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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that your friend is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help her as she mentioned wanting to run away. It’s great that your friend has support and concern from you especially since this time is quite difficult for her

    Your friend's safety is very important. It could be helpful to brainstorm with her safe places she can go and trusted adults she can reach out to for help. Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. You can pass along our contact information to your friend if she wants to talk more about her options and ways she can stay safe. We are here to listen and help as much as possible.

    We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you or your friend would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We’re here to listen and to help and hope you or your friend can reach out soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi, I’m really concerned right now. My friend says she wants to run away because her parents are controlling and don’t show her affection. She says she feels like she is being used for their gain. She said she feels that her parents control everything she does from the way she acts to how she dresses, the way she eats. I’m not sure if they are just giving advice on how to be proper or if it’s something more. I’m anxious, I want to help but I think she is 100% convinced to do this. She says she’s more than 100% sure she is going to run away. She even has a whole plan! What should I do? I’m trying to explain that life on the street can get really bad for a teen girl but I don’t know, this just happened she said she’d be right back, what should I say??

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  • ccsmod4
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    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite concerned by things happening at home right now with a friend and you mentioned they are being being harmed. We’re sorry they are going through this. they don't deserve to be hurt in any way. It's not their fault that this is happening. If they are feeling at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage that they try to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    To report any mistreatment or abuse contact Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org this is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Your help may let them know that they are are not alone in this.
    NRS wants you to know that we are here as support to help during this challenging time.
    If you or your friend would like to talk more in detail please call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    My friend is 13 almost 14 and is abused mentally and physically by her dad who now has custody of her. She has other family and friends who want her and would take her but her dad told her if she’s going anywhere she’s going to a children's home. Her mom is in prison so that is not an option for her. Her dad keeps her from family mostly on her mom’s side and won’t let her have any contact with anyone what so ever. She don’t have a phone or any electronic to get help. She’s really considering running away. She has 3 other friends who want to go with her because they are kind of going through the same situation with their parents. She told me she is most likely going to runaway she just wants to know what the consequences would be and where she would go just to be able to sleep. How would she be able to pull it off? She wants to get at least 4 hours away from home but she don’t know how transportation would work out also. Could her other family pick her up and take her where she needs to go then leave her there without getting in trouble for harboring a runaway? I really want her to be safe and get out of the situation she’s in but I don’t want her to make things worse or get in trouble for running away even if it's for a good reason. We live in Marshall Illinois and she’s going to attempt to get back to her hometown up by Chicago. Please help
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 03-11-2020, 07:59 AM.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    It seems there is a lot that your friend is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help them.
    It’s great that your friend has your support and concern, especially since this time is probably quite difficult for them.

    Showing your friend support by reaching out to NRS says a lot about you as a person. They are lucky to have you as a friend.
    It sounds like the stress of her family situation has her having thoughts of suicide.
    Sometimes things can become so overwhelming it’s hard to know what to do.
    It is in those times where having a listening ear could prove to be helpful in a supportive manner. It sounds like you have been there for her. There are other options as well. You might consider passing on this information to your friend to have if she ever feels depressed or suicidal. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255
    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.
    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    We are here as support to help both you and your friend through this challenging time.
    We can best help by phone or chat. If you or your friend would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    You did a great job by reaching out to NRS

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My best friend wants to run away and live with me but she is only 13 and I don’t know what to do. She is really having a hard time her mom doesn’t understand her and she feels misplaced and hates it where ever she goes unless it’s with me. I feel really bad because it was this or suicide in this case but I’m trying to tell her not to do either but she’s not doing anything so she wants to run to Canada and die then so I don’t really know what to do

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hey there,

    Thank you for reaching out on behalf of your friend. She is really luck to have such a supportive friend. Abuse of any kind is not okay, and she does not deserve to be treated that way.

    You friend's safety is very important. If she feels she is in danger at home we encourage her to take steps so that she can feel safe again. In the event that she decides to leave home without permission, her parents can report her as a runaway. This is not illegal, but it is a status offense. While she would not get into any legal trouble, her parents can have the police return her home.

    There are some options for getting trusted adults involved to help you and your friend. Having an adult advocate for your friend's need can lead to her getting help with her situation. You can start by reaching out to your parents or a counselor at school. If you or your friend don't feel ready to talk to anyone in person yet, there is an organization called Child Help which advocates for young people in abusive or unhealthy situation. You can contact them at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelp.org.

