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    can i legially go live with my dad in texas when i live in alamaba and havent seen him in 4 years because my mom took me away from him can i legially run away to my dads

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hello, thank you for reaching out to us during this difficult time. It sounds like your mom is being physically abusive and you have left her to stay with your dads. Although we are not legal experts, it’s technically not against the law for you to have run away from your mom’s house. In most places it’s considered a ‘status offense’. However, you are correct that anyone you would be staying with could be in trouble for ‘harboring a runaway’ if your mom decided to press charges against your dad. It sounds like the police already arrived and have decided that your parents need to go to court to figure it out. Usually it means amending the custody arrangement. You can help your dad if you can show the courts that it is safer to be with your father. This could involve reporting her abuse to you. Child Help at 1-800-246-7743 can help you start this process. Here at the National Runaway Safeline, we want you to be safe, please give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or contact us via chat at https://www.1800runaway.org/. Stay safe and good luck.

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    Me and my mom don't get along and it's gotten to the point where she slaps me and pulls my hair and the cops are called all the time and I ran away to my dad's and she knows that I'm here and I had ran away and the cops had came to my dad's house and they said that I had to court can I stay there while my dad goes to court or can my mom get my dad for kidnapping

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS

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    help!



    My mom is a horrible mother, always critisizes me, puts me down, and puts my brothers before me always. I feel trapped, i can't live here anymore. My mom and dad are split up but not divorced, my mom doesn't have full custody of me so if i just refused to come back to my mom's house and stayed at my dad's house, would she be able to do anything about it? Like could me or my dad get in any legal trouble? Please reply, i can not take this anymore.[/QUOTE]

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi,
    Thank you for your question. We aren’t legal experts here, but we can give some general information. The short answer is, yes, you can live with your dad if you have your mom’s permission or if your dad has custody of you. The long answer is that issues of custody can be complicated and you may be returned home if your dad is unable to produce court paperwork proving that you’re supposed to be there. For more information, you might want to call your local police and ask or talk to a lawyer.
    Feel free to reach out by phone if you have any questions, need resources, or want to talk more specifically about your situation. We’re here 24/7 to listen and to help at 1-800-786-2929.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    Can i actually get away from my moms house to live with my dad but im only 17

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello,
    Thank you for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to hear that things have been so challenging for your family. It sounds like your daughter feels that she would prefer to live with her biological mother, and you and your husband are concerned that your daughter might be at risk of using drugs if she goes to her biological mother. We can definitely go over options that might be available to you, and we encourage you to reach out to us by phone or chat if you’d like more information.

    You’ve asked about the best way to approach your situation, as well as whether there are boarding schools where you might be able to send your daughter. In your message, you brought up trying therapy with your daughter, but it doesn’t seem to be working. If you feel comfortable with it, you can always ask the therapist if they can refer you to a residential school options in your area. Unfortunately, boarding schools can be pricey, and you may have to ask about whether they can use a sliding scale fee, or if there’s a way to offset the cost. Another option might be to explore whether your state has any residential services available, as well as whether your state offers child/minor in need of supervision programs that might help you access local resources, which may include residential programs.

    We are so sorry to hear that your family is having such a tough time. Please know that we are here to support you & your family. If you would like help identifying resources in your area, don’t hesitate to reach out to us. We are available every day, 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786.2929), every day via chat as well. We wish you the very best of luck. Stay safe!

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    My husband and I have custody of a 14 year old that already runaway with the biological mother. the mother introduce drugs and boyfriend to her. our daughter said she is not happy with us but we are afraid that if we let her go with her mom she is going to turn worse with drugs. we are trying therapy but I guess its not working. our daughter is already influencing with our younger daughter and we don't know what to do. we are trying to find a boarding school for her but we don't have the money. any suggestions.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: Can I runaway to live with my dad


    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    It sounds like you are going through a terrible situation at home.
    You don’t deserve to be abused by your mom, her actions are not your fault.
    It is not right that you have to suffer for things that she might be going through.
    Your safety is important. It sounds like you are thinking about going to your father for help.
    Perhaps you might talk with him and try to explain what’s going on.
    There are laws to protect you from child abuse. You or your father have the option of filing an abuse report with child protective services.
    It might be helpful to photograph any bruises or injuries.

