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  • #31
    I want to run away but I want to continue school so I can have a good life outside of home. My dad is completely out of my life and has been for about a year now and my mom is verbally and emotionally abusing me and giving me punishments for things I can’t control and I just don’t want to deal with it anymore. I have diagnosed anxiety depression and ptsd a lot of which is because of her and my dad and all I want to do now is just leave so I don’t end up killing myself anymore. I only have one person I’m living for and I just want to leave with him but he won’t say yes and I want to have a successful life but I don’t know how I can without education. I just want to be happy and I think running away will help but I don’t know about it for in the long run.

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    • ccsmod9
      ccsmod9 commented
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      Hi there,

      You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

      Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • #32
    I’m running away and heading to California, but I want to finish high school, only two more years, I don’t know if I can find somewhere their and sign me up for school. Will that work?

    I live in Ohio

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    • ccsmod7
      ccsmod7 commented
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      Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

      Unfortunately, it can be difficult to sign up for school without a guardian signing for you. If you are able to prove homelessness, you might be able to enroll in school as a homeless or independent minor. To learn more about that process you might reach out to the National Center for Homeless Education's Helpline: 1-800-308-2145 to link up with the homeless education liaison in California.

      If you would would to talk more about your situation please do not hesitate to call or chat us: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

      Best,

      NRS

  • #33
    My dad is abusive and my every action seems to make my mother angry. I feel like a failure, a disappointment, useless. I think running away make all of their lives better. I used to be the favorite child but then my stupid little brothers came along and made me the middle child. I have two older siblings both the same age, they make fun of me and sometimes hit me. My little brothers are very young and they don't like me at all. If i do something wrong, my mother yells at me and then my dad hits me til I bleed. I can't take it anymore and I have to run away. Good day/noon/afternoon/evening/night/morning.

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    • #34
      My dad is abusive


      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
      It sounds like there is a lot that you are going through right now and you’re thinking about running away.
      We understand how frustrated you must feel right now. It’s probably pretty tough feeling like you are not sure just where you fit in. You are very strong person for talking and expressing the way that you feel. Good for you.
      Being abused is not your fault. You don’t deserve to have this happen and you should know that there are laws to protect minors against abuse. If things continue to escalate and you feel at risk and would like to file an abuse report you may do so by contacting Child Help USA at: 1-800-422-4453
      NRS can also assist with filing a child abuse report and assist with trying to locate a safe emergency shelter. We can also assist with trying to locate family crisis counseling services through our data base. You did a great job reaching out today.

      NRS is here to listen and here to help.
      Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.

      We are here as support to you during this challenging time.
      If you or you would like to talk more in detail we can best help by phone or chat.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). Please call or chat soon.

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 9-1-1 or seek emergency assistance immediately.


      Take care,
      NRS

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      • #35
        So Im 17 And i turn 18 in 8 months and 1 week ( im counting down the days). I made some mistakes and now my parents left me with 2 options get arrested or join the military over the past few years even though im 17 my parents make me feel like im still just a 10 year old kid. So ive decided to make the conscious decision to leave home tonight my friend says he can help me out but what im most worried about is my education could I sign up for online classes or would it be better to wait until im 18 and get my GED, also I will be leaving with 2 forms of identification on me (my license and ssn card) and will be looking for a job that either pays under table or wont mind hiring a run away. Any information to both of these problems would be greatly appricaited.

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        • ccsmod2
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          Hello There,
          Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now.
          We are not legal experts but we do have some information on the laws for you. If you were to leave home before turning 18 your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police do find you they most likely would bring you home.
          You mentioned how you are worried about your education. You would need to contact your school and ask them if you could transfer your credits to take classes online or how to go about continuing your education. Also jobs would not be able to tell if you are a runaway as it is not a criminal offense.
          We hope this information will be useful to you in your situation. If you have any other question or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
          NRS

      • #36

        I’m currently 14

        my household is honestly pretty great on the outside but it’s not the same in the inside. It’s nothing serious but I’m not sure if I’ll even be able to make it to my 15th birthday. I’ve grown up with serious mental help issues and have been trying to kill myself since I was 10. I stopped harming myself last year but the problem is rising again. I’ve told my parents about my depression and suicidal tendencies but they refuse to take me to any therapist. I’m also transgender and my parents are very strict Christians. They threatened to kick my older sister out of the house for coming out as gay a few years back. My mom gets pretty heated whenever there’s an argument between her and me. She’ll sometimes curse at me and call me harsh names. I want to know if I run if I’ll be able to attend another school or join an orphanage without my parents knowing. If things do not go to well within the next month then I’ll either take my life or run away.
        Last edited by ccsmod7; 11-21-2019, 12:23 PM. Reason: identifying info

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        • ccsmod7
          ccsmod7 commented
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          Hello, we are glad that you have decided to reach out to us. We are so sorry to hear about your current situation, it must be very difficult for you to go through this. You deserve validation for your gender choice, it is a beautiful thing that you have discovered a part of who you are. It must be hard to deal with your mom cursing at you and calling you names, you do not deserve to be treated like that.

