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Title explains most of it. Sorry if this isn't the best place to ask, I don't know anywhere else that could deal with this situation...
My parents are incredibly conservative, and closed-minded. I've dealt with incredible pressuring, and borderline emotional abuse throughout my childhood, but that's not all that relevant. The thing to note though, is that they do not negotiate, or consider anyone else's view- bringing it up or trying to compromise has only resulted in yelling and punishment until I give up.
I keep in contact regularly with a few friends who live around the country - we met at a convention a few years ago, and have grown close over the years, with regular talking and visits back and forth.
My parents, however, are of the view that "internet friends" are nothing but lecherous perverts who are out to take advantage of me- to be fair, they mean well and are just being protective, but this view prevents them from hearing anything I have to say, because I just don't know what I'm talking about.
For the last year, I've been visiting for usually a week at a time, telling my parents that I was at a school friend's place, or going camping with them, etc. I wish I didn't feel like I had to defend my friends from everyone because they're long-distance and on the internet, but nothing has ever happened, or come close to happening, and they are very nice people.
One of them invited me (and someone else, but she won't have a problem coming) to her place for the rest of the summer, a period of about two months. I don't think I could find an excuse suitable enough for my parents to believe it, and I'm sick of constantly going around their back anyway, but trying to get them to accept what I'm doing will absolutely not happen.
The last time I asked to visit one of my friends in the next state over, me and my dad were driving at the time. After some back-and-forth, which was like talking to a brick wall, he pulled over and screamed in my face, refusing to start again until I said that I wouldn't go. It was incredibly dehumanizing, and the complete lack of effort on his part to consider my view or even think about it was frustrating as well.
I've gained more confidence since then, and now plan to tell them my intentions, and leave. However, I'm concerned about the legal ramifications of this.
I know a runaway is legally defined as someone who leaves home, without consent, and without the desire to return home. However, I do intend to come back when my visit is over, so I can finish my last year of school (I'm 17). Could they still call the police because I left without consent? Could any legal trouble come to my host? Is there any way I or my friend could fall under legal trouble?
Thanks for the time, sorry it was long.
My parents are incredibly conservative, and closed-minded. I've dealt with incredible pressuring, and borderline emotional abuse throughout my childhood, but that's not all that relevant. The thing to note though, is that they do not negotiate, or consider anyone else's view- bringing it up or trying to compromise has only resulted in yelling and punishment until I give up.
I keep in contact regularly with a few friends who live around the country - we met at a convention a few years ago, and have grown close over the years, with regular talking and visits back and forth.
My parents, however, are of the view that "internet friends" are nothing but lecherous perverts who are out to take advantage of me- to be fair, they mean well and are just being protective, but this view prevents them from hearing anything I have to say, because I just don't know what I'm talking about.
For the last year, I've been visiting for usually a week at a time, telling my parents that I was at a school friend's place, or going camping with them, etc. I wish I didn't feel like I had to defend my friends from everyone because they're long-distance and on the internet, but nothing has ever happened, or come close to happening, and they are very nice people.
One of them invited me (and someone else, but she won't have a problem coming) to her place for the rest of the summer, a period of about two months. I don't think I could find an excuse suitable enough for my parents to believe it, and I'm sick of constantly going around their back anyway, but trying to get them to accept what I'm doing will absolutely not happen.
The last time I asked to visit one of my friends in the next state over, me and my dad were driving at the time. After some back-and-forth, which was like talking to a brick wall, he pulled over and screamed in my face, refusing to start again until I said that I wouldn't go. It was incredibly dehumanizing, and the complete lack of effort on his part to consider my view or even think about it was frustrating as well.
I've gained more confidence since then, and now plan to tell them my intentions, and leave. However, I'm concerned about the legal ramifications of this.
I know a runaway is legally defined as someone who leaves home, without consent, and without the desire to return home. However, I do intend to come back when my visit is over, so I can finish my last year of school (I'm 17). Could they still call the police because I left without consent? Could any legal trouble come to my host? Is there any way I or my friend could fall under legal trouble?
Thanks for the time, sorry it was long.
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