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    My girlfriend is 16 and i recently turned 18. My girlfriends mother keeps her locked in her room all day, also her mother keeps locking her up ( having her 302 ) bc she keeps trying to leave. Im only aloud to see my girlfriend for two hours on a Saturday once a monthIif im lucky. I can't do tbis for two more years. So my question is if i manage to get my girlfriend to my place and keep her here what are the odds of us getting away with this. Also my parent are all for it, they support me and would love to help. I should mentioned i moved from my previous adress so her mom doesn't know where i live. So would she be able to find us? Could the police possibly search my hous? My parents say everything would be find but i need a second opinion if im to go through with this.

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    Re: what could happen to my bf if we run away together??

    Hey,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing with us some of what has been going on. It sounds like home is not where you or your boyfriend want to be and are thinking about leaving. It must be hard to be in a place, but it sounds like you are trying to come up with a plan if you were to leave. Here at NRS we are not here to give advice, but we are here to listen and support you in what ways we can.

    You mentioned that you are 16 and your boyfriend will be turning 18 next month, in December. You are asking some great questions, such as what happens if your parents file a runaway report and can you get into legal trouble. Here at NRS we are not legal experts, but can speak in general terms. Generally, you are an adult when you turn 18. If you decide to leave before you turn 18, then your parents have the option of filing a runaway report. Running away is not a criminal offense, it is a status offense. This means, generally, you cannot get arrested for running away. It is like a status bulletin that goes out to the local, or state, police departments to let them know you are a runaway. If you are found, then you most likely will be brought back home. Where it can become criminal, is for an adult (someone over the age of 18 are helping you runaway or allow you to stay with them. That is generally called harboring a runaway and is a criminal charge. The severity of the charge varies from state to state.

    If you want to get more direct information you can call your local police department and generally ask them how they would handle a runaway in your situation. If you don’t have to give any identifying information in order to get this information. If you don’t feel comfortable calling you can have an adult call on your behalf, or you can reach out to us on our hotline at 1800-RUNAWAY and we can make that call for you.

    We hope this helped and if you would like to discuss your situation in greater detail you can give us a call on our hotline or chat with us on our website. We look forward to hearing from you and we wish you the best of luck.

    NRS

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    Need advice

    Hi I just turned 16 in July and my boyfriend and I want to run away and be together until we can legally get married. He is 17 and will be 18 in December. I'd like some advice before I go through with it , like what would mostly happen if our parents filed a run away report or any thing else like that . Could we get in trouble by authority's?..

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    Hey there,

    Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline, it seems like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help in the best way we can. From what you shared, it seems like you and your boyfriend are ready to leave home.

    We want to start off by letting you know that we are not legal experts here, meaning that we are only able to speak generally about your situation. In most states, once you are 18 and over, you are able to leave your home without your parents’ consent. If this is something that you might want to know more positively what would happen, you are able to contact your local police department and ask “am I able to leave legally at 18?” If this is something you are nervous about or would want us to reach out for you, please feel free to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we are here 24/7 and would be more than happy to ask that general question for you.

    We are also able to explore a little more of your options with you, perhaps resources to shelters or transitional living programs where you would be assisted with becoming an independent individual. We are here 24/7 and would love to talk to you more about your situation. Our hotline number, as I mentioned earlier, is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we also have a live chat service that is available every day from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST. We wish you the best of luck and hope to hear from you soon.

    Stay strong,

    NRS

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    I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19 we want to run away and leave 5 hours away from here and stay with his cousin he will be working at a fast food restrurant and I'll transfer to a community college there I can't stand being at my house anymore I have 8 sisters who are always on me when I go out they complain or if I clean and stay in my room they complain on everything I do and I can't take it anymore me and my boyfriend have been together for Alonso a year now but have known eachother for too I'm not sure what to do

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hi there,

    We’re sorry you and your boyfriend are having a difficult time with your parents right now. Your boyfriend certainly does not deserve to be intimidated by his dad like that. You ask a couple good questions. We aren’t legal experts, but we can try and answer as best as we can.

