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    hi I feel like I'm wasting/ wasted my life, my parents force me into the stuff I never wanted to do since I was little they make decisions on my without my opinion, and I've tried telling them that I don't feel ok, but they won't listen, especially my mom shes very manipulative she screams at me then the next moment she's sugarcoating her mistake. all my suicide attempts come from the rage I feel from their abuse I don't know what to do anymore I really want to live an exciting happy life, and I do love them but I feel like they aren't good for my future, anyways if I do choose to runaway will I still be able to get an education (of course in another state or city) or will they be able to find me. if so, how can i avoided being found out.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out! In most states 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian.
    Generally, to be enrolled in school a legal guardian needs to be present. This might not always be the case, calling the school and asking how they might handle runaways may be helpful.
    We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.
    When leaving with someone it’s always good to make sure you have options. It can be helpful to be sure to have access to your phone at all times, and have possibly a friend or relative who you can confide in to keep in contact with in case of an emergency.
    If you would like to discuss in further detail, please reach out to us via chat or call. We are here 24/7 to help and support you.
    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    I'm ***, I am recently 16 as of February 19th and I am dating a guy 21 years older than me but I think I might love him.. We want to run away together and start a life free of our pasts. It sounds amazing but I still need to go to school. I want to graduate and have a decent job. I need advice what should I do?
    Last edited by ccsmod5; 03-02-2021, 03:02 AM. Reason: Confidentiality

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello there, thank you for reaching out to NRS through our forum-it takes a lot of courage to reach out and talk about what’s going on at home, and we will try to help to the best of our ability. First and foremost, you do not deserve to be physically assaulted at home, especially by your mother. You should be able to feel safe and have open communication with your family while living there. Since living conditions have not really been too healthy for you at home, it is without a doubt understandable that you would like to leave home and live somewhere else. One thing to try is to reach out to trusted family members or friends and see if they would be willing to take you in for a bit, so that you can leave home and also still attend classes as you would like. It is amazing that you enjoy school and definitely keep at it! Should you decide to run away from home, your legal guardian i.e. your mom could file a runaway report on you, and if the police happen to locate you at say a friend’s or family member’s house, they would be required by law to return you home. However, it might be advantageous for you to file an abuse report with your local police concerning what is going on at home and in the event that your mom files a runaway report and they find you, you will have some documentation against your mom that will act as a potential “safety net” for you. So, in the event that the police locate you, they will be apprehensive about just returning you home to someone that physically hits you. Also, if you are comfortable, try to reach out to a trusted teacher or counselor at school to talk about what is going on at home. Concerning your phone, it might be difficult to retrieve if your guardian has already taken it-it might be more helpful to ask to use the phone of a friend or family member, or maybe even your school could try to figure out something and let you use the landlines of the school until you are able to retrieve your phone. Another great resource for you could be the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline if you would like to reach out and talk to someone more in depth about what you are going though at home and they can give you even more resources tailored to cases of abuse. Should you decide to reach out to them, please call 1(800)-4-A-CHILD (422-4453). If you would like to talk further about anything that was mentioned above or if you have any other questions, please do not hesitate to reach out to NRS directly at 1(800)-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We are here to listen and help to the best of our ability 24/7.

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    hi im 12 and im having tons of issues ima be honest here i do lie and i can get an adutude but my mom has recently bashed my head on a wall so yeah but anyway i need help i have a phone but they took it away and it has not been charged in a while idk if i can be good long enough to withstand this i want to run but where do i go? and also i love school and want to attend if i do runaway but how do i get my phone back charge it then run if my parents know all my tricks?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to share your situation with us here at NRS. It sounds like there is a lot that you are facing at home and you are thinking about leaving before you turn 18. We want you to know that you are not alone in this and we are here 24/7 to support you and help as much as possible. You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it to child protective services. No one can force you to get married if you don't want to. If you do not want to report the abuse or you are not quite ready to do so, we encourage you to talk to any trusted adults about what's going on home. Perhaps there is a family member, teacher, counselor, or friend's parent you can go to for support.

    We encourage you to take whatever steps necessary to protect your safety. We also want to make sure you are informed about what could happen if you decide you need to leave before turning 18. If you leave home without permission, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal so you will not get into any legal trouble. It is a status offense which means your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. Once you are 18 you will be considered a legal adult with the legal freedom to choose where you live and where you go to college.

