have you returned to them. And yes, your friend’s parents could get into trouble for what is known as “harboring a runaway”. This could be a serious charge, so it is smart of you to consider this possibility.

    Another possibility for leaving home, if you feel that you are being neglected or are living in an unsafe environment, is you could file a report with Child Protective Services. It sounds like you may have already had some experience with CPS, but if you have not been placed in a suitable home, you still deserve to be helped. This is something you can do by yourself by contacting Childhelp.org, or we, at NRS, can help you file a report as well.

    It might be helpful for us to know more details about your situation in order to give you the best advice. If you would like more support, please feel free to call us or chat with us online at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)/ 1800runaway.org any time in order to talk in more detail. Good luck!

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I live in foster family I'm legally adopted I'm 13 I live in Ohio what If I ran away to friend's house would my friends parents get in trouble My birth parents did drugs there Done with drugs Is there a way that I can live with them long-term in ohio

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  • ccsmod16
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We are sorry to hear about your situation at home. It sounds very difficult and stressful.

    We are not legal experts at NRS and cannot tell you exactly what would happen if you were to runaway. Moreover, since the National Runaway Safeline is based in the United States, reaching out to the Kids and Teens Helpline (https://kidshelpline.com.au/) in Australia can help you explore options and gain more information.

    It is important that you take care of yourself. Talking with school counselor, teacher, or another trusted adult can be super helpful along with other coping mechanisms. Talking to your friend is also an option.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m twelve years old, i live in Australia, im planning on running away from home bc my parents are forcing me to do a sport and when i’m not passionate about anything they get really mad at me and not talk to me for a long time. What do i do? Can i run to my friends house or tell a friend?

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS) regarding your question about running away to a family member's house. Please note that we are not legal experts. However, it is to our knowledge that any individual under the age of 18 that runs away from home to live with someone else may run the risk of that person becoming charged for "harboring a runaway." It is often one of various possibilities and could sometimes be a case-by-case basis. We would be happy to talk further with you about this, if you would like. We have staff on our lines 24/7 who could help locate resources near you that may help with any further legal questions as well. Please feel welcome to reach out through our chat portal, found on our website at www.1800runaway.org or give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    We look forward to the opportunity to talk further with you and we wish you all of the best ahead.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    What if I runaway to a family members house, what would happen in that situation?

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  • ccsmod7
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

    It sounds like things with your guardians are abusive and unsafe and you're looking for a way out of that situation. While it's completely understandable why you'd like to leave, doing so when you're under 18 is difficult without parental permission. We aren't legal experts, but should your parents choose to file a runaway report you could be forced to return home and anyone you're staying with could be charged with harboring a minor. However, you are within your rights to report any abuse happening inside the home, www.childhelp.org is one resource when looking to report abuse, and we can also assist you in filling out an abuse report if you call or chat us. But whether or not you choose to report is up to you, and there are pros and cons in doing so. Maybe when you call or chat with us we can talk more about what those are. nami.org is also a great resource for finding strategies to heal from the aftermath of abuse.

    We are here as support through this challenging time and we can best help by having a conversation with you either by phone on our hotline or chatting us through our website. We truly hope to hear from you soon so that we can listen and help.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
    NRS
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