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  • Hi I️ don’t want to live with my mom and my aunt and uncle said they don’t care if I️ move in but my mom doesn’t want me to leave and I️ always get yelled at and I️ do everything around here and she alwAys have men Over anD she shows Favortisim and she calls me a thief and a racist when I’m not rAcist I️ live everyone equally I️ promise I️ just wanna cryI️ hate when people tell me I’ll make it when I️ can’t make it I️ don’t know what to do I just wanna leave help me

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    • ccsmod5
      ccsmod5 commented
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      Thank you so much for writing in. It sounds like you’re going through a really frustrating time at home and it’s so brave of you to reach out. It sounds like you’re having a hard time connecting with your mom and that she doesn’t seem to understand how you’re feeling. You might consider reaching out to a family counselor or your school guidance counselor to help facilitate a conversation between you and your mom. If you’d like to locate a counselor in your area, you can call SAMHSA: 1-877-726-4727. Here at the National Runaway Safeline, we also offer a conference call service where one of our liners is able to facilitate a conversation between you two and advocate for your needs. During this conversation, you might also talk about living with your aunt and uncle. You so deserve to feel heard.
      You mention that you “just wanna leave.” While we’re not legal experts, we can speak in generalities. If you are a minor, you need parental consent. If you choose to leave home without permission, your mom would have the right to file a runaway report. If the police are able to locate you, they will generally return you home. Any adult you stay with might be charged with harboring a runaway, though we have not seen this charge happen often.
      If you’d like to speak more specifically about your situation, please feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). Our lines are open 24/7, so someone is always here to listen and to help. Best of luck to you.

  • Im 13 and i want OUT. My dads a drug dealer and he doesn't think i know and hes smoked weed since he was 12. my mom smokes cigarettes i think, shes trying to hide it though. they dont act like they care about me, and they yell at me constantly. im always in my room to get away from them and they yell at me for that too. A few months ago, my parents wrongly accused me of reading porn on the internet, and when i got upset they took my door down, saying, "I don't deserve privacy." My dad is so annoying, he only ever talks to me if hes yelling at me or wants me to clean, and he constantly sings. Every thing I do is a probem to him

    My sister hates my guts, and I know this because she constantly makes fun of me, she never cares about my problems but i always help with hers, and she just adores it when i get ion trouble.

    My brother has the worst case of anger issues i have ever seen and Im sick of it. He hates me, and is always complaining and talking crap.

    My mom, i dont really know. I say i love her and i convinced myself that its true, but sometimes i question it.

    Another thing is that there was this one thing that happened and i will never forgive him.

    I finished loading the dishwasher and there were some cutting boards left in the sink, which my mother told me were to hand wash, not put in the dishwasher. My dad called my down saying "you're not done with the dishes" and i was saying yes i was.then he threw the cutting boards, and I went to my room quite terrified, and i was in my closet, he then kicked my door down and started throwing things from my room into a bag while screaming at me of how horrible my attitude is. (Let me tell you, i have really really thought about it and my attitude is not all that bad). And then I left the house and saw my brother walking home from the neighborhood 7 eleven and to make the rest of the story short, he called my grandmother to as if i could go to her house for a few days to get away from home. she said yes but my dad said no. He then went to search for me and demanded me to come home and i was crying while he was yelling at me. he then said i could go to my grandmothers and he asked my to forgive him for what he did. i acted like i forgave him and left asap.

    I dont know what to do. Im only 13 and i already hate living in this stupid house.

    - i apologize for typos, i have an injured wrist but my parents dont care so i cant do anything about it

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    • Hi there,

      Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re in a really rough situation currently and don’t know what to do. It takes a lot to reach out, and we’re really glad you did.

      You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) so we could listen and support you through this. No one deserves to be mistreated or to not feel safe in their home. It sounds like you’re at your grandmother’s place and so have a safe place to go to. Is she someone that you think can advocate for you? If not, are there other adults in your life or a counselor at school that you can reach out to? If you call into us, we can try to come up with a plan together of different people or resources you can reach out to to feel supported.

      It sounds like you’re having trouble communicating with your parents. Has it always been like that? We have a service here where a liner can mediate a conference call with you and your parents to talk about the things that you’re feeling and have a constructive conversation surrounding your living situation. You can call us and we can set that up for you as well if you’re interested.

      Please let us know how you can best be helped. You deserve to be treated fairly and to feel loved at home. Please don’t hesitate to give us a call or contact us through our chat service at www.1800runway.org.

