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  • #31
    Hello there, thanks for posting! We are sorry to hear you are wanting to run away. You must be dealing with some tough issues. We realize it takes courage to reach out and ask for help, so you have made a big step. We are not legal experts but from what we understand, if you leave home without parental consent before age 18 (in most states) your parents or guardians can file a runaway report. It is not necessarily a crime to run away, but this means that they notify the police that you are gone and if the police come into contact with you (like through your open charge) they will pick you up. In your case, instead of returning you home, they may put you back in jail due to your charge. However, they may also provide additional resources like counseling or community youth outreach, family counseling, etc.
    If you want to talk more about what is going on or come up with more options, give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24/7!
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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    • #32
      Hii my gf age is 18 running n I'm 19 my gf wants to stay with me bcoz at their house her family is touchering soo if she will give a Statement in police station by saying.... My family are touchering me bcoz of one guy and I can't leave him n I love him lot wht police will do

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      • ccsmod10
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        Hi there,

        Thank you for reaching out to NRS via our forum! We appreciate you being supportive and trying to get answers for your gf. We hope our response will be helpful.

        It sounds like home life for both you, and your gf, has turned into a stressful environment. Neither one of you deserve to be mistreated in any way. You mentioned that you are 19 and your gf is 18 and wanting to move out, which is very understandable. While we’re not legal experts, 18 is usually the age of majority, when youth are considered adults. That means that you, and your gf, are able to move out of the house. Parents cannot force you to stay at home, neither can the police. If you need help planning out your next steps or helping you two find resources, we are here to support you both in any way we can. We also offer a conference calling service, youth call into our safeline and we call their local police station to ask them what their protocols are. That way, we make sure we’re getting you the answer to your legal questions, right from the source.

        Again, thank you for reaching out to us! Our safeline is open 24/7, if you’d like to talk more about your situation or options for moving out. Please pass along our information to your gf, if they also want to talk more about the situation.

        Stay strong, NRS

    • #33
      What happens if we both do registration

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      • #34
        hello. so i have a friend. she is 15 and her boyfriend is 20. they are terrified of anyone finding out becuase if they do then she will be put on strict boundary’s such as: no phone , no communication at all. and he would probably be locked up. there was a altercation they had today where her brothers found out and called her mother. but my friend had staged it as a prank. her and her boyfriend love each other a lot. and they both weigh each other mentally. both are suicidal and the only reason they are here is basically becuase they have each other. and if they lost each other i think they would both commit a “ romeo and juliet “ act. How could they run away ? and Would her boyfriend be locked up if they hose too? Is there any type of way that her boyfriend can stage he left to tour the road months before she runs away from home to cause less suspicion about who she is with ?

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        • ccsmod2
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          Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline. It seems like you are very concerned about your best friend and her boyfriend. Unfortunately, here at NRS we do not help people runaway or give advice due to our non directive approach. We are also not legal experts so we cannot say for sure whether or not her boyfriend would be arrested if they decided to runaway together. From what we know, if she decided to leave with him he could get charged with harboring a runaway as well as getting in trouble for dating a minor. We are sorry to hear that they are both suicidal. Talking to someone that they trust may help to improve their situation. The National Suicide Prevention Life (1-800-273-82-55) is a great resource for people that have thought about harming themselves. You are such a great friend for seeking help for them, we are sure that they appreciate your support. If you friend has any other questions, please give her our contact information so that she can contact us directly. We can be reached through our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), via email, or live chat.

      • #35
        I'm 15 and will be 16 in 4 months. My boyfriend will be 18 in two months. My mom is really controlling and hardly ever let's me leave the house even just to see friends. She took away all my "privileges" including my phone because she doesn't want my to talk to my boyfriend. The reason she doesn't want me to talk to him is because my and him had a rough week last month and she thinks that he doesn't care for me and such. But he does. and we are both trying to be there for each other because he's having a rough time at school and I'm having a rough time at home, as always. Ever since I've been in middle school, I have been really unhappy at my house because of how controlling my mother is and how low she makes my self esteem. This has caused me issues like bad anxiety, depression and I've had suicide attempts. My family isn't abusing or anything, I'm just always unhappy there and I want to be able to have some freedom. So, me and him have been thinking about just leaving. He'll have his license soon and he has a well paying job. What would be the consequences of me and him leaving when we are both still 15 and 17? Could we get in trouble with the law? What if my mom tries to press charges against him or his mother? Leaving with him would just be so great because we both feel suffocated here. How much trouble could we get in?

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        • ccsmod11
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          Hi there,

          Thanks for reaching out. It takes a lot to come forward with your problems, and we hope that we can help you out.

          Firstly, you mentioned that you have had suicidal thoughts. We prioritize your well-being and your safety, and invite you to call us when you are experiencing suicidal thoughts. We can be reached at 1-800-786-2929. We can help you process your emotions and help you develop some coping strategies for these emotions. You also can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, which can be reached at 1-800-273-8255.

