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  • #16
    I plan on running away but the problem is that I'm 17. For as long as I can remember my parents have been both mentally and physically abusive. My parents are Muslim and immigrants so they are extremely strict. Recently my little brother told my parents about my Instagram and how I post pictures in sleeveless shirts. The pictures are of course nothing bad just picture of me in a tank top. As a result, my parents decided to take me out of school for 12th grade. I also can't apply for college. They even threaten to take me back to Pakistan to get me married. It seems to me that I can either runaway to my friends house or take my own life now that I have nothing to live for. They are also very good at beating me in a way that there are no scars left. So it's almost impossible to go to cps. Basically what I'm asking is if I run away at the age of 17 can they call the police to take me back by force? Additionally, if I continue going to my high school can they take me out of the high school as well?

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    • ccsmod10
      ccsmod10 commented
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      Hi,

      Thank you for reaching out. Seeking help, as you have done, is a big, important step to take. Your situation sounds extremely difficult and scary. Being mentally and physically abused like this is very traumatizing, and you should not have to endure that kind of treatment at the hands of your parents.

      Feeling like there is nothing to live for must weigh very heavily on you. There are a number of resources that are available to you that can help you through these difficult thoughts and feelings. One is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Their number is 1-800-273-8255. If you identify as LGBTQ, you can also reach out to The Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386. Both of these hotlines have wonderful people that are available 24/7 to listen and provide support in a non-judgmental way. As far as your abuse is concerned, you should consider reaching out to Child Help, a National Child Abuse Hotline, at 1-800-422-4453. They might be able to help you work through some of your more specific concerns regarding your abuse. Abuse is an issue that should never be ignored, even if signs of it are hidden, as in your case. Legal services in Maryland might also be able to address your questions and concerns. You can reach Family Law at 1-800-845-8550. They may be able to answer your questions about being taken out of school and running away. If you run away, you can technically be classified as a runaway and your parents can report you, but this does not guarantee police will find you. This is the only information we are able to provide about running away as a 17-year-old.

      Again, you have demonstrated maturity and bravery by reaching out to us. We hope that some of these options resonate with you, and will serve you. If you are feeling like you need more, or different, support, you can always reach out to us at 1-800-RUN-AWAY. We are here to help, here to listen. Best of luck as you move forward.

      Best, NRS

  • #17
    I am 17 years old. If i run away will the police force me to go back home? .

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    • ccsmod9
      ccsmod9 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #18
    Looking to help

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    • ccsmod9
      ccsmod9 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • #19
    Hi I’m 16 in few months I will be 17. To be honest I don’t really know how to start, when the doctor told my parents that I was a girl that is when my life turn into a horror movie. Since it was too late to abort me “ I forced there hands” my mom will put it as. Because I was already born, and everyone knew about they couldn’t give me up for adoption. This made my parents divorce each other and because my mother want to be seen as a great person she decide to keep me. However she send me back to Africa just when i was 18 months without her. I stayed there for a while and den she send me back. So long story short she send me there every-time she gets tired of me. It wasn’t so bad, my aunt loves me so that is a bonus. I love her so much too. So my mom use that against, she accused me, by tell my aunt things I don’t even do. That is not even the down side, the down side is if I try to defend myself, she will make home a living hell, and I will lose everything including my aunt. See mother is an immigrant, I have a older brother she abandon him at the age of four just because she wanted to come to the United States. She made everyone think it was his fault. The family followed her blindfolded, everyone turn against my brother. at family meetings she acts like she loves me, Care about me, And when we get home She becomes the very opposite of a mother. To be honest I hate her as a person, But I love her just because.... She’s my mother. And like I said she’s an immigrant. So I want to do you know how I can talk to someone for help and not put my mother life in the USA in jeopardy?. I want to know how I can run away at 17?. I need this answer urgently because if my mother sent me back to Africa my uncles on my father side we just marry me off like a property. How can my brother be effected by this, beside him missing me