    If you were to leave home without permission before 18 you would be considered runaways. Your parents could file a report with the police and you could be detained by police until you were released to your parents. Additionally, anyone you stay with could be accused of harboring a runaway, which is a crime. By the way, running away is not a crime, but it is a status offense.
    You also ask what might happen if you didn’t get caught and then came to your parents when you are both 18. First, it is very unlikely that you would not “get caught” as your parents would most likely file a runaway report and you would be found by police. But, if you did manage to leave for the next few years and then came to your parents there would be no legal consequences but there most likely would be personal and family consequences for running away so young. You may want to think about what running away could mean for your futures: how running away would affect your life goals, your schooling, how you would have your needs provided for, and so on. Beyond the legal issues a lot of consequences. You’re smart to be reaching out to others to get advice, though.

    We hope this information helps. If you’d like to talk more about the situation we are always here to talk. Perhaps there are other options for you both besides running away. Or, if you do decide to run we can possibly find a safe place for you to stay at temporarily. Give us a call any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We’re confidential and anonymous and hope to hear from you. Good luck!

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    I'm 14, going to be 15 in about a month. My boyfriend has to move away from me so he wants to runaway. His parents are really really mean and his dad always gets in his face and pretends he's going to hit my boyfriend. I don't like my house either. It sucks! My boyfriend is 16 and I'll be 15 soon. We want to run away together. If we got caught before we were 18 what would happen? And if we didn't get caught , and came to out parents when we were 18 what would happen?

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  • ccsmod4
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    what could happen to my bf if we run away together??

    Hi,

    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.
    It sounds like you are having some difficulties at home that have been troubling you.
    It’s great that you are in Job Corps and set to finish in two weeks. It sounds like you have the support of your boyfriend and his mom to come and move in with them when you are ready.
    It’s unclear as to how you were hoping we might assist you with your situation.

    You are considered a legal adult in your state and as such are free to make your own decisions.
    Is there anything legally binding that says you have to remain under your parent’s guardianship? There was also something written about trying to avoid neglect.
    What did you mean by this?

    We would like to be of some assistance if we can perhaps you can call our 24hr crisis line and talk more about your situation with one of our crisis liners.
    Just call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or visit www.1800Runaway.org and sign in to our NRS live chat session. NRS live chat is from 4:30pm until 11:30pm (CST) 7days a week.
    How does that sound?

    We appreciate you reaching out to NRS we hope to hear from you.
    Take Care

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    I'm 19 i go to job corps me and my bf have been together for almost a year now he lives in Alabama I live in Georgia he's already done with job corps I finish less than 2 months. I have problems with my parents not letting me do as I please when I ask I'm a very good child but i m always barracated in the house Christmas just passed and our plans was for me to visit his family my dad constantly yells at me telling me I'm no because he doesn't think I'm ready I have problems with that because I'm 19 will be turning 20 shortly and my parents claim me on their taxes but I haven't had any insurance for years now my plan is to move in with him and his family he mom has no problem with it what so ever she wants me to live with them I'm trying to avoid neglect is this the right solution

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hello Lulu,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. It sounds like things at home have been pretty tough lately. It sounds like you are planning on leaving home and are worried about how to survive once you leave. Most shelters are divided by gender, so it may be difficult if the two of you were trying to stay together. Also, because you are a minor there are different shelters that are available to you. Since he is over 18 he would need to go to an adult homeless shelter. Here is a link for shelters for minors www.nationalsafeplace.org. Here is a link for your boyfriend www.homelessshelterdirectory.org.

    You also mentioned being concerned about your parents calling the police. Just to let you know, we are not legal experts. Technically it’s not against the law for you to run away from home. In most places it’s considered a ‘status offence’. However, your legal guardians do have the right to report you missing, and anyone you would be caught staying with could possibly be charged with ‘harboring a runaway.’ Do you have anyone willing to take this risk for you?

    Here at the National Runaway Safeline, we cannot tell you what you should or should not do. We can however help you explore options and come up with a solid plan for what to do next. We encourage you to call us and wish you both the best of luck.

