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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there, thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. From what you shared, it sounds like you’re in a really difficult situation and we are here to help you as best we can. It is very brave to share what has been going on and we truly do care about you. It seems like you are dealing with a lot and reaching out is a good step. We are going to bring up a few things and please don’t hesitate to reach out again as we are here 24/7 over our phone lines (1-800-RUNAWAY) and we also have an online chat system at 1800runaway.org.
    We are very sorry to hear the situation with your mom and sister. You are very strong for coping with your health complications on your own and getting the help you need and you do not deserve to be treated that way by your mom. It sounds like home with your dad now is not a good option and you have the right to reach back out to the case worker/police/Child Protective Services agency to let them know your dad’s home is not safe. Their priority is your safety and you mentioned you are being harassed and called names which is not okay. The case worker may work to find a better option for you to home you or try to reach out to your mom to talk about compromising and options to reconcile if that is something you want to pursue. Otherwise, they may look for options outside of the people you listed for them. These are just a few things that may happen and we are not experts but Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great place to call to get more specific information about what that next step might look like. They are the national child abuse hotline and can help talk about the process and next steps that may help.
    We are always here for you and it sounds like you are very mature and trying your best in a very difficult situation. If you are in a dangerous situation and need immediate assistance, don’t hesitate to call 911 or your health provider to get that help. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us over the phone or chat. We can talk further about what we mentioned or brainstorm other ideas. We really hope to hear from you soon.

    Best, NRS

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    Hello. I am in the worst predicament in my life that I have ever been in. And might I add, I have truly been through what some might call hell... I used to live with my mother and sister at my mother’s apartment until I started to have terrible health complications. My health issues have been ongoing for some months. My mom continued to cancel my doctors appointments and proceeded to neglect me. My health complications grew to be so severe that I had to get a ride to my local clinic just to explain my situation to one of the residing psychiatrists at the clinic. He had made a mandated report & requested that I move my belongings into my friend’s house. I was able to stay there for a week until I had to move my belongings out and back into my mother’s apartment. My mother and my sister was staying with my grandparents at their house. I had asked them why, but they wouldn’t tell me the reason. I had stayed at my house alone for five days. On the fifth day I was in so much pain that I had called the ambulance and they had taken me to the hospital. Throughout the course of being at the hospital a DCFS caseworker had showed up & told me that when I get released I will be going to the police station to speak with another caseworker. When I had gotten to the police station I had met my mother in a conference room along with the caseworker & a police officer. My mother had told the caseworker that she locked me out of the house and does not want me to stay there. I barely have any other family members whatsoever. So I was utterly saddened. The caseworker had asked me if I had anybody to stay with that I could think of. I made a very short list (with every possibility) and none of them answered. My dad, who hasn’t been in my life since I was two, had answered and said that I could stay with him for a week. It has been pure hell here... I have constantly been harassed & called names since I have been residing here. I am worried about my physical well being and my health issues are worsening. I have nowhere to leave from here, but the streets. I am in fear... Genuinely. Please help.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We can understand life is not easy and often times can be tough. We want you to know that we are here to help and listen as best as we can.
    From all the information you mentioned some options that are available to you are that you can call us at our call line (1-800-786-2929) or online on our chat option. From there we can give you more resources about where to find shelters, food pantries, transitional housing programs, etc. From there we can help give you information in specific as to your area and where to go. Another resource you can use is the National Shelter Directory (homelessshelterdirectory.org) and from there see any options around your area.
    We want to thank you again for contacting us and seeking help. We know how difficult life can be sometimes. Again you can contact us at (1-800-786-2929) or online at www.1800runaway.org on our chat option. We hope that you can find a suitable living place while you get back on your feet.
    Best Wishes-NRS

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    MY father died when I was younger, and my mother has lost her life to addiction. My aunt was always physically and verbally abusive so i left, I’m working now but I have no place to stay I’m only 17. What can I do?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi,
    Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a stressful situation and we’re so sorry to hear about how your dad has been treating you. Since you are a minor, your father is legally obligated to care for you and house you until you are an adult. If he is threatening to kick you out, that may count as neglect (though we are not legal experts). You might consider calling your local police and letting them know what’s going on before your dad has the opportunity to act like you ran away. Another resource that could be helpful is the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453.
    You might also consider staying somewhere else, like with a friend or another family member. Another option to consider is a transitional living program, or TLPs for short. TLPs are programs that can provide longer term housing (up to 18 months) and are designed to help young adults get on their feet. Keep in mind that you would need parental consent to enter one of those programs.
    Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful. If you have additional questions or want to talk more specifically about your situation, please feel free to reach out at 1-800-786-2929. Our lines are open 24/7, so someone will always be here to listen and to help. Good luck and stay strong!
    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    So I'm 16 years old with work experience I'm a sophomore in high school and my dad wants me to leave because I don't want to go with his to the social security office and he's demanding my first of the month check which I really don't care about and he's making it worse saying he's gonna file a report saying I lashed out and ran away so he can save his self my mom and most of my family doesn't want me is there any where I can live and get a job at ... please help me . Thank you for listening

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    thank you fr reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We're sorry to hear about your friend's situation but are glad that he has a friend like you looking out for him and trying to get him help.If he gets kicked out or is needing a place to stay, you or him would be able to call us anytime at 1-800-786-2929 and we would be able to locate the nearest shelters to him. We would also be able to help with other resources that might be useful to him and explore all of his options for youth housing.

