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  • My dad died today and I don't want to live with my mom should I go live with a family member or a friends house or like what should I do in general

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    • My parents kicked me and my son out for no reasons. Should I staying in the shelter or else??

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      • ccsmod5
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        Hi,
        We’re so sorry to hear about your situation. A shelter could be a good option for you. If you need help locating resources, please feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929. Another resource that might be helpful is the homelessshelterdirectory.org. Take care and stay strong!
        NRS

    • I ********ing hate my life

      Everyday i wake up in the morning with a motive, that is to go to school and come back and have a fun time playing video games with my irl friends on my ps4. I complete all my chores including cleaning my toilet, my room , and other things but even after that my stupid parents just wont let me play video games that is the one actual thing that i enjoy in my life. When i play video games my dad walks in my room every 30 mins or so yelling at me to stop playing and then disconnects the wires from my ps4 and hides my controller somewhere i cant find it. And its not like i am socially inactive or physically unfit...and i dont play all night. I am really considering to take drugs and start smoking if thats gonna make me feel better, additionally once i turn 18 and have a stable job i hope to never see their ugly faces ever again.

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      • ccsmod11
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        Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are having a difficult time at home, and that you feel your parents aren’t respecting you. It takes courage to reach out and we acknowledge that this may be a difficult step. You should be able to feel comfortable in your own home, and if you feel safe doing so, consider talking to your parents about reaching a compromise between time spent doing chores, homework, and playing videogames. If this seems unsafe for you, school counselors or trusted adults are there to listen and help you, so you may also want to think about reaching out to them. Considering the different coping mechanisms that you described, it is important to remember the consequences to different actions taken, especially before you are 18. Finally, we are so glad that you contacted us. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help and it is very responsible to work to figure out your different options. If you would like to talk further with someone here, at the National Runaway Safeline, feel free to call or chat with us anytime. Out 24-hour hotline is toll-free and completely confidential and our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are always here to listen and help.

    • My parents are forcing me to memories the Koran and I really don't want to do it but when I don't want to do it they start shouting and getting angry at me and I get upset and angry about it. I don't know what to do?

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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It takes great courage to reach out for help, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

        It sounds like you have been going through a hard time at home. Family counseling can be helpful in many situations. If it might be an option for you, you can contact the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration at 877-SAMHSA-7 (877-726-4727) for any counseling resources. While we are not legal experts, just speaking generally if you are to leave home without your parents’ permission the police can bring you back home and whoever you are staying with could get trouble in the law. Running away from home can be hard in many cases. You may want to think about where you might stay, and how you might pay for food or other living expenses. Paying for expenses and getting a place to stay can be hard without have a stable job. You could also call us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or live chat with us and we will be happy to listen to your, explore your options and provide any resources.

        You are acting strong by reaching out for help in this hard situation. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.

        We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

        Be safe,
        NRS

    • I’m tired of my parent, a month ago my parents were both fighting with me and throwing stuff at me, and the day after that I came home and the money I had been saving up ($1500) was taken. When I asked my mom where it was she said that they had spent it. I’m 14 and just tired of all of this, is there anything I can do?

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      • ccsmod15
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

        It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It is not ok for your parents to throwing stuff at you. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. Talking to other family members or friends can be helpful in many situations.
        Family counseling can be helpful in many situations. If it might be an option for you, you can contact the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration at 877-SAMHSA-7 (877-726-4727) for any counseling resources. While we are not legal experts, just speaking generally if you are to leave home without your parents’ permission the police can bring you back home and whoever you are staying with could get trouble with the law. Running away from home can be hard in many cases. You may want to think about where you might stay, and how you might pay for food or other living expenses. You could also call us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or live chat with us and we will be happy to listen to your, explore your options and provide any resources.

        We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

        Be safe,
        NRS

    • I want to leave.


      Hi.. idk where to start. My mom & dad are divorced & I live with my mom. My dad is too bad on drugs to do anything with us. I have 2 sisters & 1 brother. I’m 16 & I’m turning 17 in 5 months. My mom absolutely hates me. She says she loves me but I know she doesn’t. My mom says I’m a spiked brat & that I do more than any of my other siblings. My little sisters she’s 9 she dances. My brother plays football & baseball & he’s 11. My mom tells me at least 1 time a day that I’m retarded & multiple things. I can never make her happy... I try my best to do everything but i gey nothing but screamed at. My other siblings get petted & loved on but I jus lay in my room crying for hours. I have depression & cut myself a couple times because of how my mom makes me feel... I tell my aunt everything & she’s the one I want to move in with but... she lives in Florida & I live in Kentucky. Over half of my family live in Florida & I wanna be with her bc she understands me I’ve asked her if there’s anyway tha I could leave earlier bc I’ve slready planned to leave when I’m 18 but it’s gotten too much out of hand. Today she screamed at me threatened to kick me out of the house & how she was gonna send me to my dads & I was thinking ab telling her to do it but my dad is a pos.... I’ve ran away from home once. When I was 13 because I was tired of how my mom talked to me. I need to know what to do plz help.

