Moving out of my mom's house to my father's house

gotta get away from my mom. HELP!

Okay I'm currently 16 turning 17 in bout 5 months.. My mom and I barley get along and she makes me feel empty and worthless.. I do so much to make her proud and she tells me I'm and "ungrateful little **********" and neglected me for 3 months straight and left me with my sister who was only 19 with a newborn child.. She took my brother and left for 3 months just to stay with her boyfriend! She never contacted us or anything to see how we were doing.. I barley have friends because she never lets me go anywhere or do anything.. I'm too scared to really talk to anybody bout any of this other than to my dad and boyfriend.. She terrifies me and I just need to get out a of here.. Idk if it's legal for me to choose where I want to live because Idk if it's legal in my state or not.. I keep getting told all sorts of different things.. Another thing is we live in Ohio and my dad lives in Indiana.. She's trying to force me to move to Florida! I need help.. The last place I want to be is in another state where I have nobody to be there when something bad happens.. I can barley live with her being in a place where I DO have people who are there.. She calls me names and hurts me so much that I've fallen into depression.. Idk what to do.. I'm scared just writing this because if she found out I did she Will take everything I have.. Then I won't be able to see my dad or talk to him or my bf in case anything happens... I DONT WANT TO MOVE TO FLORIDA!! Idk what to do but to ask for help... Please help me get out of this place..

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re: hello

Hey there,

Thank you for reaching out to us! We’re sorry to hear that you’re going through a difficult time, but we’re here to help you in whatever ways we can.


To answer your questions, we can give you some general information. We aren’t legal experts so I would encourage you to check with your local police department to confirm what the laws are in your local area. Generally speaking, running away is not a criminal offense. This means that you can’t be arrested for running away. However if your dad files a runaway report on you and the police stop you, they would have to return you to legal guardian (which is currently your dad). If you go to your mom’s house and the police find you there, they might charge her with harboring a runaway. This is a criminal offense.


Besides running away to your mom’s house, there might be other options that might be available in your area. We have a lot of resources in our database that we might be able to help you with. We would encourage you to call 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat online with us at www.1800runaway.org so that we can discuss options with you. We’re here to listen and help!


Again, we’re really glad you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help. It’s really good to see that you are trying to figure out your options. If you want to talk about your situation, please feel free to call or chat with us. We are here to help 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Stay strong,

NRS

Hello

Hi I am a 17 year old girl in Texas. I currently live with my dad who I want to run away from to my moms. My dad has full custody so would my mom get in trouble if I go to her house? Can I get in trouble as well?

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re: help helop help

Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out to us and it sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of stress involving your family. We’re sorry to hear you are having to go through this and you don’t deserve any of it. It’s great that you’re seeking help and hopefully we can help you as best as we can. First off, because we aren’t legal experts we can’t give you any sort of legal advice but we can speak generally. It sounds like because your mom has legal custody, if you decide to leave, she can file a runaway report and if the cops pick you up for some reason, you will have to be brought back to her.
You also mentioned that your mom is a dangerous person. If you are feeling unsafe at all or feel like any of her actions could be considered abuse, you can always file an abuse report. To do that you can call us or call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 which will help you make the report. If you do decide to leave to either move in with your dad or go somewhere else some questions to think about are: What is my plan? Is it safe? If not, how can I make it safer? Is leaving my only option? What are my other options?
You can also always call or chat us to talk about what’s going on and we can help you talk through a plan, think of options and offer resources and support. Unfortunately because we are confidential we can’t Watsapp you but we’d be happy to talk if you can get in contact with us!

We wish you the best of luck in whatever it is you decide to do.

Stay strong,

NRS

help helop help

Hello my name is amber benn I am 14 going on 15 this year my mom has had custody over me for just on 4 years now and I want to move to my dad so badly but she won't let me my mom goes out late at night and comes back in the mornings for some reason she is I think engaged to a guy I don't like at all because he distroyed my family and I am not liking it at all my moms a very dangerous person there r verious dates that she has left us home alone I don't know what to do but I'm tired of this house I am tried of the way she treats me!!!!! please help me ASAP pls send me a watsapp of what I need to do !!!!! 0726312758

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re: I can't handle living with my mom anymore

Hey there,

Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline, it seems like you are going through a really tough time and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help you in the best way we can. It is very mature of you to be able to reach out to us and explore your options to see what you can do to better your situation, we admire that.

From what you shared it seems like you are dealing with a lot of issues with your mother that are causing you to want to leave home. It seems like at this point, you want to leave to live with your father, and while we are not legal experts here, we really could not accurately say what would happen in your situation. The best way you can find out is by contacting a legal aid or your local police department in order to get more general information. We can definitely provide you with a legal aid if that is something you would want to consider, but because we do not have your state, we would need you to call in and ask.

Another option you can consider is using our conference calling service. This is where we serve as mediators between you and your mom in order to come to an agreement and talk about what can make the relationship and the situation better. It may seem like something far from what you would want to do, but sometimes just opening up the lines of communication between youth and parents can help make the situation better. If this is something that you would want to further explore, again, please feel free to reach out to us.

We are here 24/7 and are always more than happy to listen and to help you in the best way we can. We wish you the best of luck in whatever it is you decide to do.

