what could happen to my bf if we run away together??

Wait I am 16 and I want to runaway to my boyfriend he is 17 the reason why I want to run away is because I have strict parents and they never let me out n dont let me have a boyfriend I don’t gave any freedom I just go to school and come back home I want to live how I want to. Can u help?

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Reply:

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
It sounds like your family does not want to bear any responsibilty for sheltering a runaway.

Here is an option you might consider.

If the parent’s do not want the youth back in the home and it also sounds like the youth does not want to go back there then you might consider contacting child protective services (CPS).
Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed or neglected.
It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
If you would like to speak more about the situation we can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance.
So if you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

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A girl ran away from home with my brother they are in a relationship and she is refusing to go back home and troubling my family she is 16 I don't want her to be in my family because she is young and has no character should I file a case , but her there is no mistake of my family , her family or my brother since she has ran away they have to disappointly keep her at home , her parents have refused to take her home they hate her and do not want her back . What should I do

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Hi there. Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time at home. It can be quite challenging when we are trying to get back on the right track and begin to feel that we don’t have the support we need. Your mental health is also so important and it’s great that you are so self-aware of your feelings. Reaching out for help is also a very courageous thing to do. The National Alliance on Mental Illness may be able to provide additional support with your concerns around your mental health. The number to their hotline is 1800-950-6264. In addition, you may want to consider looking into this job offering to take you out of state a little bit more. Jobs like these are often rare for someone your age and may be a sign of a possible human sex trafficking scam. Predators usually reel young girls in through job advertisements and other tactics so it’s always good to take precaution with which jobs you apply and accept. You can also find out more about situations like these by calling The National Human Trafficking Hotline at 1888-373-7888. It also seems like you are bit concerned of going back to live with you mother. We don’t have a legal background however we do have some general knowledge. In most states, the age where you are no longer considered a minor is 18. Therefore, when you turn 18 in April you would no longer need parental consent to leave home. If you do decide to leave sooner, it’s always a good idea to maybe brainstorm where you’ll go, how you’ll keep yourself safe, and provide for yourself. It may also be useful to keep in mind that your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report if you do leave while you’re still a minor and if you make any contact with police they may return you back to your home. We hope this information was helpful. We’d be glad to talk more with you about your situation. Please feel free to call our hotline at 1800-runaway or come and chat with us at 1800runaway.org. All the best, NRS.
(17:45) NRS207: Hi there. Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time at home. It can be quite challenging when we are trying to get back on the right track and begin to feel that we don’t have the support we need. Your mental health is also so important and it’s great that you are so self-aware of your feelings. Reaching out for help is also a very courageous thing to do. The National Alliance on Mental Illness may be able to provide additional support with your concerns around your mental health. The number to their hotline is 1800-950-6264. In addition, you may want to consider looking into this job offering to take you out of state a little bit more. Jobs like these are often rare for someone your age and may be a sign of a possible human trafficking scam. Predators usually reel young girls in through job advertisements and other tactics so it’s always good to take precaution with which jobs you apply and accept. You can also find out more about situations like these by calling The National Human Trafficking Hotline at 1888-373-7888. It also seems like you are bit concerned of going back to live with you mother. We don’t have a legal background however we do have some general knowledge. In most states, the age where you are no longer considered a minor is 18. Therefore, when you turn 18 in April you would no longer need parental consent to leave home. If you do decide to leave sooner, it’s always a good idea to maybe brainstorm where you’ll go, how you’ll keep yourself safe, and provide for yourself. Transitional Living Programs may be a good option because their programs are specifically designed to help youth phase out of crisis and/or homelessness. These programs may offer shelter, therapy, employment counseling, etc. It may also be useful to keep in mind that your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report if you do leave while you’re still a minor and if you make any contact with police they may return you back to your home. We hope this information was helpful. We’d be glad to talk more with you about your situation. Please feel free to call our hotline at 1800-runaway or come and chat with us at 1800runaway.org. All the best, NRS.

I'm 17 going to be 18 april 9th (just bout 5 months) and i really want to runaway have it be with my boyfriend (he is 21 yet cares more about my wellbeing than my parents.) or if i have to id runaway alone.
im a hs dropout and havent been in a school in the past year. after getting dropped out of my online program my dad told me that he wasnt going to put me back in school because its a waste of time at this point though i begged him. i no longer have a job and cannot acquire a job until because i do not have a license and i have no form of transportation nor will my dad take me. my mental health has been in great decline for the past 2 years this year is the worst that its been. my parents do not care to get me the help i need though ive expressed this. i feel helpless because i cant wait til im 18 im losing my acctual mind. i know if i lefti could get a job, and ive been offered to be taken out of state. i justt dont want my dad or anyone to get introuble other than myself.

