Moving out of my mom's house to my father's house

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moved out of moms

i am 15 and live in canada, and i just moved out of my moms house. she divorced my stepdad a year ago, and cheated on him to, and now we live with her 23 year old boyfriend. she makes me do almost all of the chores, and treats my brothers and sister better then me, and i think its because i was just an accident she had when she was 18. i know she still cares for me i think. the only problem now is that we just had a big fight (she punched me in the face, among other things) and she would not let me grab my computer or cellphone to take to my dads. I grabbed my jacket and biked there, and have my laptop here. I still want to have a positive relathioship with my mom, and im worried about my brother and sister and 2 dogs. i dont know what to do and whether i should contact her, and with christmas coming up, i dont know if i want to be with her on that day, if we havent sorted things out by then. I have read her phone texts and seen all the stuff she does, including showing up at 1 in the morning drunk out of her mind after i put my siblings to bed. she does nothing to help around the house all day, and procastinates on shopping and stuff like that. I still love my mom just living with her in the past year has been somewhat unbearable. i wanna just run away from home and go explore the world, ive wanted to for years. help me pls

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Title: Re: moved out of moms

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us for help. It sounds like you are going through a very difficult time right now, and we are sorry to hear that you feel worried for your siblings and your dogs. That must be really stressful. It is understandable that you are looking for a way out of this situation. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can.

It sounds like your mom puts a lot of responsibility on you to take care of your siblings, but you are also trying to find a way to fix your relationship with your mom. It seems like you really want to see things change and for your mom to step up. You mentioned that you are very conflicted about how to approach the situation. How does your dad feel about the situation? It seems like you already left the house and are staying with your dad, but you’re unsure of whether you should return. We are not here to tell you what to do, because you know your situation best, but we can help by talking about options available to you specific to your life and your current situation.

You also said that your mom punched you in the face. No one deserves to be treated that way regardless of whether she was upset with you. That type of behavior is not okay. If you are considering reporting this the Child Protective Services, you may find the organization Child Help USA useful. They serve the Unites States as well as Canada).
https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/. We would also be happy to talk to you in more detail about this option if you decide to call us.

We thank you again for posting your story to our online forum. We are here 24/7, and our line is confidential. We also have a chat option available through our website. Please call or chat us if you would like to talk further. We are here to listen and here to help.

Best of luck,
NRS

[Joshua]

Mom swearing at me and grabbing me

It all started a few years back when my mum used to slap me and it just kept on going on and on I was scared to tell any one I whould wonder if they will bully me recently I've been staying at my dads and every time I come back she asked me why are you going there then today my mums boyfriend was at my house and he started talking to me about prison then I whent upstairs and my mom followed me up saying why are you being so miserable and started calling me a dick cunt stupid and then grabbed me because I started packing my things and she kept putting back so I text my dad saying can you please come I whant to live with you

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RE:Mom swearing at me and grabbing me

Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that things have been so hard for you. You don’t deserve to be treated like that. It takes great courage to reach out for help, and we are glad you contacted us.
It sounds like your mom has hurt you in the past and has been verbally abusing you. If you are interested, you could call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 and they can help you file an abuse report. If you are ever in situation where you feel your mom is going to hurt you, you can always consider calling 911. Have you talked to your dad about how your mom has been treating you? We understand that it can be really hard to talk to others about what has been going on. Your dad could help you file a police report, or provide support in this situation. It sounds like you are going through a lot of emotional stress as well. Many times talking to someone can be helpful. Have you talked to a therapist? If you call us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or live chat with us from 4:30 PM CST – 11:30 PM CST we can listen to your story, and look up some counseling resources in your area. At many times talking to a school counselor, or family members and friends can also be helpful.
We hope things get better for you and we wish you good luck.

Best,
NRS

[Unregistered]

confused

Hi I'm a sophmore in high school and I just can't take living with my mom anymore. I think I'm starting to have depression I want to go live with my dad but I don't know how to exactly tell my mom. Help?

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Re: confused

Hey there,

Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are considering your options and trying to see what is best for your situation. We are glad we are a resource that comes to mind in this time of crisis. We want you to know that we are here to listen and to help in the best way that we can. It also seems like there is a lot going on in your life, if you are able to give us a call or chat with us we would be able to explore your situation a little further with you.

Our lines are available 24/7, this is the fastest method you would be able to get in touch with us. We are more than willing to listen to your situation and help in the best way that we can. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), we also have a live chat program, it seems like that would work best since you are unable to get to a phone. As we mentioned, we would be more than happy to talk about your situation and see what the best way that we can help you is. We wish you the best of luck and hope to get your call or chat soon.

