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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It sounds like living with your parents is very difficult. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

    We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your parents.

    It’s great to hear that you have a stable home in mind. If you go to stay there without prior permission from your parents, the adult in the home could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor. Penalties for harboring a runaway vary from state to state, police officer to officer, and how your parents view the situation.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    Hey, i'm currently 17 and going be 18 in sep. I want to move out sine i believe im better off alone and i cant forgive my parents for ruining my ex life. We talked and she actually support my dreams and ********. She cared about me, i havent felt a real smile from human affection in a while. My parents called and ruin it, i told i was better off alone since ive been neglected. I never grew close with them. i ssuffer from ptsd and explosive disorder. im not trying run away but im not sure where ill run to.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,
    Thanks for reaching out to us. It can be tough to ask for help, and we’re very glad you did.
    It sounds like you’re going through some really tough stuff at home. The first thing we want to do is make sure you’re safe, especially if you’re already in the process of moving out. We are a 24/7 support hotline, and you can call or chat us any time to talk through options and answer any questions you may have.
    Caring for your own mental health is super important. If you ever want to talk to a professional about the issues you’re facing, you can call 1-800-950-NAMI, or text NAMI to 741741. This hotline is designed for individuals struggling with mental health issues, and can be a great resource if you need to talk through things you’re dealing with.
    Thank you again for reaching out. Please don’t hesitate to call or chat with us any time to discuss the decisions and talk through options to keep you safe.

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    Guest replied
    Hi I turning 15 and I want to run away I live in Indiana.I have a stable home to go to with family and my parents would never find me .Parents are horrible people.I want to run and change my name the things would work out but sacred that the police would be brought in and take me back which my life would end.

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    Guest replied
    I'm 16, turning 17 in November. I can't wait till 18 because I'm tired of my mental health deteriorating while I live in my strict Muslim home. A family that is broken and will never be put together. I decided to move out tonight and I'm just looking to see what to do so I don't end up falling apart completely. I don't want to act too quickly or harshly because I want this to be a good decision that will benefit me in the long run.

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

    We are not legal experts, but we can answer your questions generally. If you leave without permission, your parents can let police know that you are a runaway and give them locations of where you might be including your school. If your parents really advocate for themselves to police, police could have more of a response. However, there are not additional steps they can take to report you as a runaway.

    Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk through your situation. We are always here for you: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

    Best,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    What if you runaway and your parents contact the school? What if they do everything in their power to get me back?

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply:

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are not legal experts and can only say in general that in most states once a minor that has run away from home becomes 18 they are no longer considered a runaway. Running away is not illegal but known as a status offense and does not stay on the permanent record of a juvenile. For more specific information about the runaway laws in your state contact the non-emergency number of the police.
    They should be able to provide more information prudent to your situation.

    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    Take care,
    NRS
    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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    I’ve been on the run since I was 16 & my mother filed a police report for it. I’m 17 now though & will be 18 in a few months. If stay gone until I’m 18 will it be on my record or will I be charged with anything?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 04-17-2019, 06:58 AM.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi, thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re thinking about a lot of the possible consequences of running away, which is good to hear. Because your parents are your legal guardians until you’re 18, if you leave they could decide to go to the police and file a runaway report. Then if you were caught or found, you would be taken back home. Running away is a status offense, which means that you won’t get arrested or have a criminal record but it is still illegal because you’re a minor.
    If your parents are okay with both of you living on your own and don’t contact the police, then you would be allowed to do so. However, living alone at that age could be unsafe, and you would have to think carefully about where you live and how you pay for things and get to school. If you do end up doing this, we encourage you to contact us first to make sure you have a safe plan. You can call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY, chat online at www.1800runaway.org, or email us at [email protected].
    You also asked about high school. It’s great that you plan to stay in high school, but if you’re in a public high school you might need to establish your residency in that city with a guardian. We suggest contacting the school district for their specific policies. If it’s a private school, you will have to think about paying for school.
    Finally, are there other activities you and your friend could do to look for the adventure you’re seeking? These could include clubs or activities, travel, making new friends, and more. Best of luck with everything,

    NRS

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    Hey! I’m currently 12 years of age. My friend and I are planning to “runaway” when I’m 16 and she’s 17. Before you say “our opinions could change” you should know we are very serious. Our home lives are fine, pretty normal actually. But we have decided to put a bit a spice in our lives, we’re both pretty successful in our lives right now, we both have been born into money so we feel at the age 16 &17 we will have the finances to successfully “runaway” we also plan to drive to our picked location when we leave our current state. But I’m somewhat concerned if we get caught or our parents say they want us back, would police come and find us then take us back? Or what if I communicated with my parent and said my friend and I were successfully living now? And they say it’s fine and I can stay where I am. Also once we runaway I’m planning to get back into a Highschool so I can finish my studies. Would my friend and I be stupid if we did this? Also would I be able to go into high school with out a Guardian? I feel as a 12 year old I’m mature. I already am very independent and feel the need to fully leave the nest. Please reply with your thoughts.

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  • ccsmod4
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    I'm 16 and want to run away


    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things in your life right now.
    The stress from the situation is getting harder and harder to handle.
    We are sorry you are going through a tough emotional time.
    You do not deserve to be abused by your father. It is not your fault that this is happening.
    Sometimes when communication is hard to come by counseling is looked at as an option to help find ways to resolve the problems at hand. This could serve as an option to boot camp.

    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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    Guest replied
    Hey
    I'm 16 and want to run away because my dad thinks I'm a troubled kid but I'm not. He just doesn't understand me. Everytime he tells me that he wants to talk about what's wrong I talk to him but he disregards what I say and continues to treat me like crap both verbally and physically. He doesn't understand that every time he treats me the way he does it slowly breaks down my sanity and confidence. The reason I want to run away is he is trying to send me to to boot camp and I know i won't be able to stand it and I might become suicidal because I'm already on the verge of becoming clinically depressed. It would be great if you guy's could help me.

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  • ccsmod2
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    hank you so much for reaching out, running away is a big decision, so it’s great that you’re seeking out some help with this decision. I’m sorry to hear that you feel like your health is not being taken seriously, this isn’t something that you should ever have to feel like.
    We are not legal experts and the age of minority does vary depending on the state, but in general your parents could file a runaway report. This would basically mean that if the police found you, you would have to go back home, but the police do not actively look for runaways.
    If you’d like to talk more about your situation, you can always give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us online. We’re open 24/7 and always here to help.

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    Guest replied
    i don’t feel happy at home anymore. i feel depressed and i don’t feel like my health is being taken seriously. (a long story) i’m 16 if i leave home will i be asked to come back?

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