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  • #76
    hi i am 15 years old and im try to move out from my moms house at age 16 am trying to move out to a other state with my boyfriend it will it bring problems cause of my age

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    • ccsmod3
      ccsmod3 commented
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      Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you want to leave home and live with your boyfriend out of state. While we are not legal experts at NRS, we can share some “rules of thumb:”

      “The age of majority” for New York state is 18 -- which is the age you legally have to be to leave home without your parent’s consent.
      It is not against the law to run away, but it is a status offense. If your parents file a runaway report and police know where you are, they could go to your location and require you to return home.
      If your boyfriend is old enough to be considered to be an adult, he could be charged with harboring a runaway -- which is against the law.

      It’s important to think about how likely it is that your parents would file a runaway report if you were leave home. If they do this, there are some serious legal issues to consider as explained above.

      Another thing to think about is your plan for school when you leave to live with your boyfriend. Fortunately, there’s legislation called the McKinney-Vento Act which allows you to enroll in school in another state without parental consent. You can reach out to the National Center for Homeless Education Helpline at 1-800-308-2145 for more information and assistance finding a school option in your area.

      We hope this response was helpful! We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey.

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      Please don’t hesitate to call us at the National Runaway Safeline if you’d like to discuss any of this further. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

      Best,

      NRS

  • #77
    I am 16 and live in NY.
    I have a boyfriend and we really want to get an apartment together. This is because his house and my house arent very healthy environments. Not in a legal way. Just we dont feel appreciated or wanted. I have done some research and found that there are different laws stating when and how a child can become emancipated. If i can prove my education will continue, have a job, and an arrangement for an appartment, would the courts rule in my favor? And if not, if i run away at 17 would they force me to go home. If they do make me go home can i just leave again?
    Last edited by ccsmod7; 03-22-2018, 01:31 PM. Reason: identifying information

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    • ccsmod7
      ccsmod7 commented
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      Hi, thank you so much for reaching out. Everyone deserves to feel loved and appreciated in their home, and wanting to leave one where that doesn't happen is perfectly reasonable. It sounds like you've looked into your situation, which is great! Having a plan will certainly be of help. While we aren't legal experts, we can try to give you the information you need.

      In the state of New York, emancipation is referred to as “the renunciation of parental rights to a child.” Although New York does not have a formal statute for acquiring emancipation, the minor can acquire emancipation if they are legally married, is in the armed services, is able to establish an independent home, or if the parents have failed to fill their parental obligations. The first step of emancipation is to petition your local court. Please call or chat us if you would like legal resources.

      As for running away, that's a little bit more complicated. At 17, you are still considered a minor. This means that if you were to run away, your parents would have the right to file a runaway report. Running away isn't illegal, this only means that if the police were to find you they would return you to your parents' care. And technically, if you were returned, there would be nothing stopping you from running away again. How seriously the police take the report may vary depending on your age and the police department, so calling your police department would give you a more definitive answer.

      Thank you again for reaching out and feel free to call us anytime at 1800RUNAWAY.


      We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think.

  • #78
    Hey I’m 17 I’ll be 18 in 47 days and was wondering if it was possible for me to move out without parental consent I have places I can stay and good people who would take me in but my mom will label me as a runaway even after she’s kicked me out I don’t know what to do from here can she have the people I’m staying with arested if I leave?

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      ccsmod3 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. Sounds like you are in a tough situation that has some grey areas when it comes to the legal aspects of running away. We aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, the most likely will return you home to your parents. Since you are so close to 18, the police officers may not even pursue. One thing you can do is reach out to your local non-emergency number and ask about runaway reporting at 17. The response varies from state to state. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring.

      We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY we are open 24/7.

      -NRS

      We hope this response was helpful! We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey.

      Tell us what you think about your experience!
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  • #79
    I am 17 going to be 18 in 137 days my mom threatens me a lot and she has hit me before in my face over a guy and she constantly abusing me physically mentally and emotionally i tried Running away but they bought me back i dont Want to be here no more and my boyfriend and his mother said it was perfectly fine that i stayed There what can i do Please help

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    • ccsmod2
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      Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it takes courage to seek help. We are sorry to hear that your mom is abusing you. Abuse is never okay, and you don't deserve to be treated that way. If you feel as though you are in immediate danger, we encourage you to contact the police. You have the right to report the abuse. You could contact Child Protective Services, they would conduct an investigation and if they determine that you home isn't safe they would remove you from your home. You mentioned that you have been thinking about staying with your boyfriend. Since you are a minor, if you leave home your mom has the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they may return you home. Running away isn't against the law but if you were to stay with your boyfriend, his mother could get charged with harboring a runaway. The easiest way to leave home would be with parental consent. You could try asking your mom if she would allow you to stay with another family member or close friend. Another option that you have is looking into emancipation laws for your state. Some police do not accept runaway reports for 17 year old's. You could contact your local police through their non emergency phone number to ask about their runaway policy. If you have any questions or just want to talk, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

  • #80
    I'm 15 years old and I'm transgender, my parents don't accept it and my one friend has already offered his place for me to stay.

