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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I have ran away to my friends house and i dont want him to get in trouble i am 12 and he is 24 years old . he has his own place anyways we live in California. Is this legal or illegal????

    i ran away because my parents abuse me so much and he understands because his parents did the same thing.

    What do i do?

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    My best friend wants to run away to my house because her parents are disrespectful and treat her like she is a moron. We live in Wisconsin and she has already runway before. Could I get in trouble for letting her stay at my house?

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.
    Being pregnant at any age can be stressful, and we are sorry to hear that your parents have threatened to kick you out if you became pregnant. We want you to know that because you are a minor it is considered neglect if they were to kick you out which you are able to report. If you wanted to report your parents for neglect you can call Child help at 1800-422-4453. You can also call us or your local police department to make a report.
    There is support out there for you to help you with your pregnancy and you can consult with a doctor for any health related questions. You can reach out to Planned Parenthood at 1800-230-7526, they also have an online chat at plannedparenthood.org. Another resource that can help you is called Heartbeat International and they can be reached at 1800-712-4357.
    We also know that you mentioned wanting to leave home, we are not legal experts but do have some information on leaving home as a minor. Because you are a minor if you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you it is likely that they would bring you back home.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I just turned 14 and im pregnant and my parents said that they would kick me out if i ever became pregnant. My babies father and i are still dating but he lives in florida and i live in virginia but his parents are very supportive and said i could come live with them so im planning to run away and his older brother might come pick me up or i can ask a friend and they can give me a ride down there and ill pay for gas money. would it be bad for me to leave and am i too young to have other ppl be my parent or guardians?

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thanks so much for reaching out to NRS. Abuse is never okay, and no one deserves to be put down like that. It's understandable you'd be looking for a way out of that environment.

    We're not legal experts, but generally when a youth is reported as a runaway, it gives the police the right to find them and bring them home -- but running away is not a crime. It is very unlikely you were formally charged with anything, but If you're concerned, you can call the non-emergency number of your local police department to confirm.

    In terms of next steps, one option you have is to report the abuse you have been experiencing. You can do this by telling a teacher or nurse at school, or calling the Oklahoma Child Abuse reporting hotline at 1-800-522-3511. If you'd like to ask some questions about how abuse reporting works and what could happen after that, a good resource is called Child Help. They are an anonymous hotline like NRS and their number is 1-800-422-4453.

    It can be very hard to deal with the stress of abuse by yourself. Sometimes it can help just to have someone to talk to and get things off your chest. Another option to think about is finding a therapist or counselor. Your school may have one on staff, or if you want to call us at 1-800-786-2929, we can find resources in your area.

    It shows a lot of courage that you are reaching out for help and researching all your options before making your next move. We are here for you 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929 if you want to talk more about your situation or brainstorm other ideas.

    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 16 years old and have ran away before because of my relationship with my mother. I am mentally abused and constantly put down or getting yelled at. I understand that at 16 I am legally allowed to get emancipated but I don’t think it would work considering the fact that my mom won’t let me get a job and I’m on certain medications. I live in the state of Oklahoma and have read that a runaway is technically an unemancipated minor who is voluntarily absent from home for 48 hours or longer. This confuses me because I now have charges for running away yet I was gone for only an hour at my friends house then came back. I have no idea what to do and I need some help.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thanks so much for reaching out. Sounds like you're in a very challenging situation with your family. No one should be treating you the way they are about your gender and sexual identity. It is wrong. First off, let us answer your specific questions:

    Given your age, in the law's eyes, your parents are responsible for you. If they report you when you run away, and the police find you, they will return you to your parents. Depending on what they do, your parents could file charges against any other adults that you stay with for harboring a minor.
    Running away is usually not considered illegal, but if the police find you, though, you probably will be returned home.

    We'd like to suggest some places where you could receive some support for what you're facing. Here are two support hot lines for support on the issues you mentioned:

    www.glbthotline.org (1-800-246-7743)
    The Trevor Project (1-866-488-7386)

    Another option is to find an adult you trust to talk to you and get some support from someone who is on your side. You can also see your school counselor, who should be able to talk to and support you in what you're facing. Finally, if you want to talk about reporting your parents for the emotional and physical abuse you're experience, that is another option. You can do that through us or through www.childhelp.org (1-800-422-4453).

