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  • Hi, for two years now, I've been beat and I'm tired of coming in and out of this house just to get abuse. I want to live with someone else close to me but I know I won't be able to. I've ran away last year but the police found me. I recently got adopted as well, I'm 14. I just can't stand it here anymore. I wish I could get custody from someone else.

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It sounds like home life has been difficult and unsafe for quite some time now and it's got to be overwhelming at exhausting and it makes sense that you'd want out of the situation. If you are currently at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You mentioned that you were recently adopted and that you've been beaten for two years. If you were working with a social worker prior to the adoption you may want to contact them to alert them to what's going on. You can also file a new child abuse report regarding this abuse. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody (perhaps the person close to you that you mentioned).


      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • My Mom Won’t do anything..


    I’m sorry I don’t know if guests are allowed to reply but I don’t know how to register.

    We’ve been moving from couch to couch for around two years now and while i’m always well fed and decently taken care of my mom doesn’t spend much time with me anymore, rather going on social media and lounging all day, she refuses to get a job and I feel like at some point we won’t have anywhere to go because every time we leave somewhere it’s on bad terms.. I’ve had to take care of her in the past and sometimes she can just be so mentally draining, I often find myself depressed and cutting myself to distract myself.

    I don't have friends anymore and no where to go, plus i have a little kitten i’m afraid will be taken away from me if I consider going anywhere with the law and at this point she’s my lifeline, else I gut myself.

    I also am to young to drive, i’ve considered online jobs with my age range in mind but I don’t have a bank, card, or mailing address (it changes to often to be stable).

    The constant breaking and fighting in her relationships has ruined my concept of love, I hate people, and I think everyone’s a danger now. To afraid to walk outside at day.

    When she’s not in the right mind she’ll verbally abuse me and others around her, I love her so, so much but I just can’t take it anymore, she’s cried with me and we’ve been through so many things together but i’m a burden at this point, i know she wants to be ‘young and free’ but I also know it would break her heart If I left and as I write this I can’t help but cry through it. I’m the only child she has left but I just can’t take it anymore.

    Not to mention i’m afraid of authority, bad experiences that make my stomach churn.

    I’ll probably be moving to another place by tomorrow, the reason i’ve been finally pushed to post this somewhere for professional advice, she ruined a very stable thing because of her selfishness, we even had a house being built for us, she didn’t need to do anything except be sober and happy but.. I guess thats to much to ask for from her. - I even try to talk to her about it, getting a job at least but no, we’re dependents full time now. It makes me feel useless sitting and sleeping on someone’s couch all day doing nothing, feeling nothing, I use to play outside and go to public school but ever since it’s started that’s all gone, I go to cyber school and do dishes, though that’s partially my fault, I have panic attacks when i’m surrounded by people sometimes.

    One thing I can thank isolation for though is my ability to write , that’s 68% of what I do all day now, sit here all day reading and writing, being useless.

    I might have one options to go to but i’m intimidated by them, my sisters side of the family, the ones that have her now, I feel like she’ll hate me and I won’t be what they expect me to be.

    I’ve wanted to write this so many times before, but then my sadness runs out and i put my roses glasses back on, enjoy the little ‘life’ I have and then get broken again to run back here.. sometimes it makes me feel like i’m growing another one of me, talking to myself and switching from here to there, it’s unhealthy i know, i can’t stop it, i want a little bit of control somewhere in my life, maybe this is it, even if it gets me thrown into a whirlwind of pain and misery at least i made this decision. I’m sorry to bore you with such a long read but I needed someone to hear me and hopefully listen.

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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to NRS and sharing a bit about what has been going on. It can be really scary to ask for help and you were very brave to contact NRS. From what you mentioned, you have been trying your best to take care of your self even though your mom has not been providing you with a stable and healthy living environment. Parents are supposed to take care of us and it can be really overwhelming when the adults in our lives are not supportive.

      You do not have to go through this alone and we truly want to be a support for you during this challenging situation. We can best help you through phone or chat and we are available 24/7. We can talk more in depth about your situation if you would like and brainstorm some options together. We hope to hear from you soon, so that we can help!

