Announcement

Collapse
No announcement yet.

17 year old, nowhere to go. Help?

Collapse
X
  •  
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • ccsmod4
    replied
    I'm 17 years old and I live in California

    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
    We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about how you have been feeling and what you are going through.
    You are very brave for doing so. Good for you.
    NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.
    We are here to listen and here to help.

    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. Again we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat.
    If you would like to speak more about your situation and explore options for help, please call or chat.

    Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


    Take care,
    NRS

    Leave a comment:


  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    I'm 17 years old and I live in California with my mom. Two years ago I got into trouble because I was using social media and other things and I'm still unable to go anywhere with my friends, when I ask to go to a school function I can never go, I can't even stay after school to work on a project with a partner because she doesn't trust me at all. I can't even take my phone to school I can only use it at home. I go to school and home and sometimes I go a couple of places with my mom or my sister but I mostly just stay home. I often feel depressed and stay in my room when I'm home because I cry when I'm alone. Even though I'm a senior and I will turn 18 next year in August I can't take it anymore. It may sound like I'm exaggerating but I feel like I'm on house arrest even when school is really boring and people are annoying I would much rather be there then go home because I feel so alone like I can't do anything. I can't even talk to my friends from school on my phone when I am home and I don't know how much more I can take of my constant pain that is very much hidden inside me. I think about running away but I don't know where I could go maybe a friends house or something. For the sake of my mental health and my happiness is there somewhere I can go like a foster home or a place where I can stay without being forced back home until i turn 18 because getting emancipated takes too long and i can't support myself on my own.

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a pretty difficult time. No one deserves to be treated badly and we are sorry to hear you haven’t been treated the best.
    It is great that you have a job that pays well and that you are graduating early. You are correct if you do leave home before 18 your mother could file you as a runaway and you would need to go back home. One option to consider is emancipation, which would allow you to leave home before turning 18. You can find out more about the emancipation process by calling your local court house or by calling us and we can provide legal aid information.
    Another option to consider is speaking with your school counselor about what is going on, sometimes speaking with a professional can help you come up with options. Also you could try saving up until you have enough money to have a place of your own.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore your options please let us know. We wish you the best of luck in your situation!
    NRS

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    I’m a 17 year old and im planning on leaving my house soon. im graduating early (in January) and i wanna leave my house right after i graduate because many problems going on in my house, im always arguing with my mom and my step dad treats me like ******** and all of my siblings horribly. the only problem is that i don’t turn 18 until July. I’ve been asking my friends if i could move in with them until I’m 18, but it seems i have no where to go. my mom has told me she can’t wait until i move out and leave, but she said if i tried too “runaway” she would call the cops, and ik i would have to come back home. but i can’t be here anymore, it’s actually killing me. I have a good paying job and my grades aren’t that bad, so i know im going to be fine. i just don’t know what to do. sorry if this doesn’t make much sense, im bad at explaining things, but if there’s any advice for me, please let me know

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re going through a lot at home with your mom. It must not be easy to live at home when you know your mother wants to kick you out. It’s good that you’re reaching out to figure out what you want to do if your mother follows through on her threat.
    If you’re thinking about getting an apartment on your own when you turn 18, have you thought about the upfront costs it may take? Many times apartments request either security deposits or move in fees on top of the first month rent. Some places may even require first and last months rent. Would you be able to cover those costs with your current job? Would it be possible to stay with your boyfriend or a friend temporarily as you look to find a place? These are some of the questions that you may want to think through as you look to get your own apartment.
    You also mentioned that you were thinking about going back to NY. How would you get there? Would you have a place to stay? Do you have an idea of how you would survive (e.g. food, transportation, etc.). These are some things to think about as you explore your different options. If you’d like, feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), and we can discuss and explore all of your alternatives.
    Another resource that may be helpful in finding housing is www.211.org. It also has access to additional local resources that can help with a wide variety of areas, such as housing, food, crisis, etc.
    Again, thank you for reaching out, and we wish you the best of luck. We’re here 24/7 and are confidential, so if you want to explore your options or just need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or you chat with us online at www.1800runaway.org.

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    I am 17 at the moment and my mom plans on kicking me out at 18 in May I want to get a apartment but I'm obviously not old enough to do so and my boyfriend at the time isn't so into moving in with me but he's my only chance we both work and all I've been thinking about leaving and going back to NY but I'm unsure I'm in Michigan by the way...

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod13
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,

    We are really glad you found our website and decided to reach out. Asking for help is a good first step. Leaving can be a difficult decision to make, but you know your situation better than anyone. You are brave for acknowledging that home was a negative environment for you and you needed to leave. Getting an apartment before you turn 18 will be tough without your parents signing the papers for you. If you cannot find another family member to help you with getting your own apartment, a transitional living program could be a really great option for you. Transitional living programs are long term housing programs that provide you with the support that you need to get a job, continue with education, and work toward being able to live independently. We can help connect you with resources in your area and call them with you.

