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  • ccsmod10
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    Hello!

    It was very brave and courageous of you to reach out to National Runaway Safeline. You do not deserve to be treated the way your family is treating you. You should feel loved and respected by your family. You have a voice ad you should be able to use it. Your home should be a place of safety, not some place where you want to leave. No one should be beating you or leaving marks on you.

    You mentioned before that you attempted suicide twice before. You deserve to live. You have a purpose and your life has value. It may be hard to see the positives when things seem to be really rough. You could call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1800-273-8255) and they would be able to provide you with further support with some of the suicidal feelings you might be having!

    Your mom beating/hitting you is something that should not be happening. You could make an abuse report if that is something that you feel comfortable with. You could contact Child Help (National Child Abuse Hotline) at 1800-422-4453 and they would be able to provide you with further assistance with making a report and answering any possible questions you may have regarding reporting and abuse.

    You stated that you want to leave home and live elsewhere. You have a couple of options you can think about. You might want to consider contacting any family or close friends that would feel comfortable allowing you to stay with them whether it be for a short period of time or long term. If that does not seem like an option you can always go to homelessshelterdirectory.org. They can provide you with shelters in your area that might best suite your needs.

    Lastly, we are always here to help you. You can reach out to us by phone at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). From there we would be able to help you call your local police and aid you in any way that we can. If you prefer not to call us we also have a chat on our website at ww.1800runaway.org. Our services are confidential and are 24/7. We’re here to listen, here to help.

    Stay safe,
    National Runaway Safeline

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    Im only 13 I no joke hate living here in this "house" with my mom and 2 brothers everday I end up crying...My mom even threatened my life...these words came out her mouth "If you tell anyone else what I do to you...I brought you into this world and i will definetly take you out." and if my room isnt clean she will flip and punch me corner me in the wall one time she beat me so bad I had cuts and bruises on my back and when she does this she ask me like " Do you want to die..because I will and can kill you right now" and I hate my life I've tried suicide 2 times and havent succeeded. So I made a plan to move out when I get enough money I vow and defeitly will when I'm 16 there are jobs that hire at 14 and I can start saving up....I dont care where I live I just want to be out and awsay from this house and I will never contact my mom or brothers again..they can miss me with that. They dont love me ...why should I love them. But the other night she was beating me for clothes being on my floor and I had bruises on my back after that that was my 2 time trying suicide, it didnt work because i was too scared because their was so much that i wanted to do in life but i knew she wouldd keep me from having fun and freedom from her.But the other day I told her that I dont even want to live here anymore and she told me to go and take off all the clothes that she bought me so I found some of the stuff my biological dad bought me and sum of my friends and walked out no shoes....really short pajama shorts a crop top and a cropped jacket. I made it to my cousins house who lives like 7 houses away from me when she pulls up in her car and tells me to get in....Im now on punishment...she thinks im doing homework but im writing this.She calls me dumb,ungrateful,stupid,ugly,etc. like u made me so u made an ugly stupid dumbass ungratfull daughter. I HATE LIVING HERE.I DONT WANT TO LIVE HERE PLEASE HELP ME CONTACT 911 I'M AFRAID THIS IS GONNA END IN A BAD WAY IF I DONT GET OUT OF HERE.

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  • ccsmod15
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    It can be difficult to ask for help, and we are glad you reached out to us today. It sounds like you are not happy at home and are interested in leaving. We are not legal experts and consequences for running away can differ from city to city.

    It is not illegal to runaway, but there can be consequences for both you and the person you are staying with. If you leave home and a runaway report is filed, if the police get involved the person you are staying with could be charged with what’s called harboring a runaway. In addition to being available by bulletin, we have a 24/7 hotline and are always here to provide additional support and resources, including legal referrals if you have addition questions about the consequences for running away.

    We are glad you messaged us, and we are here to help you think through your options. Do not hesitate to call.

    Good luck,
    NRS

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    Hi,
    Im 16, and I want to run away because I don't like living at home.. I don't experience any major abuse at home, but Im just not happy. I live in Maine, and I researched that its not illegal to run away. If I ran away to my boyfriends house what would happen to me or his parents if the police were brought into the situation. Would the police force me to go back home or do I have the decision to stay with my boyfriend.
    I need a response.. ASAP.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply:Can I leave home and go and live with my boyfriend?


    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    It sounds like you are thinking about running away to your boyfriend’s but you have some concerns about being picked up by the police and returned home.

    While we are not experts on the law, someone under 18 that leaves home, the parent/guardian may file them as a runaway and they may be returned home. Also, those that a reported runaway stays with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. Anyone found to be assisting or aiding someone to run away may also find themselves at risk legally. For more specifics on the law, you might consider contacting the local non-emergency number for the police. You might also look for a legal aid center in the area. They may be able to answer any legal questions on the subject.


    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 10-12-2018, 05:25 AM.

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    Can I leave home and go and live with my boyfriend? I'm a little bit worried as I'm 16. Will the police tell me to return home?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 10-12-2018, 05:10 AM.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know it can be a difficult time and more over a hard time at home where you are supposed to feel safe and protected. We just would like you to know that we are here to help and listen the best way we can.
    From what we gather about your situation it seems like dad is not a fun person to be around and this is leading you to want to runaway any chance you get. So we are not a legal experts but from what we gather about your story you would still be considered a minor in the eyes of the law and therefore your parents have the right to call the cops to get you back. So in other words if your dad has full guardianship over you and you ran away they would have to bring you back to your dad simply because he has full guardianship over you. If you do not feel safe at your Dad’s house know that you can call the police and they would help get you to a safe place or perhaps offer some more information on what this looks like.
    Whatever you decide, we would love to hear from you. We are a safe place to talk about difficult stuff like this. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY and we are totally confidential and available 24/7.
    Take care

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    Guest replied
    im 16 and dont want to stay with my dad and want to stay with my mom , if i run away will the police bring me back to my dad even tho they treat me like trash

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi, thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time, and we’re glad you reached out for support.

