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  • #46
    I'm 17 and turn 18 on May 3rd. I live in a terrible home it is always trashed my mom fights with 24/7 and has hit me for no reason bashed my head into a shelf, pinned me up against walls, pulled my hair, tackled me more than once, and a lot more other things. I just dont feel welcomed at my house anymore and would rather be somewhere else than home.

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hey there,

      We appreciate you reaching out, and we understand this must be really difficult for you. You are extremely brave, and absolutely do not deserve to be treated that way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation.

      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. In your case, you may be able to stay with another family member until you turn 18.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #47
    Hi. I turn 18 in 4 months and I live in Kentucky. My current home situation consists of constant fighting and screaming matches over everything. I hate being home and avoid it in every way possible and get bad anxiety when I have to return home. I have a friend that will let me live with them till I graduate but idk if I can do that without getting in trouble with law enforcements because my grandma would probably call the cops on me if I tried to leave. (I live with my grandparents). I really don’t know what to do at this point and honestly I’m about to just get in my car and leave.

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    • ccsmod10
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      18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

  • #48
    Hi I’m 17 years old I’m from Texas I live with my step mom and dad my step mom is really rude to me and threatens me about sending me to a group home I graduate in a month and I turn 18 in two months I was wondering will a group home take me since I’m almost 18 and I have a job

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    • #49
      Hello,
      Thank you for reaching out during this difficult time. We are sorry to hear your step mom is rude to you and is trying to get you sent to a group home. Although we are not legal experts, technically it is not against the law for you to run away from home before you turn 18. The catch is that anyone you would be caught staying with could possibly be charged with ‘harboring a runaway’ if your legal guardian decides to press charges. However, once you turn 18, legally you can leave at any time and there is not much your step mom could do about it. We hope this helps, please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY if you have additional questions or concerns.
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

      National Runaway Safeline
      [email protected] (Crisis Email)
      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
      https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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      • #50
        I'm turning 18, in August, and I rlly need to get out of my house for good, me and my parents do not get along at all, and I have verbal abuse from them. They treat me like nothing and I dont know what to do, I dont want to be there anymore, they constantly go through my room, and my personal stuff. They want me our but wont actually tell me to leave, it's like I'm being punished.. I want out and I need help..pls

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        • ccsmod8
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          Hello there -

          Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline and posting on our public forum. By helping you during your crisis, hopefully there are other youth that are in similar situations can read this for help as well. Reading your post, we can see that you have very similar questions to a lot of our callers and you’re looking for some answers. Hopefully we can help.

          As you have probably read throughout out our threads here, that we aren’t legal experts and that the age of majority does vary from state to state. So we aren’t going to go through that with you as you can find it easily. We want to make sure that you are safe doing whatever you decided to do, it's certainly a jump step to make. Having a solid plan about what you are planning on doing it might be a good idea so that you can think about what is reasonably possible for you to do and want isn’t. Factoring in these kinds of thoughts into your overall plan, again can possibly help you in your choice. At the end of the day you know your situation better than everyone and only you can make the choice to leave or stay.

          Now we do offer a service that is basically a Conference Call where the parent/guardian, the youth, and us would be on the phone talking about what has been going on. This way there can be a mediator in between keeping things calm and productive. If you’d feel more comfortable with doing that, just know that it’s always available. It might be a great way to talk about what you are going through and where this feelings might be coming from or to maybe build on your relationship and make it better or talk about what your plan for leaving might be (maybe they are okay with that idea). So maybe that might be an option for you and your parents. Something constructive so that it certainly opens the lines of communication, but that services is completely up to you.

          Hope that this helps you! Please reach out to us for further help and if you want to talk some more about your situation.

      • #51
        Can I move out 2 months before turning 18?

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        • #52
          Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
          While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
          We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
          Be safe,
          NRS
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
          [email protected] (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
          https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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          • #53
            I live in wisconsin and I can’t be at home anymore my 18th birthday is less than 2 months away. My dads threatening to call me in as a runaway. is there anything I can say or do for the police to not make me go back home?

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            • ccsmod4
              ccsmod4 commented
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              Hello,
              Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

              We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. You might just consider explaining the situation with your father. Sometimes the police may not force someone to go home when they are so close to turning 18. For specific information you might consider contacting the non-emergency number of your local police department to inquire about the runaway laws in your state and the age one can legally leave home. You might look online to find the non-emergency number.

              We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

              Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).


              Take care,
              NRS
              Last edited by ccsmod4; 08-12-2020, 12:58 AM.

          • #54
            hello, i live in las vegas. i’m planning on going to college but the college i plan on going to isn’t near home, i don’t want to live on campus, i want to get my own apartment. i plan to move about 3 months before i turn 18. my parents are 100% on board with me moving & are willing to help me, am i still able to rent an apartment ? how would i do that ? would i get declined or anything ?

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            • ccsmod0
              ccsmod0 commented
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              Once you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. If your parents give consent for you to leave sooner, that is most likely okay as well. But you will most likely not be able to sign a lease until you turn 18. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.
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