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • i cant stand my dad, will not let me do anything, threatens me and says he doesnt care if i dont eat,kill myself or anything, i dont want to be here anymore and i am 14, please help me get away and be able to do things

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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through an awful situation. You do not deserve to be told such mean things especially by your father. This seems like it can be emotionally abusive you can make a report by contacting Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. Another option to consider is talking with your school counselor about what has been going on.
      We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
      NRS

  • I think I'm going insane and I need help. My whole life has been a ******** show my oldest brother did drugs and convinced me to steal from stores for him. He made both my parents give up on the rest of us and now I don’t know where he lives and haven't seen him in years. My mom is never home and my dad try's to parent us but he can’t and I don’t blame him. My other brother treats me like I am trash all the time he calls me gay stupid retarded etc. I don’t even know why. I never talk to him I stay in my room to avoid him and my little sister actually. Like I'd just be getting food and they'd call me a fat ass even though I'm 16 and only weigh 120 pounds. They both spread rumors about me at school and because of that people avoid me. I don’t have many friends so I'm always at home and I can’t take their crap anymore. When I tell my little sister to stop she tells me to just do her a favor and kill myself. When I was in 7th grade I got hit by a car and they both told me they laughed when they heard about it. I don’t know what I did for them to hate me so much I try not to even talk to them. They get me so mad and sad all the time that I've started to have crazy thoughts but I don’t want to hurt anyone I just want to be left alone. I hate them both and am gonna never see them again once I'm 18.I keep telling myself I could struggle through this for a few more years but I cant. I’m almost 16 and I can’t wait any longer I need help I don’t wanna be around people who hate me I want to leave please tell me how.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 11-01-2019, 01:28 AM.

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      Hi,
      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

      It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
      We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about you situation and how it makes you feel.
      You are very brave for doing so. Good for you.
      NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.
      You don’t deserve to be called names and be disrespected by your siblings.
      It’s not your fault that they choose to behave the way that they do.
      We do understand that it must be frustrating for you.

      We are here to listen and here to help.
      Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out measures for coping previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail , please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


      Take care,
      NRS

  • I don’t feel loved or needed at my house when I say something that my mom doesn’t like she gets extra and at this point I’m tired of her and her bs she makes it to where I don’t even want to live or come home she has hit me a few times and when I said I wanted to kill myself she got the extension cord and tied bit around my neck it’s getting annoying and she is really bipolar bc she was just happy buying me stuff and now she is saying the rudest things I’m not happy where I am and I want to leave

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • I am not in the position I want to be in right now at the moment. I don’t live with my dad and he isn’t really there for me , I’ve been living with my mama my whole life but as I’m getting older and maturing she’s getting older and acting immature. Last year we went through a hard time because we got put out of where we stayed and so she picked up another job to get us an apartment . While we were staying in the apartment , she got pregnant. So of course I was angry because I am 16 with two siblings already and she just got pregnant with twins when she could barely take care of the three she had. I am still 16 and she forces me to watch HER babies. she lies about everything and I just can’t take it because I feel like I’m going to burst if I don’t get away from her, she doesn’t let me have much of a social life and when I was working she was taking my money and never replacing it. I also take advanced courses in school and she doesn’t acknowledge the fact that I have more work than the average student so I’m really going through a tough time cause she also keeps bringing random people into our house even though she keeps promising that she’ll stop. I really just want to leave this household.

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - it sounds like your mom is putting a lot on your plate and it's got to be overwhelming. It seems like your mom isn’t fully understanding you when you are trying to relay your thoughts and feelings about your current situation and how much you have going on. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • I can't live with my family anymore. None of them care none! They say they do yet they don't. I may cut i haven't for like a year then yesterday i cut twice why because the thought of my still living with these people called "family" hurt made me remember everything that has happened and that's a lot. I just want to be loved. I want someone to care for me that's not my friends. I want them to care. You have no idea how much I wanted to run away or just end it because of them so many times. Yet i try so hard to think as soon as i'm 18 i can leave change everything even how i look because looking at myself reminds me other the women i call a "mother" and i hate that. Why i just wanna know why can't they love me?!? I just wanna live with my friend because she cares her family is more of family then mine has ever been. I may be 13 almost 14 yet I've wanted to leave since i was 8. Please your my last hope its either you help or i'll leave please just help me get into a better house a better family. I really hope you help me heck i'm crying right now because i think i'm getting into trouble tomorrow because of my cuts and its not like my "mom" cares she just doesn't like the fact that she thinks i'm "copping" my sisters please please just help me. My family are just crazy drug addicts and i need out soon please and thank you.