    We aren’t legal experts here, so we can’t provide any specific legal advice. That said, we can tell you that running away is not illegal…meaning, you are not breaking any laws if you run away, or don’t return home. However, it is what’s called a status offense. This means that if you are already in trouble with the law (like on probation), it could make your situation worse.

    If you leave home without permission from your legal guardian, you would technically be considered a runaway. Your guardian would most likely make a runaway report with the police, where he/she would give your name, date of birth, maybe even a picture of you to the police for the report. What happens after that is dependent on the station…some stations may have the time/resources to go looking for you (or go to the person you are suspected of staying with), but others may just take the report in the event they come across you in a part after hours, for example.

    So the short answer is: no, you cannot get arrested for leaving without permission because you are not breaking a law.

    The longer answer is: it’s complicated, dependent on your specific legal situation, and how the police department in your area handle a runaway report.

    You also mention that you are experiencing emotional and verbal abuse. How long has this been going on? If you want to call in to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we can talk with you about your situation, and explore options to stay safe. No one has a right to hurt you, whether that’s physically, mentally, or emotionally.

    Thanks again for reaching out, and we hope you call in to 1-800-RUNAWAY if you are comfortable. We are 24/7, nonjudgmental, and are here to support you.

    Stay safe,

    NRS

  • ccsmod6
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us. We're here to listen and here to help. We're sorry to hear that you are having such a tough time with your mom being an alcoholic and father never home.
    We're not legal experts here at NRS, but we can give you some general info on running away. In most states, if you're under the age of 18, you're considered your parents' responsibility. They can therefore file a runaway report if you leave home without their permission. Running away usually doesn't get you arrested but is rather called a status offense, and usually means if the police locate you, that you will be returned home.
    If you do feel that your parent’s are unfit and not treating you right, please reach out to CHILD HELP (National Child Abuse Hotline) at 1-800-422-4453 or your local DCFS (Department of Child & Family Services) to speak to someone regarding your current situation.
    If you have any more questions or would like to talk further, feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We're available on our Safeline 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. You can also chat with us by going to www.1800runaway.org and clicking the red live chat button.

    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    Runaway
    My name is Alyssa I'm 16 and my mom is an alcoholic and my dad is always at work I believe
    she is unstable and unfit to be a parent right now
    she takes antidepressants also. I want to run away to
    New York and start over and just leave I would have to walk but I believe they would find me if i walked also I don't have access to car to drive away. What do I do I can't stay here another minute

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    Guest replied
    I'm 16 my parents are verbally and emotionally abusive and I want to leave. I'm not sure if I want to come back but I want to finish at the school I am going to. My mother said I would be arrested if I didn't come home. Can I leave and not get arrested?

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for contacting us. We’re really sorry you’re having such a hard time at home right now. It’s tough to be in a difficult place that you don’t really want to be in. Just know that you’re not alone and that we are here to help in whatever way we can.

    You ask some pretty straightforward questions that we can answer. If you decide to leave to go to your nan’s house at 16 your parents can decide to file a runaway report and the police might attempt to reunite you with your parents. Running away is not a crime, but it is considered a status offense, meaning you could be detained by police until you are released to your parents. If you leave home without permission, anyone you decide to stay with – including family – might be considered to be harboring a runaway, which is a crime. Unless your nan has legal guardianship rights, she cannot allow you to stay with her against your parent’s wishes.

    Of course, it’s possible you have options beyond running away. Perhaps your parents might give you permission to stay with your nan? Maybe you could talk to them about the difficulty you are going through living with them? One service we provide is conflict mediation. This means that if you give us a call we can act as mediators of a conversation between you and your parents over the phone, hopefully so that an agreement can be reached on what’s best for everyone.

    Whatever you decide, we would love to hear from you. We are a safe place to talk about difficult stuff like this. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY and we are totally confidential and available 24/7.

    Take care and stay safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hey,
    i need help ASAP! I am planning on running away...I turned 16 a few days ago and I can’t stand living in my house for a day longer, some stuff has gone on and my parents are becoming to much to handle, they get stricter and horrible with words by the day...I’m planning on running away tomorrow and going to my nans house...I just need to know the ins and outs of what is to come, like if my parents ring the police will I be forced to go back home given the fact I’m 16? Or if the police do get involved will my Nan have rights to say “no she’s staying with me?” I need to know TONIGHT

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS!

    We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. It’s brave of you to reach out during your time of need. We have a database of resources and if you’re able to call in, we can try to brainstorm with you and get a better idea of your situation. If you are thinking about running away and somewhere to stay, we can try to find a runaway shelter for you. Unfortunately, we are non-directive at NRS, and can't give out advice, but we're always here to talk and listen.

    Our safeline is open 24/7. We also have a chatting service via our website, unfortunately, it is not always open. The best way to contact us would be to call in and talk with our trained liners.

    Be well, NRS
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