      Good Luck,

      NRS
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

      National Runaway Safeline
      info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
      Tell us what you think about your experience!
      https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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      • Problems with my rude parents

        i have a step brother. my mother and her boyfriend aren’t married. I hate my mother And i hate her boyfriend , her boyfriend treats me like I’m his son when literally I never accept him to be part of my “Family” I once loved my mother until she met a guy who I really hate and she change into abusive person she use to abuse me last year she threw hard things she pulled my hair she grabbed by the arm agressively to me like her boyfriend does but this year is a little bit the same but my mother yells at me for no reason and that’s when I get so pissed I start to do things she doesn’t like it’s not my fault I’m doing things wrong it’s her fault “ treat others the way you wanted to be treated “ . When I argue my mother her boyfriend starts to get involved the fight and blame and swore I front of me because they think their right when I’m the ones who is always right I’m trying to fix their god damn life .it’s really affecting my actions because I’m starting to hurt my brother. Once my mother yelled at me for taking my laundry when she literally told me to carry my baby brother 10 seconds before she even said that . And I told her to wait so she yelled at me and what I did was unforgivable I drop my baby brother that is 3 months old on a couch aggressively instead of putting him nicely . My mother and her boyfriend is the main reason why I’m almost failing school and I can’t save money for my university because they are saving money for their vacation next year LIKE IT STUPID !! Every weekend I always go to my mother friend house I know them and I used to live with them when I came here in Canada about 4-5 years ago I always thought of them as my guardian but Idk they take care of me properly they solve my problems they give me advice but sometimes I can’t ask them if it’s legal to move with them because I’m afraid they’re gonna say no but I’m just asking if it’s possible if the government can take me and place me to my mothers friend who took good care of me for 3 years?

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        • ccsmod15
          ccsmod15 commented
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          Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been living through a very challenging situation at home with your mom and her boyfriend. The actions of your mother sound abusive and it’s understandable how stressful this must be as you try to focus on your study and plan for going to a university. It sounds like you live in Canada, where the laws generally mean that you can’t legally live somewhere else without your parent’s permission until you turn 18.

          If your mother’s friend is willing you let you live with her again, it sounds like a change of scenery could be a very good thing for you. Assuming you have your mother’s friend’s permission, you’d then just need to find a way to have a calm, productive discussion with you mother to ask for her permission to let you change your living arrangements. Try to find a way to keep this discussion positive and help make your mother see the benefits to her and her boyfriend for this new arrangement.

          Your other option could be to report the abuse you have experienced if you want to involve the courts and attempt to have your mother’s custody removed. The risk here is that you won’t get to decide who you stay with if the courts remove you from home. Also: the abuse you describe may be harder to prove – so if this reporting doesn’t result in any action, it could significantly worsen your relationship with mother and her boyfriend. For more information on child abuse reporting, please visit childhelp.org which serves the US and Canada and has a 24-7 hotline at 1-800-422-4453.

          We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. NRS is here to listen and here to help. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically (we can also try to help you find a shelter in your area) please let us know. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

          Be safe,
          NRS

      • I live with my parents & two younger sisters. My dad is emotionally & verbally abusive, but only really towards me. I don't know why he treats me differently, but it's unfair. My mum sees that there's a problem but she hasn't done anything about. I have anxiety and depression, and I do believe that a lot of the reason I'm like this is because of the way he's treated me growing up. I'm 16 now and I'm at my breaking point, living with him has become so difficult so I want to move out. But it seems impossible, I have nowhere to go, no money, no friends to stay with. I have to stay in town for school so I couldn't stay with any family since they live hours away. I don't know what to do, I don't think I'll be able to live with him much longer because I've started to feel suicidal again. The only times I've ever been suicidal were during long fights with my dad. I'm scared that I'll commit this time.

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        • Hi there,

          Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline today. We're here 24/7 to listen and to support. It sounds like you are at a breaking point with your father and are unsure of where to turn.

          You mentioned feeling suicidal in the past and that you're feeling that way again. You're life is valuable and you don't have to go through this alone. If you're ever feeling that way don't be afraid to reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. You deserve to feel safe and like you have someone to talk to about how you're feeling.

          Do you have a counselor or other adult that you trust that you think you can confide in about everything or that can advocate for you to your dad? Or have you tried to talk to your mom about just how severely it all is affecting you? We have a conference call service here where a liner could mediate a conversation with you and your parents to help it be more constructive and allow you to speak your feelings. If that is something you'd be interested or you just want more support from us you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or visit us at www.1800runaway.org. We can try to walk through the different options that you have.

