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    ccsmod5
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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out, we understand it can be a difficult step for some and we appreciate you sharing a bit of what’s going on. We hope to help as best we can. Leaving home without a trace would be a bit of a difficult task. Although we may not advocate for leaving home, we understand sometimes home is not the safest place and youth feel the need to leave for their own safety and well-being.
    By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

    If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

    Stay Strong,
    NRS
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    Hi, I would like to try and disappear I'm 14 almost 15 and am getting bullied and other amounts of things its been 3months that I have wanted to leave but never knew how. Is there any way to run away without a trace?

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  • ccsmod6
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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It’s great that your friend is able to count on you for support and that you and your family are so willing to help her.

    While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is our understanding that there is some legal risk for sheltering your friend. If her parents file a runaway report with the police, they might have the option to press charges against your parents for what is called “harboring a runaway.” Again, we are not legal experts, but this is typically considered a misdemeanor offense and can be very difficult to pursue. In most cases, a runaway situation will simply result in the youth being returned home by the police. However, the risk of harboring charges, despite being low, is still present.

    A good idea for finding out exactly how those charges might work would be having your parents reach out to the police. They can ask the police, from the perspective of your friend’s parents, “my 14 year old is talking about running away. If they go to their friend’s house, how do I press charges against their friend.” The police would be able to tell your parents exactly what that process would be and what they would stand to risk.

    If you want to talk more about what’s going on or what options your friend might have, please don’t hesitate to reach out, or to have her reach out, to us over the phone at 1-800-786-2929 or over chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS
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    So my friend is 14 and I’m 15 and she wants to run away to my house for at least a few days.we only live 30 minutes away from each other and she would still be going to school and me and my family would take care of her; could me or my family get in trouble for this?

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  • ccsmod15
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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out to NRS, that seems like a scary situation to be asked by a friend to run away with them. It seems like they have a lot going on and are hoping to get away from a tough situation but wants your help and company. It seems like you are worried about the situation and want them to stay safe rather than take a risk like that. It is understandable to be worried about their and your own safety through all this and want to keep them safe at home like that.

    It seems like your friend trusts you a lot and is hoping for your help. You may want to find out more about what is going on that makes them feel they need to run away so that you can try and help them the best. Then you can try and give them the help that best suits them. If you need help with what resources or people can help you can either call us with more information, or give them our information as well so we can help them through this difficult time.

    If they seemed determined and unwilling to listen we can also try and find them a safe place to go. Friends, and other family member’s houses are an option if you can get permission to stay with them. If you or your friend leaves without permission police would probably be notified and they could try to force you both back home. There are also shelter resources in our database we can look for. There is also https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/ if they need a safe place as well.

    Hopefully these options are helpful for you. If you have more questions please don’t hesitate to reach out to our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or use our chat service at 1800runaway.org
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    my friend is a 14 year old girl and she been preparing on running away and she's ask me to run with her and i need help what to know to help her so she would not run away.
    ccsmod15
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    Last edited by ccsmod15; 06-01-2020, 07:37 PM. Reason: Removed ID info.

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  • ccsmod13
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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that your friend is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help her as she mentioned wanting to run away. It’s great that your friend has support and concern from you especially since this time is quite difficult for her

    Your friend's safety is very important. It could be helpful to brainstorm with her safe places she can go and trusted adults she can reach out to for help. Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. You can pass along our contact information to your friend if she wants to talk more about her options and ways she can stay safe. We are here to listen and help as much as possible.

    We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you or your friend would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We’re here to listen and to help and hope you or your friend can reach out soon.

    Take care,
    NRS
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    Hi, I’m really concerned right now. My friend says she wants to run away because her parents are controlling and don’t show her affection. She says she feels like she is being used for their gain. She said she feels that her parents control everything she does from the way she acts to how she dresses, the way she eats. I’m not sure if they are just giving advice on how to be proper or if it’s something more. I’m anxious, I want to help but I think she is 100% convinced to do this. She says she’s more than 100% sure she is going to run away. She even has a whole plan! What should I do? I’m trying to explain that life on the street can get really bad for a teen girl but I don’t know, this just happened she said she’d be right back, what should I say??

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  • ccsmod4
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  • ccsmod4
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    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite concerned by things happening at home right now with a friend and you mentioned they are being being harmed. We’re sorry they are going through this. they don't deserve to be hurt in any way. It's not their fault that this is happening. If they are feeling at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage that they try to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    To report any mistreatment or abuse contact Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org this is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Your help may let them know that they are are not alone in this.
    NRS wants you to know that we are here as support to help during this challenging time.
    If you or your friend would like to talk more in detail please call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in.

