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  • My parents separated when I was very young. I lived with my mother in my country, I really wanted to come to the USA, thanks to my dad, I came here. But I expected something else. I came and found out that I would live with my father’s parents, and he and his wife live in another apartment. My father's parents are very moody, I do everything for them, clean the room, wash, cook, serve, wash the dishes for them. My father has a brother, he is with us every day, he just goes to bed to his house. My dad comes from work, sits with us a little bit or he sleeps, and goes to his apartment. His mother, with whom I live, is very disgusting. My father has a sister and she has three sons, whom my father’s parents love very much. They always compare me with them and I'm tired of this, even if they do nothing, they are always good. They consider me a servant, they also said insulting words to me. Grandfather said that he hates me, that I’m just a biological granddaughter. And about the grandmother, I generally keep quiet. She hates me, doesn’t accept me as a granddaughter. My dad told me that I ruined his relationship with his wife, he said that his life was better before I arrived. He says that I ruined his life. My dad knows that his mother is tormenting me, but knowing this, he does nothing. He forbids me to go to the street. I can’t even go to my friend who lives nearby. I’m 19, but my dad didn’t raise me so he thinks it's time now. But I'm tired of them. I'm tired of him, I'm tired of his family. He does not give me my documents. He does not give all my documents to me. I appeal to you with all my hope. Please, help me. I want my documents back, and I don't want to live with them anymore.

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      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,

  • Somebody pls help I’m 13 bout to turn 14 on March and I don’t wanna live my mom anymore I’m currently living with my brother and my mom but she treats me like I’m not anything she told me that she loves my brother more and she doesn’t love me and I just wanna run away and never come back she always hits me really bad she be leaving bruises and marks on my face and arms...legs I have no one to talk to and no where to go because I have no family here in USA

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      Hi there,

      You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern like the physical and emotional abuse you stated. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

      Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • Hi there,
    my family is a nightmare my mom and dad are pretty mentally abusive and my sister hates me. My mom and me got in a fight once and she said she wanted to kill me and once my dad said he was going to lock me in a closet for the rest of my life. The thing w with me and my sister is we used to always play together and now she's so different she acts like I-im a ghost

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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things are really stressful at home with you mom and dad being mentally abusive and having a sister that hates you. It must be pretty scary to hear your mom say she wants to kill you, or you dad saying he’s going to lock you in a closet. You don’t deserve to be treated this way. At all.
      Your sister treating you like a ghost is really hard too, because someone who you used to get along with and to play together with acting as if you are not there must be pretty hard on your feelings. We would like to hear more about this and in a way that we can help you talk about what you’ve been through, and helping you to feel seen and listened to.
      We have two ways you can do that: you can reach us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY), or via live chat at www.1800runaway.org We are here for you 24/7 to listen and help and we truly hope to hear from you soon.
      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • I don’t wanna be here anymore

    So I get treated wrong on the daily. I get yelled at from my dad about how fat I am. I mean they don’t abuse me but words hurt. I’m sick and tired of getting yelled out on the daily mannn I just want to leave it’s very hard to explain what I go through. They always gang up on me and yell at me for no reason.

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      Thank you for contacting NRS. It sounds like you are going through a very tough time and we are glad you reached out to us. No one deserves to be treated the way you are being treated. It is your parent’s responsibility to give you a loving and supportive environment.
      Abuse is more than physical abuse. Verbal abuse can be just as harmful as physical abuse. A potential resource is Child Help, the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org. Child Help has volunteers available to talk with you about what you are going through and discuss other resources that may be helpful to you.
      You could also consider talking to friends or other family members about your situation if you are comfortable doing so. If you have a teacher or counselor at school that you are comfortable talking to they might also be able to help.
      You could consider contacting Child Protective Services to discuss your situation as well. If you decide to contact Child Protective Services they will likely open a case and will be required to contact your parents. If you are uncomfortable contacting them, you could call us and we could make the call with or for you.
      You can also always call or contact us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or 1800runaway.org. We have volunteers available 24/7 to talk and to help you fine resources that may be helpful to you.
      We wish you the best!

  • hey this my first time writing one of these but my parents have been divorced for years and when I was 11 I fell into bad depression and since the divorce my dad has never really been around and when he is he’s yelling at me for everything and I just don’t wanna be here but my mom also yells at me for not being good enough at anything they call me a slut and a disappointment and I just wanna leave

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. It takes a lot of strength, especially your first time asking for help. Parents should work to keep you safe and cared for, not put you down and make you want to leave. Running away is a really difficult decision, and should be treated seriously. Runaway youths are faced with the need for food, shelter, mental illness services, and a safe place every single day. However, it’s important to know when you need to leave and only you can make that decision.