          We are not legal experts, however we can give you some general information on running away. We encourage you to reach out to your non-emergency police department and ask hypothetical, anonymous questions about your situation to find out more specific information. When a youth runs away, that youth’s guardians can file a runaway report on the youth with the police. If the police find the youth, then they can return the youth home to their guardians. Generally, running away is a status offense (like breaking curfew), not a criminal offense. This makes it unlikely that runaway youth will be arrested or detained by police for running away. Those who harbor runaway youth can be criminally charged for harboring those runaways. From what we have heard, this may be a more unlikely charged to have filed against somebody, but because it is still a possibility, we want you to be aware about the charge’s existence.

          Hopefully this was helpful in dealing with your situation. We invite you to reach out to us if you need further assistance, or if you are having difficulties finding your non-emergency police department’s contact information.
          -NRS

      • #36
        Originally posted by Guest View Post
        I'm 15 and will be 16 in 4 months. My boyfriend will be 18 in two months. My mom is really controlling and hardly ever let's me leave the house even just to see friends. She took away all my "privileges" including my phone because she doesn't want my to talk to my boyfriend. The reason she doesn't want me to talk to him is because my and him had a rough week last month and she thinks that he doesn't care for me and such. But he does. and we are both trying to be there for each other because he's having a rough time at school and I'm having a rough time at home, as always. Ever since I've been in middle school, I have been really unhappy at my house because of how controlling my mother is and how low she makes my self esteem. This has caused me issues like bad anxiety, depression and I've had suicide attempts. My family isn't abusing or anything, I'm just always unhappy there and I want to be able to have some freedom. So, me and him have been thinking about just leaving. He'll have his license soon and he has a well paying job. What would be the consequences of me and him leaving when we are both still 15 and 17? Could we get in trouble with the law? What if my mom tries to press charges against him or his mother? Leaving with him would just be so great because we both feel suffocated here. How much trouble could we get in?
        But could my boyfriend get in any kind of trouble for running away with me? He'll be 18 in 2 months and I'll still be considered a minor.

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        • #37
          Im 19 i want to runaway without my parents know are they able to force me to go back home i live in las vegas

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          • ccsmod6
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            Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are going through a tough time at home with your parents and want to leave home without their knowing. We are here to listen to you and support you and everything you're going through during this time. While we are not legal experts, you are 19 and the age of majority in Nevada is 18. So you are allowed to leave your home without permission. As far as the situation goes, that is an option. If you would like to talk to someone about your situation more specifically, please reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929 or via our online chat system. Best of luck. -NRS

        • #38
          Hey I'm just 16 I'm going to be 17 in 3 mouths and my boyfriend is 4 years older then me. I really want to move out this house. Already. What could happen to him and if they find us

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          • ccsmod5
            ccsmod5 commented
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            Not a problem!!! Thank you
            (17:49) NRS210: Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like you are thinking about running away from home. We are not legal experts and cannot advise you on what steps to take as laws can vary from state to state. We appreciate you reaching out to us to help guide you through a difficult time. Generally, speaking if you were to run away your parents could file a runaway report which is a status offense. If the police finds you then they can call your parents and have you return home. In addition, the person you are staying with could be potentially charged with harboring a youth and other legal crimes. You can call us directly to discuss further options and we can help you reach out to local police to determine what could actually happen.
            We hope this information is helpful to you and appreciate you reaching out to NRS for help. Again, please do not hesitate to contact us directly through our 24 hour hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) to discuss more options.

        • #39
          i am 19 year old and my bf is 20 year old if we ran away from home and stayed together for entire married life then can we face any concequences?

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          • ccsmod8
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            Hello there -

            Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. Thanks for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline with your concerns. Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline and posting on our public forum. By helping you during your crisis, hopefully there are other youth that are in similar situations can read this for help as well.

            As you have probably already read the multiple other threads that we have posted here on the forum board you should know that we are not legal experts. Generally, what typically happens in each state is if you are below the legal age of majority, your parents would be able to make a runaway report and the police will be able to bring you back home. If you left the city or even the state while on the run, the report will likely follow you. Now considering that information, once you turn 18 years old (if that is the age of majority in your state) you would be considered a legal adult and cannot be forced home and your parents cannot file a runaway report with the police. Now if you have not told them where you are or have cut all communication with them, they can call the police still but to file a missing person’s report rather than a runaway report. It would not affect you at all though because they do not normally come up on background checks. You can always go to the police and tell them that you are not missing.

            If you have any questions at all, please feel free to call in. Hope that this information helps.

        • #40
          My boyfriend and i are 16 years old and we both are having trouble at home and our parents don’t support our relationship, we want to leave together we live in California, can our parents force us to go home because of our age ?!