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    Hi my name is Lulu.
    Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year now he is 19 i am 15 i was wanting to run away with him just because i have really bad problems at home. I honestly cant stand being at home and I secretly go to my BF college dorm and recently my mom found out about this and has been very untrusting of me obviously. But here is a little about my home life.
    I am the baby child i have a brother who is 18 and goes to college about 3hrs away and almost every weekend my parents go down to see him Where i am left to sleep over my bf house but i am obviously Not the perfect child while he is. So me and my parents do not have a really good relationship and I usually stay in my room the whole time i am home. Is there any place where me and my bf can go? How would we get money? How would i tell my family that i am running away? (I just dont want my parents to call cops and report a file)

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi Desmond –

    Thanks for reaching out and sharing a bit about your situation. It sounds like you are in a tough spot right now and trying to figure out what to do next. You mentioned that your girlfriend has runaway many times and is thinking of doing so again. It seems like at this point you would like to go with her but you are concerned about getting into any trouble doing so. It sounds like your girlfriend is dealing with a lot from her family and that is one of the many reasons she leaves. Has she ever reported any of the issues at home or gotten assistance in anyway with that?

    It’s a bit difficult to say what would happen because we are not affiliated with the police or legal services. If your girlfriend is under 18 then it is possible her parent/guardian could file a runaway report. It doesn't sound like you are planning on harboring or kidnapping her; you just want her to be safe. If you are over 18 that could always put you in a tricky situation but there is certainly a difference between kidnapping someone and running with a girlfriend. It sounds like you spoke with some police and they are probably the best ones to talk with regarding situations like this. It may also be helpful to reach out to some kind of legal aid service.

    While we can’t make this decision for you we are always happy to discuss safe options and resources with you. All of our services are confidential and anonymous. If you would like some local resources that may be able to assist feel free to contact us directly. There is always someone here to listen and here to help. Take care and be safe.

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  • 2gether4ever
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    Hi my name is Desmond

    Here's the story

    So my girlfriend and I have been going out for a year now and furring that time she has expressed the desire to runaway she has ran 2 times one to her moms and once to my do to her dad being a drunk, uncle not careing , aunt always taking her sisters side and not caring about her side of the story , mom doing drugs in and out of jail and I am tired of stoping her so i asked a few cops in my town if it was illegal for ""me to run away WITH HER rather then her WITH ME "" i want her to be safe so if I ran I would only run to protect her


    What is your idea or legal advice on
    "" me running WITH HER ""
    As I am to tierd of stoping her

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  • ccsmod2
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    Re: Run away

    Hi there,

    Thanks for contacting us. It sounds like you’d like to run away with your boyfriend to Louisiana and that your mom is okay with that. A few things come to mind here.

    If your mom gives you permission to live elsewhere and makes sure that all of your needs are provided for, she can do this. But she is ultimately responsible for you as your legal guardian. She can’t just let you go there by yourself without actively making sure you are safe and being cared for. She could get in trouble for being a neglectful parent otherwise.

    There is quite an age difference between you and your boyfriend. Under the law, you are considered a minor and he is an adult. This is a very complicated matter. The legal age of consent in Louisiana is 17. So, this might further complicate things. But maybe there is more to the story you could tell us that would put this in some context.

    It’s not illegal to run away. It is a status offense, however. This means that you can be detained by the police until your legal guardian(s) come to get you. Of course, there are other important matters to consider before leaving as well like how would you care for your needs, schooling, how this could impact your future life goals, and the like. It’s a huge decision.

    We would like to get some more information about your situation to be of better help to you. We are completely confidential and anonymous and are a safe place to talk about these sorts of things. Can you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY? We are here 24/7 and welcome your call any time. Or you can use our Live Chat feature on the main page of our website, www.1800runaway.org. Live Chat is open from 4:30pm-11:30pm Central Time.

    We hope to hear from you! Good luck!

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    Run away

    I am only 15 years old and my boyfriend is 18 and my mom said that I can run away to Louisiana with him for all she cares and that she won't look for me is it illegal to run away and move in with him and his family?

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