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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re going through a lot at home with your mom. It must not be easy to live at home when you know your mother wants to kick you out. It’s good that you’re reaching out to figure out what you want to do if your mother follows through on her threat.
    If you’re thinking about getting an apartment on your own when you turn 18, have you thought about the upfront costs it may take? Many times apartments request either security deposits or move in fees on top of the first month rent. Some places may even require first and last months rent. Would you be able to cover those costs with your current job? Would it be possible to stay with your boyfriend or a friend temporarily as you look to find a place? These are some of the questions that you may want to think through as you look to get your own apartment.
    You also mentioned that you were thinking about going back to NY. How would you get there? Would you have a place to stay? Do you have an idea of how you would survive (e.g. food, transportation, etc.). These are some things to think about as you explore your different options. If you’d like, feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), and we can discuss and explore all of your alternatives.
    Another resource that may be helpful in finding housing is www.211.org. It also has access to additional local resources that can help with a wide variety of areas, such as housing, food, crisis, etc.
    Again, thank you for reaching out, and we wish you the best of luck. We’re here 24/7 and are confidential, so if you want to explore your options or just need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or you chat with us online at www.1800runaway.org.

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    I am 17 at the moment and my mom plans on kicking me out at 18 in May I want to get a apartment but I'm obviously not old enough to do so and my boyfriend at the time isn't so into moving in with me but he's my only chance we both work and all I've been thinking about leaving and going back to NY but I'm unsure I'm in Michigan by the way...

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hello,

    We are really glad you found our website and decided to reach out. Asking for help is a good first step. Leaving can be a difficult decision to make, but you know your situation better than anyone. You are brave for acknowledging that home was a negative environment for you and you needed to leave. Getting an apartment before you turn 18 will be tough without your parents signing the papers for you. If you cannot find another family member to help you with getting your own apartment, a transitional living program could be a really great option for you. Transitional living programs are long term housing programs that provide you with the support that you need to get a job, continue with education, and work toward being able to live independently. We can help connect you with resources in your area and call them with you.

    We are here 24/7 by phone (1-800-786-2929) and chat (1800runaway.org) if you want to talk more about your options or if you would like us to connect you with a youth shelter.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Okay so im at 17 year old female in butte county, California and i needed to leave because my home was just emotionally draining for me. And then my mom reported me as a runway, but it was cleared. I need to get an apartment but the only way for me to do that is if i get emancipated but my parents wont sign the papers what do i do?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - it's not fair of your mother to spend money that is meant to help you on herself. Just so you know, she is legally obligated to provide your basic necessities (like food and shelter) and if she kicks you out of the house it can be considered neglect. If you'd like you do have the right to report the neglect. You can find out more information on how to report by going to https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Some areas have youth shelters and transitional living places that may be able to provide you with either short or longer-term housing. Often times, these shelters also offer case management services so you can work with someone to help you to achieve whatever your goals may be (education, employment, etc.). If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d us to look for youth shelters/transitional living places near you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 17 years old and my mom is kicking me out of the house even though it’s not hers. We have been homeless bouncing from place to place living with family, she doesn’t get enough food for all of us and spends all of me and my sisters child support money on herself or my youngest half sister. She said she is tired of having to deal with me and said I have to be out by the end of the week... it’s Thursday. I just started a job and I will now no longer be able to get back and forth to work so I can’t be emancipated especially since I’m still in school and the workload is enough stress. My family members won’t take me in because of their hatred for my mother. I have nowhere to go. Is there anyway students could get housing and assistance? I will be 18 in 6 months.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. It takes a lot of strength to ask for help and reaching out is a really good first step. It sounds like your mom has not been very supportive of you and is not understanding of how you have been feeling at home. It is really great that you try to make sure other people are okay and you also deserve to be take care of. We are here 24/7 to listen and help. You can call or chat with us anytime if you need someone to talk to about how you have been feeling at home. You know your situation best, so if you feel like leaving to live somewhere else will be beneficial for you we can help talk through some possible options with you. We want to make sure you are somewhere you feel safe and supported. Please do no hesitate to reach out at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org so that we can best help you. We look forward to hearing from you soon!

    -NRS

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    Guest replied
    Life hurts I’m a 17 year old with a good heart. Wondering why I always get treated like I don’t mean anything to anybody. My mom I don’t know wassup with her forreal, she really trying to play like she don’t see me hurting. Everyday I’m going thru bs, I can ask her for $2 and she tell me she don’t have it, I tell her I’m hungry she doesn’t respond, I never been ungrateful I always cherished what I have. I always make sure others are okay but who make sure I’m okay ? No one I’m alone, I don’t have nowhere to go, I don’t have no one to help me

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi, Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. Your situation sounds very serious. Your parents have starved and abused you for such a long time and now have disowned you; you do not deserve to be treated this way. We are so sorry that you have been through all of this and, surely, more. You are so strong and such a survivor and have worked so hard to make it to this point, we hope that you can feel pride in all that you have accomplished.

