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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, and sharing some of your story with us. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now. You do not deserve to be abused and we are sorry you are going through that. One option to consider would be to file an abuse report. You can file an abuse report by calling The Child Helpline at: 1800-422-4453. Another option to consider is talking with your school counselor about what is going on at home, because they are mandated reporters they would be required to make a report.
    You mentioned being killed or you killing yourself, we want you to know that your life is valuable and that you are worth living. If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 911 as soon as possible. If you are ever feeling suicidal you can call The Suicide Prevention Line at: 1800-273-8255. You do not have to face this alone there is help out there.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support to you. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    I'm 17 and my my mom is letting my brother verbally and physically abuse me and I need to get out before he kills me or I kill me and my mom wont do anything to help

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It's not OK for your parents to treat you like that and say such hurtful things to you. You mentioned that you were uninterested in contacting CPS because you had negative experiences before. Just so you know, if your parents do kick you out it is considered neglect and you can report it (you can also report any abuse as well, of course). If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Some areas have Transitional Living Programs (TLPs) that are longer-term living arrangements for runaway and homeless youth. TLPs are designed to help young people become independent and able to live on their own. TLPs vary in terms of services offered, eligibility and what the actual living situation may look like so it is usually best to speak with them directly to do an intake. You can call us directly and we can look for TLPs in your area. You can also check out the National Homeless Shelter Directory by going to https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/ to find shelters near you. Most often you have to be 18 to stay in the shelters listed on the site but you can always reach out to them to explain your situation and see if they can make an exception.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    I’m a 17 year old girl, I’m about to get kicked out soon by my parents. They say that I’m a burden to them, They have “other kids to take care of” and I’m “old enough” to go on my own since they’re sick of me. We get really bad arguments like every single day about wanting to get rid of me and such. I get really mistreated by them especially my mom. She treats me badly because a lot of reasons, especially I’m overweight, I “ruined” their marriage and really ugly since we look nothing alike. So she physically and emotionally abused me for years. My dad doesn’t even care. I tried taking to other family members and counselors about my situation, but no one believes me, since they believed my mom since she’s a “honest and a good person” even though that’s the complete opposite. So I always looked dumb every time, looking like a attention seeker. So my mom is kicking me out, I have no where else to go, and I have no other family members or friends to live with for a few days and my boyfriend lives in the UK, so I can’t live with him for a bit. I live in CA, I need a job but I have no Experience and I don’t want the cops or the CPS to be involved since I already went through that enough. I just really need somewhere to go. Please.

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  • ccsmod4
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    I'm 17 years old and I live in California

    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
    We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about how you have been feeling and what you are going through.
    You are very brave for doing so. Good for you.
    NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.
    We are here to listen and here to help.

    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. Again we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat.
    If you would like to speak more about your situation and explore options for help, please call or chat.

    Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


    Take care,
    NRS

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    I'm 17 years old and I live in California with my mom. Two years ago I got into trouble because I was using social media and other things and I'm still unable to go anywhere with my friends, when I ask to go to a school function I can never go, I can't even stay after school to work on a project with a partner because she doesn't trust me at all. I can't even take my phone to school I can only use it at home. I go to school and home and sometimes I go a couple of places with my mom or my sister but I mostly just stay home. I often feel depressed and stay in my room when I'm home because I cry when I'm alone. Even though I'm a senior and I will turn 18 next year in August I can't take it anymore. It may sound like I'm exaggerating but I feel like I'm on house arrest even when school is really boring and people are annoying I would much rather be there then go home because I feel so alone like I can't do anything. I can't even talk to my friends from school on my phone when I am home and I don't know how much more I can take of my constant pain that is very much hidden inside me. I think about running away but I don't know where I could go maybe a friends house or something. For the sake of my mental health and my happiness is there somewhere I can go like a foster home or a place where I can stay without being forced back home until i turn 18 because getting emancipated takes too long and i can't support myself on my own.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a pretty difficult time. No one deserves to be treated badly and we are sorry to hear you haven’t been treated the best.
    It is great that you have a job that pays well and that you are graduating early. You are correct if you do leave home before 18 your mother could file you as a runaway and you would need to go back home. One option to consider is emancipation, which would allow you to leave home before turning 18. You can find out more about the emancipation process by calling your local court house or by calling us and we can provide legal aid information.
    Another option to consider is speaking with your school counselor about what is going on, sometimes speaking with a professional can help you come up with options. Also you could try saving up until you have enough money to have a place of your own.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore your options please let us know. We wish you the best of luck in your situation!
    NRS