    Don't hesitate to give us a call whenever he needs us.

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello my friend might be kicked out of his home because his mother isn't really that smart and she has two other kids to take care of and she doesn't really have room for a 17 year old he is still in school and I am helping him try to get a job and good grades and have some money to rent a living space I am trying to help him the best I could but I can not allow him to live in my home because. My own parents won't take him in so I am helping him now and getting him ready to leave his own home willingly or if he gets kicked out at 17 and I don't know where he could go if he gets kicked out at 17 and I want to help him please tell me where he can find a place to stay if he gets kicked out of his home.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a really hard situation and are unsure of where to turn. We want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and happy in your home. You mentioned wanting to leave your home before you are 18. We are not legal experts but generally speaking, if you leave while still 17, your guardians could file a runaway report and you could be returned home. There could also be legal consequences for whomever you stay with for what is called harboring a minor. One thing you can do is reach out to your local police to inquire how they handle runaway reports for 17 year olds. Some cities and departments treat them differently because a 17 year old is so close to becoming a legal adult. The way to get the most accurate information would be to call your local police non-emergency number and anonymously inquire about their practices. If you need help finding this number or want to talk to a liner about other options, we can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Best,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm 17 years old . i need to leave my house . My family make me sick . they are all americans . I'm getting sick because my brothers never let me sleep and they have emotional problems. . i want to leave . i need a healthy space. I don't even have more family . I was living in mexico for 15 years until my mom find me. I come here thinking this please could be perfect for learn English and finish my hig school . but i can be with them no more.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi, thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are so sorry to hear that your son’s friend is going through all of this. It sounds really stressful, but it’s great that you are trying to help her.

    If she needs immediate/emergency shelter, a good resource to start with is the Homeless Shelter Directory, www.homelessshelterdirectory.org. You can search for places near her and see if they will take teenagers. You can also check if they offer mental health or substance abuse counseling services. Another good resource that you can either use yourself or offer to her is the Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration at www.samhsa.gov or 1-877-726-4727.

    Other options for short-term shelter may include local churches, trusted friends or family members, or Salvation Army programs. For longer-term housing, you can search for Transitional Living Programs in her area or look at the U.S. Housing and Urban Development website at www.hud.gov for information on rental assistance, public housing programs, and more.

    Please feel free to reach out again if you have more questions or need further help, either through this forum, email, chat, or our hotline number at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). We are here 24/7 to answer your calls and completely confidential. Best of luck with everything!

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    Guest replied
    My son has a friend that's is a girl and her Mom has passed when she was 12 or 13, her Dad is nowhere to be found, she lived with her mom' parents and at 17 they kicked her out. She lives near Valdosta, GA. I m single mom with a 15 year old son so I cannot possibly take her in. She may habe some mental health and substance abuse issues, I'm not sure. I want to help. Where can she go or call?

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  • ccsmod11
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    It sounds like you are going through a difficult time, so we are glad you are reaching out to us in your time of need because we are here to help!

    You asked if you have to take this for a whole other year, and we want you to know that you have options. Because you are not the age of adult yet, if you were to leave home without her permission, your mother could have the option of reporting you to the police as a runaway. While running away isn’t illegal, it is considered a status offense because of your age. That means that she could press charges against anyone that takes you in. An option to explore if you are thinking of leaving home at the age of 17 without permission is to call the local police station’s non-emergency number! Sometimes police stations will not take a runaway report for people so close to 18, but calling is an option to check for yourself! Another way to avoid runaway reporting is to receive written or recorded consent from your mother.

    You mentioned that you have been having bad arguments with your mom and that you feel unwelcomed in your home. Have you discussed this feeling with your mother or discussed what is happening with another trusted adult? Sometimes having someone else to bounce ideas off before talking with a parent can help you navigate the trends you’ve seen in your discussions before. Another option may be to use our hotline if you don’t want to involve someone else you know (1-800-786-2929). You would be able to talk with one of our Liners and then, if you wanted to, we could conference call out to your mom. We would stay on the line to help keep the conversation productive between you two.

    You also mentioned that you would like to get a job and that you are interested in moving. It is great to have a plan! If you wanted to talk through your ideas on how to accomplish those goals, the number we mentioned can also be used to discuss those options 24/7!

    As we said, we are here to help, but also here to listen!

    Best of Luck!

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    Guest replied
    I'm 17 and have been having really bad arguments with my mom she is really stuburn and hates it when I'm right about something I really try getting through to her but logic is her enemy she just love screaming and switching topics to things that well like me getting a job and moving and I can tell she really means it when she said it I feel really in unwelcomed and like a stranger in my own home I've been trying hard to get a job but as a drop out with no experience it's not something comes easy I keep telling my self that when I turn 18 I'm going to just get a loan and use my formula to gain a 50% return but I'm really am just tired of this and really can't take any more I know many people wish they had a mother that's why I always try and see things from her perspective unfortunately she isn't so thought full is there something I can do or do I have to take this for a whole other year

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are concerned for you boyfriend and where he will stay next. We aren’t legal experts, but his parents are responsible for him until 18 and he has the right to call the police on them. In addition, if you or him call into us, we can look up shelter’s or TLP’s for him to stay at. We are open 24/7 and our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY. If you call into us, we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this!

    -NRS

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