          Another thing you can consider is abuse reporting. While it is harder to prove emotional abuse, you deserve to not be mistreated at home. If you want advice or more information about reporting, you can reach out to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or at childhelp.org.

          Don't hesitate to call us if you need more support.

          Be safe,

          NRS
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

          National Runaway Safeline
          info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
          Tell us what you think about your experience!
          https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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          • Hello. First off my parents have been fighting for as long as I can remember. And last year in November they finally broke up. Then my mom found a boyfriend in December then I go to my mom’s house one day and I don’t have a room anymore. So I go upstairs and he is all moved in. He has the most annoying son ever! He slapped me on my hand with a sandal! And he is in 1st grade!! Then my dad gets a girlfriend. She was cool at first but now she is here literally everyday! And my dad kicks me out of the room because me and my dad share a room. Then on this past Monday the Thomas fire came. We got evacuated and guess who was there my dad’s girlfriend! I don’t know what to do! What do I do?

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            • ccsmod5
              ccsmod5 commented
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              Thanks so much for writing in. It sounds like there’s a lot of intense change going on in your life now, not to mention the scary situation of the fire. It seems like you’re a bit frustrated with the way that your parents’ new partners are impacting your life. You might consider talking to each of them about how these changes have been making you feel. You might enlist a therapist, guidance counselor, or another adult you trust to help you communicate your boundaries and needs to your parents. You might also consider writing up a “family contract” that outlines what you need from your parents and vice versa (ex: maybe mom or dad can give you a heads up before their partners stop by or maybe you have a day out of the week that is just you and your mom/dad without their partners). If you need help having this discussion, we at the National Runaway Safeline offer a conference call service where one of our trained crisis workers can help you have that conversation and advocate on your behalf. If you’d like to talk about your situation more specifically, please feel free to give us a call 24/7: 1-800-786-2929. Please stay safe and best of luck.

          • Parental Issues

            Dear National Runaway Safe Line,
            Life with my parents has been extremely stressful since I was around 6 years old, and I'm turning 13 in a Month. I've always felt as if I don't belong. I lost my brother around that time, but he had another twin that had survived. I've always felt as if he had more attention than I do, mainly due to the age and stuff like that.
            Just recently, Me and my best friends, had lost connections. So I've been stuggling to keep everything together without trying to harm myself or others. My mother is part of the reason they are not in my life. She made me ignore their messages, unfriend them on social media. Ever since then my mother, has put a password on my cellphone leaving me no way to contact anyone unless using Siri, which doesn't always work.
            My parents, make me feel as if I am worthless. Throughout the years I have gone to counciling, for us. But my mother had cancelled all of the Appt.'s. I've tried experiments where I stayed at friends or familys houses for peirods of times, and I felt happy at those places but when I'm at my home, It's like all of that disappears once I have a conversation with someone, MY mother tends to rise her voice and cause arguments, telling my I have attitude when I'm Just trying to have conversation. Her and my father have been arguing about this for a while now too. I have even heard them yell at eachother, saying stuff like "This is why I want a divorce. I know this is probably confusing and there is more too it. But I'm just too tired from crying and staying up late doing homework do to the fact I can't do it during the day. I do hope I can live with someone else other than them, who can make me feel happy, without all the stress of fighting and crying and sadness. Thanks
            Please Help me.
            ~Anna

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            • ccsmod5
              ccsmod5 commented
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              Hi, Anna,
              It sounds like you’ve been through a lot in the past six years and it takes a lot of courage to reach out for support. You absolutely deserve to feel loved and supported at home, and it’s not okay that your mom has cut you away from your support system (both your friends and your counselor). We want you to know that you are not alone, that you are important. Your feelings and thoughts matter. You matter and deserve to feel happy.
              You mentioned that you’ve been struggling to keep everything together without trying to harm yourself or others. If you ever feel like you’re in immediate danger of hurting yourself or others, you can call 9-1-1. You might also consider reaching out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.
              You’ve mentioned that you would like to live somewhere else and that you’ve tried staying with other people before. If your parents would allow you, you might consider staying with friends or other family members.
              If you want to talk about your situation more specifically, we’re always here to listen and to help. Our number is 1-800-786-2929. Best of luck to you, and stay strong.
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