          We would like to offer you praise for coming to us about your suicidal tendencies, it takes a lot to ask for help and you are so brave in doing so. If you ever find your life in immediate danger then we would like to urge you to call 9-1-1. If you are ever interested in speaking with someone about suicidal thoughts, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24-7 and free to call for confidential emotional support and their number is 1-800-273-8255. You asked if you could run away and still attend school, although we are not legal experts here at NRS we can offer a potential resource that may help in that area. The resource is the National Center for Homeless Educational Helpline and their number is 1-800-308-2145. Along with these resources, we would like to provide our own as well, our number is 1-800-786-2929 and we are also available 24-7. If you ever find yourself in the position of contemplating running away or have already run away please do not hesitate to call us. We offer guidance and support, resources you may need and can help you come up with a safe plan of action as well.

          Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. Your life is valuable and precious, and you are trying to figure out your options which is amazing to see. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We’re here to listen, here to help.

      • #37
        HI!, after looking at all of your posts, some people have been through tough times worse than me, but ever since I was born, I was always told as a pain in the family, and how I shouldn't have been born, I have no support in anything I do, for I'm abused and discriminated for it, while it is common for Asian parents to abuse their children, I feel like my parents are a little extreme, I am an introvert, so I haven't told my friends or anyone, what annoys me the most is when I am absolutely doing nothing wrong, like I'm just reading a book and my mom or dad would come beating me up for not listening to them. I'm sick and tired of it. On the other hand, I feel bad for my parents waisting their time on beating me up and having to use their anger on me, for I understand they have nowhere to show their anger. The main reason I popped up on her was to say that I love school, and am determined to become a doctor. I have no support since I'm apparently useless and lazy. but I still dream of it every day. I want to attend school and become independent, I was wondering if there are any boarding schools I can attend, where I won't be a disturbance to my family.

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        • ccsmod1
          ccsmod1 commented
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          Hi,

          Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We understand it takes a lot of courage to reach out for help and share your story.
          It is wonderful to hear you dream of becoming a doctor! You are not a disturbance to your family and you do not deserve to be abused by them. You do not deserve to be someone others take their anger out on. We’re not sure about any boarding schools you could attend as that would probably be something you would need to discuss with your parents, which we understand could be difficult. We also understand that it can be hard to talk to others about your parents, but you took a great first step by opening up here. All this to say, talking to a friend or trusted adult about your parents would be helpful if you feel comfortable doing so. Though we are not legal experts, staying with other friends or family with your parents’ permission is a possible alternative to boarding school. Depending on your age, another possible alternative is emancipation, which could help you become more independent as you could become emancipated from your parents by proving you are mature enough to live on your own and need to do so. The requirements and process differ by state, but it typically can be helpful to have a job, a place to stay lined up, and parental permission or proof of their abuse. The process is also typically longer and more costly, but we could certainly offer you some resources to help you with the process if it is something you are interested in.

          Thanks again for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing your story. Feel free to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at our website anytime if you have any questions. Best of luck!

          -NRS

      • #38
        should I run away i have a good family but I'm always left out and i don't have friends and feel alone I'm also stressed and with bully's

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        • ccsmod1
          ccsmod1 commented
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          Hey there,

          Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It sounds like you're in a really tense situation and it must be really hard to be around. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

          It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. Living on your own can also bring about many safety risks. You will need to consider ways that you can protect yourself from physical harm as well as the possibility of sexual and labor exploitation. This can all influence your decision to leave.

          No one deserves to be bullied. You should be treated with respect everywhere you go and you should feel comfortable at school. If you feel comfortable you can always disclose what’s going on with a trusted teacher, school counselor, or other personnel; they may be able to help. You can also check out https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/bullies.html for some “Bullying Survival Tips”.

          If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

          Stay safe,
          NRS
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