      Thanks.

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      • ccsmod3
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        Hi there,

        Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation at home. We are sorry you are experiencing abuse, no one ever deserves to go through that. We are glad to hear that you have a support with your aunt and that she is someone that understands you. You mentioned that your mom screamed at you and threatened to kick you out, it may see if seeking permission to live with your aunt is possible.

        You do have the right to report the emotional and verbal abuse to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You can either do it yourself or call into us directly and we can support you through it. It is hard to say the result of reporting, but if you call in you can ask what the process might look like.

        One options to consider is emancipation. We are not legal experts, but we can help you get a general sense of how emancipation works. Our general understanding is some states offer formal emancipation statutes while others do not unfortunately. Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18. Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation. In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents. It also helps to be in good standing at school. The court will also factor in the mental and physical welfare of your parents in order to establish your best interest. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. Once you are emancipated, you can legally choose where you live, but you might still find that you cannot sign a lease or build credit until you turn 18. The emancipation process can take several months or up to a year, and may cost money in the form of court fees and other expenses. Usually, the best way to learn about emancipation in your state is to contact a lawyer. You may also find information at your county family court. Also, if you call in we could refer you to local Kentucky Legal resources.

        Please do not hesitate to call (1-800-RUNAWAY) or chat if you have questions, need legal resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

        -NRS

    • Hello ..
      i am 20 yr old. My life is so messed up .I don't want to live with my parents they don't understand me always want me to do what they want ..and thats makes me so irritated and then I had to fight for every thing..and they want me to marry a boy in our caste..I want to study I am don't BA hons sociology.its my last year but they don't want me to go college because want me to get married..I don't feel save in my own house .I have to follow their orders I have step mom she is so irritating..we have fights once in a day I can't sleep I can't eat what a I like I can't talk to my female friend even and they don't want me to entract with them now I have decided to leave my house ...it's been 15 years she still don't like me she abuse me use bads words and many times she said it's my house go some where else. And my father don't trust me he thinks she is right . Plz tell me what shud I do

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      • ccsmod0
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        Hey there,

        Thanks so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry to hear that you’re having such a difficult time with your parents. It can’t be easy feeling like you’re being controlled in your own home. Running away is a big step, so it’s great that you’re looking for advice and guidance. We’ll give you some ideas to consider below, but know that you can always reach out to one of our live liners by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

        First, in most parts of the United States, individuals who are 18 years and older are considered legal adults. As such, they are free to leave home and live wherever they choose without their legal guardians’ permission. Your parents could not force you to return, the police would not look for you, and it would not be against the law in any way. You can call one of our liners or your local police department to confirm that your state recognizes you as a legal adult.

        It will also help to have a very clear idea about what your plan will be when you leave. The more specific your plan, the more likely you’ll be able to take care of yourself away from home. Our liners can talk through all of these questions and more with you over the phone to help you come up with a plan that works for your situation.

        Leaving home is a really big step, especially if you’re leaving a difficult or unhealthy home environment. Being sure that you have a plan to stay safe long-term, and confirming that you are a legal adult in your state and county, might be some of the best ways to ensure that you don’t have to return after you leave. Again, our liners are available 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Please give us a call if you’d like to talk through your plan in greater detail. Good luck!

        Best wishes,
        NRS

    • My mom hits me and yells at me. I almost committed suicide and she found out about it by going through my text messages on my phone. I hate my mom and i have recently found out my dad watches porn on TV. I can't look at him the same as i used to. I'm only 12 years old and i want to leave home to live with my grandma or uncle. My mom knows how sensitive i am and doesn't care. I just wish she would understand how much it hurts me.

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      • ccsmod5
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        Hi,
        Thank you for reaching out. It’s very brave of you to share some of your story and what you’ve been going through. It sounds like you’re in a really stressful situation at home. No one ever deserves to be hit and it must have been so hurtful for your mom to go through your text messages. You mention that you almost committed suicide—please know that you are not alone in this and there is support out there for you. You absolutely deserve to be supported, loved, and respected. If you ever need someone to listen and help in any way, you can always give us a call at 1-800-786-2929. You can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifetime 1-800-273-8255.
        You mention that your mother hits and yells at you. That is never okay. If there is abuse going on at home, you have the right to file an abuse report. For more information about filing an abuse report and what might happen if you do report abuse, you can call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453.
        It sounds like you’re going through a lot right now and just wish your mother would understand how the situation is hurting you. It could be an option to talk to your mom about how you’ve been feeling. We know that can be a really difficult conversation to have, so if you need help talking to her you might consider asking another adult you trust, like an aunt or uncle, family friend, teacher, guidance counselor, etc. We also offer a conference call service, so we can also help you have a respectful and hopefully productive conversation.
        Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful. If you need resources or anything else, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-786-2929. Take care and stay strong!

