being kicked out

[ccsmod13]

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like your friends have been put into a very difficult spot. We appreciate you reaching out on their behalf to find out more information on their situation.

We are not legal experts, so we can only speak generally on your friend's situation. Because your friends are both minors, their dad has a legal obligation to ensure they are safe and cared for. Kicking minors out of the home without arranging an alternative living arrangement can be considered neglect. Your friends do have the option to make a report with child protective services. We cannot predict exactly what steps CPS might take or what the outcome of investigation would be. After making the report, the priority would be finding your friends a safe place to stay. This could be at a youth shelter, temporary foster care placement, or with a family member they feel safe with. Generally speaking, CPS does do their best to place siblings together since their goal is to keep families together rather than to separate them. As you mentioned, this is not always possible depending on the circumstances. Each case is different, so we can't say exactly what might happen. Child Help is an organization that protects minors from being harmed and may know more about the reporting process and foster care placements. www.childhelp.org

We are available 24/7 by phone and live chat if you or your friends would like to talk more. 1-800-RUNAWAY; 1800runaway.org

Take care,
NRS

Hi one of my friends dad kicked out his 14 year old daughter and his 17 year old son we are currently having him stay with my boyfriend but my question is that we had text proof of this being kicked out can we get his father sent to jail and what would happen to the siblings if they got sent to foster care because they have been In Forster care before and separated

[ccsmod5]

Hi there,

We’re sorry you’re going through this situation. You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. Being kicked out as a minor can be counted as a form of neglect and abuse, you do not deserve to be kicked out or threatened to. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
Take care,
NRS

My mom is trying to kick me out know and I'm only 14 what do I do

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to contact us us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. It sounds like there is a lot that you are facing right now and you are considering leaving your current living arrangement. We are glad to hear that you are physically distanced from your mom and stepdad. You discussed not being safe at home and not being believed when you spoke up about the abuse. We want you to know that we believe you and you do not deserve anything that has happened to you. It is never okay for anyone to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or that you do not consent to. You were very brave for continuing to speak up about what your step dad was doing.

You mentioned wanting to know more about laws regarding youth in crisis and what might happen if you leave without your mom's permission. If you leave without permission, your mom can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal so you will not get into any legal trouble. However, it is a status offense which means your mom can ask police to return you home if she knows where you are staying.

You do have the right to make another report to child protective services about the recent incidents with your step dad. We know that navigating child protective services can often be frustrating and sometimes even disappointing when they don't intervene in the way you were hoping. It can sometimes take multiple reports in order for a caseworker to intervene and take more significant steps. If this is an option you would like to pursue, you can speak with an advocate at Child Help to learn more about the process and for help with making the report. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed.

Getting a job is definitely a good step toward being more independent and being able to financially support yourself. It can sometimes be challenging to obtain copies of your birth certificate, ID and social security card and the process can vary by state. Some states do allow minors to obtain a state ID and copy of their birth certificate without a parent or guardian. The National Network for Youth has a guide for each state on how you can obtain these documents. https://nn4youth.org/learn/resources/state_ids/

One really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support and resources that you may find helpful. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk or want to explore your options further.

Be safe,
NRS

I am 16 and live in clark county nevada. My biological dad dropped his rights of me a while ago. My mom is bipolar and she is unmedicated for it, and she can get very on edge with me specifically. My stepdad had exposed my chest so he could look at my boobs, and slapped my ass frequently from when I was 12 to when I was 14. Once he came into my room, I pretended to be asleep, and he kissed me on the lips. My mom doesn't want to believe me and I lost my case on it already. CPS told my mom that she needs to have me in therapy or they could take me away, but after I attempted suicide she decided I don't deserve therapy, and refused to take me to the hospital. In november I had done something I wasn't supposed to, and my stepdad scared me by yelling at me to show him my vagina and to look at his dick while I cried. The next day I told him he was a child molester, and his response was that he never put his dick in me he had only thought about it. My mom does not want me to live with her anymore, so I am staying with my half-brother's dad. I still don't think this is the best situation though because it is very stressful and painful to be around her, and she still has full reign of me while I stay here. I don't know what any of my options are, but I just can't stay here any longer and I don't know what to do. I considered getting a job to save up to be emancipated, but she refuses to let me, and has my birth certificate and ss card, which has been preventing me from being able to work. I am scared that if i try to leave my mom will call my school to find me or call the police and force me to go back so I dont know what all I can do

