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  • ccsmod13
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    Hello,

    You did the right thing by reaching out. Living with a toxic parent is very hard, especially with one you don’t feel completely safe around.
    From your post, it seems like you spend time both at your dad’s and at your mom’s. And that they live apart, is that correct?
    While you can’t legally leave home and be on your own, there are some things you or your mom may be able to do if you’d prefer she have full custody, so you wouldn’t have to spend time at your father’s house—if that’s the case.

    Please give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at 1800runaway.org so we can clarify your situation. We can help you explore further what’s going on and provide some options that may be able to help.

    We’re here 24/7, ready to listen and ready to help.
    And we wish you the best!
    -NRS

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    I’m 15 years old. My dad was very toxic when I was younger. Exposing me to people who were on pills and drugs and even doing them himself. He is doing better now but I don’t want to spend the night with him. I’ve tried everything to explain to him I don’t want to spend the night I feel uncomfortable and he still doesn’t give me a choice. My mom just tries her best to work with my dad. He isn’t on my birth certificate he never signed it. Is there anything I can do In this situation? It’s so bad that every time I have to spend the night I contemplate calling a friend to come get me and take me back to my house whenever he goes to sleep.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We wish you the best of luck! If you have any more questions please give us a call. We are here for you 24/7.
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    im adopted and i want to do the same but to my mom house

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your dad’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your dad. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I want to live with my mom but my dad says I can’t make that choice because I’m sill a minor. But I’m 16 and have a better relationship with her. I’ve told him over and over how unhappy I am living with him and I have more support and friends where my mom lives but he says keeping me with him will make me successful. I really just think he’s being selfish because he lies to me about the court order and emotionally abuses me making me question who I am as a person. I’ve thought about running away but since Ive gotten back from summer vacation at my moms but, he’s taken my phone and makeup, has deleted all my social media accounts permanently and taken me out of public school so he can watch me all the time. I just miss my mom so much and I know she’s a good person but he’s always doubting her and I’m tired of hearing about it and I’m tired of him treating me like a little kid. I’ve never felt so alone and depressed than right now, my life was good before he took me from my mom and never sent me back home. I’ve been seeing what I can do legally so get out faster but I don’t know what to do and my mom doesn’t have money for another custody battle right now.

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hello,
    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re in an intense situation and you’re concerned for your safety and well-being. It’s not easy to reach out for help when you’re feeling this way, we’re glad you did.

    It sounds like an abuse report has already been filed since there is an open investigation on your dad. If you feel you are in danger, you have the option of calling 911. You mentioned that you are with your mother right now, but she is returning you to your dad. This must be frustrating for you, but if you feel unsafe you can let that be known to authorities. As you are 17, in most states you’re considered a minor. You could run away, but in most cases you’ll be returned home to your legal guardian. If that person is your dad, that is who you’ll be returned to. If your mother shares custody, you could possibly be approved to stay with her. We don’t give legal advice here at NRS, but we can connect you with resources specifically in your area. You can also call your non-emergency police line in your area.

    If you are considering ending your life, you can reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. If you would like to discuss legal options in your area, or some possible shelter options if you decide to run away, reach out to us here at 1-800-786-2929. You don’t have to go through this alone. We also have a chat option on our website, www.1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7, please don’t hesitate to reach out.

    Best,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 17 and my mom and dad are divorced.they have shared parenting with my dad being the residential parent for school purposes only.cauae I wanted to stay in my school.my dad and grandmother are horrible horrible people.ii have tried to kill myself 3 times.my mom is suppose to take me back on Sunday but I defuse to go.i will runaway.childrens services already have an open investigation on my dad.i just want out....what can I do if I runaway and refuse to go back to my dad's.i just wanna live with my mother and be safe please help..

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are in a tricky situation wanting to live with your noncustodial dad. Here at NRS, we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.

    Unfortunately, if you leave home without permission your mom can file you as a runaway with local police. If you are found you could be returned home. If you haven't already, you might talk to your dad about wanting to live with him. He might be able to make an agreement with your mom or go to court for partial custody of you. If you need help talking to your parents we have a conference call service if you call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we could have a mediator on the line.

    Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like additional help. We are always here for you.

    Best,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm 12 and want to live with my dad because he treats me better but my mom has full custody . Can I leave without permission and they both live in
    Virginia. What do I do

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  • ccsmod7
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    Thanks for reaching out! It sounds like you're in a difficult situation and it takes a lot of courage to ask for help. We're sorry to hear about your living situation, everyone deserves to feel safe and loved in their home. Unfortunately until you are a legal adult, 18 years old, your legal guardians make the decisions about where you live. If you can get permission from your parents to move in with your mom then you are able to move, but without permission your legal guardian has the right to file a runaway report if you leave home without permission. This is not a crime, but a status offense and whether or not it is enforced depends on the area you are in. The best way to find out how they are handled in your area is by calling the local police department with a hypothetical question. If you have any more questions, don't hesitate to call our toll-free, 24 hour hotline! 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

    Best of luck!