    • I'm 16 living at my moms and visting my stepbrothers dad.
      I dont want to live with my mom anymore and I don't wanna see my stepbrothers becuase of an other legal issue I wouldn't like to state.

      is there any way I can live with my step brothers dad and not have to worry about my mom and stepbrother? I live in southern California if that helps.

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      • ccsmod11
        ccsmod11 commented
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        Hi there,

        Thanks for reaching out. It shows a lot of courage to speak up and ask for help, so we're glad you reached out to us. We're not legal experts, but according to our experience working at this hotline, at 16 years old in Southern California, you can't leave home if a guardian of yours does not consent to it. If you leave anyway, you'll probably be reported as a runaway to the police, who can search for you and return you home. Not much is likely to happen to you - i.e. you won't get arrested. You can call us if you are interested in learning more about emancipation; we're not emancipation experts, but we can help you connect to those resources. Call us at 1-800-786-2929.

        Best,
        NRS

    • I don’t like my dad.

      My dad is someone who served in the Airforce for I don’t remember how long. He raised a little 6 year old boy ever since I have not been in his life. He is watched by him 1-3 days a week. Sometimes not at all. I just think he isn’t fit to become a parent. I’d rather live with my aunt, but my mom signed over a custody paper over to my dad. Before all of this, my mom had and still has a mental illness, so she signed rights over to my dad. The custody has not fully gone through until 4 - 5 months. I really rather would want to live with my aunt and not my dad. I have not seen him since I was 3 or 4 years old. I do not remember. I was excited to see him at first, but not so much anymore. He has three girl “friends” he uses them for money and to buy numerous things for him. Sometimes he gets drunk and has lectures telling us how bad we are at stuff, or maybe even tell us (me and my little brother) we will go to some sort of camp or class. Which he never goes through with it. He’s called me a faggot when he’s drunk. My little brother thinks he hates us because he cusses and says a lot of thing to us. My aunt wants us to live with her but she wants to keep things good between her and my dad. Get lawyers say she would loose a legal battle because my mom signed right over to him and not her. My dad has done many more things such as getting me up in the middle of the night and doing things for him such as grabbing him a bear or lock the door. He says “Hey, (girlfriend) watch this.” Then he calls my name and tell someone her that kids aren’t slaves or something like that. I just want help. Right now I am very depressed at my dad’s house because of he acts. I’d rather live with my aunt.

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      • Reply: I don’t like my dad.

        Hello,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

        We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things in your life right now.
        It sounds like you’re fearing that the stress from the situation is getting harder and harder to handle.
        We are sorry you are going through a tough emotional time.
        Having your father react the way he does must be upsetting and frustrating.
        No one deserves to be abused and we hope you understand that his behavior is no fault of yours or your sibling. It sounds like your aunt is supportive and that must make you feel good knowing someone cares. You mentioned being depressed. You have a tough time.

        Sometimes when things are too stressful it might help to talk with someone about it.
        Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this.
        NRS is here to listen and here to help.
        We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
        If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

        You are welcome to discuss your situation and talk about possible options for help.
        What you did today by reaching out was great. Good job.
        We hope to hear from you soon.

        If your friend should ever be at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage them to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.


        Take care,
        NRS
        Last edited by ccsmod4; 07-06-2018, 07:34 AM.
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        • I don’t want to live with my family anymore. I am 15 going on 16 and I live with my dad and aunt. There is constant arguing go back and forth between me and the both of them, most of the time them who starts it. I’ve been wishing I was 18 since I was at least 12. Since then I’ve been distancing myself from them, doing all the chores I need to do and staying in my room the remainder of the time. Several times since then I’ve went to spend time with them but it only ends in them yelling or criticizing me, so I head back to my room and keep to myself. When I do that, they complain that I never spend any time with them. My dad constantly comes into my room after I’ve done all my contributions to the house just to yell and insult me. Sometimes he comes in my room, throws things off my desk or clothes from my hamper onto my floor and yells at me to pick it up. My aunt on the other hand just likes to insult everything I do, though I never bother her. I must say although they don’t get physical much, their mental abuse is unbearable anymore. My dad sometimes hits, punches, slaps, and throws me into walls although not very often. My aunt doesn’t hit but sometimes very softly slaps my face and pulls my hair very hard. I do not fight back with her because she is physically sick but ever since I was in the seventh grade I started fighting my father back in efforts to not get even more injuries because I can outpower him. I always end up feeling guilty and can never tell anyone. After he hits me once he’s cooled off he apologizes so any intentions to tell anyone goes away although I know he will do it again. Aside from the people I live with, I do not like my other family too well either. We do see them often considering everyone is close. All they do is make fun of me and insult my insecurities and things beyond my control such as my lack of friends, messy hair, red lips, etc. My cousins who have two children (ages 6 and 2) always in front of me when disciplining them say things like “hey! Don’t do that! Do you want to end up like *my name*? Only bad people do that and you don’t want to end up like your cousin”. I’m just so so so tired of this and feel like there isn’t any escape and I do not have any outlet or any way to relive any of this stress. If there’s anything I can do to get away from this aside from ignoring them, trust me I’ve tried, please please let me know. I’ve been having really morbid thoughts lately and I fear I may act on them. Thank you for anyone who took the time to read this and anyone who can help.

