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  • ccsmod11
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    Moving out of my mom's house to my father's house

    Hello,
    Thanks for contacting us on our bulletin. It sounds like you're struggling quite a bit at home and you would prefer to live with your dad. We want to commend you on your reaching out and exploring your options and resources. You mentioned you are 17 years old. Most states require you to be 18 years-old before you can choose to live where you want without requiring permission/legal processes. However, the age is 17 in some states. So, you may want to familiarize yourself with your state's laws. Child Help USA is a good resource that deals with legal questions, especially pertaining to youth and their rights, and can be reached at 1-800-422-4453.

    It seems like you have expressed your desire to move in with your father. Have you spoken to your mother about your thoughts and feelings and desire to move in with your father? It seems like you are doing a great job in reaching out and expressing yourself to others for support. We encourage you to continue to do so. If you want to talk more about this issue in the future, you can visit us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at www.1800runaway.org during the hours of 3:30pm-11:30pm. We are happy to help you in any way we can through resources and support.

    Good luck,
    NRS

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    Moving out of my mothers house and going to live with my dad

    I am in the same predicament. I am 17 years of age and my mother has not been treating me fairly at home. I was adopted by her when I was 9, my dad and her got a divorce about a year and a half ago. I almost decided to go and live with my dad last year but I decided to see how things would go between my mother and I. Things were going great up until about 6 months ago. When I am at home it is always do this.. do that.. "You never appreciate anything I do for you" "mother speaking". I try so hard to keep her satisfied but there is just no pleasing her.. I also have two younger siblings, these two are her actual biological kids. Her two kids are completely spoiled by her. It is like she only feels that she has to treat them fairly because they are her biological kids, and I am just there to do all the chores that she doesn't feel like doing herself. My mother also owns a daycare, but when ever I make plans and she has to do something or wants to go do something and she still has daycare kids I have to cancel my plans and watch her daycare kids.. It isn't my job to watch her daycare kids and it is soo annoying. I have been talking to my dad about going to live with him and he is all for it. But the problem I am going to run into is having to deal with my mom's BS about going to live with him.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Thank you for reaching out to us and telling us your story. It sounds like you have a lot going on right now and we’re glad that you have contacted us for help. Now, we aren’t legally trained here so we can’t give you any specific answers but we can try to help you locate resources and discuss your other options. It was very brave of you to reach out to us.

    It sounds like you are currently living with mom but want to go stay with dad because you don’t have a good relationship with mom. It also sounds like you are concerned that things may become physical if you were to stay there. Has that ever happened before?

    We are sorry to hear that you feel like mom cares more about your brother than she does you. That sounds incredibly difficult for you, especially with all of the responsibilities that she has for you. You mentioned quite a few personal responsibilities that you have and those things sound very important to you. Have you told anyone at school or any other adults how you are feeling? Sometimes, talking with people can help you feel better and help find other resources that may be available to you.

    You asked how you could go live with your dad but it sounds like your mom has custody of you, is that correct? It also sounds like you get to see your dad every few weeks; have you talked with him about how you are feeling? Again, we aren’t legally trained here so we wouldn’t be able to give you any specific details but you may need to speak with an attorney or someone else that is legally trained. They would probably be better able to answer legal questions and give you specific answers about your options.

    If going to live with dad isn’t an option, do you know what you might do? Here at the National Runaway Safeline, we are non directive so we wouldn’t tell you what to do but we can help you explore options or resources. We have a database that includes numbers for shelters, counselors and legal aid; if you were to call us, we could also help you call the agencies to see if they would be able to help you. We are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you would like to give us a call. We also have online chat services that are available from 4:30 PM-11:30 PM (CST), 7 days a week if you would prefer talking with someone that way instead.

    We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck.

    ~NRS

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    Moving out of my mom's house to my father's house

    How can I move with my dad? My parent got a divorce when I was about 4 and now I don't want to live with my mom. I've tried talking to her and everything. I need to get out of the house and she wont even let me go stay with a friend for a few nights so that i can have some time away from her. I have a few places I can stay and I'm currently looking for a job. I just can't be in the same house as her anymore. If I do I'm scared me and her may get in a fist fight and I dont wanna hurt my mom. I have an older brother and it seems she care more about him then she does me and brother is 21 years old with a daughter who's 3. well now she acts like she cares more about my bro's then me. she'll do everything for them but nothing for me. she's putting alot of stress on me like cook food, pick up my sister, feed her, help her with her homework and if she get bad grade (which she does because she never turns in her work), i get in trouble for it, she says I'm responsible for my little sister while she goes out with her boyfriend. she also wants me to clean the house everyday have food ready the dish clean. I understand I have to help but this keeps putting stress on me. My brother on the other hand never does anything and plays video games all day when he's not working, and he never get in trouble, me on the hand I have 7 classes to work about tests for my junior year of high school and can't put up with all of this, and on top of this since she has a boyfriend, she's been so busy and spend the internet money on going out with him that we have no internet or sometimes food to eat and she also stop cooking until he comes then she starts making food which is around 10 o'clock at night and now with no internet I have to go to the library. All I know is that I have to many important things to spend my time on like school, my Jrotc position, and looking for a job, please help me my dad told me I can move in with him but he live like 2 hours away I would have to changes school for my senior year but that not really a problem I know for a fact my mom won;t let me move out with due to the fact she has custudy of me and that I'm only able to see my dad every two weeks which my mom doesn't even. I don't know what to do I just don't want to live with my mom.
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