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    • ccsmod4
      ccsmod4 commented
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      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are trying to decide what to do about leaving home or staying. but have some questions. Though we can understand being frustrated by a situation it’s good that you are taking your time in making a decision. At 17 you are still consider a minor so and running away probably will cause changes as to how you will survive. Some things to consider are where you will stay? How will you eat? How do you keep yourself safe? Basically the question you might ask of yourself is: Will running away make my situation better or worse? It sounds like you have a close relationship with your aunt. Perhaps you might consider talking with her about the situation. Having a good support base could be helpful in trying to figure out the best course of action. That being said.
      Another thing that might help during a difficult time is making a check list to see if you have done all that you can to resolve whatever conflict you are having with your mother. Next is to examine how you have attempted to do this. Consider what the best form of communication is to get across your feelings about the situation.
      It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care.

      We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that it would be nice to have a listening ear.
      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      We do understand your concern about your status being an immigrant. We are not legal experts but we might be able to explore some legal resources in your area.
      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • #20
    I'm 14 turning 15 in a couple of months I have what some may call the "perfect home" 2 parents under the same roof and they provide for me...in the past I've been in trouble before and my father told me to pack my bags because he was putting me out but never really did...recently I've been getting into trouble for coming home late and failing in school i feel all kids my age make mistakes but my father feels I'm disobeying his rules last week i got in trouble and he asked why didn't run away yet and why haven't i killed myself and he smacked me multiple times he left a bruise so on Thursday of last week i decided to leave and i text him and told him i wasn't coming home that was until then my mother filled a missing persons report on Saturday now when she did the police department said being as thought we live in Maryland i can leave at the age of 14 as long as i tell them i'm safe and in no real harm and they won't be able to file a missing persons and at the age of 15 i can get emancipated...should i stay home to see if things change? or leave and stay with a family member?

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    • ccsmod1
      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Some of the things that your dad has said are not OK and you shouldn't be treated that way. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      You mentioned a couple of things about your dad threatening to kick you out and hitting you to the point where you bruise. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

      We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home. Even if you are somewhere that is safe the police would still bring you back to your parents. If you disclose abuse to the police they may let you stay where you are but would be mandated to contact Child Protective Services.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • #21
    I'm a 17 year old male in my junior year of high school. I have good grades and am looking to take the ASVAB test to get into the military in about a year. I am afraid,however, that if i run away and get reported as a runaway that it might be a hard time to get into the military. Im not happy at home in an way shape or form. My mom not only set up cameras in the house but has a tracking app on my phone which i am OK with but then she gets mad when the internet isn't working when i walk the 1.5 miles to school and then shuts off my phone. Me constantly holds over my head of kicking me out, how useless i am, how impossible it is to be around me, etc. She treats me like trash and i have contemplated suicide a number of times just to get away from her for good. I love to be alive but anywhere near her, and i quickly wish i wasn't. I have a job and usually buy my owe clothes and food since she usually spends her money and time with my siblings. I just need some help or some answers

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    • ccsmod16
      ccsmod16 commented
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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did.
      It sounds like you are in a very difficult and stressful situation. Being monitored at home and a tracking app feels bad enough, but her being mad about the tech limitations likely makes it all feel worse. And then having her treat you like trash to the point where you have contemplated suicide- we are very sorry that you are going through all of this. You don’t deserve to be treated this way. You do deserve to be treated well and to be respected.
      Feeling suicidal may be a result of the way she treats you, and the way that humans internalize that treatment. It is not your real voice-your real self. Your real voice is here looking for hope and answers and has already found a good plan for after graduation. It is our understanding that if, when you reach the age of majority in your state, the runaway report would expire. Running away isn’t a criminal matter, just an offence against your status as a minor, so the military probably wouldn’t know about it. We are not legal experts, however, so you may want to check with a recruiter.
      If you are feeling suicidal, you can reach out to the nice and supportive people at the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1800-273-TALK We would also like to further communicate with you. We can listen and help you figure out a plan that you feel comfortable with.
      You can reach us in either of two ways. You can call our hotline at 1800-RUNAWAY or reach us via live chat through www.1800runaway.org We are here for you 24/7 and our services are completely confidential.
      We truly hope to hear from you soon.
      Sincerely,
      NRS
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