Stay strong,

NRS

I can't handle living with my mom anymore

My mother is super controlling and judgemental, I never feel happy in my home anymore. She makes me feel like I am a disappointment and that I will never be good enough. Because of this, my menta health has suffered. My grades are suffering, I can't sleep, I struggle with body issues, and I constantly feel like I am disappointing everyone. She is bipolar and refuses to stay on medication for it. I am constantly afraid of loud noises and I jump all the time. I act like I have been physically abused.

I go to my dads every Thursday and every other weekend. I am treated fairly there and both of my step-siblings are treated quite well. My stepbrother suffers from depression and Bipolar disorder, but it is because of a chemical imbalance, not his treatment. I feel safe and happy there. I want to move in with my dad, but we don't have a lot of money right now and I don't want to ruin my future relationship with my mother. I don't know what to do.

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Re: Moving out of my mom's house to my father's house

Hello there,

If you have contacted NRS today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.

should i call the cops on my mom

Ive been wanting to live with my dad for a long time now my mom even gives me the option but when i pick him over her she says oh im just kidding you cant go there. We have a lot of problems, last night she beat me up bad. I have a busted lip, if i call the cops on her will they give my dad my custody?

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RE: I'm moved from my mums house to my dads

Hello,
We are glad that you reached out to us. We are sorry to hear about the stress that your mom’s situation puts on you and your lack of bond with your father. It seems like your main priority is to start developing a bond with him; that seems pretty important to you. Have you tried speaking to him about the effect your mom’s illness has on you? Is there anything you can do to start facilitating this relationship with your dad (hobbies, things to bond over, etc.)? Have you thought about expressing to him how important it is to you that you develop this relationship (in a manner that he doesn’t mistake for weakness or softness). It is great that this relationship is important to you. You can always reach us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Good luck.
NRS

I'm moved from my mums house to dads

At first I was quite excited to move to my dads but my mum suffers from depression and anxiety so I need to look after her but it's too hard on me because she goes to hospital a lot and that means I have to go to my grandparents house, my grandfather and my Nanna always fight and my grandfather is very abusive to me and everyone else in my family so that has a big impact on me. We'll I'm at my dads now but it seems that he doesn't understand what I've been through and he's very pushy and he calls me names sometimes cos I'm not doing things the right way he wants something to be. Compared to my dad I'm very soft aswell and I also have to sisters and my step mum they're very nice people and I get along with beautifully but I see my sisters with my dad and it's just like any father daughter relationship but I do not have a father son bond with my dad and it's very hard for me. I need some help in how to fit with my new family and how to build a bigger relationship with my dad.

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RE: I want to move in with my dad because I dont feel safe at my mother.

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear about the difficult situation you are in. No body deserves to be abused. It seems like you are looking for a way to tell your mother that you want to move out without hurting her feelings. You mentioned that this wasn’t the first time. Have you expressed to your mother what has been happening with your brother? Have you expressed to your father that you would like to move in with him? And why?

You should be comfortable in your own house and able to live without fear of being abused. Have you ever thought about having your father (or someone else you are comfortable with) as a mediator for the conversation? A third party might be able to ease the tension between you and your mom and help her understand what is going on.

We are sorry to hear about your situation. You can also contact us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY so we can further aid you in figuring out the best way to tell your mother about the situation. We are toll free, anonymous and confidential. We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

NRS

I want to move in with my dad because i dont feel safe at my mothers.

Hi there. Im in a bit of a situation that i dont really know what to do. 2 days ago my brother had a very violent outbreak and its not his first one either. He had struck me 4 times, giving me 4 big bumps on my head. I stayed at my fathers house for about 2 days now (parents are divorced). I dont feel safe at home with my brother being there. I want to move with my dad but i dont know how to tell my mom. My mom has never not wanted me to have a relationship with my father. I love my mom but i just dont feel safe being there with my brother. I dont know how to tell my mom i want to move with my dad because of my brother without hurting here since my oldest brother who is 21 moved out about a month ago. I dont know what to do or say. Im afraid in my own home and am constantly looking over my shoulder in my home since my mother isnt around cause she works late hours. I cant take on my brother nor do i want to. I just cant keep living in fear in my own home. I want to move in with my dad because i feel safer there without my brother but i dont know how to tell my mom about it. Please help.

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Re: i want to leave my dads house

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Hi there,

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Thank you,
NRS

I want to leave my dads house

Hi, im 16 and I can not stand to be with my dad. He treats me loke his maid and is constantly telling me im wrong and im only as smart as my three year old brother. I see my dad every other weekend and one night a week. I play twof sports and He is making me miss practices and games on a regular basis and expects me to just sit at home. He screams in my face and yells all the time. He has had multiple wives in and out of the house. My mom was his first wife. I am the oldest and I am expected to raise my other siblings. I cook all meals and clean up after everyone. He has smacked me in the face multiple times but not hard enough to bruse or anything so m not sure if its considered abuse. He tells me all the time how awful my mother is and then tells me how I am just like her. I just want to live with my mom and get out of this house. How much trouble canI get in for running away to my moms? Can she get in trouble?