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    Hi, im 17 in the state of AZ. my mother and I don't mix well, she's toxic and i dont listen. She loves to pick fights with me over really small stuff like If she thinks im lying, she'll grab me by the hair and throw me around, smother me with her body, threaten me, chase me with a knife, she beat me with scissors one time because I lied and said i wasn't watching TV. I have at least more then 9 scars covering my body. Im called a hoe and desperate for having multile guy friends. Me on the other hand will bring my guy friends over and my mom will freak and say "call them and ask them if you can stay with them because you cant stay here. I'll take you." BUT I dont trust that because knowing her, she'll probably make up a story and send the police or something to their house. Im running away because I have a 25 year old friend who said I could stay with him and im already in the process of looking for a job and when I leave im going to start the emancipation process and everything. So if i let my mom know like, "hey, im running away. (give her the reason). i'll be fine. its better this way. Leave me to make my own mistakes and learn from them" is that a way to keep my friend safe or something? If not, Is there anyway to keep my friend safe and to keep me away from my mom?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out and sharing a bit of what’s going on. We understand it can be difficult to reach out, we hope to help as best we can. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian in most states. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case (in some cases they look harder than others). Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway, although this may not be common it is a possibility you should be aware of. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.
    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Im 16 almost 17 at july im planning of running away cause my parents expect me to clean the house and help my brother with his school and mostly i dont have time to do mine and they'll expect me to pass everything and they keep pushing me the job i dont want and they always reason my gender cause im a girl that i should do all that and they are also expecting me to be a working student while doing all that im planning to go to my best friends house at their province with her grandma would she get in trouble?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I live in Newport News Virginia and I am 17 years old I turn 18 in January next year. I’ve done some things wrong I can admit but the way my mother handles it I do not agree with. I’ve been hit with bats, chords, and other random objects and I don’t like it. My mom does nothing but fuss and whatever you say does mot matter she only cares about what she wants and it’s either her way or no way. I want to run away tonight but I want to make sure that the people I am going to stay with will not get into trouble. I have a job at McDonalds and I can work so providing for myself will not be a problem.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Thank you for contacting NRS,

    From what we have read about your story we are sorry you are going through so much. It seems as though your home is no longer a good option for you to be at. You stated that you have a plan for leaving home and wish to head out to your friend's house to live with them. Some things that you should know about running away are that if you are under the age of 18 and choose to leave home without your parent's permission they can call the cops and file a runaway report with them. Once the report is made the cops can be looking for you. If you are found they can bring you home no questions asked. You mentioned that you have done research about harboring a runaway we would suggest maybe confirming that with a local non-emergency number. You can find your local number with a simple Google search. Just type in your city followed by "non-emergency number" and it should pop up. If you have any trouble you can reach out to us here at NRS and we can call for you. You also mentioned avoiding school and your mom just be aware typically if schools know you are missing or a runaway they can call your parents to let them know you are there.

    As far as staying safe it's always good to have backup plans for your backup. You are incredibly young and so that is a safety concern for you as adults who might want to hurt you can use your defense weapons against you or even overpower you if need be. It might be good to get a phone if you can or even remember your friend's number to have just in case.

    The last thing we want to mention is that you expressed your mom can be mentally abusive towards you. Please know that you should not be treated like that and if you ever feel in immediate danger please call the cops (911). They can help prevent any harm from coming to you. If you feel as though you need to report the abuse please know you can contact CHILD HELP (www.childhelp.org; 800-422-4453) They are an organization that helps report child abuse and file alongside you. We at NRS can also help report child abuse with you if that is how you want to proceed.


    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    im 12 years old almost 13 and i want to run away.

    I am being mentally abused by my mom. I still love her very much and i know she loves me but she is an alcoholic and gets mentally abusive when she is drunk. I want to run away to my best friends house, i have done research about it but she doesnt know. i have looked up if harboring a minor is illegal in miami florida and everything i have seen so far says no. i have food, clothes, and defense items. i plan on doing it tonight while my mom is alsleep but i dont know how to avoid school and avoid my mom. i do eventually plan to come back to get some of my stuff but i just need to know how to be safe and careful. i do not have my phonr anymore nor do i have money. i only know 3 numbers; mine, my moms, and the police. please help me. i live in Miami FL

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    Thank you ever so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like you decided to spend some time with a friend over the summer regardless of whether or not you have parental consent to leave. We understand that making a decision to leave home can be stressful, and although we cannot tell you what to do, we will do our best to share information to help you figure out your next steps.

    It sounds like you have created a plan that you feel meets your basic needs. One option you have is to talk to your parents to explore the concerns they might have regarding your decision to stay at your friend's place for the summer. Ensuring you address their concerns may eliminate the need to leave without their consent. As you mentioned, if you are considered a minor in your state and you leave without the consent of your parents or legal guardians, they can report you as a runaway to your local police department. We are not legal experts, but from what we understand, because laws can vary from state to state, it may help to reach out to your local legal aid agency or the police department at their non-emergency number to confirm whether there may be consequences for your friend if you decide to stay with him and your parents/legal guardians file a runaway report, like being charged with harboring a runaway, for example. It may also help to discuss the potential consequences with your friend, to confirm that he or she is comfortable with that decision. If you would like more information, or need help contacting someone for specifics on your state, please feel free to reach out to us.

    Whatever you decide, we hope you know that we will do our best to help you stay as safe as possible. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m (17) thinking about staying at a friend’s place for the summer (2-3 months but I’m indecisive so I’ll probably come home earlier than that) without my parent’s permission. I have everything planned out. I will have food and a shelter so basically all my basic needs. But, I’ll come home before my senior year starts. I just want my parents to know I’m capable of surviving before I turn 18. I just want to see what the outcome would be but I would be 100% safe and at a place that isn’t far from home and I would contact them everyday to let them know I’m alive and doing well. I know my legal rights and could be filed as a runaway so the police would have to make arrangements to take me home if I get caught. Thoughts?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. Helping a minor cross state lines without parental consent could also leave one open to aiding and abetting a minor, which is a crime. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    13 and want to run away to Texas

    Hi, i am ready to run away to my best friends house my home isn’t a good one and i need out. Is there any illegal things i may be charged with? or the family i am running to? can i get on a plane if there mother books it for me?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We’re glad you reached out, we understand that it takes great courage to do so. It seems like there is a lot that you are facing right now and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We’re sorry to hear you’re not being accepted by your parents, we want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. The GLBT National Hotline 1-888-843-4564 is another great option for support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. Their website is www.glbthotline.org

    While we are not experts of the law, 18 is usually the age an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you could be returned home.

    You mentioned running away with your best friend and/or staying with your best friend and their mom saying yes. It’s great to have support but it’s important to know that those that a reported runaway stays with, may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. Anyone found to be assisting or aiding someone to run away may also find themselves at risk legally. For more specifics on the law, you might consider contacting the local non-emergency number for the police. You might also look for a legal aid center in your local area. They may be able to answer any legal questions on the subject. We can look more into this for you if you were interested.

    We are here to listen and help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) Thanks for reaching out!

    Take Care,

    NRS.

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    Hi i am 12 and i wanna runaway.

    I am pansexual and my parents don't like "Gays" so i am thinking about running away with my best friends he told his mom already and she said Yes but i don't want his or his mom to get in trouble, So can i do this without getting any of my family or they family intoruble?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

    We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The Trevor Project is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi, I'm 11 and I want to run away. My parents are homophobes and transphobes and make me sad when they hit me.

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