Probation runaway

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Hi, my son is 17 and was adopted when he was 4 due to the fact that I got into some trouble with the law and had to go to jail. Back then I left my son with family members who abused him, which I had no idea, but when I found out I reported it which left me to deal with the state due to the severity of the crime, so im still in jail while all this is going on. My foster brother and his wife offer to take my son in so I let them then they asked for open obtion I agree to open obtion because I didnt know the law. I get out of jail change my life around for the better then went to see my son, and they wont let me see him. I didnt get along with my brothers wife so being that she wouldnt let me see my son. We faught for several years because my son was telling me how they would treat him, so I would go to them and question my sons claim. They took me to court to get a restraining order to keep me away from my son. They lie on me to keep me away and I never did nothing ever to harm my child. So I stay away for a few years then my son gets into trouble, and goes to training school for awhile then gets out, and probation. I move back in town my son runs away then calls me and tells me hes tired of them beating him and slaving him, and that he rather be in jail!!!! As a biological mom with no rights to her son and my brothers wife hates me, and I dont know what to do besides make him turn hisself in to probation and let them decide what to do, but I know my brothers wife will try to say I made my son run away and I didnt. I feel so bad for my son, and I want to hwlp, bur I donr know what to do because I dont want any trouble I have just finished a trade school and managing a salon. I dont want to ruin my career, and my brothers wife will try to mess it up by making it seem as if im the cause for all my sons troubles, and the truth is my son just wants to come home. I have another son with me at home who is seven, so its not that im a un fit mom, I just signed a paper I didnt know about due to diress, please help me!

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Thank you for reaching out to us and telling us about what is going on. It sounds like you are in a very difficult situation right now and it was very brave of you to reach out to us. Unfortunately, we aren’t legally trained here so we wouldn’t be able to tell you what you could do but we can discuss what options may be available to you.

It sounds like your son was adopted by some family members when he was 4 because you went to jail. It also sounds like he was being abused in that situation so you transferred the adoption to some other family members because you felt that it would be a better situation for him. We are sorry to hear that things are so difficult for your family right now; it seems like you were trying to do the best thing for him while you were in jail. It seems like now, you have gotten your life in order and are managing a salon now so you are concerned about what your next steps should be since your son ran away while on probation. Again, we are really sorry that you are in this situation.

You said that your son has the option of turning himself into his probation officer and seeing what they can do for him. Have you talked with him about this option? Another thing he may be able to do is go to a shelter so he’s not on the streets but they may also be able to help him file a report and sort things out. If he’s interested in filing an abuse report, he can give us a call here and we can definitely help him out as well.

It sounds like you have a bad relationship with your sister in law and that she is making things more difficult for you. What about your brother, do you think you would be able to talk with him?

Here at the National Runaway Safeline, we are a confidential and anonymous crisis line for runaway and homeless youth. You or your son can reach us 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); we also have online chat services that are available from 4:30 PM-11:30 PM (CST) if you would rather talk with us that way instead.

We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck.

~NRS