    If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore your possible options, please do not hesitate to contact us directly by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hello,
    I live in California. My parents are horrible to me. Everyday I am abused in many ways and they will not allow me to go to my dream college. And they want me to get married to someone they chose soon. I am 17 and 18 in May. Can I leave now and get away with it or will I have to wait.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hi, so I'm 14 years old and my house isn't horrible but it's getting really stressful and I just want to get out. My mom and I always disagree and it seems like she doesn't care about what I have to say. I'm in therapy and take medication. My mom has threatened to take my door off or put a lock on it so I can't go in there during the day. my bio dad killed himself when I was 3. my stepdad has physically and verbally abused me before because of not liking how I react to things and do certain things when I already have mental health issues. he's given me a black eye and along with it put a giant cut under the same eye. he's fractured my collarbone for taking a lighter back and not giving it to him. he's gotten in my face and yelled at me because of something I did. calling me worthless and useless and just a lot of stuff I can't think of right now. and every time the authorities got called to my house, they never did anything because my house is really nice and my other siblings don't do as much stuff to dissatisfy them. in the past, my mom has also called me a whore. she has also told my friends that they are idiots and how their parents didn't give a ******** about them. my stepdad has really bad anger issues, he's gotten a lot better but even through all the times he hit me and screamed in my face, my mom stayed with him. I know I'm not completely innocent. like I've been to two mental hospitals and I've gotten physical with my mom and stepdad. but it seems like they treat me like I'm a prisoner. like there are alarms on the windows in the house because I USED to sneak out. that was over a year ago and they still have them. I can't open one of the windows in my room because of it. they provide me with everything I need and all and I know they love me and I love them but I really need to get out of here before I do something really bad. and I don't want to go back to a mental hospital either. my best friend and I have come up with a plan and a place for me to stay in her house without anybody knowing but I still need to go to school because I'm in a Tech school for art and need to graduate from there to get my dream job. we are in a pandemic right now, so I do remote school. I know if I run away, my mom will literally do anything to get me back home but I know that if I were to go back home after running away, things would be the same, if not worse. they don't trust me at all and I don't feel like this place is home. I've made A LOT of mistakes, some of them being illegal but I feel like my house should still feel like home and it doesn't. and because of this, I do more things I'm not "supposed" to do because I just want to break free. how can I run away, still finish high school, and never go back home until I turn 18 and are legally on my own??

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    You don't deserve to be abused in any way. It is not your fault.
    You have the right to want to be treated fairly.
    As of right now you’re feeling like leaving in a few years a strong possibility for you.
    You seem to have thought hard on this but you would like some information on continuing education for runaways. We would be glad to speak with you about strategies or options that might help you to prepare a plan.
    We want you to know that we are here as support during this challenging time.
    Sometimes having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.

    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more about your situation and we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    You did a wonderful job reaching out today.
    We look forward to hearing from you.


    Take care,
    NRS

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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    You don't deserve to be abused in any way. It is not your fault.
    You have the right to want to be treated fairly.
    As of right now you’re feeling like leaving in a few years a strong possibility for you.
    You seem to have thought hard on this but you would like some information on continuing education for runaways. We would be glad to speak with you about strategies or options that might help you to prepare a plan.
    We want you to know that we are here as support during this challenging time.
    Sometimes having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.

    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more about your situation and we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    You did a wonderful job reaching out today.
    We look forward to hearing from you.


    Take care,
    NRS

    Last edited by ccsmod4; 11-26-2020, 03:40 AM.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    my name is Victoria. I'm a 15 year old freshman in NC. My parents are divorced. I have siblings that I love very much and a little brother on the way (my dads kid). I want to run away because I can't breathe. I feel like I can only breathe this polluted, dirty, choking air that my parents make me breathe instead of blocking it out and letting me breathe the rich fresh air i need. I am only aloud to dress in conservative clothes (I'm more of a punk,rock,goth, witchy kinda style girl), i can only draw things that are "appropriate" in today's society for a "young lady", i'm not aloud to say certain words, i can't play my music on speakers or have the volume turned up to where they can here it because it's "disturbing" and once again "unlady-like". The one thing I can do is schoolwork. And my schoolwork dictates everything; how i can dress, how i can act, what i can have, who i can see, what i can do. I'm suffocating. My dad keeps yelling at me and taking away my stuff when my grades start to drop because he wants to "motivate me" into doing things that don't need to be done right that second. i know other kids have it worse and im grateful to be living i such a nice house but, he's been emotionally abusing me and manipulating me into doing what he wants. i still want to go to school of course because without it i wouldnt be able to get my dream job. I'm good at doing my work and turning it in hes just so angry all the time. twisting my words making me feel worthless. im done. im running away. all i need is shelter with free wifi for schoolwork, a job, food and water, and a ride so i can get to school.
    Last edited by ccsmod0; 09-21-2020, 12:06 AM.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I really wanna runaway because my mom and dad hit and scream in my face. And i have nowhere too go please help

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