    I really want to get out when I turn 16 in 5 months but I'm scared my parents will call the police. My mom already has CPS on her but I'm scared to speak up. She hits me with a belt until my head bleeds and has left bruises the size of pancakes on my arms. Is it legal for me to move out at 16 if I have a job?

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    • ccsmod6
      ccsmod6 commented
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      Hello,
      Thank you for reaching out to NRS! It takes a really strong person to share their story and ask for help. You do not deserve to be treated like that by your mom.
      It sounds like you are trying to leave home and stay with a friend, but you’re unsure about potential legal consequences. In most states, the age of majority is 18 years old. Therefore, your parents would be allowed to file a runaway report if you leave without their consent. We are not legal experts, so we cannot say exactly what would happen, but that means that if the police found you, they would be obligated to return you to your parents. You mentioned that there is a CPS investigation into your mom. If that is the case, the police would be less likely to return you home, and other options might be discussed. Getting a more specific answer from the non-emergency number at your police station would be helpful.
      Abuse is never okay or deserved. If you are interested in filing an abuse report or asking questions regarding legal proceedings or anything involving it, Child Help is a great resource to call (1-800-422-4453). They could also be helpful in answering questions about leaving your home with an investigation out on your mom.
      You mentioned that your parents do not accept you because of your gender identity. You deserve to feel loved and accepted by people in your life. It sounds like that is a difficult relationship to have. If you need someone to talk to, Trans Lifeline (1-877-565-8860) and the LGBT National Youth Talkline (1-800-246-7743) are helpful resources.
      Thank you again for reaching out to us! It sounds like you’re taking steps to ensure your safety and happiness. It takes a brave person to do so. If there is anything else you need, please give us a call anytime. We are 24/7 and confidential.

      Best of luck,
      NRS

  • #81
    Hi, I am 16 years old and am mentally abused by my father on a weekly basis. I will soon have my drivers license and I already have a job. My mom lives in Florida so I was hoping I could move in with my grandmother instead (in New York). Would I be able to move out, legally?

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    • ccsmod3
      ccsmod3 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you so much for contacting the National Runaway Safeline and for sharing your situation. I’m so sorry to hear about the situation with your dad – no child should have to deal with something like that.
      If you are being abused, we would first encourage you to contact the National Child Abuse Hotline. They can be reached at childhelp.org or over phone at 1-800-422-4453. They can provide resources to help you and make sure that you are safe. If you are ever in serious danger, please call 911.
      With regards to your question about moving out, while we are not legal experts, we can tell you that if you are a minor and you leave home without parental consent, your legal guardian would be obligated to file a runaway report. If your guardian did file a runaway report and the police found you, it’s somewhat difficult to know how the police would respond. One way to find out is to call your local non-emergency police number anonymously and ask them about their protocol in that sort of situation. If you did run away and the police found you, it’s unlikely they would knowingly put you back in a harmful environment. On the other hand, if your legal guardian did give you permission to move out, you would be free to do so with no legal issues.
      We will be best able to help you by understanding more details of your situation and talking it through live. You can reach us through our phone hotline or digital chat service. You can call our telephone hotline 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. This number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). We also have a chat service that is available through our website 24/7. By contacting us through one of these methods, we can also look up legal resources which might be able to provide further guidance for you and your situation.
      We hope to hear from you soon. Best of luck to you.
      -NRS

  • #82
    Hi I'm going on 17 in October and I'm wondering if I can move out I don't like living home and wanna stay with my boyfriend I don't feel welcome in my own home and don't wanna stay here I get verbally abused and I don't like it I try to stay strong bit its hard you get called mean and terrible names.

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    • ccsmod5
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      Hi, there,
      Thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a difficult situation and want to leave home. You absolutely deserve to feel welcome, loved, and supported in your own home. It’s not ever okay for someone to abuse you. It takes a lot of courage and strength to reach out—we understand how wearing and difficult it is to be in an environment where someone calls you mean and terrible names. Since you are still a minor, you would need parental consent to stay with your boyfriend. If you choose to leave without parental consent, your parents could file a runaway report and if the police are able to locate you, they will return you home. Another option you might consider is talking to your family about how you’ve been feeling lately; it could be possible that they don’t understand how they’re affecting you when they call you those names. Another idea would be asking for permission to stay with another person, like your boyfriend, a friend, or another family member. We know that can be a difficult conversation to have, so if you need help feel free to give us a call. We’re happy to help you practice what you might say or even mediate a conversation between you and one of your guardians. Feel free to call us any time you need for resources or support. Our number is 1-800-786-2929. Stay strong and stay safe!
      --NRS

  • #83
    Hey, I am 17 turning 18 in six months. I am African and my last 10 months I was in Africa that’s where my father lives my mom lives here and parents are trying to force me to go back but I truly don’t want to on my senior year all I want to do is graduate is there a way for me to separate from my parents and stay in the us and yes I’m a us citizen
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 08-25-2018, 01:40 AM.

