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  • Everyone is treating me as if they don’t want me there and I’m only 14 and I really want move out one to be closer to my fr and to get away from my mom and family cuz they never treat me with respect and are so rude to me as if I was a mistake they are making me feel like I shouldn’t even live with her and it’s so stressful cuz I can’t jus pack my bags and leave cuz I will get in trouble with them the cops and whatnot and I really don’t know what to do at this point

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    • ccsmod1
      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - it stressful to be around people that aren't respectful. Everyone deserves to live somewhere where they feel safe and secure. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your parents.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      All the best,
      NRS

  • I dont want to stay at my house anymore. I just moved to a new state and i have no friends to hang out with. All i do all day is nothing my dad wants me tp get a job to pay for my phone and my dog because the house im living in charges for a dog each month.
    My dad always tellls me everyday to get a job he even threteans to kick me out. I feel like im wasting my time and i could be living somewhere else betrering myself doing what i want to do in life.(im only 15 btw).

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    • ccsmod1
      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thanks for sharing a little bit about what's going on. It sounds like your dad is putting a lot of pressure on you to get a job and pay for phone and your dog. It's got to be hard to live in a new state away from your friends. If you’d like to talk more about whats going on, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      All the best,
      NRS

  • I'm tired of living at home. I live with my mom, dad and sister. I hate it here. It's literally like living in hell, but on Earth. Everyday it is the same routine. Get up, clean, eat, get yelled at for something stupid or that I didn't do and go to sleep, the process repeats itself agina and again. Whenever my mom and I have a disagreement my sister (19 years old) always has to butt in and put fuel to the fire. I (18 years old) tell her something like, "shut up and mind her own business," or "I'm not even talking to you so butt out." Guess who gets in trouble...yea...me. My mom even told me that she thought I would be the child to give her the most trouble. I was bullied all through out school up till 10th grade. It will be a chilly day in hell before I let anyone ever belittle or disrespect me again, but yet I have to come home and deal with it all over again. Due to the situation at home I have developed anxiety and depression, it freaken sucks. My mom has and will never ever understand me. My sister doesn't know when to shut up and mind her own business and my dad is just oblivious to everything that is going on, he's a chill dad but a little to chill to the fact where he is clueless to what is going on. It's like say for instance one time I was talking to this guy online. I was talking to him because I honestly didn't have anyone else to talk to and I told him about my life. My mom found out and acted like she understood and everything. But when my dad got home she told him and he went off. Long story short my phone was taken and I was on punishment for a month. But when my sister started talking online to this guy we never met before, she got their blessing. I told my mom the other day that she keeps siding with my sister. Of course she yelled then sent me (an 18 year old) to my room and took my phone that I paid for with my money. I'm not sure what she thought was going to be accomplished by that but whatever. She always yells at me in public about something, literally every time we go out, I get yelled at. It's embarrassing because people stare and talk. My mom is the reason for that to this day I hate eating inside or going inside a store and I am afraid that if I have a relationship I will carry her abuse with me. I want to like somewhere else until I go to college in August because it is only getting worse, it's always tense. I feel that I belong in this family. I literally don't say anything too them anymore. I am in hell. Please help.

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    • ccsmod9
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      Hello,

      You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

      If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

      Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
      Take care,
      NRS

  • Hey.. Ive been wanting to get away from my dad for years now ive just been unsure of how to do that i have a cat that means the world to me and i know if i run away her life would be bad.. I cant handle being with my dad anymore we constantly fight and argue its had so much of an awful impact on me its not ok. Im 15 and live in Minnesota.

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    • ccsmod7
      ccsmod7 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

      Sounds like you have been wanting to leave for awhile due to the arguing at home; which cannot be easy to deal with. If you haven't already you might try to address the yelling at home by talking to your dad about how you are feeling and what your needs are. It seems like he is pretty hard to talk to so you might try to include a trusted adult in on the conversation with him such as another parent, a grandparent, family friend, or counselor. Another option might be to write him a letter about everything you have been going through. Here at NRS, we do have a conference call service if you ever want to have a mediated conversation with him. Please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY if you are interested in that service.