Stay strong,

NRS

[Unregistered]

from dad's to moms

I live with my dad. I'm 14 years old I will be 15 in may. I'm tired of living here.. I have wanted to move out for the past 3 years. I go to my moms every Friday. My dad is supposed to come pick me up in Sundays at my moms house. But that never happens anymore. We've never really been physically or sexually abused. But he will call us names such as "*******" "mistakes" etc. I don't know who to talk to. I want to live without my mom I can't take it anymore. Could you tell me who I should talk to? I've told my mom and she wants to take him to court bht since he's never really done anything "illegal" or "abusive" to any of us (meaning me my 2 half sisters and his girlfriend's 3 kids) we have 8 people in this house. But I just can't take it anymore I'm miserable do please help😭😭😭😭😭😭

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Re: from dad's to moms

Hi there,

Thank you for contacting us through our online forum. It sounds like you’re going through a lot at home. No one has the right to call you names. Often times verbal abuse can be just as hurtful as physical abuse. If you are unsure whether any of your dad’s behavior would be considered abuse, the organization Child Help USA might be able to talk about that with you in more detail: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. You can reach them at 1-800-422-4453 if you have more questions about reporting.

It’s great that you find your mom to be supportive and that she’s doing what she can on her part to limit the time that you are with your dad. If your mom is able to have more custody rights over you and your siblings, that might be a good route to go. We can look up low cost legal resources if you or your mom wanted to speak with a legal expert. You would just need to contact us directly so that we can look that up for you.

It’s understandable that you would be really frustrated with this living arrangement and confused by your dad’s actions, especially with your dad often times not picking you up from your mom’s home. We’re glad that you thought to reach out to us and hope that some of these ideas are helpful. If you would like to keep talking about your situation in more detail, we would be happy to discuss with you potential options.

Best of luck,
NRS

[Maymaymg]

I want to live with my dad

I'm 12 and my mum and dad have been split for a long time they two day after my birth so I don't rember I go to my dads evey weekend and then back to my mum in the week I want to live with my dad because he cares about me and my mum don't she cares about my 2 sister and its my fault that my sister got Asmara and I hate her to bits help me

[ccsmod4]

I want to live with my dad

Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you have become unhappy with living at home with your mother and would like to stay with your father.
It can be tough when there are issues such as yours so we understand you might be frustrated.
It took a lot of courage to reach out for help. Good for you.
We would like to know how we might be of help to you.

Give us a call at our 24 hr. crisis line 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or chat with us at www.1800Runawy.org.
Hearing more about your situation we then explore some options with you.
Does that make sense?
We appreciate your strength and hope to hear from you soon.

Take Care,
NRS

[Unregistered]

Re: Moving out of my mom's house to my father's house

Im 14 years old and i can't leave with my mom anymore. Is like every day im fighting with her and i can't take it anymore,and Im not going to my dad house because I
never like him as a person so that's out of the picture. I just REALLY need HELP on what to do. Im only staying because of my sister,i already have a bag pack with
some of my stuff and im thinking about leaving my mom house when we get in another fight. So anyone have an ideal or something.

[ccsmod0]

Re: Moving out of my mom's house to my father's house

Thank you for using our bulletin service.

Arguing with your mom all the time sounds like a super stressful home life. We are sorry that you do not like your dad and cannot turn to him. It sounds like you have already made up your mind about leaving home. One thing to consider is how your sister would feel if you did leave? We encourage you to continue looking into the situation, making sure you know as much as possible about the safety of where you are staying, what you will do for money, whether you will be able to continue your education, etc.
We are not here to tell you what to do but we are here to try to provide you with support and resources so that if you do decide to leave home, you are doing it intelligently and safely. We here at NRS have a database of resources at our disposal, which allows us to search for shelters, counselors, and other options. If you want, we can access those resources and provide you with some referrals just give us a call.

Feel free to give us a call anytime at 1-800 RUNAWAY

[Unregistered]

Moms house to dads house

I am 16 currently, but once I turn 18 i can legally choose where I want to live right? I want to go live with my dad. My mom says that I'm not allowed to move out until I have finished my 4 years of college. But I can't stand living in this horrible house any longer. My stepfather is sexist. My mom can't stand up for herself or me and my sisters. I've threatened suicide and I've even cut a few times. My mom's house is not a good place for me to live. I can not stand to live there until I'm 21. I can barely stand it now for the past 3 years that they have been married. What can I do? What are my legal options?

[ccsmod10]

Re: Moms house to dads house

Hello There!

Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It is a great first step to finding the help and information that you need. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation and are unhappy living with your mother and stepfather. We are not legal experts here, but typically in most states 18 is considered to be an adult. In this case you would not need permission to leave home. Going to college or finishing school has no effect on being able to move out nor is going to college mandatory, although this is a great thing to do for a brighter future. Leaving prior to being 18 is where you would need permission to leave home in anyway.

You mentioned threatening suicide and cutting. These are very serious and permanent decisions to make. Both of these options would not only hurt your loved ones, but it hurts you first and foremost. Reaching out to family, freinds, teachers, to lean on when things get difficult can be a way of coping as well. If you ever need someone to talk to or feel like self-harming you can always call us at 1800-RUNAWAY or National Suicide Hotline at 1800-273-TALK

We hope this was helpful,
Stay Safe. Stay Strong,
NRS

[Hayden]

Living with my dad

When I was young my dad left me for his wife i was around 3-4 but I was young my mom did her best to raise me by her self I didn't understand at first kid's at school talked about there dads. When I was about 7 he came back am in custody of my mom.I was 9 my mom and I got in a bad fight with her she droped me off at my dads work he had a roommate he picked me up he dropped me at my dads house I lived there for 8 moths I finally visited her now am 14 about to be 15