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    First off i'm 20 years old
    My girlfriend has been running away because of the stress and abuse of her mom. Shes been living with her mom now for about a year and a half. Thursday she ran away, and came to my house, she got picked up Saturday, on Friday however, i went with her to the court house to put a protection order against her mother. Sadly it was denied for the immediate protection order, She has a hearing January 7th. She's utterly afraid to go home. She's afraid her mother will beat the ******** out of her. November 6th, me and my girlfriend got engaged, and she's also pregnant with our first kid together. The complications is, her mother does not know anything about those 2 subjects, but still refuses to let her out of the house, and she is trying everything she can to break us up. She has not even met me, she hated me since i've met my Fiance. But now it comes to the fact, that saturday after she was arrested and sent to JSC (being released at 6pm, but her mother decided not to pick her up) she walked 5 miles in the cold to go back home. She told me if she is denied on the 7th for the protection order against her mother, shes running away, but this time, out of the state. I love this girl to death, i told her that i don't like that idea, i advise her not to, but ultimately it's her decision, and i'm not going to force her. She will run, so i volunteered to go with her, so i know she's safe, and warm, and to know where she is, i am aware of what will happen, and i'm willing to risk going to jail, just for her to be safe, and away from her mother. I'm curious though, I'm thinking of helping her getting emancipated, but her mother refuses to let her go out and get a job. I plan on having her move in with me, that way she has a home to go to (currently i'm still living with my parents). What are ways we can do to get her emancipated, out of that house, and away from her mother. I'm a Resident of Rapid City, South Dakota. And i would appreciate all the help and advice i can get. I want her to be happy in life, That's my main goal. and this is a struggle between us. Recently her mother is trying to force her to go on birth control, shes not going to take it, so she's scared if she refuses her mother will beat her even more. I've seen the threats of her mother through text's, i've heard her mother over the phone, and every now and then i'll see her with bruises on her body. I've called DSS, the police everything, Telling them to not let her go home to that, but they won't listen. And i have a very short amount of time before she will run. Thank you!

  • #2
    re: 17 Year old girlfriend wants to run away

    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your fiance is in a terrible situation at home. We are sorry to hear about the abuse she has been experiencing at home. It sounds like you care about her a lot and is concerned about safety be at home or away. Deciding if running away can be a difficult decision. It seems that your fiance has tried other options and hasn't received any positive results. It sounds like she may see running away as her last resort. You mentioned that she is pregnant which may make running away a little more complicated. You stated that her mom is trying to force her to take birth control. Is her mother aware that she is pregnant? Your fiance may be able to file a suit against her mother for doing so.

    There was a court case earlier this year where a 16 year old teen won against her mother for trying to make her get an abortion: http://www.cnn.com/2013/02/18/us/tex...-teen-lawsuit/. We are unsure as to what the laws are in South Dakota regarding teen rights. However you may be able to contact a legal aid organization regarding her mother's behavior and the court case mentioned above. Emancipation can be tricky and a lengthy process. The requirements for emancipation does vary by state; it may be best to contact a legal aid organziation with any questions regarding the process.

    You also mentioned that you sometimes see bruises on your fiance's body. Trying to get the court to see that her home is an unsafe environment, is one way of legally getting her out of the house. Taking pictures and getting any other physical evidence (i.e. text messages, voicemails, etc) are sometimes very helpful in winning child abuse cases.

    We hope the information provided helps out. Remember we are always available 24/7 and can be reached by dialing 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Best Wishes
    ~NRS
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    • #3
      help

      Im a 20 year woman, i get emotionally abused everyday by my parents especially my mum i carry a swedish passport i want to run away i live in united arab emirates in dubai, im afraid the police woukd get holddl of me if i do run away, i need help. Would the swedish embassy help me or no?

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      • #4
        RE: help

        Hello,
        Thank you for reaching out to NRS and are here to help the best way possible. From what you have mentioned, in the United States any person 18 years old and up is considered an adult. Therefore, if someone runs away and is over 18 years old most likely there will not be a runaway report made. Since you are in another country NRS is uncertain of the laws in Dubai. There is a crisis hotline in Dubai that may be able to assist you with specific questions you have. It is called the Dubai Foundation for Woman and Children and their contact number is 800111. Their website is http://www.dfwac.ae/ar/ and it has a lot of information that you might find helpful. If you would like to call NRS, too, we are available 24/7 and are confidential. You can reach NRS at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

        Good luck,
        NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
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