    Good luck and don't hesitate to reach out again. You can always call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY as we're here 24/7 or chat with us via www.1800hotline.org.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi, I’m 13 years old and I want to run away to a friends house but I’m afraid that they and their dad will get in trouble for taking me in. My family doesn’t accept me for my sexuality and gender identity and the way I dress. They make constant jokes about when I was self harming, and my sexuality. I don’t feel safe around my dad or brother because they always sexualize my body. Living in this household makes me want to kill myself, and my mom verbally abuses me. She told me once that she never wanted a “daughter” like me and always treats my brother better. I understand as an older child that I have to make some sacrifices, but the treatment he gets is beyond simple. Sometimes my mom would get so angry at me she’d start hitting my closet doors, taking my blankets away so I’m cold for the night, and ripping and destroying my safe space (a part of my room that I made for me that I hide all of my pride stuff and clothes that my mom can’t take away unless she finds it). A lot of my friends and their families are willing to take me in, but my parents might press charges against them and take me back and never let me out of the house again, or at least never give me any privacy ever again. I’m still traumatized from the time I was 3 and my mom beat me with a wooden spoon. My mom thinks she’s always right because she’s older (common in my culture) and she’s says I’m lucky that she’s taking care of me, but I remember when she lied to me and told me abuse is normal in here in America (we lived somewhere else before). I’ll still go to the same school since my friends still live close to my school, I live in Minnesota. So here are my questions:
    1. if the police never found me would my parents be unable to press charges or take me back?
    2. if I were to run away but not stay with anyone will I be the only one in trouble?

    thanks

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello! Thanks for reaching out to the NRS. We're sorry to hear that you're not having the freedom you want at home. We hear you, and just because you feel you don't have it as bad as the other kids on here doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid. When you're 16, you reach a tricky spot where you want to have the freedom to do what you want but at the same time you're not totally independent of your parents either.

    It's good that you had the initiative to decide and reach out to use about safety and legal considerations before taking action. We aren't legal experts here at NRS, but you are correct that because you are a minor, harboring you can be considered illegal. There are temporary youth shelters for teens that run away -- if this is something that interests you, feel free to reach out to our hotline.

    If you have more questions or just want to vent about your situation more with one of our representatives, feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us at 1800runaway.org.

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Dumb, but tempting...

    I'm 16 and in New Jersey. I'm constantly getting grounded for breaking rules at my house, and I have just reached a level of zero cares at this point. I'm considering emancipating myself, but it seems like a dumb option. Dumb but tempting. I realize I don't have it as bad as half the other kids that I've seen post here, but I'm just so sick of not being allowed to do as I please. I'm considering just grabbing my most important stuff and leaving to live with a friend but... I've read through some of the posts on here and it looks like my parents might press charges against my friends. I wish there was just a place for teens to go temporarily when they're done with home life. I'm not mentally mature enough to handle a job. I'm not even sure I could get an apartment. I'm immature even for my age, so I won't last a second in the real world. I just wish I could fix the broken part of my brain that doesn't care to change my behavior.

    Thanks for reading even if I don't get a reply. I just needed a place to at least vent.

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  • ccsmod5
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • ccsmod5
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    It sounds like you are thinking about harming yourself or ending your life. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You deserve to be prioritized over material things, you life means so much more than stuff! You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk. Another great resource is the NAMI Helpline (National Alliance on Mental Illness) The NAMI HelpLine can also be reached by emailing [email protected] or by calling their hotline at 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) Monday through Friday, 10 am–6 pm, ET.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    We hope to hear from you soon.


    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    i tried killing my self but they dont care but they only care when i take their things

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    i am 14 years old and i need someone to help me to make a plan to run away from home so i can live with my friend

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello, and thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been feeling really stressed at home and not getting the support you need. It makes sense that you’re feeling helpless right now, but you don’t have to go through this alone.

    You deserve to feel safe where you live and get the support you need for your mental health. If you’re ever thinking about trying to hurt yourself or kill yourself again, please know that there is always someone available to talk to you, 24/7, confidentially and anonymously. The Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available any time at 800-273-8255 and https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/. You can also contact us any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Someone is always available to be there to listen to you and offer support, even if you’re not getting the support you’re looking for from your parents right now.

    It makes sense that your home life is feeling toxic and that feeling is making you want to run away or live somewhere else. You might want to think about what kinds of support you’re looking for from your parents, and whether there are other adults in your life whom you can trust to share your feelings with. Sometimes it can be helpful to think about what you would need to see change around you for you to get some relief and start to feel better. If you ever need helping talking that out, you can contact us at NRS any time via phone or online chat. We also offer a conference call service, where we can moderate a phone call between a youth and parent, to help make sure everyone feels their voice is being heard.
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