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  • ccsmod10
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    Hey there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

    It sounds like your mom is bringing a lot of negativity into your life. It’s understandable why you’d want to live with your dad. We’re not legal experts, but it probably would to be good to find out who has legal custody over you. If they have joint custody, then you should be good to go! We offer conference calling between youth and their parents. If you need help talking to your mom about staying with your dad, we can definitely help facilitate that conversation!

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Also, talking to school counselors and teachers about what’s going on at home could provide you with great support. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center, or use our chatting services via our website. So the best way to tell us everything would be to just call into our hotline and talk to one of our trained liners.

    Be safe, NRS

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    So i live with my mom and ever since, of what shes told me is that he left. He told me mom kicked him out because she had a lover. She tells me so many lies about him and i hate that she never wants to twll me the truth. My mom doesnt respect my dad, but my dad respects my mom. And my dad wants to help me and doesnt tell me bad stuff. My mom whenever i do something wrong she always compares me to my dad and i don't like that becuase she makes me feel like it was my fault that i have a dad like that. I want to ho live with my dad, but I'm scared that my mom won't let me. Thats why i never tell her about it and i can't stand this no more.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello,
    Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are being abused and you would like to go and live with your dad. Abuse whether its physical, sexual, emotional or verbal, it is never okay and you do not deserve it and do have the right to report it. We want you to know that you do have the right to make a report with Child Protective Services. Child Help USA is an information and referral line that can connect you with your local CPS abuse hotline. That number is 1-800-422-4453. If you ever felt like making a report or needed help, we are here to assist with that. We understand that making an abuse report can be intimidating so if you like we can call together to provide support. Since you do have proof of this abuse it could go a long way in ensuring that you do not have to return to your mother’s house. It could also be really beneficial to share this information with your dad, since he is the adult that you are trying to live with.
    We want you to know that all of this might not be an immediate process. It also does not guarantee that you will be able to live with your dad.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope you found this information helpful. If you have any other questions please feel free to give us a call anytime. 1-800-786-2929
    Best, NRS

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    Guest replied
    If I'm 15 am i allowed to leave to my dad's house without permission from my mom if i have proof that it is an abusive situation for me to be in? Is it possible for me to contact a local judge and ask him/her to switch the custody order, if so.... how long do you think it would take?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out to NRS! It sounds like you’ve been going through really hard times lately, it was very brave of you to explain a bit about your situation.
    You mentioned that your mom and step-dad haven’t been treating you the way that you deserve to be treated. Verbal abuse is definitely not okay, and isn’t your fault. It’s understandable that the way you’re being treated is affecting your mental health. It’s not right that your parents aren’t letting you get the services for your mental health that you deserve, that can be considered neglect. If you call into NRS, we can try to find therapists or psychologists in your area. You said that you’re turning 18 in a couple of month, which is great! Being 18 means that you are legal adult and can decide where you want to live or not live (so you can definitely live with your dad if that’s what you decide).
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Also, talking to school counselors and teachers about what’s going on at home could provide you with great support. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center, or use our chatting services via our website. So the best way to tell us everything would be to just call into our hotline and talk to one of our trained liners

    Be safe, NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am about to be 18 in about 3 weeks and a senior in high school.
    I live with my mom and step dad,
    I used to do self harm but I ended up going to a therapist and we got everything straightened out ish...that was about a year ago..now we have 5 foster kids 1 half brother and me... I am the oldest...everyone has had a lot of stress because of the trauma and behavioral issues of the foster kids. My stepdad especially he has started acting **********y to me all the time and my mom has too...they take most of their anger out on me and it hurts. I do have anxiety and I've started cutting myself again. they won't let me see a doctor and they won't get me a therapist. I want to go live with my Bio dad who Is in another state, I also want to go to a regular high school when I get out there but I am 17...I think my mom has custody but I don't know...what can I do or is there anything?

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi Riley,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. I am sorry things have been so frustrating between your mom and her boyfriend. We can definitely talk about some options to help you.
    Depending on your age and the state you live in, you may be old enough to move out without any consequences. In order to determine the age requirement you are more than welcome to give us a call and we can check at 1-800-RUNAWAY or you can call your local police department anonymously and ask what the age of minority is.

    Another option would be discussing how you feel with your mom and her boyfriend. Sometimes it helps to have another voice in a conversation to help explore feelings and mediate the conversation. With that said we do offer a conference call with your guardian, yourself and an NRS liner. The goal of the conference call is to explore feelings and options. The NRS liner’s role is to be the mediator during the call and clearly define terms moving forward and hopefully generate a solution.
    There is also the option of discussing the situation with your Dad. He may be able to help discuss your feelings with your mom.