      If you do decide to leave please know that we are always here for you and we can look up safe places for you to go, so please keep our information: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org. You are never alone.

      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org.

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • I don't want to be in my house no more its really stressful i don't feel happy they judge me critizice me everything id rather just leave and never come back.

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    • ccsmod10
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      Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you ae going through a very difficult time right now and hopefully we can help. Dealing with stress is no easy task and if you feel like you have people at home judging and criticizing you it is easy to see why you feel unhappy. We’re not legal experts here at NRS. Generally it’s not illegal to leave home, but your parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring you home. The people you’re staying with could potentially get in trouble for having you stay there if your parents file a report. Depending on your age they could be charged with what is called “harboring a minor.” You could consider calling your local non-emergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state.

      If you don’t feel safe and feel like you need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for you to meet a staff member who can take you to a designated place where you can discuss all options about how to stay safe. You can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

      If you feel like your stress is becoming to overwhelming You can contact the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) to connect you to mental health resources at 1-800-950-6264 or NAMI.org You may also want to talk to your school because they should have a counselor for you.

      One service we can offer is to conference call with your parents. This way you could have a conversation with your parents but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to your family how you feel when they criticize and judge you. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

      Stay strong

      -NRS.

  • i’m 14 and i want to run away. my house really isn’t that bad and i know i sound ungrateful but i just don’t want to be here anymore. i always get yelled at and critizrd for my grades. i don’t have anywhere to go, my grandparents would just tell my parents and my friends wouldn’t help bc they don’t want to get in trouble. what do i do

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    • ccsmod1
      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension and criticism about your grades. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your parents.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      All the best,
      NRS

  • My family is calling me gay and I really don't like that and she put everything out on me what should I do without my mom knowing out and my mom has a order saying " have to stay with her what should I do?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 06-07-2019, 03:59 AM.

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    • Reply:My family is calling me gay

      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
      You don't deserve to be called names by anyone. You are not at fault for what others choose to do.

      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Take care,
      NRS
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

      National Runaway Safeline
      info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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      • I cant stand living with my parents anymore . I’m a 15 year old girl and my whole life I’ve bern growing up watching my dad abuses my mom and my mom do the same to my dad . They have been off an on for 16 years now and they took a long break apart but we recently just all moved in together again . At first all was good but now my dad treats me like ******** and so does my mom . My parents scream at me 24/7 over nothing and I’m always getting blamed for everything even if my siblings do it . I’ve talked to both of them mutilple times over the last 2-3 years and they still haven’t changed . I fight with my parents everyday and she calls me names and so does he . My parents are so rude to me yet so nice to my other siblings . I just wanna run away and never come back

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        • ccsmod1
          ccsmod1 commented
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          Hey there,

          Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. You shouldn't be called names and yelled at by your parents. The way that they treat each other sounds scary and makes sense that you wouldn't want to stay in that kind of home. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community-based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis-related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

          We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

          Be safe,
          NRS

      • Help my parents constantly force me to do stuff and I can’t do it anymore I have no control overtly life and I’m constantly sad and I can’t live with my family anymore. They all pressure me into adult things and I’m 17 I just want to have a normal life and they just want me to drive my dumb siblings around.

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        • ccsmod3
          ccsmod3 commented
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          Hi,
          Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you have been under a lot of pressure and have a lot of responsibility. That’s really hard to deal with especially when you don’t have any control over your own life and circumstances. It’s understandable that you want a normal life and that you feel sad about this situation. We are here for you. We really are, but we would need to communicate with you to help you figure out your options.
          You deserve all the help we can give either through our phone hotline at 1-800-runaway (1-800-786-2929) or out live chat service through the website at 1800runaway.org
          We really hope to hear from you. It’s possible that we can find a shelter in your area, and it’s possible that we can help you figure out a way to help things be better for you at home.
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