    Be safe,
    NRS
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    My friend is 13 almost 14 and is abused mentally and physically by her dad who now has custody of her. She has other family and friends who want her and would take her but her dad told her if she’s going anywhere she’s going to a children's home. Her mom is in prison so that is not an option for her. Her dad keeps her from family mostly on her mom’s side and won’t let her have any contact with anyone what so ever. She don’t have a phone or any electronic to get help. She’s really considering running away. She has 3 other friends who want to go with her because they are kind of going through the same situation with their parents. She told me she is most likely going to runaway she just wants to know what the consequences would be and where she would go just to be able to sleep. How would she be able to pull it off? She wants to get at least 4 hours away from home but she don’t know how transportation would work out also. Could her other family pick her up and take her where she needs to go then leave her there without getting in trouble for harboring a runaway? I really want her to be safe and get out of the situation she’s in but I don’t want her to make things worse or get in trouble for running away even if it's for a good reason. We live in Marshall Illinois and she’s going to attempt to get back to her hometown up by Chicago. Please help
    ccsmod4
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    Last edited by ccsmod4; 03-11-2020, 08:59 AM.

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  • ccsmod4
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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    It seems there is a lot that your friend is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help them.
    It’s great that your friend has your support and concern, especially since this time is probably quite difficult for them.

    Showing your friend support by reaching out to NRS says a lot about you as a person. They are lucky to have you as a friend.
    It sounds like the stress of her family situation has her having thoughts of suicide.
    Sometimes things can become so overwhelming it’s hard to know what to do.
    It is in those times where having a listening ear could prove to be helpful in a supportive manner. It sounds like you have been there for her. There are other options as well. You might consider passing on this information to your friend to have if she ever feels depressed or suicidal. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255
    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.
    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    We are here as support to help both you and your friend through this challenging time.
    We can best help by phone or chat. If you or your friend would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    You did a great job by reaching out to NRS

    Take care,
    NRS
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    My best friend wants to run away and live with me but she is only 13 and I don’t know what to do. She is really having a hard time her mom doesn’t understand her and she feels misplaced and hates it where ever she goes unless it’s with me. I feel really bad because it was this or suicide in this case but I’m trying to tell her not to do either but she’s not doing anything so she wants to run to Canada and die then so I don’t really know what to do

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  • ccsmod13
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  • ccsmod13
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    Hey there,

    Thank you for reaching out on behalf of your friend. She is really luck to have such a supportive friend. Abuse of any kind is not okay, and she does not deserve to be treated that way.

    You friend's safety is very important. If she feels she is in danger at home we encourage her to take steps so that she can feel safe again. In the event that she decides to leave home without permission, her parents can report her as a runaway. This is not illegal, but it is a status offense. While she would not get into any legal trouble, her parents can have the police return her home.

    There are some options for getting trusted adults involved to help you and your friend. Having an adult advocate for your friend's need can lead to her getting help with her situation. You can start by reaching out to your parents or a counselor at school. If you or your friend don't feel ready to talk to anyone in person yet, there is an organization called Child Help which advocates for young people in abusive or unhealthy situation. You can contact them at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelp.org.

    Additionally, we are here as a support for your friend if she would like to talk more in-depth about her situation and explore her options. She can reach out anytime at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org. We are here to listen and help as much as possible.

    NRS
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    My friend is 14 and wants to runaway to me because her parents abuse her what should I do to help her.

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  • ccsmod13
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  • ccsmod13
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    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your friend is going through a tough time. You have a been a very good and supportive friend for her, but it’s also a lot to put on you!

    Here are some ideas on ways your friend can get more help:

    You can talk to an adult she trusts to get more help supporting your friend with her situation. Perhaps there’s a school counselor she could talk through things with.

    Suicide is difficult to deal with, but you and your friend are not alone in this. Talking about suicide is very serious, but luckily the National Suicide Prevention Hotline (1-800-273-8255;www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is a great resource for your friend to contact.

    You can have your friend call us! We’re 24-7 and confidential and can talk through these issues with her along with her options including the legal issues with running away.

    Thank you again for reaching out to us and we hope this has been helpful. If you or your freind would like to discuss this anymore, please don’t hesitate to call us at the National Runaway Safeline. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
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