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  • #16
    Hi there,

    We’re sorry you and your boyfriend are having a difficult time with your parents right now. Your boyfriend certainly does not deserve to be intimidated by his dad like that. You ask a couple good questions. We aren’t legal experts, but we can try and answer as best as we can.

    If you were to leave home without permission before 18 you would be considered runaways. Your parents could file a report with the police and you could be detained by police until you were released to your parents. Additionally, anyone you stay with could be accused of harboring a runaway, which is a crime. By the way, running away is not a crime, but it is a status offense.
    You also ask what might happen if you didn’t get caught and then came to your parents when you are both 18. First, it is very unlikely that you would not “get caught” as your parents would most likely file a runaway report and you would be found by police. But, if you did manage to leave for the next few years and then came to your parents there would be no legal consequences but there most likely would be personal and family consequences for running away so young. You may want to think about what running away could mean for your futures: how running away would affect your life goals, your schooling, how you would have your needs provided for, and so on. Beyond the legal issues a lot of consequences. You’re smart to be reaching out to others to get advice, though.

    We hope this information helps. If you’d like to talk more about the situation we are always here to talk. Perhaps there are other options for you both besides running away. Or, if you do decide to run we can possibly find a safe place for you to stay at temporarily. Give us a call any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We’re confidential and anonymous and hope to hear from you. Good luck!
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

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    info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
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    • #17
      I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19 we want to run away and leave 5 hours away from here and stay with his cousin he will be working at a fast food restrurant and I'll transfer to a community college there I can't stand being at my house anymore I have 8 sisters who are always on me when I go out they complain or if I clean and stay in my room they complain on everything I do and I can't take it anymore me and my boyfriend have been together for Alonso a year now but have known eachother for too I'm not sure what to do

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      • #18
        re:

        Hey there,

        Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline, it seems like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help in the best way we can. From what you shared, it seems like you and your boyfriend are ready to leave home.

        We want to start off by letting you know that we are not legal experts here, meaning that we are only able to speak generally about your situation. In most states, once you are 18 and over, you are able to leave your home without your parents’ consent. If this is something that you might want to know more positively what would happen, you are able to contact your local police department and ask “am I able to leave legally at 18?” If this is something you are nervous about or would want us to reach out for you, please feel free to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we are here 24/7 and would be more than happy to ask that general question for you.

        We are also able to explore a little more of your options with you, perhaps resources to shelters or transitional living programs where you would be assisted with becoming an independent individual. We are here 24/7 and would love to talk to you more about your situation. Our hotline number, as I mentioned earlier, is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we also have a live chat service that is available every day from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST. We wish you the best of luck and hope to hear from you soon.

        Stay strong,

        NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

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        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
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        • #19
          Need advice

          Hi I just turned 16 in July and my boyfriend and I want to run away and be together until we can legally get married. He is 17 and will be 18 in December. I'd like some advice before I go through with it , like what would mostly happen if our parents filed a run away report or any thing else like that . Could we get in trouble by authority's?..

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          • #20
            Re: what could happen to my bf if we run away together??

            Hey,

            Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing with us some of what has been going on. It sounds like home is not where you or your boyfriend want to be and are thinking about leaving. It must be hard to be in a place, but it sounds like you are trying to come up with a plan if you were to leave. Here at NRS we are not here to give advice, but we are here to listen and support you in what ways we can.

            You mentioned that you are 16 and your boyfriend will be turning 18 next month, in December. You are asking some great questions, such as what happens if your parents file a runaway report and can you get into legal trouble. Here at NRS we are not legal experts, but can speak in general terms. Generally, you are an adult when you turn 18. If you decide to leave before you turn 18, then your parents have the option of filing a runaway report. Running away is not a criminal offense, it is a status offense. This means, generally, you cannot get arrested for running away. It is like a status bulletin that goes out to the local, or state, police departments to let them know you are a runaway. If you are found, then you most likely will be brought back home. Where it can become criminal, is for an adult (someone over the age of 18 are helping you runaway or allow you to stay with them. That is generally called harboring a runaway and is a criminal charge. The severity of the charge varies from state to state.

            If you want to get more direct information you can call your local police department and generally ask them how they would handle a runaway in your situation. If you don’t have to give any identifying information in order to get this information. If you don’t feel comfortable calling you can have an adult call on your behalf, or you can reach out to us on our hotline at 1800-RUNAWAY and we can make that call for you.