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      Hey there,

      It takes a lot of bravery and courage to share your story with others, thank you so much for telling us a little bit about what home has been like for you. You deserve to feel loved and supported wherever you go. It's great to hear that your friends are able to show you the affection that is you aren't feeling at home. You mentioned that you started cutting again after We know that stressors like this can be overwhelming at times and it sounds like you have turned to self-injury as a way to cope. It’s totally understandable that you would want to do something to give you a feeling of power and control when you may feel hopeless. To Write Love on Her Arms is an organization dedicated to supporting people who use this coping mechanism on their road to self-realization and recovery. You can check them out by going to https://twloha.com/. You can also check out the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for some additional support. You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741.

      At the end of your message, you made a comment about how members of your family are drug addicts. It can be really hard to live with someone who struggles with addiction. We want you to know that you are not alone. If you’d like to talk to other young people who are dealing with friends or family members who have usage problems you can check out Narateeb. You can find more information about this support group, or find a local meeting here: https://www.nar-anon.org/narateen. If you feel like this is interfering with your safety and well-being there may be some neglect going on which you have the right to report. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • I don’t want to live with my parents anymore

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • please help me

    i dont want to live here anymore and the only reason why is because of my brother he treats me like i am nothing he is a total slob and makes me do everything he sits down on his video games and plays all day then when something is missing because he is careless he blames it on me and i have stolen in the past but i shouldnt be hit because of something that i did wrong i shouldnt be verbally abused anymore but i do i have to deal with it at home from my brother and my mom just sits there and listens she doesnt stick up for me and you know what is sucks the most that my mom wont stand up for me she says she will always help me and be there but where is she she is never here but she is here physcially i just wish that i would never had a brother like this man he is a horrible person he has hurt his girl before and he has anger issues and he takes them out on me i wish that i would be with my friend or that my brother would just die or disappear so i dont have to deal with him anymore

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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did.
      It sounds like things are really hard and stressful for you at home. You don’t deserve to be hit and verbally abused by anyone, and certainly not by your brother. It is understandable that you want your brother to go away since he only hurts and scares you. It sounds like your mom doesn’t do anything to help you and that your brother’s anger issues and violence have affected her too.
      If she is afraid of him, that might explain why she is unable to keep you safe. Maybe you can talk with her about it and ask if you can spend more time with your friend; maybe your friend’s parents would let you stay over some weekends.
      We are here for you to talk this over. You can contact us by our phone hotline at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or via live chat through www.1800runaway.org
      We hope this helps and that we will hear from you soon.
      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • the reason why i don't wana live with my parents is because of a lot of reasons why what should i do
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 11-13-2019, 12:38 PM.

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      Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out.

      You mentioned that there is a lot of reasons why you don’t want to live with your parents anymore, and want to know what to do. You’re really brave for reaching out, and we want you to know that we’re here to assist you in any way that we can. With that being said, and option to explore would be to talk to your parents, and make them aware if what is it that’s going on at home, making you think this way. Another option you can consider would be to talk to a relative about what is going on at home, and see if they can ask your parents for permission to stay with them for a couple of days, until things settle down at home.

      Along those same lines, if you are every feeling unsafe in your home, you can text the word safe and your location to 44357. The National safe place will text you a location to go to, and a case worker will be out to assist you if need be. Safe places very by city and state, and if you want to know if there’s a safe place in your area, you can input your address in their website at the nationalsafeplace.org.

      Thank you once again for reaching during this difficult time. We hope these resources could be of some use to you. Please don’t hesitate to call us anytime at 1800) 786-2929, and we can reach out to other resources on your behalf. Best of luck!

  • I don’t live with my parents I never have I live with my grandparents but I don’t want to live with either of them because my parents are divorced and my grandparents really don’t understand me and hate people who are gay or if you dye your hair and I don’t feel welcomed. My parents both live in different areas but my mom is not financially capable of keeping me and I don’t really feel welcomed with my dad what do I do I don’t want to live with any of them but my friends offered to take me in

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      Hello there –

      Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. From your post it sounds like you have the same worries that a lot of our contacts have.

