Announcement

Collapse
No announcement yet.

Running away to a friends house

Collapse
X
  •  
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    I’m 12 and I live in Missouri, I hate being at home. I don’t really know if what my mother is doing is actually illegal and I don’t think it is but I hate the way she treats me. I have been dealing with severe depression for about 9 months now and I hate being home. If I ran away to a nearby friends house I would be in big trouble. And I would have to explain why I did and my parents would just scoff and move on with their life’s. I don’t want to get my friend in trouble or make my parents think I’m even more of a brat and that I’m being ungrateful. Please help.

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen.
    We are sorry that you have been having a lot of problems with your parents lately and have been feeling overwhelmed. We are not legal experts but we do have some information on what could happen. If you were to leave without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home, Also whoever you were to stay with could potentially get in trouble for harboring a runaway. One option to consider is asking your parents if you can stay with a friend or family member for a little bit so you both can have a break.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    Hi. I am 12 years old living in Orlando, FL and I have been having a lot of problem recently with my parents and I feel overwhelmed and I just need a break. My friend has told me she will let me stay at her house for a little while if I wanted to, and I said maybe. It would be temporary, and I would go back home after less than 3 weeks. Would it get me, her, or her parents into trouble if I did this?

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod3
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now.Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    We are so sorry to hear that you have experienced sexual violence. You do not deserve to have this happen to you, and you deserve to be believed and supported. One really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support and resources that you may find helpful. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

    18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best. We hope to hear from you soon.
    Last edited by ccsmod3; 03-28-2020, 03:49 AM.

  • ccsmod4
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    As of right now you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options.
    It also sounds like you have run away before and have some concerns about what might happen if you are picked up by the police.

    While we are not experts on the law, someone under 18 that leaves home, the parent/guardian may file them as a runaway and they may be returned home. Also, those that a reported runaway stays with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. Anyone found to be assisting or aiding someone to run away may also find themselves at risk legally. For more specifics on the law, you might consider contacting the local non-emergency number for the police. You might also look for a legal aid center in the area. They may be able to answer any legal questions on the subject.


    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    Hey I am 16 and want to go to my friends house for a couple of days. My stepdad is verbally abusive and my friend and her mom want to take me out of the house for a couple of days. But my parents wont let them. If I leave with them after my parents say no will that get me into legal trouble? I don't want to get me or her and her family into trouble. What would happen if I did leave?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 03-28-2020, 02:39 AM.

    Leave a comment:


  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    I'm 15, I live in Texas and I wanna run away from my house and go stay with my boyfriend. I do have 2 optional places for me to stay. One option is staying with my parents but my parents constantly ground me, which isolates me from doing anything. They also make comments about me that make me very insecure, they always get mad at me for the simplest things, which makes me overthink a lot and I just get the feeling that they hate me and wish they weren't my parents. The second place I could live is at my grandma's house, which I do like more than my parent's house but I hate going there for one reason. There is this old guy who stays there and he likes to drink a lot. Just recently I was at my grandma's house and he was there, drinking as usual and later on he decided to come into the house and sexually touch me infront of my grandma and I just hated it. I started bawling my eyes out and I couldn't stop until I had told my boyfriend about it and he had comforted me and made me feel better and just reassured me that everything was gonna be okay. But I know if i go back over to my grandma's then it might happen again. This has been a reoccurring thing since when i was much younger, when I was almost raped by the same guy. Once I got older he would occasionally look at me sexually but never did anything until recently and what makes it worse is that i've tried telling people about it but they just don't believe that he would do that. So with all that being said, I would really really like to live with my boyfriend because he and his family treat me 100 times better than my own and I think I would be much happier and safer there.

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod6
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your friend is in a situation where her parents are a danger to her safety, but it is great that she has friends like you whom she can rely on for support. If you live in a state where 18 is the age of majority (all states except AL-19, MS-21, and NE-19), then your friend’s parents cannot make her go home or get you in any legal trouble for sheltering her. If you have any other questions or if you would like to talk more about what is going on, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    I have a friend who is 18 and wants to come stay with me until she graduates because her parents hurt her. I want to know if her parents have a right to come get her from my house or if my family would get i trouble for letting her stay

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    Hey my friend is 17 this month and her home life is horrible I want to help by letting her stay with me (1 but will my mother get in trouble saying it's her house? I live in nothern ireland I would greatly appreciate a response

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod3
    commented on Guest's reply
    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your friends only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws. As a legal adult, your friend has a right to make her own decisions about where she lives. We can help her make a plan for how to deal with her situation and help her find resources to land on her feet. Having a plan for where she will live and how she will survive once she moves out can be very helpful.
    Moving can be a huge step, and she doesn't have to feel alone. Some steps she can take towards independence might be to find employment if she doesn't have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in her area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing she might want to consider is what kinds of things she depends on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after she leaves. There may be social service agencies in her area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can. Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.Take care.
    Last edited by ccsmod3; 03-07-2020, 12:53 AM.

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    Hi. I have a friend who has been abused and is in a very rough spot at home with both her parents as well as her sister. She is 19 years old and will be 20 this year. Her father, whom she has a restraining order against by the police temporarily, has beaten her and abused her physically and verbally. He has been taken to jail but bailed out by the mother who defends him, (possibly out of fear) and blames the daughter for all the family trouble. The family had gone as far as forcing her to stay home from school where she has an apartment with her terrible sister and she has already missed a week of classes (midterms week on top of that). We live in Connecticut. I advised her to leave right away to our bestfriends house where they would very much welcome her and on Sunday she go up to the school campus and return to classes while living with our other very close friends in the dorm so she can avoid her sister at their apartment. Spring break is a week from now so she would return to the bestfriends house and essentially live there for the week then return to school. Now i also advised her to leave her house quietly and just leave a note or text to her family that she will be staying with a friend and is safe so that police won’t find the need to track and bring her home especially if she is 19 going on 20 years old. Is there any legal problem or other stuff we should think of before having her leave to our friends house?

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod13
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thanks for contacting NRS and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are sorry to hear things at home have been making you feel like you need to leave. You deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel safe and comfortable.

    Generally speaking, your parents are your legal guardians until you turn 18, so they can decide where you live. If you do choose to leave without permission, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that if your parents know where you are staying then they can have the police return you home.

    Sometimes having an adult advocate on your side can make communicating your needs more effective to your parents. Perhaps an adult family member, a friend's parent or a counselor at school can talk to your parents with you about your experience at home and what you need to be different.

    We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    hi I wanna runaway to my boyfriends house bc I got caught vaping and its bad at home am I allowed to do that?

    Leave a comment:

Previously entered content was automatically saved. Restore or Discard.
Auto-Saved
x
Insert: Thumbnail Small Medium Large Fullsize Remove  
x
or Allowed Filetypes: jpg, jpeg, png, gif
x
x
Working...
X