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    Im 17, i been 2 years already living with my ex girlfriend and her parents. Me and her parents dont get along so much we bump alot of heads and when there mad at me they constantly bring up stuff like my parents or stuff in the past. My ex girlfriend mom kicked me out of the house today and she wants me gone by tonight. Is there anyways i can have a number to call that can help me find shelter

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's going on. You deserve to have a safe place to stay and it's not right for your social worker to fail to provide you with shelter. Your dedication to your work and education is very admirable and you are a strong and resilient person. As you stated, we are located inside the US and unfortunately, we are not knowledgeable about Canadian policies and laws regarding child welfare. It may be a good idea to reach out to https://kidshelpphone.ca/ for more information about your rights and resources available to you.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hello, I am a 17 year old male from Winnipeg Manitoba Canada. I see this is an American website but I need some help. I was taken into Child family services a year ago but was kicked on the street by my social worker about 3 weeks ago. I have been living in my car since. I work a minimum wage job but can't find an affordable place to live for what I make. My parents don't want me home and CFS through me on the streets. Everyone I call just says there's no services for me because I'm 17. I work really hard and love my job but I just can't afford rent right now. I really just want a place to live and school.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. Your situation sounds difficult, and you are brave to have reached out to us for help.
    It sounds like you have a number of things working in you favor, and yet with the recent eviction and trouble with money, you are not sure about how you will get on your feet. We are not legal experts here, but we do know that in general running away before you are a legal adult can technically be a status offense and police can become involved if your Mom were to report the incident. If you were able to reach out to a friend’s family or an extended family member (grandparent, Aunt, or Uncle), perhaps they can negotiate on your behalf with Mom. These might also be people to consider staying with while you figure things out. If these are not options for you, we can help you find a shelter or temporary living facility in which you might stay leading up to leaving for college. As these places are generally free or very low cost, it can help you to save the money you are making at your job for your future move to college. If you would like help with finding a place to stay, please call us at 1-800-786-2929.
    You are in the midst of a hard time, but you have taken a bold step to seek help. We hope you find this information useful. If you need something more, or just want to talk you can call us anytime. We are here 24/7 to listen and help. Good luck.
    Sincerely,
    National Runaway Safeline

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    I’m 17 and I need to “runaway”.

    My my mom can’t pay her part of the rent and we’re getting evicted. We live in HEB Texas but she is probably going to Amarillo for the summer. I have a job and a therapist and college starts in the fall and I can’t afford to do the move. I’m not sure if she’ll give consent to let me do anything and I don’t turn 18 until October. But I’m not technically a runaway because I’m 17 in Texas. I don’t know what to do. I have until Wednesday (6/26) to figure something out.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now. We are not legal experts but we do have general information on the laws.
    If you were to leave home without permission, your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police did find you they most likely would bring you back home. Also you mentioned being threatened to be kicked out of your home. Because you are a minor if you were to be kicked out that could be considered as neglect. You can make a report by contacting the police or calling Child Help Line at: 1800-422-4453.
    Running away is not a criminal offense it is a status offense that once you turn 18 it would be off your record. From our understanding running away would not affect you from getting a job or getting into school. There are other options other than running away. You could consider talking to someone you trust about what is going on at home such as a family member, friend, or school counselor. Also doing activities such as journaling, going on walks, or doing something you enjoy may help you cope with this situation.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    Hi there!, Im 17 and live in texas and was wanting to know what would happen if i move out of my home. Im tired of getting into stupid arguments, getting pivked on bc im bi, and other stuff. Like she always threatens to kick me out but im REALLY considering that move. So how does this affect on current school enrollment and jobs

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  • ccsmod11
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    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA.

    The helpline for those in India is:

    Childline India Foundation
    childlineindia.org.in

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Best, NRS

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    i am a boy of 17 i failed many times in maths in class 11 coz i was preparing for medicals so my father kickes me out legally , so now i want to have new parents and start a new life , i am in india west bengal now ...please i need your urgent help
    Last edited by ccsmod11; 04-13-2019, 01:57 PM.

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  • ccsmod9
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    . We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. It also sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hi I'm 17 years old i am a female and I love in Indiana in still in high school but I'm homeschooled online i love with my mom and 2 older brothers i hate everyone in my family my dad left us when I was like 11-12 anyways my mom is verbally and physically abusive she doesn't beat me as much not as she did Like 2 years ago now she just insults me tells me I'm fat and ugly that I'm stupid and never going to graduate high school and my brothers well they're both older then me I'm the youngest so brother number 1 he just started college so he s not home very much but when he was like he's treated me like ******** my whole 17 years of living so has brother number 2 he s a loser and has no job or anything so he's always starting problems with me verbally abusiving be behind my back and inform of my face and with my mother a lot of the time so basically i know it sounds bad but I hate all of them i don't care if the word hate is a bad word especially when towards your family but finding care your not in my shoes you weren't physically and verbally abused your whole life and I have no friends since I'm not in school anymore and I have no family my mom and he brothers sisters and dad don t get along therefore we don't talk donuts not like I have an aunt or an uncle to back me up they're strangers to me I don't even know them I have no one at least other people ya know have a nice aunt to go live with or cousin me I am completely alone i don't leave my room not ever not anymore especially recently out of a 24 hour day I leave my bed room maybe 4 times but I have to sneak out of it so I don't have to see my mom or my brothers faces ...I hate my life I really do I'm suicidal all the time I don't have a job never had one so no job experience and I'm not finished with hight school i want to drop out because my mom is right I'm to stupid to finish I'm not smart I'm really not I'm probably going to be nothing I am nothing theirs nothing unique about me I don't know what to do I keep trying to fight but I'm tired ok I'm so tired you don't even know and I know your probably going to respond saying something nice like thanks for reaching out but like idk i don't need a thank you I need help i need a place to live at i need some sort of adult figure i can talk to who actually is gonna be there for me if I want to run away but knowing my luck I'm going to have no one no one's gonna help me I'm a stranger ,thanks for reading i guess...bye

