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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us- we’re glad that you did. You mentioned running away, which is a really big decision.

    We’re not legal experts, but if you decide run away and your parents report you as a runaway to police, that gives police the right to bring you home. Running away is a statutory offense, not a crime, so you would not be charged with anything or taken to jail. However, there could be potential legal consequences for any adults (18+ years old) who you stay with for what’s called “harboring a runaway”.

    Some things to think about might be how your parents would react, where you would go, and how you would stay safe. The most important priority is staying safe, and making sure you have a plan to take care of your basic needs (food, water, medical care). We hear from many youth who find themselves in really scary situations because they ran out of money or had to live on the street.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    im trying to run away are there any tips to run away and are their any thing i should keep in mind and im 12 about to be 13

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/. In the UK you may also find a youth crisis hotline that fits your needs and questions through this website: https://www.youthaccess.org.uk/supernav/links. You might also consider just calling your local police non-emergency line and asking them your question.

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Be safe,
    NRS
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    Hi I’m 16 and live in the uk , if I wanted to go stay at my boyfriends supported living flat and Is safe and well without being gave permission by my careers then would the police make me go back home or would they let me stay as I’m 16 and is in a safe environment?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for taking the time to write us here at NRS. We are truly sorry to hear about the passing of your grandma. It is incredibly difficult to cope with grief and the loss of such an important person in your life. Running away can be a really big decision to make and can bring on a lot of challenging situations. Some things to take into consideration before you leave are how long you are planning on being away for, do you still want to go to school, do you have a safe place to stay, and how will you provide the basic necessities for yourself like food. Running away is not illegal but it is a status offense. This means that your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. While you would not be arrested, the police would likely return you home.

    Your safety is very important and you deserve to be getting the support you need during this difficult time. It can be helpful to think about what needs to change at home for you to feel better and what are some ways you can work toward those goals. You do not need to go about this alone. You can reach out to friends, family members, or a counselor at school to build your support system, so that you feel like you have people to confide in and lean on when you need some help. If you are not quite ready to talk to people in your life, that is okay. You can text "connect" to 741741 to talk with a crisis counselor about your urges and the hard feelings you are having. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of.

    We truly want to be a support for you as you navigate this challenging time in your life. We want to talk more with you about what's been going on in-depth so that we can better support you and discover your possible options. You can reach out anytime by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat at 1-800-786-2929.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    I'm 15 and having extreme urges to run away after my grandma dies she only one keeping me here. If I run away will I face legal trouble? Will my parents? I live Indiana and plan on skipping town

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hi, thanks for reaching out to NRS.
    It sound like you’re in a really frustrating situation. You mentioned that your parents have taken away some of your skincare products and things as a form of punishment for acting too unappreciative (as you shared) and yelling a lot at you. That can definitely make home feel unsupportive, which is the opposite of what you’d hope it would be – it’s supposed to be a place where you can relax and be supported for who are you.
    It sounds like this is something you’ve been thinking of for a while – you mentioned that you’ve done some research, and know that running away without your parents’ permission to another adult’s home can leave the door open for more serious legal consequences for the adults – such as harboring a runaway minor. It’s good that you’re doing your research – it means that you’re planning ahead and not making decisions on impulse, which also can help to keep you safer (and that’s important to us).
    Perhaps there are some alternatives you can consider. For example – perhaps there is another family relative (a grandparent, an older sibling, an aunt or uncle) who you can stay with for a bit to take a mental break from the unsupportive environment you currently have at home. Or, maybe even exploring ways to get out of the house /limit your time at home (via extracurricular activities at school, staying a weekend at friends’ houses, and so on) can help you get a break from home. Or, you could even explore if emancipation could be an option for you – emancipation laws vary from state to state and can be time-consuming /expensive, but there are cases where it can makes sense. Even finding ways to limit time spent in your parents’ direct company (such as locking the door on the bathroom /bedroom) can be productive if it helps you get that mental and emotional relief you need.
    You might also want to consider counseling – either for your family, if you think your parents would be open to it – or even just for your own good, so that you can have an advocate in your corner. We are concerned that you mentioned cutting and self harm; not only for your safety but also because it sounds like you are under a lot of pressure, and we want to help connect you to people who can help you find other avenues to release that tension. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) at 1-800-950-NAMI (or texting NAMI to 741741) cans a hotline that can help you talk through options other than cutting that won’t harm you – as mentioned earlier, your safety is our top priority, even from yourself.
    If communication is an issue with your parents and you think it would be helpful to have a neutral 3rd party present in a conversation to help keep things on track and make sure your side gets heard, we do offer a conference call service with youth and parents to talk through your issues and brainstorm solutions that would work for all – for that, you’d need to initiate a call to 1-800-RUNAWAY, talk to us to explain the situation and request a 3-way conference call with your parent(s) to discuss what’s going on, as it sounds like reporting for emotional/verbal abuse is not an avenue you want to pursue.
    If none of these options work out and you do feel like you need to leave still, we can help you to find emergency shelter or somewhere safe to go –simply reach out to us by phone as mentioned above, or via our online chat room at www.1800RUNAWAY.org.
    We hope this information has been helpful to you. If you’d like to talk through any of these options further, please don’t hesitate to contact us at any time of day, we’re here at 1-800-RUNAWAY 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Best of luck to you, and we hope to hear from you soon!