      Only you know when you need to leave due to your home being unsafe. Unfortunately no one but you can make that decision for you, not even here. Like we tell a lot of our callers and/or people that email us, the laws on that specific subject of just leaving home and/or running away vary from state to state. Now we aren’t legal experts, but what generally what typically happens in each state is if you are below the legal age of majority your parents or legal guardians (sounds like your grandparents) would be able to make a runaway report in the event that you do run away.

      Since it’s only considered a statues offense in most states and not a crime to run away, the only thing that would happen is that the police will pick you up and bring you back home. Whoever you end up staying with, may face some consequences with the authorities for "harboring a known runaway". So one way to avoid that from happening, might be to try to get some permission from your guardians to go live with your friend’s family. Perhaps trying to have a big group meeting with everything laid out on the table might help them see that it would be better for you to live someplace different and could benefit both sides.

      It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us. We might also be able to look in our database to see if there were any youth shelters or safe places that you might be able to go to if you need some local support.

      Best of luck!

  • Hi I'm 16 and I've been thinking about leaving my parents to live with my bestfriend and her family. I want to move out because I feel like I'm not free they like never ever let me live my 16 year old life. Like they wont be free at all and I feel like they hate me because if I would to do the same stuff as my older brothers I would get punished and not them even tho they would do it in front of their face......... I honestly don't know what to do and I wanna leave them..... can someone actually help and just say random stuff

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    • Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. That's really unfair that your parents treat you so differently than your older brothers. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.

      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      Be safe,

      NRS
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      • I live with my parents and my family does not let me do anything that i want and i have rules that arent fair in my house. I never get to see my girlfriend or go out with friends and im verbally abused by my father. I want to leave and never go back but i dont know if i can legally do that as a 16 year old. I live in Ohio and i know i would be able to find a place to live but can i leave if i tell my parents im leaving and they say no? And if i leave anyways does that make me a run away because ive tried running away and it didnt work out. I truly just hate my life and my family and i want to leave but nobody ever listens to me. How do i move out?

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          Hi there,

          Thanks for contacting NRS and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you with figuring out your next steps in this difficult situation. Asking for help was really responsible and smart of you. We are sorry to hear things are so unstable and stressful at home. You deserve to live somewhere that makes you feel respected and supported.

          You mentioned that you have some questions about runaway laws. If you leave home without permission before you turn 18 (although this can vary depending on the area), your parents can report you as a runaway. Running away is not illegal, but police will likely return you home.

          The easiest way to leave is with your parents' permission. Perhaps there is a family member or another adult you trust that can help communicate your needs to your parents. Sometimes having an adult advocate for you can help keep the conversation calm and make sure your perspective is heard.

          We are here 24/7 to listen and help. If you would like to talk more in detail about your situation and brainstorm your possible options you can reach out by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or use our online chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

          Good luck,
          NRS

      • I don't want to stay anywhere close with my family

        ​​​​​​I really want to leave my family.Honestly I don't even see a reason to be with them.The reason why is my dad.He manipulates me and tries to control me.Whenever I do try to becomes friends with him, I just keep getting more hurt.I've been lied to my face way too many times.My dad's trying to take away everything I like and now life doesn't seem worth living.All to live for is good grades and if I need help, I can't ask anyone for because my mom doesn't even know what I'm learning about and my dad just doesn't care.I'm starting to feel alone, I never hang out with a friend, never been at a sleepover, never tricked or treat,not even a really birthday party, never had a childhood.i just really don't know what to do anymore and now I'm antisocial,extreme anxiety, and have trust issues....please help me I beg you , I'm not sure what to do anymore.I'm only 13 and can't do nothing until I'm 18, I don't know if I can survive 5 more years.

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          Hello,
          Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

          We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. Talking with a teacher or counselor at school might be an option to explore. Sometimes things can begin to feel so overwhelming that you don’t know which way to turn.

          We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You did a good job by reaching out to NRS. We are here to listen and here to help.
          We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk some more, explore options or share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

          We look forward to hearing from you.
          Take care,
          NRS
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