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  • ccsmod7
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    Thank you for reaching out to us. We are very sorry to hear that you are in this tough situation, but we are glad that you reached out to us. This is very brave of you to seek out help when you need it.

    You mentioned that you have been planning to run away for months and are looking for resources that may be able to help you. Again, we are sorry that the situation at home is so difficult that you consider running away as your only option. Now, we are not legal experts here at NRS, but we do have some limited knowledge. We can start off sharing that that limited knowledge regarding running away. Running away is not illegal, it is considered a status offense. A status offense is basically something you should not do because you are not an adult yet. And anytime you leave your parent or guardian’s home without their permission is considered running away. If you do decide to leave, and your parents/guardians file a runaway report, the police will look for you. They will NOT go door to door trying to find you, but if you come into contact with them, they may take you back home. Typically, they will ask you why you ran away from home and if there was any abuse going on at home; this is a good time to disclose any abuse if there has been any. Your local police department is a very helpful resource, as well. You can call their non-emergency phone number and ask them if they have any resources they can refer you to. Remember, if they start to ask for any personal/identifying information, you can always tell them you do not feel comfortable sharing that information if you do not feel comfortable doing so.

    You also wanted to know if there was any community or place that helps runaways. We here at NRS are one of those agencies that help runaway youth. We provide referrals to shelters, transitional living programs, mental health specialists, health clinics, legal experts, practically anything. If you were hoping to get a resource specific to your area, you will need to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY so we can further assist you. In addition to all these awesome resources, we are here if you just need to vent or someone to talk to.
    Again, thank you for reaching out to NRS. We are sorry to hear about the tough situation that you are in. We are glad, though, that you reached out for help. We hope that the options we offered you are helpful. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or start a live chat with us online. We wish you the very best of luck and we hope that everything works out for you. We are here to listen, we are here to help.

    Best,

    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think.

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    hey i am 15 about to be 16 in june, i have planned my runaway for months and i found a job and i was wondering if there is any place or community that would help with housing for runaways? or any kind of help?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We are not legal experts, but generally speaking if you leave home and your guardian files a runaway report, you could be returned home. Do you have anybody at school or another friend or adult that you can turn to right now? If not, don't hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 and we could walk through your different options to make your situation better. We're here to listen, here to help.

    NRS
    Last edited by ccsmod1; 05-03-2018, 05:27 AM.

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    Hi my name Ben I live in children home I just wanted say is there way to leave with out social workers getting involved I am 16 years old I just asking thanks

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are here 24/7 to listen and to support.

    We are not legal experts, but generally speaking if your friend runs away and his parents or guardian file a runaway report, they could be returned home. There could also be consequences for whomever they stay with for what is called harboring a minor. If they need help sorting through their options, you can encourage them to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.

    Best,

    NRS

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    I live in nys my 16 yr old friend wants to live with us could the police bring him back or get my guardian arrested

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are here 24/7 to listen and to support.

    We are not legal experts, but we can tell you that because you are a minor, if you leave home and your parents file a runaway report, you could be returned home. There could also be legal consequences for whomever you stay with for what is called harboring a run away. If you want a liner to help you walk through other options like us mediating a conference call between you and your parents, thinking through possible adults that you could turn to or could advocate for you, or things like emancipation and legal aid numbers, don't hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). You could also get help asking about the nature of your custody to see if you have any rights to live with your dad. You can ask your dad about it or you can reach out to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 to get some legal advice.

    Good luck,

    NRS


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    Im 15 and want to live with my dad in another state but my mom wont let me. Im wondering if there are any resources that could help me get from delano california to tulsa ok for free if i runaway.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hey,

    Thanks for reaching out. You asked some good questions and while we’re not legal experts, we can try to give you some general information. Ultimately, you may want to speak with a lawyer for more specific answers. It sounds like you’re pregnant and want to live with your boyfriend because you believe it’s best for your kid. It’s great that you’re trying to consider what is best for your child! Since you are a minor, there are two ways that you can live with your boyfriend:

    1)With parental consent: If your parents are willing to let you stay with your boyfriend, then there is no issue. However, if they don’t give consent, unfortunately they are able to make you return home. Your parents would have the right to file a runaway report with local police and if you leave without permission, the police will return you home.