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    Guest replied
    hi i’m 14 years old and i am being treated very poorly by my parents they took all of my hygiene facial care and other stuff because i was being a bit too “unappreciative” they always yell at me and call me a disappointment and make me feel unloved i had a plan to run away to my best friends house but then i did more research and found out that there are a lot of legal issues and i don’t want to get her parents into trouble and i don’t wanna file a police report or anything but i can’t live with them for 4 more years i am considering self harm and i am currently locking myself in my bathroom plz answer soon thx

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen.
    We are not legal experts but we do have some information on the laws. There is a thing called harboring a runaway which usually is a misdemeanor or a fine. So yes it is possible that your friend’s family could get in trouble for harboring a runaway.
    We hope that this answered your question. If you have any more questions or would like to talk more about your situation please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS

  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. You know better than anyone what the best choice for you is and for some young people that can be to get some space from the stress at home. Everyone makes mistakes and it is normal. But it is not okay that your parents make you feel scared to talk about your mistakes and that they tried to harm you.

    Having a safe space to talk about your situation at home can often be a healthy outlet to process the tough feelings and to brainstorm some options you had not thought of previously. This could be in the form of a friend or family member who might also be able to give you a safe place to stay or a counselor at school. This person can also be an advocate for you and help you communicate your needs to your parents. If you are not quite ready to talk to some one in person, you can contact an organization called Child Help which advocates for young people and can explore options with you. One of these options can be to report that incident of you parent harming you to get a social worker involved to help. If you would like to learn more about this and talk more about what you would like to see happen, you can call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelphotline.org.

    We are here 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. We truly want to be a support for you as you take your next steps in this challenging situation. If you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and your possible options, please do no hesitate to call at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org.

    We wish you the best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    i live in michigan and i am 14 if i run away to a friends house and i get caught by the police will my friend and her family get in trouble??

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    Guest replied
    So I this is a big decision but, I kinda want to run away...but not forever... so me and my parents argue sometimes about me making mistakes and i wanted to leave before but then I stayed since nothing bad happened, but then it happened again...i made a mistake and lied about something, and one of my parents tried to hurt me, so I told my friends and they said that I should leave, but I don't know what to do.. so what should I do?

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  • ccsmod15
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    That's a great question. If your girlfriend leaves home without permission her parents have the right to file a runaway report and anyone she stays with (in this case, your parents) could be accused of harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor. So, there definitely could be some legal consequences.

    We'd like to help your girlfriend out further but would need a bit more information about her situation to see how we might be able to assist. The best way for us to do that is if she (or you) can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via our website, www.1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 and are confidential and nonjudgmental. Hope that info helps! Please stay safe and we hope to hear from you or her soon!

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi I’m a 12 years old and my girlfriend want to run away from home. I wanted to know if it was legal or not if my parents take her in

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It seems like your friend is going through a difficult time right now. It is great that you are there to support them.
    We are not legal experts but we do have some information. If your friend were to stay with you without permission your parent’s could get in trouble for harboring a runaway. Usually that would consist of a fine they would need to pay or a misdemeanor. To find out what would happen for sure you can always call your local police and ask them.
    We wish you the best of luck in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS
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