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  • #16
    Hi there,

    We’re sorry you and your boyfriend are having a difficult time with your parents right now. Your boyfriend certainly does not deserve to be intimidated by his dad like that. You ask a couple good questions. We aren’t legal experts, but we can try and answer as best as we can.

    If you were to leave home without permission before 18 you would be considered runaways. Your parents could file a report with the police and you could be detained by police until you were released to your parents. Additionally, anyone you stay with could be accused of harboring a runaway, which is a crime. By the way, running away is not a crime, but it is a status offense.
    You also ask what might happen if you didn’t get caught and then came to your parents when you are both 18. First, it is very unlikely that you would not “get caught” as your parents would most likely file a runaway report and you would be found by police. But, if you did manage to leave for the next few years and then came to your parents there would be no legal consequences but there most likely would be personal and family consequences for running away so young. You may want to think about what running away could mean for your futures: how running away would affect your life goals, your schooling, how you would have your needs provided for, and so on. Beyond the legal issues a lot of consequences. You’re smart to be reaching out to others to get advice, though.

    We hope this information helps. If you’d like to talk more about the situation we are always here to talk. Perhaps there are other options for you both besides running away. Or, if you do decide to run we can possibly find a safe place for you to stay at temporarily. Give us a call any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We’re confidential and anonymous and hope to hear from you. Good luck!
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

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    info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
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    • #17
      I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19 we want to run away and leave 5 hours away from here and stay with his cousin he will be working at a fast food restrurant and I'll transfer to a community college there I can't stand being at my house anymore I have 8 sisters who are always on me when I go out they complain or if I clean and stay in my room they complain on everything I do and I can't take it anymore me and my boyfriend have been together for Alonso a year now but have known eachother for too I'm not sure what to do

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      • #18
        re:

        Hey there,

        Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline, it seems like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help in the best way we can. From what you shared, it seems like you and your boyfriend are ready to leave home.

        We want to start off by letting you know that we are not legal experts here, meaning that we are only able to speak generally about your situation. In most states, once you are 18 and over, you are able to leave your home without your parents’ consent. If this is something that you might want to know more positively what would happen, you are able to contact your local police department and ask “am I able to leave legally at 18?” If this is something you are nervous about or would want us to reach out for you, please feel free to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we are here 24/7 and would be more than happy to ask that general question for you.

        We are also able to explore a little more of your options with you, perhaps resources to shelters or transitional living programs where you would be assisted with becoming an independent individual. We are here 24/7 and would love to talk to you more about your situation. Our hotline number, as I mentioned earlier, is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we also have a live chat service that is available every day from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST. We wish you the best of luck and hope to hear from you soon.

        Stay strong,

        NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

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        info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
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        • #19
          Need advice

          Hi I just turned 16 in July and my boyfriend and I want to run away and be together until we can legally get married. He is 17 and will be 18 in December. I'd like some advice before I go through with it , like what would mostly happen if our parents filed a run away report or any thing else like that . Could we get in trouble by authority's?..

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          • #20
            Re: what could happen to my bf if we run away together??

            Hey,

            Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing with us some of what has been going on. It sounds like home is not where you or your boyfriend want to be and are thinking about leaving. It must be hard to be in a place, but it sounds like you are trying to come up with a plan if you were to leave. Here at NRS we are not here to give advice, but we are here to listen and support you in what ways we can.

            You mentioned that you are 16 and your boyfriend will be turning 18 next month, in December. You are asking some great questions, such as what happens if your parents file a runaway report and can you get into legal trouble. Here at NRS we are not legal experts, but can speak in general terms. Generally, you are an adult when you turn 18. If you decide to leave before you turn 18, then your parents have the option of filing a runaway report. Running away is not a criminal offense, it is a status offense. This means, generally, you cannot get arrested for running away. It is like a status bulletin that goes out to the local, or state, police departments to let them know you are a runaway. If you are found, then you most likely will be brought back home. Where it can become criminal, is for an adult (someone over the age of 18 are helping you runaway or allow you to stay with them. That is generally called harboring a runaway and is a criminal charge. The severity of the charge varies from state to state.

            If you want to get more direct information you can call your local police department and generally ask them how they would handle a runaway in your situation. If you don’t have to give any identifying information in order to get this information. If you don’t feel comfortable calling you can have an adult call on your behalf, or you can reach out to us on our hotline at 1800-RUNAWAY and we can make that call for you.

            We hope this helped and if you would like to discuss your situation in greater detail you can give us a call on our hotline or chat with us on our website. We look forward to hearing from you and we wish you the best of luck.

            NRS
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:




            National Runaway Safeline
            info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

            https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/NRSOnlineServicesSurvey

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            • #21
              Hiding

              My girlfriend is 16 and i recently turned 18. My girlfriends mother keeps her locked in her room all day, also her mother keeps locking her up ( having her 302 ) bc she keeps trying to leave. Im only aloud to see my girlfriend for two hours on a Saturday once a monthIif im lucky. I can't do tbis for two more years. So my question is if i manage to get my girlfriend to my place and keep her here what are the odds of us getting away with this. Also my parent are all for it, they support me and would love to help. I should mentioned i moved from my previous adress so her mom doesn't know where i live. So would she be able to find us? Could the police possibly search my hous? My parents say everything would be find but i need a second opinion if im to go through with this.

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              • #22
                re: hiding

                Hey there,

                It's great that you want to support your girlfriend in her time of need. But we are not legal experts so we can't say exactly what would happen if you decide to help her run away. If she leaves her parents can file a runaway report for her. Anything that happens after that depends on what her parents and the police decide to do. You may want to contact a legal aid office for legal information about possible consequences of harboring a runaway. Your parents can help you to do this as well if they will be helping you with this situation.

                Best of luck,
                NRS
                Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

                National Runaway Safeline
                info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/NRSOnlineServicesSurvey

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