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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,



    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes a lot courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like things at home are not so great right now and that living there no longer feels like a good option.

    Regarding staying with your dad, since you are still under the age of 18, your mom can still technically file a runaway report. Running away is not illegal but it is a status offense (something you cannot do because of your age). If your mom were to file a runaway report, then you could be found by the police and returned home. Also, there are laws about harboring runaways, so while this is rarer, you should know that it is possible for your dad to get in trouble if your mom files a runaway report. You can, however, with the permission of your mom stay with your dad.

    We recognize the complexity of your situation as you are about to turn 18 and once you do so, you will be able to make decisions on your own. It is important to note that we are not legal experts and cannot say for sure what would happen if you leave before turning 18. That being said, we can talk through some options if that is something that interests you.

    We are here to support you 24/7. If you would like to talk in more detail, please contact NRS either by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chatting online through 1800runaway.org.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello I am 17 and I turn 18 in 5 weeks can I leave my home prior to having almost one month left ? I am planning to leave to my dads he don’t have full custody of me but I just can’t take it anymore with my mom which she has full custody of me and want to go with my dad would I get in trouble if I leave one month before I turn 18 with my dad ?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    i am 17 and in less than a week will be graduated and in 50 days will be 18 and my house is toxic and literally killing me. will i get arrested for leaving ?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello, thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you are feeling pretty anxious about making this change and are feeling some urgency about wanting to escape your current situation. Your safety is the most important thing to consider. Please reach out to the police or use another resource to get help if you feel threatened or physically unsafe.

    The police response to a 17 year old leaving home will vary based on your state laws and also the specific protocols of your local government. Since it is a matter of days until you are a legal adult, it is unlikely that you will face the same legal repercussions as if you were a minor runaway that was much younger. It is possible they will look at how close you are to 18, and go ahead and work with you. But technically speaking, your parents are your legal guardians until the day you turn 18. So if they are really adamant about you staying, that might impact the strictness of the law enforcement you interact with.

    This probably doesn’t seem like a straight-forward answer, and that can be frustrating. If you would like to talk about this further or explore more of your options, please give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY, or use our online chat option at www.1800runaway.org

    We wish you the very best of luck; please reach out if we can be of further help.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    hi i am 17 and will be 18 in 6 days and i was wanting to know if i could leave home ahaed of time

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It sounds like there's been a lot of moving parts lately and that it's really overwhelming and frustrating.

    It definitely sounds like you are in a sticky situation from a legal standpoint. It may be a good idea for you and your mom petition for her to get custody of you again. You may also want to speak with a legal aid group that may be better equipped to explain any limitations currently set on you by the court. If you need help locating a legal aid group near you you can check out https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hey I am 17 years old. I recently got into some legal trouble in December, and than ran away in between my court dates a month ago, and my parents reported me missing, my dad started texting my boyfriend, and close friends. My boyfriend felt it was right to call my dad and let him know where I was. My dad called the police to get me, they came and got me and I went to the police station until my dad came and got me. I thought I was going back to my moms house the place I¨ve stayed at most of my life, but no. My dad told me last minute in the car after screaming in my face and shaking me, that I was going to live with him. I was crying, nervous, anxious, and torn. I used to hate being with my dad when I was a little kid. In knew this wasnt going to be ideal for me.

    Anyways, I´m not allowed according to my dads rules to see anyone on my mom´s side right now, because he says they are bad influences and we cannot be trusted together, but again me and my dad went through a phase where i didn't contact him much or see him for 2 years maybe more. I haven't been to his house for a while. I dont even have a full bedroom here, I share it with my siblings play room. He doesnt know how me and my mom, and gramma were together he never saw us together. They arent the reasons I made bad choices. I regret all I did. My dad seems to just pick on me for it, and say im a criminal and all this. He hardly lets me talk to my family on my moms side, he makes fun of them, and now is trying to make me sell some of my stuff from over there, and keeps acting like my step mom doesnt want me here in there house, and says im doing everything wrong. He wont let me get a job right now or go back to in-person school, plus says im not going to college and i wont make it or pass and all this stuff. I rlly dont want to be here but legally i have to because i have court coming up in a week, and will be punisments from it like probation maybe or worse.

    Anyways can I move out after my probation is done if I´m not 18.

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  • ccsmod13
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for reaching out to NRS!

    You are very strong for reaching out about what you have been going through. You never deserve to be treated that way by your father.

    Even though you are about to turn 18, one option you always have is to report the abuse that you have been experiencing. A resource that could be helpful is Childhelp. They provide support to those living in abusive situations. Their hotline is (800) 422-4453 and their website is www.childhelp.org/. Even if you choose not to report, they have resources that may be beneficial to you.

    Although we aren’t legal experts, if you choose to leave home before you are legally considered an adult, your dad could choose to file a runaway report. This means that if the police find where you are, they could choose to return you back to your father. They could also choose to charge your grandpa with harboring a runaway. If you have you father’s permission to stay with your grandpa, you would be able to go and live with him. An important thing for you to consider is how your father will react if you choose to leave, including if you think he will file a runaway report.

    If you would like us to help you contact law enforcement in your area to find out more information about their policies, you will need to call into our hotline 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat feature on our website so we can learn a little more about your situation. We are available 24/7 to listen and provide support, so feel free to reach out!

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    hi! i’m 17 and will be turning 18 in 73 days (june 12th) my dad is extremely toxic and verbally and emotionally abusive. my mom passed away when i was 13, i asp met my dad when i was 7 him and i have never had a relationship and he’s always treated me like absolutely ******** and i have been counting down the months to be able to move out. i will be moving into my grandpas and wondering what i can do to move out earlier. i read in one of the other messages and it says that you guys could call the police department and see what they would do i was wondering if you could do that for me. please help me!

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  • ccsmod4
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    It seems there is a lot that your friend is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help them.
    It’s great that your friend has your support and concern, especially since this time is probably quite difficult for them.
    Being abused is not the fault of your friend. They don’t deserve to have this happen to them. In most states 18 is the legal age to move out without parent or guardian permission. In cases of abuse there may be other options to leave.

    There are laws to protect minors against abuse. If your friend would like to file an abuse report they may do so by contacting Child Help USA at: 1-800-422-4453
    NRS can also assist with filing a child abuse report and assist with trying to locate a safe emergency shelter. We can also assist with trying to locate family crisis counseling services through our database. Showing your friend support by reaching out to NRS says a lot about your character. They are lucky to have you there for support.

    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.
    We are here as support to help both you and your friend through this challenging time.
    We can best help by phone or chat. If you or your friend would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you or your friend soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi my name is Kameron I'm 17 and my girlfriend is 17 she turns 18 in 7 months is she allowed to move out without getting in trouble her dad has beaten her and left bruises all over her and had told her to kill herself so many times in trying to help her get out of it and help her come stay with me my parents said she could stay with us.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 12-05-2020, 04:52 AM.

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  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. We are sorry to hear that you do not like your current living situation.
    We are not legal experts but we do have some information. Because you would still be considered a minor it is a possibility that the police would return you back home. Because you are so close to being 18 some police departments may not take a runaway report. To find out if your local police department would take a runaway report you can always call and ask.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide you with support. Best of luck!
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Can I move out 3 months before I turn 18 because i want to live with my biological mom that i havent seen in 10 years and i would like to be with her and i dont like being in the family i am in now.

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  • ccsmod4
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. You’re correct we are not legal experts here so we can only speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. If picked up by the police you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, contact the local non-emergency number to the police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).


    Take care,
    NRS
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