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          • ccsmod2
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            Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your parents don't support your relationship. It sounds like you are your boyfriend are thinking about running away together. Having a plan about where you both would go and how you would take care of yourself is important. If you decide to runaway, your parents have the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home. Running away is not illegal but, if you decide to stay with a friend they could get charged with harboring a runaway. You could try asking your parents if they would allow you to stay with another family member or close friend. Another option that you have is looking into emancipation laws for the state of California. We hope that this information helps, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

        • #41
          My 18 year grandsons 16 year old girlfriend went to spend the night with him , she lied and told us her father knew she was going to stay, now come to find out she ran away, he was charged with interfering with custody, what can we except

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          • ccsmod11
            ccsmod11 commented
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            Hi there,

            Thanks for reaching out. We hope we can help, but we unfortunately are not legal experts and don't know the penalties for harboring a runaway in your area (let alone where you are located). We know that harboring a runaway can be considered a felony in some parts of the U.S., while it is considered a misdemeanor in other places. We might suggest that you contact your local non-emergency police and anonymously ask what common penalties are for this charge where you live.

            Best,
            NRS

        • #42
          im 16 and home is the last place I want to be. my boyfriend moved two and a half hours away. he just got his car and I just got my paycheck. he's coming to visit tomorrow and I want to run away with him. he's 17 turning 18 in janurary. I can't go live with him because I don't want to risk his parents getting caught up. what would that situation most likely turn out to be like? where could I stay or what do I need to make sure I have

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          • ccsmod15
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            Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes great courage to reach out for help and we are glad that you decided to reach out to us.
            We are sorry to hear that you are going through a hard time. If you are being hurt in any way at home you, you can call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 and they can help you provide more information on filing an abuse report. If your safety is ever at danger at home you can always call 911. It is great to see that you’re reaching out for help before taking any steps. Leaving home can be hard in many cases as you mentioned. We are not legal experts however speaking generally if you are to leave home without your parents’ permission the police can bring you back home and whoever you are staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway. Your parents are responsible for you until you are 18. However with your parents’ permission you can stay anywhere safe. Emancipation is another option you could consider. Emancipation is process through the court system which can take time. The process generally requires you to prove that you can support yourself and stay safe.
            Family counseling and talking to a school counselor or a family member or friend can be helpful in many situations. You can contact SAMHSA’s National Helpline – 1-800-662-HELP (4357) and they can provide you any counseling resources.
            You are doing great by reaching out for help. You can also contact us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we can listen to you, explore your options and provide any resources. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.

            Best,
            NRS

        • #43
          hi i am 14 years old and i want to run away. i dont want to kill myself. just need a break from my mom. she is always mean to me. I plan to run away tomorrow with my boyfriend. I will go to school like a normal day then i will go to his house. I am freaking out what should i do???????????!!!!!!!!!!!??????

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          • ccsmod9
            ccsmod9 commented
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            We want to first thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know it must be difficult for you right now, but we want you to know that you are not alone and we are here to listen and help.
            From what we gather from your story is that you just need a bit of time away from your mom and that makes sense to want space from your mom especially if she is mean to you. While we are not legal experts what we can tell you is that because you are 14 you are considered a minor. This gives your parents the right to file a runaway report to the police. All this means is that if you happen to run into the police they will take you back home to your parents. This is not however a crime that has severe consequences. As far as your boyfriend goes there is not any jail time in harboring a minor but it could be considered a misdemeanor so there would be fines associated with having you at his home. Unfortunately we cannot tell you what to do but we do want you to be safe and find a place where you feel you are heard. If you choose to runaway some options available to you are to call us on our call line at 1-800-786-2929 or use our chat option at www.1800runaway.org From there we can help with finding available shelters, food pantries, etc. Perhaps some options are to maybe talk with a school official or someone you trust about the situation. They might be able to talk with you and your mom about what is going on. We also offer conference calls with you and your parent if you wish to solve issues with your mom. We can help find solutions and keep the call on a common goal.
            Again we want to thank you for reaching out to us. We know it takes courage to reach out and seek help. We hope to continue to help in any way we can. If you do feel you have more questions do not hesitate to call us or use our chat option online. (1-800-786-2929, www.1800runaway.org ). We hope you find a solution to your current situation!
            Best Wishes-NRS

        • #44
          Hi I am 14 and I live in Kansas, I’ve had problems with my family for 2 years and I can’t take it anymore, I basically live with my best friend. I go home with her everyday and spend the whole weekend with her and whenever I do come home something happens and I’m just done is their anywhere I can stay for a little to get away from this?

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          • ccsmod9
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            Hi there,

            You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering. Another option you have is call us to find more options like shelters and transitional programs.

            Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

            Be safe,

            NRS

        • #45
          my girl is 16 I'm 17 we want to run away we are from arkansas

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          • ccsmod2
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            Hello! Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are not legal experts, but running away is not illegal. You could call us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us at www.1800runaway.org. We can provide you with more resources, answer any questions you may have, and perhaps come up with some solutions. We are here to help, here to listen.
            National Runaway Safeline
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