    Additionally, we are here as a support for your friend if she would like to talk more in-depth about her situation and explore her options. She can reach out anytime at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org. We are here to listen and help as much as possible.

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My friend is 14 and wants to runaway to me because her parents abuse her what should I do to help her.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your friend is going through a tough time. You have a been a very good and supportive friend for her, but it’s also a lot to put on you!

    Here are some ideas on ways your friend can get more help:

    You can talk to an adult she trusts to get more help supporting your friend with her situation. Perhaps there’s a school counselor she could talk through things with.

    Suicide is difficult to deal with, but you and your friend are not alone in this. Talking about suicide is very serious, but luckily the National Suicide Prevention Hotline (1-800-273-8255;www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is a great resource for your friend to contact.

    You can have your friend call us! We’re 24-7 and confidential and can talk through these issues with her along with her options including the legal issues with running away.

    Thank you again for reaching out to us and we hope this has been helpful. If you or your freind would like to discuss this anymore, please don’t hesitate to call us at the National Runaway Safeline. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

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    Guest replied
    Hello, my almost 13-year-old friend wants to run away because her life is well..horrible.
    I talked her out of suicide but there is still running away, I support her and are willing to sneak her in are there any legal things?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re extremely worried about your friend. It takes courage to reach out when you’re in a tense situation such as this. We’re glad you have decided to ask for help.

    It sounds like your friend is being abused and feels unsafe. This can be a terrifying situation and it’s understandable that she would want to escape from this. However, as a minor, if she runs away, her family could file a runaway report and she could be returned home. Also, it is possible that if she stays with someone else, that person could be charged with harboring a minor. This is something to keep in mind if you want her to stay with you. We don’t give legal advice, and we cannot say for sure what the outcomes will be. These are just possibilities to consider.

    If she feels unsafe at home, she does have the option of filing an abuse report. She could use the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. If she would like to reach out to us and discuss more options she can. We are available by phone at 1-800-786-2929.

    We’re also available by chat at www.1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7. Please don’t hesitate to reach out.

    Best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My friend is 16 years old I’m 15 but she wants to runaway bc her family keeps hurting her mentally and physically. But idk what to do bc I want her to come stay with me so she’ll be ok bc where she lives I think she’ll get hurt , I just rather her be safe with me but i know I can get in trouble for harboring a runaway idk what to do

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  • ccsmod10
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    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you care a lot about your friend and hopefully we can help answer the questions you had. We’re not legal experts here at NRS. Generally it’s not illegal to leave home, but your friends parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring them home. You and your family could potentially get in trouble for harboring a runaway. Meaning getting in trouble for having your friend stay there without her parents’ permission. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state.

    If your friend does not feel safe at home and feels like they need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for them to meet a staff member who can take them to a designated place where they can discuss all options about how to stay safe. They can text 44357 the word “safe,” and their location to find a safe location in your area. Once they arrive let someone who works there know they need help connecting with a staff member.

    We would love to talk more about the details of your friend’s situation so that we can work towards a solution they find acceptable. If you or your friend would like to share more, please feel free to call our 24 hour hotline at 1-800Runaway (786-2929) or use our live chat. We hope this information was helpful and take care.

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    Guest replied
    My friend wants to run away and come live with me since she feels guilty and unwanted. I am 10 and she is 12.
    I live in Michigan and she lives in Illinois. Is this ok? She said she will take an Uber or something and then a ferry over Lake Michigan and I will pick her up with my parents there and we will drive home and she will live with us. Sorta don’t know what to do.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there!

    Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you are really concerned about your friend. Without all the details it is hard to know whether your friend would be considered a runaway. Basically, a runaway is someone who has left their legal guardian without permission and is under 18 (in a few states its 17). So whether your friend would be considered a runaway depends on whether her mum is a legal guardian for her. Usually what that means is that the guardians will file a runaway report and the police could try to bring your friend back to her guardians.

    In terms of whether or not you could get in trouble – we are not legal experts here. However, to the best of our knowledge you can’t get in trouble for giving your friend advice. If you have more questions or would like to talk more please give our hotline a call. It is 24
    hours, 7 days a week and totally confidential. That number is 1-800-786-2929. You can also chat with us through the website. You could also give our number or website to your friend. It sounds like she is in a tough situation and you are doing your best to help her stay safe.

    We hope this response was helpful! We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey.

    Tell us what you think about your experience!
    https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    -NRS
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