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          • ccsmod3
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            Hi there,

            Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation at home. We are sorry you are experiencing abuse, no one ever deserves to go through that. You do have the right to report the abuse to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You can either do it yourself or call into us directly and we can support you through it. It is hard to say the result of reporting, but if you call in you can ask what the process might look like.

            It can be difficult to know how to talk to your parents and express your feelings about how you are feeling. We would encourage you to reach out to a trusted adult, teacher, relative, and friend that you can talk to and potentially help you mediate a conversation with your parents about your current situation. At NRS, we do offer a service call conference calling, where you can call into our hotline and then we would reach out to your guardian and help advocate for you, help you express the needs of to your parents.

            Also another way you can seek help is reaching out to a friend, teacher, or counselor at school that can help you look for resources. Your mental health is important. You can also look at SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at samhsa.gov or call them directly at 1-877-726-4727 to help you find the support that you need. If you do ever feel in direct danger, to yourself, or some else makes you feel that way, please call out to 911 or reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255)

            Another thing that you can do is look into emancipation, where you can have the right of an adult. We are not legal experts, but we can help you get a general sense of how emancipation works. Our general understanding is some states offer formal emancipation statutes while others do not unfortunately. Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18. Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation. In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents. It also helps to be in good standing at school. The court will also factor in the mental and physical welfare of your parents in order to establish your best interest. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. Once you are emancipated, you can legally choose where you live, but you might still find that you cannot sign a lease or build credit until you turn 18. The emancipation process can take several months or up to a year, and may cost money in the form of court fees and other expenses. Usually, the best way to learn about emancipation in your state is to contact a lawyer. You may also find information at your county family court. We can look up legal aid resources that may be able to help you with the process.

            We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY we are open 24/7.

            -NRS

            We hope this response was helpful! We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey.

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        • I’m 18 years old about to be 19 and my mom treats me like a child I can’t do anything and she’s always threatening me that she wants me to move out but I’m not financially stable I’m getting tired of this it’s make me want to hate her and depressed

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          • ccsmod10
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            Hi there,

            Thanks for reaching out to NRS. We are here to help you in any way we can and we’re open 24/7.

            It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time lately, don’t give up! You’re being really strong and you do have options. We are here to help in any way we can. A resource that is always available is, United Way, you just call 211. They are the local non-emergency number and have resources for cab vouchers, hotel vouchers, and know about local shelters that have space, etc. There are also social service agencies in your area that can help give you housing and help you get your feet on the ground , such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living (employment, school, etc.). They help youth work on their goals, while they're living there. If you’re interested in that option, give us a call and we can look to see what’s in your area.

            Hopefully, this resource will help you. If you’d like more help brainstorming other options, we’re always here! We are open, 24/7 if you needed us to try to find more resources!

            Best, NRS

        • I have been living with my mom and my nana for 10 years the rest I have been in foster care I’m 15 and it’s not healthy for me to live with my mom and nana . I’m currently living with my sister in law and brother . It’s almost time for school and doctors appointments but my mom won’t give up custody. Being at my moms has made me have depression and suicidal I have tried to commit and has cut and my mom knows I told her I need help but she won’t do anything . My mom can’t financially support me . My sister in law and brother can . How can my sister in law get custody of me . PLEASE HELP
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          • Reply: I have been living with my mom and my nana for 10 years

            Hello,
            Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.
            We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It took some courage to do so.

            We are not legal experts here at NRS but may be able to provide you with legal aid services in your area. You might also consider talking with your brother and sister in-law about any thoughts you have about them gaining custody of you. They may then consider contacting family court in your area about transferring of custody procedures. They may need to consult with an attorney that specializes in custody cases.
            We are sorry that you have had such a tough experience. When trying to cope with stressful and difficult times, please look for other options other than hurting yourself.
            Reaching out today was a positive thing to do. Good for you.

            We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

            Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

            If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255

            Be safe and take care,
            NRS
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

            National Runaway Safeline
            [email protected] (Crisis Email)
            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

            Tell us what you think about your experience!
            https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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