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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to share your situation with us here at NRS. It sounds like there is a lot that you are facing at home and you are thinking about leaving before you turn 18. We want you to know that you are not alone in this and we are here 24/7 to support you and help as much as possible. You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it to child protective services. No one can force you to get married if you don't want to. If you do not want to report the abuse or you are not quite ready to do so, we encourage you to talk to any trusted adults about what's going on home. Perhaps there is a family member, teacher, counselor, or friend's parent you can go to for support.

    We encourage you to take whatever steps necessary to protect your safety. We also want to make sure you are informed about what could happen if you decide you need to leave before turning 18. If you leave home without permission, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal so you will not get into any legal trouble. It is a status offense which means your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. Once you are 18 you will be considered a legal adult with the legal freedom to choose where you live and where you go to college.

    If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore your possible options, please do not hesitate to contact us directly by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible.

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello,
    I live in California. My parents are horrible to me. Everyday I am abused in many ways and they will not allow me to go to my dream college. And they want me to get married to someone they chose soon. I am 17 and 18 in May. Can I leave now and get away with it or will I have to wait.

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  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi, so I'm 14 years old and my house isn't horrible but it's getting really stressful and I just want to get out. My mom and I always disagree and it seems like she doesn't care about what I have to say. I'm in therapy and take medication. My mom has threatened to take my door off or put a lock on it so I can't go in there during the day. my bio dad killed himself when I was 3. my stepdad has physically and verbally abused me before because of not liking how I react to things and do certain things when I already have mental health issues. he's given me a black eye and along with it put a giant cut under the same eye. he's fractured my collarbone for taking a lighter back and not giving it to him. he's gotten in my face and yelled at me because of something I did. calling me worthless and useless and just a lot of stuff I can't think of right now. and every time the authorities got called to my house, they never did anything because my house is really nice and my other siblings don't do as much stuff to dissatisfy them. in the past, my mom has also called me a whore. she has also told my friends that they are idiots and how their parents didn't give a ******** about them. my stepdad has really bad anger issues, he's gotten a lot better but even through all the times he hit me and screamed in my face, my mom stayed with him. I know I'm not completely innocent. like I've been to two mental hospitals and I've gotten physical with my mom and stepdad. but it seems like they treat me like I'm a prisoner. like there are alarms on the windows in the house because I USED to sneak out. that was over a year ago and they still have them. I can't open one of the windows in my room because of it. they provide me with everything I need and all and I know they love me and I love them but I really need to get out of here before I do something really bad. and I don't want to go back to a mental hospital either. my best friend and I have come up with a plan and a place for me to stay in her house without anybody knowing but I still need to go to school because I'm in a Tech school for art and need to graduate from there to get my dream job. we are in a pandemic right now, so I do remote school. I know if I run away, my mom will literally do anything to get me back home but I know that if I were to go back home after running away, things would be the same, if not worse. they don't trust me at all and I don't feel like this place is home. I've made A LOT of mistakes, some of them being illegal but I feel like my house should still feel like home and it doesn't. and because of this, I do more things I'm not "supposed" to do because I just want to break free. how can I run away, still finish high school, and never go back home until I turn 18 and are legally on my own??

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  • ccsmod4
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    You don't deserve to be abused in any way. It is not your fault.
    You have the right to want to be treated fairly.
    As of right now you’re feeling like leaving in a few years a strong possibility for you.
    You seem to have thought hard on this but you would like some information on continuing education for runaways. We would be glad to speak with you about strategies or options that might help you to prepare a plan.
    We want you to know that we are here as support during this challenging time.
    Sometimes having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.

    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more about your situation and we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    You did a wonderful job reaching out today.
    We look forward to hearing from you.


    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    You don't deserve to be abused in any way. It is not your fault.
    You have the right to want to be treated fairly.
    As of right now you’re feeling like leaving in a few years a strong possibility for you.
    You seem to have thought hard on this but you would like some information on continuing education for runaways. We would be glad to speak with you about strategies or options that might help you to prepare a plan.
    We want you to know that we are here as support during this challenging time.
    Sometimes having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.

    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more about your situation and we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    You did a wonderful job reaching out today.
    We look forward to hearing from you.