      If you feel the need to talk to someone one on one so we can talk more in depth, feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at our website. There is also the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) if you would like to talk to a specialist if you continue to experience depression. They can be reached at 1-800-950-NAMI or text NAMI to 741741. We wish you the best of luck, thank you again for being strong and looking for help in a hard situation.

  • Hello, I’m 17 and I live in India and I want to move out. The household I’ve been living in is extremely abusive , it was physically abusive in the past and is mentally and emotionally abusive to me right now and has been for the past 17 years. It would be great if someone could help out

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      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

  • I don’t want too live with my mum or dad anymore it’s constant arguing and drama and I have anxiety all the time and feel insecure and I just hate the feeling I want too stay somewhere else

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    • Hello!
      Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your situation is difficult. It makes sense why you do not want to live there anymore. You mention that you feel insecure and have anxiety all the time. You do not deserve to feel this way. NAMI is a great resource regarding mental health. They can provide support and answer any questions you may have about the way you are feeling. You can call them at 1800-950-NAMI or text NAMI to 741741.
      You say that you do not want to live at home with your mum and dad. There is a lot more to it than just leaving. You can reach out to us so that we can discuss what is going on further. We would be able to provide you with more resources and hopefully help you find peace amidst all of this.
      It was really brave of you to reach out to us. You can contact us further at 1800-786-2929 or message us via our live chat at www.1800runaway.org. We are available 24/7 and are confidential.
      We’re here to listen, here to help.
      National Runaway Safeline
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

      National Runaway Safeline
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      • My name is Jalyn I’m 12 I live with my mom right now and I’m scared of her she hates me so much and I don’t know why I can’t live with her anymore she’s hit me countless times when I was younger like 8 or 9 we moved to California and we couldn’t find a place to stay we were homeless for like 2 years and she was counting on me to find a job we moved back to North Carolina where we live now and the abuse has gotten so much worse she left me to live with my “aunt” for a while which I liked a lot but then she forced me to come live with her and her new husband we live in a tiny condo now but for a while we lived in a room my mom calls me a worthless ********** all the time for sleeping and being “lazy” I try hard to get good grades but If I have a c I’m slapped like a week ago I forgot to take my dog out so she woke my mom up so she came into my room and hit me then made me take her out once I came inside and choked me she has a husband now he’s a alcoholic he hits her and calls her a whore he doesn’t like me he has 2 kids they sleep in my room he expects nothing from them but they act like I’m a grown adult. I want to runaway but my dad is a alcoholic and I haven’t seen him in a long time I’m scared I don’t want live anymore please help me. my phone number is +13109623316

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          Hi,

          Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like life at home is dangerous, scary, and that you are not able to stay mentally well. We are so sorry to hear this. We understand it takes a lot of courage to share your story and we appreciate you coming to us today.

          It sounds like you are being physically abused at home, and that it has been going on for a while. It is important you know that you do not ever deserve to be treated this way. Home should be a place where you can be safe and supported. If you are at risk of any immediate danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 (www.childhelp.org) is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Also, it sounds like you are seriously considering running away. For some young people, this is the best option. If you ever want to talk through a plan for running away, we are here for you.

          We hope you find this information useful. If you didn’t, we encourage you to reach out to us by phone (above) or at 1800runaway.org. We are available 24/7 to listen, and to help. Stay strong, and count us on your side!

          Sincerely,
          NRS

      • I don’t want to live with my parents no more when I come home all I am is a slave to them they take my phone away and every check I get they take it. I hate it here I feel depressed all the time I just come home take a shower clean and go to sleep and sometimes they force me to go to places I don’t want to go to with them

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          Hello There,
          Thank you for contacting The National runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It seems like you are going through a difficult time right now.
          It can be frustrating to not have independence and freedom. We are not legal experts but as a minor if you were to leave without permission you could be considered as a runaway. If the police do find you they most likely would bring you back home.
          We hope this may answer your question. Please give us a call if you would like to talk more or see what other options you may have. We wish you the best of luck!
          NRS

      • My mom and dad are separated and I don’t want to live with either of them I’m only 16 and just turned 16 I would love to live with someone else like a family member or friend

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          Hi there, thank you for reaching out to us!

