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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us. We are not legal experts but generally speaking, if you leave while still 17, your dad could file a runaway report and you could be returned home. There could also be legal consequences for whomever you stay with for what is called harboring a minor. One thing you can do is reach out to your local police to inquire how they handle runaway reports for 17 year olds. Some cities and departments treat them differently because a 17 year old is so close to becoming a legal adult. The way to get the most accurate information would be to call your local police non-emergency number and anonymously inquire about their practices. If you need help finding this number, we can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). If you are able to make it until you are 18, you would legally be able to live wherever you'd want as well.


    Good luck,

    NRS

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi, I turn 18 in two months and I leave for Air Force basic training on July 31st. I’m not happy at home, my dads very controlling over what I do and is trying to restrict me on everything, and he’s also very mean at times. He has custody over me, but my mom says I can live with her until I leave, and (ex) my step dad says I can live with him also. When I told my dad I wanted to move out he told me I couldn’t and that I wasn’t allowed to leave. If I left to my moms without consent or him knowing could I get in trouble or forced back to my fathers house?

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: Hi my parents told me I have to move out before my birthday

    Hello,
    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

    We are not legal experts here at NRS but here are a couple options you might explore to get help about your situation.
    You might consider asking your parents for a written agreement granting you permission to move out before you turn 18 and have it notarized to avoid any issues with the police. You might also consider contacting your local police department’s non-emergency number and simply asking them what consequences if any would someone face moving out of their parents home two weeks shy of their 18th birthday.
    If you would like to speak more about your situation give us a call at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org (live chat).

    Good luck,
    NRS

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi my parents told me I have to move out before my birthday . My birthday is July 9 if I move out two weeks before that can I get arrested in AZ?

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  • ccsmod5
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a difficult situation and no one ever deserves to be degraded or threatened. Since you are a minor, you would still technically need guardian consent to leave home. Your grandfather would still have the right to file a runaway report with the police and the police could still return you home. That being said, it’s possible that your local police would not bother pursuing you because of your age. To find out for certain (since we are not legal experts), you might want to call your local non-emergency police line to ask about their protocol for 17 year olds who leave home.
    Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:
    https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
    Stay safe!

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi. I'm 17 and turn 18 in 2 months. I have a job and have had it for a year. I want to leave home because I constantly get degraded and threatened with the police. I live with my grandfather and I feel like he wants to trap me here... can I leave?

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  • ccsmod11
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us to help you decide about this situation. It sounds like you’re going through a lot at home and are thinking of leaving. This is surely a difficult time for you, and we’re sure you’ve been enduring a lot. Hopefully we can help.

    We’re not legal experts, so what we tell you may not apply in your community, even if it applies in most of the U.S. In Virginia, the age of majority is 18, so you are still considered a minor, and if you leave home without parental permission, you can be considered a runaway. This would happen if your parents filed a runaway report on your behalf. Usually, if a runaway report is filed on a youth, the police are authorized to search for the youth and return them home. In most parts of the U.S., running away is not illegal and won’t result in a youth getting arrested or fined. Adults who you stay with could be charged for harboring a runaway, which is a very rare charge, but a charge you may want to know about. Penalties for this charge vary widely across the U.S.

    Hopefully this helped. Thanks so much for reaching out to us. If you have any questions or want to talk more, please call us at 1-800-786-2929.

    Best,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    HI I'm aja Im going to be 18 in 5 months and I hate being home I would like to know can I leave now I live in Virginia by the way

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  • ccsmod6
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thanks for writing to NRS, and it sounds like a lot is going on.
    Physical, sexual, and emotional abuse is unacceptable. You do not deserve to be scared of your parents and treated that way. Reporting abuse directly to the police is one option, or you can also share what happened with other mandated reporters such as a doctor, nurse, teacher, coach and counselor. Also, NRS can help advocate on your behalf, for example joining you on a phone call with the appropriate agency – if you are comfortable with that.
    Wanting to kill yourself is serious, not something parents should laugh at. If you are thinking about self-harm, please call 911 or NRS 1-800 RUNAWAY (786-2929) or National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255.
    You asked about consequences if leave home while 17. Laws differ by state. Typically a parent or guardian is responsible for a minor until age 18 – unless directed otherwise by a court. And if a 17 year old runs away, police response may include reuniting the youth with the parents/guardians and status offenses. NRS can help you get answers to legal question, through a network of legal resources.
    You are scared and want to leave. Please talk to us at NRS about how that feels and let’s explore options.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 17, my birthday is in October, I was going to leave my home in July, a few months before I turn 18 to live with my boyfriend who’s 19, we’ve been together 5 years. My parents have abused me and sexually abused me, they’ve sent me to hospitals and laugh at me when I tell them I wanted to kill my self. I’m ready to leave but I’m scared if I go to early they will hunt me and take me back. I know if you leave not to late from turning 18 the cops won’t bother trying to take you home because you will be 18 soon and leave anyways . I just need help should I wait a month untill I turn 18? I’m just scared and need advice I’m not staying here till I’m 18, I can’t.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: On 11-12-2017

    Hello,
    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.
    We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    Some situations can be disappointing and even upsetting thus making things uncertain about what to do or where to turn.

    We understand and we want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    You have many questions that would probably be best considered to discuss by calling or chatting with one of our crisis liners.
    If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org.