    We are here 24/7 by phone (1-800-786-2929) and chat (1800runaway.org) if you want to talk more about your options or if you would like us to connect you with a youth shelter.

    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    Okay so im at 17 year old female in butte county, California and i needed to leave because my home was just emotionally draining for me. And then my mom reported me as a runway, but it was cleared. I need to get an apartment but the only way for me to do that is if i get emancipated but my parents wont sign the papers what do i do?

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - it's not fair of your mother to spend money that is meant to help you on herself. Just so you know, she is legally obligated to provide your basic necessities (like food and shelter) and if she kicks you out of the house it can be considered neglect. If you'd like you do have the right to report the neglect. You can find out more information on how to report by going to https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Some areas have youth shelters and transitional living places that may be able to provide you with either short or longer-term housing. Often times, these shelters also offer case management services so you can work with someone to help you to achieve whatever your goals may be (education, employment, etc.). If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d us to look for youth shelters/transitional living places near you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    I’m 17 years old and my mom is kicking me out of the house even though it’s not hers. We have been homeless bouncing from place to place living with family, she doesn’t get enough food for all of us and spends all of me and my sisters child support money on herself or my youngest half sister. She said she is tired of having to deal with me and said I have to be out by the end of the week... it’s Thursday. I just started a job and I will now no longer be able to get back and forth to work so I can’t be emancipated especially since I’m still in school and the workload is enough stress. My family members won’t take me in because of their hatred for my mother. I have nowhere to go. Is there anyway students could get housing and assistance? I will be 18 in 6 months.

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod13
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. It takes a lot of strength to ask for help and reaching out is a really good first step. It sounds like your mom has not been very supportive of you and is not understanding of how you have been feeling at home. It is really great that you try to make sure other people are okay and you also deserve to be take care of. We are here 24/7 to listen and help. You can call or chat with us anytime if you need someone to talk to about how you have been feeling at home. You know your situation best, so if you feel like leaving to live somewhere else will be beneficial for you we can help talk through some possible options with you. We want to make sure you are somewhere you feel safe and supported. Please do no hesitate to reach out at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org so that we can best help you. We look forward to hearing from you soon!

    -NRS

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    Life hurts I’m a 17 year old with a good heart. Wondering why I always get treated like I don’t mean anything to anybody. My mom I don’t know wassup with her forreal, she really trying to play like she don’t see me hurting. Everyday I’m going thru bs, I can ask her for $2 and she tell me she don’t have it, I tell her I’m hungry she doesn’t respond, I never been ungrateful I always cherished what I have. I always make sure others are okay but who make sure I’m okay ? No one I’m alone, I don’t have nowhere to go, I don’t have no one to help me

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod16
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi, Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. Your situation sounds very serious. Your parents have starved and abused you for such a long time and now have disowned you; you do not deserve to be treated this way. We are so sorry that you have been through all of this and, surely, more. You are so strong and such a survivor and have worked so hard to make it to this point, we hope that you can feel pride in all that you have accomplished.

    We hope that you can reach out to us via phone or chat so we can search for specific resources in your area; but for now perhaps checking something like Air B&B; or roommate searches for less formal options. You may be able to get around the age restrictions there. If you contact us, we can look up emancipation in your state; maybe you can somehow get an emergency court ruling. You can also access www.nationasafeplace.org and click on the “For Teens” tab and follow the instructions for either locating a designated Safe Place in your area, or connecting with a local youth crisis center.

    We would be better able to help you discover your options if we can converse with you. We are here to listen and to help, and you deserve to be believed and supported during this transitional time.
    You can reach us 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or through live chat via our website at www.1800runaway.org

    We hope this helps and that you will reach out to us over the phone or via chat.
    Sincerely, NRS

  • Guest's Avatar
    Guest replied
    Hello, I'm a 17 year old female and I have been abused my my parents for years. (CPS knows, but has done nothing) and this is a last resort for me. I have a job, and I go to college, but I cannot be leased out a place because of my age. I turn 18 in October, but as of right now, I have three days to leave. My parents have disowned me, and I can't stay here any longer. I have been starved for years, and am very sick. I have been hospitalized three times, and my parents don't help me. I am miraculously not in debt, and have good credit, but I can't find anyone to stay with. No friends can take me in. I recently found out my grandfather left me in his will, and not my father, and I will inherit everything. My father is furious and I feel like he's going to kill me for it. I'm scared, and I have nowhere to go. Please help.

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Often, youth may reach out to NRS in several different ways to discuss their situation. If a response from NRS is not visible to a bulletin posting it may be that we have already provided services to that individual through another platform we provide such as email, our crisis hotline, or our live chat service . NRS encourages anyone in need of assistance to contact us through our 24 hour crisis hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY to receive immediate support.
    Thank you, NRS
Previously entered content was automatically saved. Restore or Discard.
Auto-Saved
x
Insert: Thumbnail Small Medium Large Fullsize Remove  
x
x
Working...
X