    Take care,
    NRS

    Last edited by ccsmod4; 11-26-2020, 03:40 AM.

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  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    my name is Victoria. I'm a 15 year old freshman in NC. My parents are divorced. I have siblings that I love very much and a little brother on the way (my dads kid). I want to run away because I can't breathe. I feel like I can only breathe this polluted, dirty, choking air that my parents make me breathe instead of blocking it out and letting me breathe the rich fresh air i need. I am only aloud to dress in conservative clothes (I'm more of a punk,rock,goth, witchy kinda style girl), i can only draw things that are "appropriate" in today's society for a "young lady", i'm not aloud to say certain words, i can't play my music on speakers or have the volume turned up to where they can here it because it's "disturbing" and once again "unlady-like". The one thing I can do is schoolwork. And my schoolwork dictates everything; how i can dress, how i can act, what i can have, who i can see, what i can do. I'm suffocating. My dad keeps yelling at me and taking away my stuff when my grades start to drop because he wants to "motivate me" into doing things that don't need to be done right that second. i know other kids have it worse and im grateful to be living i such a nice house but, he's been emotionally abusing me and manipulating me into doing what he wants. i still want to go to school of course because without it i wouldnt be able to get my dream job. I'm good at doing my work and turning it in hes just so angry all the time. twisting my words making me feel worthless. im done. im running away. all i need is shelter with free wifi for schoolwork, a job, food and water, and a ride so i can get to school.
    Last edited by ccsmod0; 09-21-2020, 12:06 AM.

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I really wanna runaway because my mom and dad hit and scream in my face. And i have nowhere too go please help

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  • ccsmod4
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything that has been going on. It seems like the relationship with your mother has been strained due to past and current issues.

    If you were to leave home without permission from your mother she might decide to call the police and make a runaway report. If found by the police you most likely would be returned home. Also anyone found to have aided or harbor you could face legal charges.

    The situation sounds very frustrating for you. We’re glad you reached out. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care.
    It is times like these that it might be a nice comfort to have a listening ear.
    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    We would be glad to speak with you about strategies or options that might help you to cope better with your situation.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Sometimes having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.

    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more about your situation and we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    You did a wonderful job reaching out today. Good for you.
    We look forward to hearing from you.


    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Can I run away from my home and go to a friends house and stay there? I don't want to stay at home but I will miss my sisters so what do I do, I don't have a phone because I got it taken up, things are pretty hard for me right now and my mom doesn't understand me at all and we were close but things are so bad between us right now and she wont let me talk to her or anything. I have been wanting to run away for a long time now, but I don't want to miss out on my little sisters lives, I'm not able to hang out with friends or anyone right now because i got in trouble. Please help me, I don't know what to do anymore, I'm 14 years old I live in Texas.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 08-12-2020, 12:23 AM.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).Another option would be to reach out to your caseworker to see how they can help. Or you can call us and we can reach out to them if you'd like. It's totally up to you. We are here 24/7 and are confidential.

    By law, you do have a right to schooling and an education, even if you were to somehow find yourself homeless. However, usually a school will want to have guardian or home information for you, so running away and still going to school is at the least bit somewhat complicated. If you chat or call us we can talk more about the situation.

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. We hope to hear from you soon!

    Be safe,
    NRS
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 07-24-2020, 03:35 PM.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm in foster care, and I don't wanna be here I want to run away but I'm a honor student and I wanna still go to school.

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  • ccsmod13
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation. Reaching out for help was a great first step to getting the support you may need. Having a solid plan for leaving is definitely important to make sure you can stay as safe as possible.

    Generally, you do need a guardian to enroll in school, but there can be exceptions to this. You do have a right to an education even if you are not living at home or if you are experiencing homelessness. Your right to an education is protected through a law called the McKinney-Vento Act. You can go to the website for the National Center for Homeless Education (www.nche.ed.gov) to find the McKinney-Vento Liason for your school district. This person would be able to give you more information about enrolling in school without a guardian and any issues you may run into.

    We hope this information helps! We truly want to be a support for you during this challenging time. If you want to talk more about your situation and brainstorm some possible options, we are here 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. You can contact us directly by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Good luck and stay safe,
    NRS
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