    We understand if there is some hesitation to do this. It’s not an easy decision to make. On the other hand your safety is important.
    If you feel at risk or in danger going to your father's sounds like an idea you have thought of as a first option.

    Talking with a teacher or counselor at your school and asking for help might be another to consider. A teacher or social worker at the school can also assist with filing an abuse report.
    To file an abuse report you can contact Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org this is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    NRS can try to assist you with locating a safe place or emergency shelter in your area. You can contact us at 1-800 –Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org for help and support.

    You are very brave to have reached out today. Good job.
    Please remember that if you are at risk or in any danger we urge you to dial 9-1-1 for immediate help.

    Be safe,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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    Can I runaway to live with my dad because it’s to the point where I’m just depressed because my mom is treating my siblings better than me and blaming everything on me just the other night she lost her phone because she was drunk and beat me busted my lip slammed me into the ground and then my hair is really long to my but so she yanked it then cut my hair off now its uneven and I have bald spots in some spots I ran away that night but came back in like 4 hours then when I did arrive back she yell again and threaten to beat me for no reason when she had found her phone later that night when I was gone. And she’s till does it to me now I think she takes her pain out on me. But I just can’t live with her anymore. Where can I go?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 11-30-2018, 03:38 AM.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply:Hello I was wondering

    Hi,
    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

    Once you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Something to remember; moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. We understand you want to move in with your mom but it’s good to at least consider other options in case things don’t go as planned.

    Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses.
    It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave.
    There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living.

    We are here to listen and help however we can.
    If you have more questions or would like to talk more about your situation contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org (Live Chat).

    Good luck and take care,
    NRS


    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply:Me and my dad don't get a long.

    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like things are pretty rough at home living with your dad.
    It is unfortunate that he chooses to yell and cuss at you instead of finding a better way to communicate.
    He might find that you are an incredible person trying to do better at things. You don’t deserve that type of behavior from him. On the other hand it does sound like you and your mother have a great relationship and she supports your efforts to do better in school and individually.

    It’s good that you have a comfort zone you can turn to when things are going well and when they are not. There may be some options to explore with getting better communication with your father but we understand if it might be quite a challenge. It might even take considering some form of counseling for the two of you.
    Try to think about the things that you can control within yourself. You mentioned something about getting into trouble outside of school. Well what can you do to avoid getting into trouble?
    This may be one way of keeping things peaceful for you. We understand that it won’t be easy but at least it’s something to think about. You know more about your situation than anyone so you are welcome to contact us and talk about it and explore some options.

    We are here to listen and here to help.
    If you would like to speak more on your situation contact 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org
    You did a great job reaching out today. Good for you.

    We hope that things get better for you.

    Take care,
    NRS


    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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    Hello I was wondering im gonna be 18 in 3 months and I want to move with my mom but my dad has custudy can I still move
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 11-29-2018, 07:28 AM.

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    Me and my dad don't get along. I want to live with my mom who lives in a different state. I feel depressed at my dad’s, he is always yelling and cussing at me about school and doesn't see that I'm trying. I have a stronger relationship with my mom, I can talk to her better and we trust each other more. She doesn't tell me the things my dad says and she sees when I'm stressed out and when I am trying to do better. My dad is too strict. He won't let me live with my mom because he thinks she amounts to nothing and he thinks I will amount to nothing if I live with her but this isn't true. My mom encourages me to do better just like my dad but she isn't as hard and mean about it. She doesn't make me feel like ******** like he does. When I get in trouble outside of school my dad will get the school involved which doesn't help benefit me at all it just gives the principals and teachers negative opinions about me.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 11-29-2018, 06:31 AM.

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