    We hope that you can reach out to us via phone or chat so we can search for specific resources in your area; but for now perhaps checking something like Air B&B; or roommate searches for less formal options. You may be able to get around the age restrictions there. If you contact us, we can look up emancipation in your state; maybe you can somehow get an emergency court ruling. You can also access www.nationasafeplace.org and click on the “For Teens” tab and follow the instructions for either locating a designated Safe Place in your area, or connecting with a local youth crisis center.

    We would be better able to help you discover your options if we can converse with you. We are here to listen and to help, and you deserve to be believed and supported during this transitional time.
    You can reach us 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or through live chat via our website at www.1800runaway.org

    We hope this helps and that you will reach out to us over the phone or via chat.
    Sincerely, NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello, I'm a 17 year old female and I have been abused my my parents for years. (CPS knows, but has done nothing) and this is a last resort for me. I have a job, and I go to college, but I cannot be leased out a place because of my age. I turn 18 in October, but as of right now, I have three days to leave. My parents have disowned me, and I can't stay here any longer. I have been starved for years, and am very sick. I have been hospitalized three times, and my parents don't help me. I am miraculously not in debt, and have good credit, but I can't find anyone to stay with. No friends can take me in. I recently found out my grandfather left me in his will, and not my father, and I will inherit everything. My father is furious and I feel like he's going to kill me for it. I'm scared, and I have nowhere to go. Please help.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Often, youth may reach out to NRS in several different ways to discuss their situation. If a response from NRS is not visible to a bulletin posting it may be that we have already provided services to that individual through another platform we provide such as email, our crisis hotline, or our live chat service . NRS encourages anyone in need of assistance to contact us through our 24 hour crisis hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY to receive immediate support.
    Thank you, NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 17 and pregnant, me and my boyfriend were kicked out of his house tonight and we have no place to go. And we need to take care of baby when he gets here. I am due October 15, 2019. We don’t own anything but some clothes and a TV and a PlayStation. I don’t have a job either.. can you help?

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  • ccsmod16
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    Thanks so much for reaching out. You are right that it is teenagers shouldn’t have to be the main caretaker for younger children. It sounds like you’ve had a huge amount of responsibility on your shoulders for a long time – going to school, taking care of your brother and other children, worrying about your mom and feeling unappreciated by your grandparents – and it’s understandable you’d be feeling overwhelmed and frustrated right now.

    Have you talked to anyone else about what things at home have been like for you? Since it sounds like your grandparents aren’t open to talking more about how to lighten the load for you (like hiring babysitters or making changes to the living situation), one idea might be to ask a teacher or counselor at school to talk with your grandparents with you. Without knowing more about your situation, one option could also be contacting your state’s Department of Child and Family Services and let them know what has been going on. If your grandparents are the legal guardians of the twins but you are actually the one taking care of them (and jeopardizing your education and health), then that’s not a safe situation for anyone and the authorities need to know.

    It might also be helpful to think about finding someone to talk to about how you’ve been feeling. Sometimes just getting things off your chest can be a big relief. Many schools have counselors, and we’re happy to help you find therapists or counselors in your area if you give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.

    We’re here for you 24/7 if you’d like to talk more about your situation or brainstorm other options.

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    Guest replied
    Hello, I will be 17 in August 12, 2019. But my home is too much to bare with. My grandparents don’t respect my brother and I, I have had enough. Me and my brother need some where to stay but I don’t have anything. No job, no money, maybe even no family. I feel like I have been trapped, I take care of twins that I was forced to do back in 2016 or 2015. I love them like they my own, but that’s not a teenage life. I shouldn’t have to take care of kids who aren’t mine and not get credit for it. My grandma always say I don’t do anything, I kept my grades up in school every year, never did I came to failing a class, and also came home to care for the twins. Nights I would so tired to even do my homework but I had it done. I even have to feed them when they are hungry. I don’t want to leave my brother here because I know they will be hard on him because I left. And I don’t want him to think I abandoned him, but I can’t stay here. And I also don’t the police to take me in foster care, because my mom isn’t able to care for my brother and I because she has cancer. My mom is in and out of the hospital for my whole life. I know it seems like I don’t value my life where I am but that’s not a life for a teen. Teens shouldn’t be forced to be a caretaker at a young age. Please help.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,

    Glad you reached out and sorry to hear about being kicked out. You can call us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we have a national database which includes shelter resources and we would be happy to look for you where you are located. Also calling 211 (funded by United Way) is your local information and referral line that would be available. A couple resources online to look at our nationalsafeplace.org, homelessshelterdirectory.org or agrm.org for more! We are here 24/7 and can talk to you further through a call or on our online chat to discuss next steps.

    Best of luck,

    NRS
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