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    Hi. I am 14 years old and really sick of all the fighting that has been going on my family. My parents always fight with each other and with me. Every time I do something that is not to my mothers standards she blows up. I want to go live with my Grandfather in NH but my dad won't even consider it because he is an obsessive ex-cop control freak. I brought up the fact that I had been thinking about what life would be like if I ran away and she said she was thinking about it to because he mothers boyfriend is verbally abusive to her and her brother. We both know it would really upset our families if we ran away, but we are not planning on coming back. We want to run away together because we think we can survive better if we work together. I live in Florida so we are planning to run away and we know where we want to go. But, she is very sure she wants to leave and I understand that, but I am still very conflicted about. I know that I would miss my family. But I also no I can no longer live in this house with doing something drastic. We both plan to bring one of our dogs with us when we go. We know that that will make it more difficult to run but we are determined not to leave them. We have a plan to siphon off money and food from our collective homes until we have enough supply's to make it at let halfway to our destination. I am still retry conflicted though. What will my parents think if/when I return home. Will a 10th grade education be enough? I am skipping a grade and have wonderful college perspectives, so is it really worth it? Will people think less of me? Should I only run away for a couple days to make a point? I don't want to let my friend down but I am still very unsure of what the right path is. My parents keep pushing me to have a big, high paying career, and I only want to be a nurse or a waitress. I can achieve more but those options make me very happy. I also lost my late grandmothers ring I got before her funeral. I am not prepared to leave until I have that back, is that a bad or good thing? Please I need a lot of help when deciding what to do.

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    RE: I am 14. amd sick of my family. But I am conflicted.


    Thank you for contacting us during this difficult time. It sounds like you are considering what options you have available to you right now. You mentioned saving up money until you get halfway to your destination, what is your plan to go the rest of the way? You also talked about taking an animal along with you. Have you looked into what shelters or hotels allow pets? You also mentioned being concerned about your parents’ reaction to you leaving. There are several things about runaway laws to take into consideration.

    Technically, in most places it is not against the law to run away from home. In most cases it is considered a status offence. However, anyone that you would be caught staying with could be charged with ‘harboring a runaway’. Is your grandfather in New Hampshire willing to take that risk for you and your friend?

    You also mentioned being concerned about dropping out of school. You said you had some wonderful college perspectives and are worried about only having a 10th grade education when you are finished. It can be difficult when other people put pressure on you to go into a field or career you would not be happy pursuing. Have you tried talking to your parents about how it makes you feel when they pressure you?

    You mentioned waiting until you found your grandmother’s ring before leaving. It sounds like you have very strong feelings about your family and are having trouble deciding what to do. We cannot give advice here but we would encourage you to talk to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929). We can also be reached by live chat at from 4:30-11:30 Central Standard Time. We are 24/7, anonymous and confidential. We hope to hear from you and your friend and wish you both the best of luck.

    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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