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 16 about to be 17 in about 6 months and I live with my aunt right now but I really want to go live with my mom but I dont know what to do. My dad is going to court to try and get me and my brother to live with him but I dont want to because I want to live with my mom. Sometimes I feels like my aunt hates me and she calls me names all the time and it puts alot of stress on me. When I turn 17 can I leave and go live with my mom?

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. Sounds like you are in a very difficult situation living with your stepdad and wanting to live with your mom who does not have custody of you.

    Generally speaking, if your mom did loose custody of you she might have to go through the court or DCFS to regain custody of you. From your post, it's hard to say what happened with your mom's custody rights over you. If you haven't already, you might ask your mom about whether or not she can work to regain custody of you. If you would like us to get a better idea of your situation so we can really help brainstorm your options, please call or chat us so we can better assist you: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

    It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed by your stepdad. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Can I run away to live with my birth mother without have to go to court because my life except for 3 years I lived with my stepdad. My stepdad was abusive and I was to scared to do anything so I threw a tantrum and he would grab me drag me up the stairs and throw me in my room I once sat on the ledge of my window of a 2 story building I was about to jump out I also am to scared to cut myself because my scars should show because I only where short sleeve shirts and I would always when I was really mad try to hurt myself by hitting my head really had so if I’m ever throwing a tantrum I end up hiring my head against things throwing my self into the floor and hurting myself to the point where if I am mad I can be alone in a room with dangerous things I was once so mad that I when into the kitchen and found the big gist nife I could find and I threatened to kill my self and now that I’m older my stepdad dose t do anything to me because he knows I can tell the court I want to switch to visit my mom. So I was born first and my real dad was never there he left befor I was born and then eventually my brothers dad cane along and they were my new brothers and we livid with his dad and all my life he had been telling me that I was his real dad and I always was until I found out from one of his ex girlfriends and that was when I snapped and I got really mad at him for making me believe that he was my father and then my mom and him and I and my brothers all lived together then my mom did something bad and my stepdad didn’t approve of it so he kept us away from her for a very very very very long time because I had just met her again when I was 9 and she could only visit us once a week for 2 hours then she went to a group home and we visited her there 1 time and we didn’t see her for a while. Then eventually she moved into a house with her boyfriend and we got to see her every other weekend because we used to see my moms grandma every other weekend but we like to see our mom more because we had seen my grandma longer than our mom then my mom has to move and she wasn't in a good neighborhood so my stepdad kept us away from her. Then we eventually got to the summertime and he ended up doing something wrong and he went to jail so we got to stay with my mom then he got out and got a house so we had to stay with him the whole school year we got to see my mom every now and then but then came tweeds the end of the school year and he crashed his motorcycle and then he got blew up in the infurmory during construction. So we got to stay with my mom for the rest of the school year and summer then the next school year we are with her for most of the school year then he takes us and brings us to his new house and we keep going to school just with him then we barley got to see our mom then my my step dad on new years hit a girl and she was beating him they where boyfriend and girlfriend then we put a restraining order on her then she hit him again becuase she came with the restraining order on her and he hit her back and he went to jail then he went to the city’s to look for a job and somebody claimed he disobeyed his probation and he got drunk and hit a girl so now he is in treatment so we have to kid with my stepdads sister and she sometime disagrees with me and we end up not getting along so and cry and I don’t like talking about my feelings to adults because they don’t understand and then if I go to therapy then they will tell my parents and they won’t understand and I would like to talk about my friends to this but I don’t have friends who like to talk about that stuff except for one but they moved to Arizona so we basically can’t talk except for phone and text and that’s not the same. Then I try to help my mother because she just got a new house so I help and set up rooms and stuff and my aunt just dobsonfly wants me home and then June 25th my mom got surgery because she had breast cancer so I was trying to help her extra because she can’t move her arms that well from her surgery and she can only lift small light things because she can only move her elbows to her hands up and down and a little left to right. Then my aunt wants me home at my stepdads and he is still in treatment so I don’t see him but I stay in my room and my brothers come wake me up so I can go to my moms to see how she is doing we get there and I eat dinner with my mom and brothers and my aunt calls and says we all have to come home and she gave us a five minute talk that we can’t leave without letting her know and then she won’t even Give me a ride back and my mother can drive and they are making me stay at there house.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS
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