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    My best friend is struggling at home. Her mom divorced her ex stepdad about a year ago, and due to the coronavirus, they are back at his house. He verbally and possibly physically abused them. She’s been wanting to go home and he told her to do it and that he doesn’t want to see her. Could she stay at my house for a week until she actually goes home?

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    Hi i'm 11 years old and i want to run away. My family is toxic and my dad abuses me. The other day my mom got frustrated with me because i was asking for help with schoolwork because i'm failing english. She said "its a good thing i dont have a gun because i would just shoot myself right in the head because of you."In March when my dad tried to hit my mom, she called the police. We eventually went to a hotel for about 4 days and were protected by a shelter, but my dad constantly checked to see if we were there and i have no idea how he found out we were there because the room wasn't payed for in my mom's name. About a week after we got home, we got a text from my uncle that my dad was getting counseling. He hasn't yet but my mom didn't hesitate to let him back in the house and he hasn't changed. When i got mad at my brother he said "Just because of what happened between me and mom doesn't mean i can't beat you." I remember when I spent the night at my friend's house, her parents where no nice and caring. I live near her but i'm afraid if i leave then either my dad will beat me and never let me leave the house again, or her parents would just send me home. Also my family is planing to move cross-country in about a month so i have to hurry. And this whole time none of my family has been willing to take me. sorry this is long, but i'd appreciate if someone answered back. I'm on my school account right now so i don't have much time to do something without getting caught.

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  • ccsmod7
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    HI there, thanks for reaching out. Sounds like a difficult situation at home with the fighting and having to be quarantined with your family. That has to be hurtful that your dad shoved you and you are feeling like they blame everything on you. Here at NRS, we truly want to inform you and support you during this difficult time.

    To answer your questions, if your dad gives you permission to live with your friend, he can give you permission until you turn 18. However, he can rescind his permission if he wanted to, permission is not legally binding so if he gives you permission, it does not guaruntee that you can stay there until you are 18. Generally speaking, your parent can still stay on your bank account, and it would be hard to take away your mom's access to that account before you are 18. She also has the right as your guardian to give you or take away your ATM card unfortunately. We are not legal experts but generally speaking, what your friend said is not true - she can have access to your bank account or the money in there. Although it has to be really frustrating to have your parent take your money from you, that cannot be easy to deal with.

    We know those might not have been the answers you were looking for. Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk more about your situation. We are always here for you. 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

    Best,

    NRS

  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks for contacting NRS,
    It seems like you are going through a lot at home and that your mom has been treating you unfairly since she divorced your dad. It isn’t ok for her to take things out on you even if she has worked hard to care for you until now, it doesn’t excuse her actions. You deserve to be supported and have a safe home.
    We are a United States based agency so we can’t really advise on your options legally in Australia, https://www.childhelplineinternational.org/ may be able to point you in the right direction to find resources that can help you out.
    We wish you good luck from NRS.

  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out to NRS it seems like you have questions about the legality of running away and your options.
    Short answer is yes you can still be reported as a runaway even if your parents know where you are. If you leave before turning 18 without their permission then they can have police bring you back home and potentially those you are staying with could be faced with harboring a runaway charge.
    If you have more questions or just need to vent please don’t hesitate to reach out to our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY or use our online chat option at 1800runawway.org.

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    Guest replied
    Im 16. I turned 16 in april. I want to run away in june. Im sick and tired of being at home. My parents constantly blame me for everything and say everything is my fault. On sunday my dad started shoving me and saying that's what i do verbally to them. I told him i was gonna run away and he said that i can't because of quarantine. So i'm leaving in june. If my dad says i can leave, does that mean i can go to a friends house and stay there till im 18? Also my mom has access to my bank account. Am i legally allowed to take my ATM card so i can take the money I HAVE earned to pay my friend parents for rent and food and stuff. I was the 1 who eearned the money so there for i can take my card right? also my friend told me that it was illigal for parents to take money their kids have earned with no reason.- is that true?

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    Guest replied
    My family is toxic and my mum is abusive, I can’t tell my mum any issues without her telling me to suck it up and it’s my fault that it happens. She divorced my dad in 2017 and has told me I look like him and how I’m exactly like him ever since. I was overweight and had no support from my mum so I helped myself to eventually reach my goal. I understand that my mum has sacrificed a lot for me but she still puts me down and tells me how much she hates me. I do not want to contact police because I’m afraid that they will put her away which I do not want. I do not want to bother her life I just want to leave her alone. She’s told me if I loved my friends so much she’ll give me a choice to move out. But when I say yes to moving out she refuses. I’m 13 and my best friends family is the only place that makes me feel safe. How can I run away? I live in Australia so the legal age to move out is 16 and I cannot wait for another 3 years in here

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    Guest replied
    Can I be reported a runaway if I stay in contact with my parents

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thanks for reaching out to NRS,
    It seems like you are planning to leave and we are glad you have a safe place to go. Most shelters do have to notify parents or get their consent within 24-72 hours. There are some that don’t so it may be worth searching around on https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/ and calling out to them for more information.
    Your parents will likely file a runaway report as well. This means if police find you they will bring you back home. They will probably ask what your reasons were for leaving and if they think it is unsafe for you to go back they may look for other options or let you stay there for a while.
    Hopefully this information is helpful for you. If you need to vent about your situation or have more questions please reach out to our online chat or our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

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    Guest replied
    im 13 y/o and im running away to a friends house bc if i stay at my house longer i might kill myself, im crashing at a friends house and she'll get me to a shelter, if i live at a youth homeless shelter have a pssibilit i might go back home?

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  • ccsmod9
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for contacting NRS,

    We appreciate you taking the time to contact us and telling us your story. From what we understand
    it seems like you hvae a friend who is being abused in another country. We unfortunately do not have
    legal expertise in international laws. We suggest perhaps speaking with your parents about the situation
    seeing if your parent would want to help. From there they can reach out to a lawyer who might be able to
    help with your current situation.


    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I have a friend who lives in Malaysia and is getting abused by their family, I want to help them but live in the US. They wanted to stay with me until they turn legal age (They'll be 17 in March), they've been around drugs and abusive parents. I don't know how to help them and not got in trouble with law enforcements here in New Jersey. I'm almost 18 and want some light on the situation, my parent is very open to taking them in.

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  • ccsmod4
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are not legal experts so you might speak with your mother about any legal custody agreements they might have. It may play a key role in what actions the police might take.

    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.You don't deserve to be abused in any way. It's not your fault that this is happening. Another option you might consider is reporting the abuse to child services. Child help 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for possibly staying with your mom as far as transferring custody.


    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My home life is mentally abusive and a hard place to live. I am thinking of running away to my moms house (my parents are divorced and my moms a very kind nurturing woman) and I know it would be better there for me mentally. I am 17. If I were to run away, would I be returned home? Or would I be allowed to stay since it’s my moms place?

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thanks for reaching out,
    It seems like you have had a very intense night. It’s ridiculous that the police did nothing about the situation. Generally they should allow you to report the child abuse at the very least. If you feel you are in danger still or again please don’t hesitate to call the police again.
    Generally if you were to leave before 18 your mom can still file a runaway report, although considering the night you’ve been through the police might at least let you stay the night or a while somewhere else to let things cool down. We aren’t legal experts though so we can’t say for sure. There is also a risk of a harboring a runaway charge for those you went to, however from what we’ve heard that risk tends to go down if they don’t try to keep you hidden from the police.
    If you want more information about child abuse reporting you could go to childhelp.org for more information about your options. You can also reach out to our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY if you have more questions.
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