          We know it can be difficult to reach out so we are glad you decided to. It sounds like there may be some things going on at home and its perfectly normal to want to have some space for yourself. One process we get asked about a lot is emancipation. Emancipation is when you are legally considered independent from your parents or legal guardians, and are expected to be able to take care of yourself. This is a long process and can be a bit overwhelming, the requirements also differ per state, if you are interested in looking into the requirements and finding a legal aid who may be able to answer more specific questions about the process please feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or start a chat with us at 1800runaway.org. Another option that could go a bit more smoothly depending on the situation is considering an Alternative Living Arrangement (ALA). In an ALA your parents or legal guardian would be giving you permission to live with someone else for any given amount of time, they would have to consent to you staying with someone else. For more information on that you might want to try calling your local police department or calling us so that we could find a legal aid to help you out as well. If you were considering the option of running away it is important you know that running away in itself is not illegal, you would not be held to any legal consequences. At the age of 16 your parents would still be able to file a runaway report where the police would be likely to actively search for you and bring you back home. You could choose to call us so that we can help you find a shelter, but it’s important to know that most shelters require either to notify your parents or to actually ask them for consent. Another option when running away would be to stay with a friend or family member, although this may be the safest option it is important to know that if your parents do file a runaway report then the person you’re staying with could get charged for harboring a runaway. Although this is not common it is still a possibility that should be considered.

          We know how hard it can be to reach out for help, so again thank you for contacting us! If you have any further questions please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chatting with us at 1800runaway.org. We are here to support and help you create a safe plan. We wish you the best of luck!

      • Hello I’m 14 and I don't want to live with my mom anymore. Me and my mom argue everyday and I’m tired of it to the point of wanting to kill my self. My mom has very bad depression and i try to understand that but its hard when everyday she complains about everything i do making me think she doesn’t like me. Today she asked me and my brother who’s two years younger to do the dishes. I tell her I didn’t have any of them because I washed out all my dishes i had (i even told her that last time), but she yells at me and says you live In this house so you will do them and I’m like ok I’ll just need my dish washing gloves (gloves i use to wash the dishes because I don’t like touching them). I just go on to wash but them she calls me into her room. She gives me my medicine and says now you can’t tell the doctors you don’t take your medicine which I never said anything to the doctor. I then go on with washing dishes again and she comes asking me what the lady came in and did (the lady who she let live with us) i tell her idk and my brother tells her what she did. My mom then goes on and yells at me saying you need to watch her when shes in my kitchen she also muttered some other things I can’t say because I’m not sure she said it. She goes back to her room but keeps calling my brother because she thinks whenever we talk to each other we are arguing. When i think she’s done she comes out of her room and yells at me again asking why I’m not using the rag. I get confused because I never knew you need a rag if you had the soap water and your clean hands (i had clean gloves). I also used the scrub that get the food and stuff off, but when i tell her that she gets even more mad and gets ready to hit me. I have my leg up and confused as to why she wants to hit me or why shes this mad. I then start laughing out of confusion, but i was a able of getting out of the mess and finished the dishes. Just as I’m about to sit down on my bed she calls me and tells me to clean the fridge because I spilled a little bit of soda a lot of month’s back and I’m like ok I will but them she starts imitating my face when she asked and it made me laugh so she gets angry again and i start crying seeing as she was opening the drawer with the knifes and so i run out side (it’s winter right now and i have shorts and a tang-top plus no socks nor shoes or a jacket) she comes out on the phone with a friend talking about how i ran away and she doesn’t know where i am. Even though she seen me right there, she goes back in and comes back out threatening me this time shes gonna call the police on me and i say go ahead because I’m tired of this. Next she comes back out on the phone with them but hangs up once she sees I don’t care. She asks me if I’m going to come in and i say yes because I’m cold and have been out there for at least 15 minutes. When i come in she tells me we don’t talk to each other and we should act like strangers. And I’m now in my room and shes in hers. I would run away but I have no money and to scared of people to get one. My dads in jail and I’m not close to any of my relatives. I would live with my grandma but I already tried that and my mom made them think I was over there to be sneaky.

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          Thank you for contacting NRS we appreciate that you have reached out to us. We are sorry you are going through such a difficult situation. You do not deserve to be put through that. From what we can tell you are looking to get out of the situation you are in. The options available to you are you could give us a call and we would be happy to report the abuse to CPS alongside you. That way it doesn’t seem so scary. Another thing you can do is to call Child Help which is another organization that specializes in reporting and helping abused youth. Their number is (800) 422-4453 and you can feel free to call them and get the help you need. We know how hard it can be to reach out for help, so again thank you for contacting us! If you have any further questions please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chatting with us at 1800runaway.org. We are here to support and help you create a safe plan. We wish you the best of luck!

      • I need help to tired of being with my parents they are mean And horrible and nasty and they are trying abusers my dad is definitely a child abuser

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          Hello there –

          Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline on our public forum. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. Hopefully we can help you out during your time of need.