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    I’m a 17 year old and im planning on leaving my house soon. im graduating early (in January) and i wanna leave my house right after i graduate because many problems going on in my house, im always arguing with my mom and my step dad treats me like ******** and all of my siblings horribly. the only problem is that i don’t turn 18 until July. I’ve been asking my friends if i could move in with them until I’m 18, but it seems i have no where to go. my mom has told me she can’t wait until i move out and leave, but she said if i tried too “runaway” she would call the cops, and ik i would have to come back home. but i can’t be here anymore, it’s actually killing me. I have a good paying job and my grades aren’t that bad, so i know im going to be fine. i just don’t know what to do. sorry if this doesn’t make much sense, im bad at explaining things, but if there’s any advice for me, please let me know

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re going through a lot at home with your mom. It must not be easy to live at home when you know your mother wants to kick you out. It’s good that you’re reaching out to figure out what you want to do if your mother follows through on her threat.
    If you’re thinking about getting an apartment on your own when you turn 18, have you thought about the upfront costs it may take? Many times apartments request either security deposits or move in fees on top of the first month rent. Some places may even require first and last months rent. Would you be able to cover those costs with your current job? Would it be possible to stay with your boyfriend or a friend temporarily as you look to find a place? These are some of the questions that you may want to think through as you look to get your own apartment.
    You also mentioned that you were thinking about going back to NY. How would you get there? Would you have a place to stay? Do you have an idea of how you would survive (e.g. food, transportation, etc.). These are some things to think about as you explore your different options. If you’d like, feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), and we can discuss and explore all of your alternatives.
    Another resource that may be helpful in finding housing is www.211.org. It also has access to additional local resources that can help with a wide variety of areas, such as housing, food, crisis, etc.
    Again, thank you for reaching out, and we wish you the best of luck. We’re here 24/7 and are confidential, so if you want to explore your options or just need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or you chat with us online at www.1800runaway.org.

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    I am 17 at the moment and my mom plans on kicking me out at 18 in May I want to get a apartment but I'm obviously not old enough to do so and my boyfriend at the time isn't so into moving in with me but he's my only chance we both work and all I've been thinking about leaving and going back to NY but I'm unsure I'm in Michigan by the way...

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hello,

    We are really glad you found our website and decided to reach out. Asking for help is a good first step. Leaving can be a difficult decision to make, but you know your situation better than anyone. You are brave for acknowledging that home was a negative environment for you and you needed to leave. Getting an apartment before you turn 18 will be tough without your parents signing the papers for you. If you cannot find another family member to help you with getting your own apartment, a transitional living program could be a really great option for you. Transitional living programs are long term housing programs that provide you with the support that you need to get a job, continue with education, and work toward being able to live independently. We can help connect you with resources in your area and call them with you.

    We are here 24/7 by phone (1-800-786-2929) and chat (1800runaway.org) if you want to talk more about your options or if you would like us to connect you with a youth shelter.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Okay so im at 17 year old female in butte county, California and i needed to leave because my home was just emotionally draining for me. And then my mom reported me as a runway, but it was cleared. I need to get an apartment but the only way for me to do that is if i get emancipated but my parents wont sign the papers what do i do?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - it's not fair of your mother to spend money that is meant to help you on herself. Just so you know, she is legally obligated to provide your basic necessities (like food and shelter) and if she kicks you out of the house it can be considered neglect. If you'd like you do have the right to report the neglect. You can find out more information on how to report by going to https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Some areas have youth shelters and transitional living places that may be able to provide you with either short or longer-term housing. Often times, these shelters also offer case management services so you can work with someone to help you to achieve whatever your goals may be (education, employment, etc.). If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d us to look for youth shelters/transitional living places near you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    I’m 17 years old and my mom is kicking me out of the house even though it’s not hers. We have been homeless bouncing from place to place living with family, she doesn’t get enough food for all of us and spends all of me and my sisters child support money on herself or my youngest half sister. She said she is tired of having to deal with me and said I have to be out by the end of the week... it’s Thursday. I just started a job and I will now no longer be able to get back and forth to work so I can’t be emancipated especially since I’m still in school and the workload is enough stress. My family members won’t take me in because of their hatred for my mother. I have nowhere to go. Is there anyway students could get housing and assistance? I will be 18 in 6 months.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. It takes a lot of strength to ask for help and reaching out is a really good first step. It sounds like your mom has not been very supportive of you and is not understanding of how you have been feeling at home. It is really great that you try to make sure other people are okay and you also deserve to be take care of. We are here 24/7 to listen and help. You can call or chat with us anytime if you need someone to talk to about how you have been feeling at home. You know your situation best, so if you feel like leaving to live somewhere else will be beneficial for you we can help talk through some possible options with you. We want to make sure you are somewhere you feel safe and supported. Please do no hesitate to reach out at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org so that we can best help you. We look forward to hearing from you soon!

    -NRS
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