also my sister told mydad bout my relationship with my bf exaggerating his age and that ive been gone makinng him not even want to talk to me. ive been threatened to be sent o my mothers who was abusive and caused me childhood trauma could i refuse to move back in with her ? she lives across the country and it would be pointless for me to go over there because it will be the same thing

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Hello! Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are not legal experts, but running away is not illegal. You could call us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us at www.1800runaway.org. We can provide you with more resources, answer any questions you may have, and perhaps come up with some solutions. We are here to help, here to listen.
National Runaway Safeline

my girl is 16 I'm 17 we want to run away we are from arkansas

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Hi there,

You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering. Another option you have is call us to find more options like shelters and transitional programs.

Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

Be safe,

NRS

Hi I am 14 and I live in Kansas, I’ve had problems with my family for 2 years and I can’t take it anymore, I basically live with my best friend. I go home with her everyday and spend the whole weekend with her and whenever I do come home something happens and I’m just done is their anywhere I can stay for a little to get away from this?

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We want to first thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know it must be difficult for you right now, but we want you to know that you are not alone and we are here to listen and help.
From what we gather from your story is that you just need a bit of time away from your mom and that makes sense to want space from your mom especially if she is mean to you. While we are not legal experts what we can tell you is that because you are 14 you are considered a minor. This gives your parents the right to file a runaway report to the police. All this means is that if you happen to run into the police they will take you back home to your parents. This is not however a crime that has severe consequences. As far as your boyfriend goes there is not any jail time in harboring a minor but it could be considered a misdemeanor so there would be fines associated with having you at his home. Unfortunately we cannot tell you what to do but we do want you to be safe and find a place where you feel you are heard. If you choose to runaway some options available to you are to call us on our call line at 1-800-786-2929 or use our chat option at www.1800runaway.org From there we can help with finding available shelters, food pantries, etc. Perhaps some options are to maybe talk with a school official or someone you trust about the situation. They might be able to talk with you and your mom about what is going on. We also offer conference calls with you and your parent if you wish to solve issues with your mom. We can help find solutions and keep the call on a common goal.
Again we want to thank you for reaching out to us. We know it takes courage to reach out and seek help. We hope to continue to help in any way we can. If you do feel you have more questions do not hesitate to call us or use our chat option online. (1-800-786-2929, www.1800runaway.org ). We hope you find a solution to your current situation!
Best Wishes-NRS

hi i am 14 years old and i want to run away. i dont want to kill myself. just need a break from my mom. she is always mean to me. I plan to run away tomorrow with my boyfriend. I will go to school like a normal day then i will go to his house. I am freaking out what should i do???????????!!!!!!!!!!!??????

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Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes great courage to reach out for help and we are glad that you decided to reach out to us.
We are sorry to hear that you are going through a hard time. If you are being hurt in any way at home you, you can call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 and they can help you provide more information on filing an abuse report. If your safety is ever at danger at home you can always call 911. It is great to see that you’re reaching out for help before taking any steps. Leaving home can be hard in many cases as you mentioned. We are not legal experts however speaking generally if you are to leave home without your parents’ permission the police can bring you back home and whoever you are staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway. Your parents are responsible for you until you are 18. However with your parents’ permission you can stay anywhere safe. Emancipation is another option you could consider. Emancipation is process through the court system which can take time. The process generally requires you to prove that you can support yourself and stay safe.
Family counseling and talking to a school counselor or a family member or friend can be helpful in many situations. You can contact SAMHSA’s National Helpline – 1-800-662-HELP (4357) and they can provide you any counseling resources.
You are doing great by reaching out for help. You can also contact us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we can listen to you, explore your options and provide any resources. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.

Best,
NRS

im 16 and home is the last place I want to be. my boyfriend moved two and a half hours away. he just got his car and I just got my paycheck. he's coming to visit tomorrow and I want to run away with him. he's 17 turning 18 in janurary. I can't go live with him because I don't want to risk his parents getting caught up. what would that situation most likely turn out to be like? where could I stay or what do I need to make sure I have

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out. We hope we can help, but we unfortunately are not legal experts and don't know the penalties for harboring a runaway in your area (let alone where you are located). We know that harboring a runaway can be considered a felony in some parts of the U.S., while it is considered a misdemeanor in other places. We might suggest that you contact your local non-emergency police and anonymously ask what common penalties are for this charge where you live.

Best,
NRS

My 18 year grandsons 16 year old girlfriend went to spend the night with him , she lied and told us her father knew she was going to stay, now come to find out she ran away, he was charged with interfering with custody, what can we except