    2)You can seek to be emancipated. This process varies from state to state, but generally you would need to prove you are able to support yourself financially and socially without the care of your parents. It can help to have other adults who have interacted with you in professional capacities (like a teacher, guidance counselor, coach, nurse, doctor, or lawyer) to vouch for you.

    If you have more questions about your right as a parent, you might consider calling the Planned Parenthood hotline: 1-800-230-7526 or going to plannedparenthood.org.
    Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:
    https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
    Stay safe!

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    Hi Im 16 i wanna leave my house and go to my boyfriends house to start a new life I am currently pregnant with his kid and I think going to live with him is the best for my kid can my parents force me to come back? What are my rights? Can I fight to stay there?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi Haley, thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you're facing a troubling situation.

    Unfortunately, we are not legal experts, but it could be a possibility. Having a conversation with your mom could be an option to find out if she is serious. We offer a conference call service. Having that kind of conversation can be really scary but we can be there with you and mediate that conversation.

    It sounds like you are really struggling, just know that you are not alone and that there are people willing to listen to you and offer support. We are available 24/7 at 1800RUNAWAY so feel free to reach out at any time.

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    HI my name is Haley 15 years old my life is stress full at all times i feel like my hole world is angst me it feels dark at times my mom is trying her best i know she but i just need to know if like when my mom says u mite go back to heartland is she just saying that to scare me or something is that true

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  • ccsmod11
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    Hi there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out to us about these problems that are going on where you live. We understand how this could be difficult for you, and how these situations could motivate you to leave home. We don’t judge people who want to run away. We want to provide these people with information that can help them decide which decision is best for each of them. Hopefully this message can help you out.

    Having a stalker while also facing bullying and peer pressure sounds like it could be very damaging. It’s unfortunate that you’re in this situation. We want to help you stay safe, so we definitely encourage you to reach out to 911 for emergency services if you feel like your stalker or bullies ever endanger your safety. We also encourage reaching out to trusted adults about facing bullying and a stalker, as these situations can quickly become dangerous.

    Some of your post mentions legal matters. We aren’t legal experts and don’t pretend to be. Usually we hear that running away is a status offense in the U.S., though, which would mean that if you left home, the most that would happen to you is having to be returned home to your parents. It’s very unlikely you would be arrested for running away, even if you’re 12. However, you may be correct that it is illegal to run away in your area. We can call out to your local police department and ask them some questions about running away on your behalf if you call us at 1-800-786-2929. This way, you can be surer about the penalties for running away in your area.

    We encourage you to really plan for your safety if you do end up running away. You will probably be safer if you have an idea of where you can get food, where you’ll spend nights, and how you’ll attend school as a runaway. We can help you develop a plan for maintaining your safety as a runaway if you call us at the number listed above.

    We hope this response was helpful!** We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum.** Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: **https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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    hi, my name is ***** and I'm thinking of running away from home to escape a stalker, bullying, and peer pressure. where i live, running away is somewhat illegal, since i am twelve, but i cant take this anymore.
    Last edited by ccsmod11; 04-15-2018, 04:35 PM.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you’re faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way leave.
    You mentioned that you want to live with your aunt but your mother is not willing to let you go. Perhaps you can consider using our conference calling service, this is a service where you would call us and we would hold a conference call between you and your mom to talk about how both sides are feeling. We would serve as mediators, we are not here to necessarily choose sides but rather help come up with a solution that would make the situation at home better. This might be helpful to you if you have concerns about your mom not listening or not being open to hear what you have to say. If you feel like this is a service that you would find useful you can give us a call and one of our trained liner will be happy to assist you.
    You questioned if you could leave home if you have a safe place to go. We are not legal experts but generally speaking a person is not considered an adult until they are 18. This means that their guardians are legally responsible for them. So the parent is required by law to provide for the youth (food, shelter, school, etc.) If they fail to do so then they can face legal consequences. This also means that the youth cannot live anywhere else without parents’ consent. There are exceptions to this rule but those include getting the court involved such as emancipation or Child Protective Services removing the parent’s rights.
    Additionally, having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: We care what you think
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We’re here to listen and to help and hope you or your friend can reach out soon.
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