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out. It’s great that you’re so empathetic to the issues that your daughter’s boyfriend is facing. Harboring a runaway is a misdemeanor but the penalties and likelihood that you will be charged can vary greatly depending on location and circumstance. It was a really smart idea to reach out to the chief of police for advice, you can also try contacting your local nonemergency police line (normally you can reach them, by dialing 311). You also stated that the boyfriend’s mother refuses to let him back home. Refusing to provide for her son can be considered neglect and you (or anyone) can file an abuse report with CPS. If you’d like to find your nearest CPS office you can do so by going to childhelp.org. Additionally, you can always suggest that he contact us directly so we can go further in depth about his situation and look at resources that might be available to him. We can be reached 24/7 by chatting us online or by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here to listen and support as best we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    I have noticed that you mention on here that people can get in trouble for taking in a teenager with no place to go. I have a 17 year old teenager that is supposed to be coming tonight or tomorrow AM (its already 2AM) as he has no where to go. We also just had that polar vortex cold snap we are coming out of. He is my daughter's boyfriend which complicates things. He and my daughter up and moved out with some other "kids" - they are technically adults but they all went to school together (I think) and aren't that old. College age, I guess (but none are in college). His mother is absolutely awful, not enough room here to describe it but she goes from trying to be nice to him to treating him like dirt - and that is an understatement. Anyway, he got kicked out of the place he moved out to... which I saw coming as none of the kids had jobs and I truly think they thought that my daughter and her boyfriend were going to support them. Anyway, they were only there about a week, during which his mom has since told him that he is dead to her, to lose her number or block it or something... all sorts of stuff and they had no where to go. He turns 18 in about 2 months. I really can't take in another child easily, but his mom is awful and so I figure we can figure something out for 2 months... however, I am a little concerned that if the mom gets a bug up her butt that she will cause real issues. He does have a dad there too but his dad follows his mom on a lot of things and is disabled anyway. We live in a small town and I don't think the police would take the mom's side if they could possibly avoid it, but I don't know. We know the Chief of Police and my husband supposedly sent him a text tonight asking if we are ok to do so but haven't received an answer yet. I was looking for info on abandonment so the kid could start his life since he is so close to 18, but when I saw on here that you can get in trouble for taking in a minor I am getting nervous since he is to be coming within several hours. And his mom is one of those that maybe would cause a raucous, but then again she doesn't know where he is either so??

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS and having the strength to share your story with us. We are sorry to hear about your situation and about how your mother has been treating you. Ideally, home would be a place where people feel safe, loved, and valued, and you do not deserve to be treated that way. You’ve been very courageous to reach out for help and try your best despite the circumstances.

    You mentioned that your mother has kicked you out without an alternative safe place to live. As a parent, it is her job to provide you with a safe place to live while you are a minor. We understand that emotional trauma is difficult to work through and that reporting her for neglect may not be an option you are comfortable with. However, you do deserve to live in a safe place, and if you wanted to talk more about child abuse reporting or wanted support, Child Help (National Child Abuse Hotline) could be a resource for learning what reporting would look like. They are accessible by phone at 1-800-422-4453 and online at childhelp.org. School personnel, like counselors and teachers you trust could also be a resources for support.

    In terms of finding a safe place, we would encourage you to reach out friends and family if you haven’t already. Some things to consider would be guardianship, school enrollment, how you would take care of your needs (eating, sleeping, healthcare), and how you would care for your safety if something were to happen. If you were interested, we also offer conference-calling as an option, where we would mediate a constructive conversation between your parents and yourself in order to reach an understanding. An issue with shelters is that many may only allow a minor to stay with guardian permission, with a grace period in some cases. If you ever felt like your safety was threatened, the National Safe Place Network is accessible online at nationalsafeplace.org and by phone by texting 69866 (SAFE and location).

    We would love to talk more about the details of your situation so that we can work towards a solution that you find acceptable. If you would like to share more, please feel free to call our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or use our Live Chat.
    We hope this information was helpful and take care.
    National Runaway Safeline
    [email protected] (Crisis Email)
    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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    I’m 7 years old my mom just kicked me out and I have no where to go she wants me to stay but I am tired of always getting threatened to get kicked out so I just wanna leave what can I do

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