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    • #84
      Reply: Hey, I am 17 turning 18 in six months.

      Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline;
      it was very brave of you to reach out for help. It sounds like you and your family have been going through so much. While we are not legal experts here, we can talk in general about emancipation and guardianship. In the US, the legal age of majority, or the age at which someone is considered to be an adult, is 18 years old. Until then the youth’s parents or guardians are legally responsible for and able to make decisions for them.
      Someone under the age of 18 can legally become separated from their parents through emancipation. This is a legal process through the court system that allows a minor to become his own legal guardian. This process can take some time and there are specific criteria that a youth needs to meet in order to qualify.

      In the state of New York emancipation is referred to as “the renunciation of parental rights to a child”. Some criteria that could allow a youth to qualify for consideration for independence include legal marriage, enlistment in the armed services, ability to establish an independent home, and/or if the parents have failed to fulfill parental obligations.
      Contacting an attorney or legal aid resource is the most reliable way to find out more about emancipation and to give you an opportunity to discuss your specific situation.

      In New York, both Brookhaven Youth Bureau (631-654-787 and Dutchess Co. Youth Services (845-486-3665) provide free legal information and aid specifically about emancipation.

      Have you been able to talk to anyone about what you have been going through?
      Sometimes people can find it helpful to discuss such a stressful situation with someone they trust like a friend, teacher, counselor, coach, family member, or religious leader. If you ever need a safe place to talk, additional resources, or help making a plan please feel free to reach out to the National Runaway Safeline 24/7 via phone 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or via live chat on our website www.1800runaway.org.

      NRS is here to listen and here to help.

      Take care,
      NRS
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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      • #85
        16 and need to move out

        hi I'm 16 and I'm going to be 17 In a couple of months I was just wondering if I could legally move out I live with my grandma and she vearbal and emotionally abuses me

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        • #86
          Hi there,

          Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are not legal experts but generally speaking, if you leave while still 17, your grandma could file a runaway report and you could be returned home. There could also be legal consequences for whomever you stay with for what is called harboring a minor. One thing you can do is reach out to your local police to inquire how they handle runaway reports for 17 year olds. Some cities and departments treat them differently because a 17 year old is so close to becoming a legal adult. The way to get the most accurate information would be to call your local police non-emergency number and anonymously inquire about their practices. If you need help finding this number or you want to walk through other options like a liner facilitating a conference call between you and your grandma or abuse reporting, we can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

          Best,

          NRS
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
          [email protected] (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

          Tell us what you think about your experience!
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          • #87
            I'm 17 and my parents are moving out the school district can I move out with permission to live with none related people to keep going to school where I am

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            • ccsmod6
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              Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. If you have your parents consent, and it might be a good idea to have it in writing, then it could very well be a possibility that you could do that. It would also be a good idea to check with your school to see if they would allow that. If you have any other questions or concerns, please don’t hesitate to contact us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY or on chat at 1800runaway.org.

          • #88
            I'm 16 years old i turn 17 July 16 which is 2 months from now I left home from Missouri to start working and getting myself together because I want to live alone and do things on my own I left home for 6 months and I've been away ever since so i went to my therapist and i told her I'm in a shelter and she filed a report with acs , what charges can they put against me and my parents if they don't find me ? Because I don't want to go back home and I'm going to delete my social media and stay off my phone until I'm 18 because thats the plan . I already have good things go8ng for me here as far as a job and more and I'm getting into the housing in the shelter

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            • ccsmod9
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              Hi there,
              Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
              While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. In your case there shouldn’t be a problem with anyone as long as you ran away from home and your parents don’t know where you are. If they knew and let you leave they might be charged with neglect. Again we are not legal experts so we cannot say for sure. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
              We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
              Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
              If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
              Be safe,
              NRS

          • #89
            Hey I’m 16 I wanted to run away to live with my gf but I don’t got no money and my gf lives 3hpurs away I don’t know wat to do

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            • ccsmod3
              ccsmod3 commented
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              Hi there,

              Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation.

              To best answer your questions, we aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. If you leave without your parent’s permission, she could file you as a runaway with the police. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, the most likely will return you home to your parents. If it is your first time running away, their isn't usually any legal consequences. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring.

              We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.

              -NRS

          • #90
            Hi i live in Syracuse NY and im 17 my mom told me to leave so i did bit when she found out i was living with my boyfriend she threatened to call the cops on him and he is 18 can she do that?

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            • ccsmod15
              ccsmod15 commented
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              Hello and thank you for reaching out to NRS. We are not legal experts here at NRS but I can recommend a resource called sexetc.org. This is a great resource with information regarding each states age of consent and age of majority. Since you are considered a minor based on New York law, you cannot be thrown out of your house at the age of 17. This can even be considered neglect. You can leave if you receive permission from your guardian. If you have any text messages, witnesses or proof she asked you to leave, that may be helpful in terms of if she files you as a runaway.
              I hope this information helps you with what you are looking for and as always we are here 24/7 to offer support if you need it at 1-800-RUNAWAY and 1800RUNAWAY.ORG. Good Luck.
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