          It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. From reading your email it sounds like you thinking about leaving home due to all the abuse you face from your step-father and your family not believing you. No one deserves to be treated that way at all. Just know that you always have the right to report any abuse (physical, mental, sexual, or neglect/abandonment) to child protective service in your state. You have rights too. If you want to reach out to us here or another hotline that might be able to guide you through the process is “Child Help (National Child Abuse Hotline)” (800.422.4453). It’s more of an information hotline that can walk youth through the process of reporting and what information that is needed to report or if certain behaviors would be considered abuse. They also have an online chat offered through their website (https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/).

          We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

      • Hello, my family is quite toxic to say the least. I live with my grandparents; I am 15 years old and my grandad wants me to get a job. Which is understandable. But he wants me to pay a lot of the bills, which is not understandable. I am just now learning what it is to be an adult and have adult like responsibilities and a lot of pressure is being put on me with this. My grandma is quite mean and snotty at times. More often than not I'm being yelled at. And really hurtful things are said. For example, "I'm tired of you being here. You make everyone's lives miserable. You're sitting under my roof and my lights so if you can't get a job and pay stuff then we'll put you in foster care." -my grandad. I really don't want to be put in foster care because I was in and out as a young child and I hated it there. I'm never allowed to go anywhere except school or with them. I haven't hung out with my friends in 7 months which is terrible. I do EVERYTHING around my house. I do the yardwork, the inside work, and I cook for everyone. And they say that I am lazy and don't do anything. They complain about me to their friends and compare their children to me and say "I wish you were more like so and so's kid." Which is hurtful. I don't have my parents or any other family members to rely on. And I'm not completely sure they would be okay with letting me live somewhere else. I'm not trying to complain about my life, but I am at a loss for what to do. I honestly can't take it anymore. They drag me down so much and try to control every aspect of my life. My friends have offered me to live with them, and another one of my friends who is about to turn 19 is getting an apartment. She said that I can live with her. Is this possible? Help me please

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          Hi there,

          Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing a bit about what is going on at home. It can definitely be stressful when the adults in our lives are not supportive. It is really responsible of you to acknowledge that being asked to get a job is reasonable. However, it is your grandparents legal obligation and responsibility to take care of you until you turn 18, so it is not okay that they want to force you into paying their bills. Being isolated from friends and your support network can make dealing with stress at home overwhelming. You deserve to feel supported as you navigate this challenging time.

          If you decide to leave home, your grandparents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that if your grandparents know where you are staying then they can have the police return you home.

          Having a support system can be helpful while navigating these situations and deciding what you would like your next steps to be. Building that support system can mean having people you can trust and who you can go to when things get too overwhelming. A good place to start can be to reach out to friends, family members, and even a counselor at school. If you do not feel ready to talk to someone in person, you can reach out to an organization called Child Help. Child Help advocates for young people who are in unsafe or challenging situations at home and talk to you about your rights ]and options. Their contact is 1-800-422-4453 and www.childhelphotline.org.

          Additionally, we are 24/7 and we are here to listen and help as much as possible. If you would like to talk more about your situation, please do not hesitate to reach out anytime at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org.

          Good luck and stay safe,
          NRS

      • Hello, I'm 15 and I'm at my witts end with life and family. I have come from a troubled home since I was born. My biological dad left when I was 3 due to the fact he was abusive and was a junkie. My mom started dating my step dad when I was 3. They then had 3 other kids since then. I thought my step dad was my real dad until I turned 11. I Have Borderline multi. personality disorder due to my dad. I was raped when I was 12 by a guy who was 17. Which I still Have PTSD about. My mom I think she is ill she came from a bad home as well. She gets mad way to easy over the smallest things. She has thrown things before in angry. She has blamed the rape on me that it was my fault. She has threaten to even leave the family 2 times because she said our chores weren't being done good enough. I feel like a housewife here. I watch all my younger siblings which are 3 of them. The youngest is even only 9 months old. They put so much stuff on me. My mom used to be CO and now is PI she way to over protective. I have lost so many friends due to my mom rules. I Have went to 2 MHI because I try to kill myself. Mainly because i felt numb and alone and low for myself. My mom has put me down so many times. She has called me b*tch, wh*re, patheic, selfish, fat etc. Recently she has been hitting me and pulling my hair because I had enough of being a house wife. I told DHS but they haven't shown up yet. They seem like a joke at this point. I want out of this hellhole and have no clue what to do. It hard for DHS to take my case seriously because of where my mom works. Tell me how I can get out of this house

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          Hi there,

          You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. If they have not reached out you can follow up with them directly. You do not deserve to be abused and should not have to go through that. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

          Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

          Be safe,

          NRS
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