    Again tell us what it is you would like us to help you with and we will be happy to explore some options with you.
    NRS is here to listen and here to help.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi,

    On 11-12-2017, I asked a few questions which were answered and really helped me out. Now, I am finally 18 and have a few more questions. I am now legal to leave whenever I'd like. My girlfriend's parents still say I can stay with them if it becomes necessary, whether that be something really bad has happened with me or with their daughter. The problem is, if I leave and don't tell my parents where I'm going, is it possible for the police to come look for me, and even bring me back? Also, because I'm still in high school, if I leave (or if they even kick me out), would I not be able to transfer schools in time for graduation, or would I have to drop out? I honestly don't want to drop out of high school AT ALL. A high school diploma is important to have, and I'd like to graduate on time, but I don't want to risk leaving home and not being able to go to school. Honestly, this whole situation is confusing. Anything could happen at anytime. I just would like to be prepared for the worst. And I understand that this is a site for people who are thinking about running away, and need help, and my question may seem very irrelevant in that area. But, to me, this would seem just like running away to my parents, and even I would view it that way. Yes, I'm 18 and can legally leave, but if I leave and don't give my parents exact details, such as where I'm going or who I'm staying with, they will try and find me. I'd be running away from a bunch of family issues, which I've tried dealing with, but I can't change who I am for them. I can't stop loving who I love because they want me to. Trust me, I've tried, and it's impossible. I want to be able to figure out who I am, and if they want to come along in that journey with me, I will accept them with open arms, but if they're going to continue to belittle me and make me feel like i'm a mistake, I will have to move on. I love them, they're the ones who gave me life, but at this point, enough is enough and I respect myself enough to try and be happy. I don't want anyone to be hurt by this, but it's inevitable. If I stay, and try and pretend to be someone I'm not, I'll be hurting. If I go, it'll be hurting my entire family. I'm so conflicted with this decision. I will end up leaving eventually and making my own decisions, and they'll be hurt eventually, so I feel as though I'd be putting off something that's bound to happen if I stay with them.

    This isn't very relevant, but... (Side Note: Aside from that, I've been searching for a job near my girlfriend's house, school, and her dad's place of work. The places i'm looking at would be really convenient and helpful for her family. I intend on getting a job at one of the places close by, that way I'll have a way to pay for myself and help out her family when needed. Also, to save up for an apartment that my girlfriend and I'd both pay for. We've been searching for apartments for a while now, as well as jobs. We're talking to her parents about the future. My point is, we're trying to set everything up for a better future. I'm just worried that my family could interfere in this.)

    I understand if my post isn't displaying the question in a comprehensible manner. At this point, I just have so many questions and things to get off my chest, and I know this website has helped me before, instead of just telling me to "grow up" and "stop being a spoiled brat". If there are any answers to my questions/worries, or any advice that could be given, I'd really appreciate it.

    Thank you

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out, it sounds like you’re going through a difficult time with your mother, and we hope we can help you out.

    Arguing with a parent is never fun. We’re sorry that you and your mom hare having such a difficult time getting along. We know it can be frustrating when every time you try to communicate with someone, things turn confrontational. We are available 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929 if you wish to speak with someone about your frustration. We also can help you process other experiences you’ve had that are difficult for you.

    Moving out is a complicated legal matter, simply because there are so many ways a youth can leave home. We also are not legal experts, so all the information we give is simply general. If a youth leaves home without permission from a guardian, they may be filed as a runaway. A runaway youth will be ordered to return home by police if police are able to make contact with the youth. However, because running away is most often a status offense (like breaking curfew), it’s unlikely that a runaway youth will be arrested or detained for running away. Adults who house runaway youth may be criminally responsible for harboring a runaway. If you get parental permission, you can legally stay where you have been permitted to stay. However, your mom could change her mind without telling you, and file a runaway report on your behalf if this agreement is not made official by the courts. In addition, some police departments don’t actively search for runaway youth that are 17 years of age, especially if one is going to turn 18 soon. This all being said, you may want to contact your local non-emergency police department (not 911) with these questions. You can ask these questions anonymously and hypothetically, meaning you don’t have to give the police any identifying information at all. If you would like to call us as well about any of your questions, we encourage you to do so.

    We wish you the best of luck and invite you to reach out with further comments,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm 17 and I'll turn 18 in 3 months. I live in Michigan. I'll like to know if I can move out on my own, I work and get stuff on my own. My mom and I are currently like under my aunt's roof. But I can't take my mom anymore. Everytime we try to talk it always end up as an argument. I get stuff done on my own and I already have my permit to drive too.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you’ve been in a really tough situation for quite a while and are finding it hard to stay in your house. It’s hard to not be accepted for you are and no one deserves that.

    We are not legal experts, but generally speaking if you leave before you turn 18 and your parents file a runaway report, there could be consequences for you and for your girlfriend’s parents. Running away is not illegal, but if your parent’s file a report you could be returned home if found by the police. Since you are so close to being 18 this could not be the case so one thing you can do is call your local police station and inquire about what they would do with a 17 year old runaway situation. Another consequence to think about is that your girlfriend’s parents could face legal consequences for what is called “harboring a minor.” Once you’re 18 and considered an adult you would be able legally to live wherever you want and would not have to worry about those possibilities. It sounds like you will be 18 soon, are there things that you can do to cope for the next couple of months until then?

    Once again, we’re not legal experts so we cannot speak to your specific case, but you would be able to get information from your local police about trespassing laws. It sounds like you are asking a lot of good questions and have a concern for not hurting any of the people around you. A good step would be just reaching out to them to weigh all of your options.

    We are here 24/7 and are completely confidential if you want to speak with someone on the phone or over chat for more resources specific to your situation. We can be reached at 1-800-786-2929. We are always here to listen and to support.

    Good Luck!

    NRS

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