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

Hi I'm 10 years old and my mom is trying very hard to kick me out of the house and I'm scared she hit me like 20 times on different spots and I want to run away

[ccsmod15]

Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation right now, and it is good you have sought some help.
We are very sorry to hear you have been kicked out of your house. You do not deserve this. You must be feeling a lot of things right now. You also do not deserve to be verbally abused. Especially given that you have evidence of your being thrown out, you might consider reporting what is going on at home to CPS. If you need help with this, or need help understanding what it looks like, you can always contact Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. They specialize in helping keep young people safe from abuse and can help you come to a decision that is right for you. You can also call us at any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY to file an abuse report.
Only you can decide whether or not to return home. It may be important to think about where you will go, how you will get there, and what you will do to survive if you end up staying away from home for a while. We can talk through your options with you if you call us. It may also be important for you to consider that if your parents report you as a runaway to the police, the police can make a good faith effort to find you and bring you back home. It is not illegal to run away, however. You may think about ways to procure consent to leave home from your parents so that you may avoid police involvement. With consent, you would not be committing any kind of offense. They did throw you out, so this may be a viable option for you. We can also serve as a mediator if you ever want to talk to your parents about the situation. We are available 24/7 to mediate a conference call: All you need to do is reach out to us to initiate.
We hope some of this information is useful to you. We can better serve you with resources in your area if you ever want to contact us and provide us with some demographic information. Whatever you do, we hope that you stay safe and stay strong. You can count on us, whenever you need.

Sincerely,
NRS

I got kicked out earlier (have message proof), verbally abused for a very long time, threatened, got told to lull myself and hopes i would die. Now everything is trying to be taken back... parents are making me seem insane so they don’t look bad. currently staying at a friends overnight but got told i need to be home tomorrow by 11 or i’m “their problem”, but i will not be returning home. what can happen? what are my options?

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

I’m in Florida right now and my mom got a bf and had two kids with him I always have issues with her cause she’s bipolar and gets mad at every little thing and all of my family knows how she is we try to tell her to get therapies but she gets mad when we ask and the other night I was eating food that I ordered I didn’t eat the whole day I was starving and so the order finally came I started eating she came in my room and told me to give some to my brother I said I was rlly hungry I didn’t eat anything and she literally took my wings large drink and fries threw em in the trash. So she kicked me out after and I had no other choice but to leave so I did just that and now she’s threatening me that she’s gonna say I was a run away when she kicked me out she’s basically gonna lie I don’t know what to do and I really want to finish high school but I can’t with her like this i don’t know what to do help?

[ccsmod6]

Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry that it sounds like your mom has been treating you in a pretty unfair way and that you have had a really rough time recently.

Unfortunately, because you are a minor, your mom does have the right to determine where you live whether that is with her or with someone she approves of. However, your mom does not have the right to kick you out as it is also her legal responsibility to make sure you are taken care of. Kicking you out and refusing to take care of you would constitute neglect, a form of abuse.

You can try to convince your mom not to send you away to your grandfather, but unless she changes her mind, you may be forced to go.

If you want to talk more about what is going on and what options you might have, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

Take care,
NRS

I’m 15, my mom kicked me out. I am currently in the process of getting a job just need a picture ID and I’m getting on my feet, now she’s trying to send me away to her dads in another state, even after she kicked me out. Can she do that? Can I fight for her not to?

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It sounds super frustrating and confusing to have them send you such mixed signals about leaving home.
Leaving home is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

It seems like your stepmom and dad don't fully understand how their actions and words have been affecting you. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your dad and stepmom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. immYou can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

Stay safe,
NRS