            We hope this helped and if you would like to discuss your situation in greater detail you can give us a call on our hotline or chat with us on our website. We look forward to hearing from you and we wish you the best of luck.

            NRS
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:




            National Runaway Safeline
            info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

            https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/NRSOnlineServicesSurvey

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            • #21
              Hiding

              My girlfriend is 16 and i recently turned 18. My girlfriends mother keeps her locked in her room all day, also her mother keeps locking her up ( having her 302 ) bc she keeps trying to leave. Im only aloud to see my girlfriend for two hours on a Saturday once a monthIif im lucky. I can't do tbis for two more years. So my question is if i manage to get my girlfriend to my place and keep her here what are the odds of us getting away with this. Also my parent are all for it, they support me and would love to help. I should mentioned i moved from my previous adress so her mom doesn't know where i live. So would she be able to find us? Could the police possibly search my hous? My parents say everything would be find but i need a second opinion if im to go through with this.

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              • #22
                re: hiding

                Hey there,

                It's great that you want to support your girlfriend in her time of need. But we are not legal experts so we can't say exactly what would happen if you decide to help her run away. If she leaves her parents can file a runaway report for her. Anything that happens after that depends on what her parents and the police decide to do. You may want to contact a legal aid office for legal information about possible consequences of harboring a runaway. Your parents can help you to do this as well if they will be helping you with this situation.

                Best of luck,
                NRS
                Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

                National Runaway Safeline
                info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/NRSOnlineServicesSurvey

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                • #23
                  Hey so me and my bf are both 17 we are trying to run away because im pregnant n im almost due so i want to be together but my parents dont want us together if we run ways once we get caught what will happen to hin or me.

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                  • ccsmod2
                    ccsmod2 commented
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                    Hello,

                    It seems like you and your boyfriend are concerned about possible consequences of running away. In general if you run away there is a chance you may be brought back home. Or if you are staying with an another person, they could get into trouble for letting you stay with them. You may want to think about what you both will do to support yourselves and how to take care of the new baby, health insurance, jobs, etc. We are not legal experts so we can't tell you what will exactly happen. You could try contacting the non emergency police in your area for more information.

                    Best,
                    NRS

                • #24
                  I am 17 and my girlfriend is 16. She has an abusive situation at home but her parents are prepared to lie in court about it. We are considering running away.. Would I be charged with harboring a runaway if caught. Her parents would definitely file a report. Any advice would be helpful thank you.

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                  • #25
                    I am 17 and my girlfriend is 16 and she has an abusive situation at home. Her parents are prepared to lie about it in court and claim that she is not psychologicaly stable (completely untrue) They are taking actions that are directly negatively affecting her life and not letting her have contact with anyone. Not even family or close friends. We want to run away together, but I know her parents would file a report and try to get her back home. God knows what would happen to her then. My question is could I be charged with harboring a runaway if neither of us are 18? And once we were both 18 could we get legally married or would there be consequences to face? Any advice here would be helpful. Thank you

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                    • ccsmod14
                      ccsmod14 commented
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                      Hi there,
                      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry to hear your girlfriend has been facing difficulties at home with her parents. It’s good she has someone who is thinking about her well-being and reaching out to resources for support. She is also welcome to reach out to us if she has anyone questions, concerns, or would like to talk about what’s been going on in depth.

                      We’re not legal experts here so we wouldn’t be able to say whether or not you could be charged with harboring a runaway. You may want to consider seeking out legal advice. If you gave us a call or chatted with us, we could figure out if there are any legal aid resources in your area.

                      If that is the case, you may want to consider what other options you might have or things that could be affected if you left. If she is thinking about going to college, she may need her family’s income documents or if she is under their insurance she might continue to depend on them. Maybe there might be a family friend or respected member in the community that could mediate a conversation with them.

                      You can reach out to us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or live chat with us from 4:30 PM -11:30 PM CST and we would be happy to support you through this.

                      Take care,
                      NRS

                  • #26
                    Hello, I need help
                    me and my boyfriend are planning go move from where we are right now his parents are moving they have asked me to go with them because my mum hates him and they are trying to tell me that his a bad influence on me however this person understands me his the most loving person I ever met yes we do argue but who doesn't ? But at the end of the day we still love eacother I don't know what could happen I'm 17 turning 18 next year my boyfriend is turning 18 in 6 months and his parents what's me to go with them and if I do what can happen to me? I'm not planning to tell my parents ! I need help

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                    • ccsmod1
                      ccsmod1 commented
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                      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/
                      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.
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