    You can always give us a call if you would like to explore more options or to just talk more about what is going on at home. We are 24/7 and always here to help.

    Best,

    -NRS

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    can i runaway to my dads house?
    i live with my mom and her boyfriend that is a cop and have been living with them for most of my life now and i just hate living here because im home alone all day and cant go anywhere and im always being told to do things around the house or doing things for neighbors and dont even get paid which is fine but even after all the things i do for them its just not fair. i dont get to see my dad as much as id like to because im supposed to see him every other weekend but that rarely happens now. every time i ask to ask to see my dad or girlfriend or anything leaving home they have now recently have been ignoring me and i hate it because after days pass or the day of i have to ask again and most of the time is a no. i always have to convince her and which i shouldnt have to because i do so much that i deserve it. i hardly get any human interaction here in this home other than sometimes my friends but they just give me more reasons to not talk to them because of the things they do and say. like the cop one time at least that i know of call my dad names that were unacceptable because thats coming from a cop that has never met or spoke to my dad before and i just want to leave.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: My uncles keeping me

    You are over 18 and in most states you are considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway.
    As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. If you are being held against your will you might consider contacting local law enforcement for assistance.

    Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving is a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone.
    Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses.
    It is also helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget.
    It does sound like you plan to move in with a relative.

    Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your uncle for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether he would continue to provide those things after you leave. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet.
    There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living.

    We are here to listen and help however we can.
    If you would like to speak more about your situation and to also explore some options please give NRS a call or live chat with us.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS


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    Guest replied
    My uncles keeping me in Invercargill he said I carnt go home till my dad gets out of prison I'm 21 now and I think I'm old enough to know what I want to do, I can live with my sister but my uncle keeps on telling me that I carn't go any were until my dad gets out he's forcing me to live with him against my own will what do I do ? I feel like ringing the police but can they help with my situation

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hello and thanks for reaching out to us on our forum. It sounds like things aren’t going so well with your dad and stepmother and you would rather live with your mom. We are sorry to hear you feel trapped and it’s understandable you would want to go back to your mom, particularly if she has full custody. We are not legal experts; however, it sounds like your situation might be more of a custody dispute rather than a runaway situation. If your dad is violating the current custody agreement by not letting you see your mom, one option would be for your parents to go back to court.

    We’re available to talk to you in more detail about your situation and we hope you give our Live Chat a try when it opens today at 4:30pm CST. Good luck!

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    Guest replied
    I want to runaway to Augusta to live with my momma again I feel trapped my step mother n dad are both telling me they have their reason buts its irrevalent reason my step mother n dad not allowing me to visit or talk to my mom I want to legally runaway at 17 what to do n how to do it I'm 16 now ..6 months away from turning 17 please help asap
    Ps...My dad have temporarily full custody of me till I'm 18 My mom have full custody of me since their divorce in 08 My mom told them that I can come home when I'm ready but they letting me go...

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hello and thanks for reaching out to us on our online forum. We are sorry to hear you and your mother don’t have a good relationship. Arguing/verbally fighting all the time sounds quit stressful and it makes sense you would be exploring other options. Please keep in mind we are not legal experts; however, it is possible the police would consider going from one parent to another a custody dispute rather than a runaway situation. In that case they might encourage your parents to work things out by returning to family court. If you decide to go to your dad’s and the current custody agreement has not been changed, it is possible he might get in trouble for violating the custody order. However, we cannot guarantee this and it might depend on how your mom reacts as well as how your local law enforcement acts to you leaving. We’re here if you’d like to continue talking about your situation and we encourage you to try out our Live Chat which is currently open. Best of luck!

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    I'm 16 years old, and for my whole life I've lived with my mom. I only got the chance to see my dad on weekends, holidays, and summer break. My mother and I don't have a good relationship; in fact I don't feel she's a mother. All she does in argue and want to fight (verbally). The other night we had a huge fight (verbally) which lead me to want to live at my dads. If I make the choice to live with my dad, can the police do anything about it? Please help!

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hello there, thanks for reaching out.

    Sorry to hear that your dad treats you poorly. You so deserve to live in a safe and loving environment. Here at NRS, we truly want to help.

    As far as using buses or planes to travel to your mom, it would depend on your age and the bus carrier or airlines policy for traveling unaccompanied minors. If you were thinking about taking a bus or plane, you might visit their website to see how old you have to be to travel alone. Sometimes they need your guardian to sign a paper to let you travel alone.
    If your mom has some custody rights over you, their might be actions she can take in court to take custody of you. If you call or chat us, we can provide you with legal aid resources if she needs legal assistance with that court process.

    You mentioned that your dad is awful to you. If there is any abuse or neglect going on in your house, you do have the right to report it to child protective services. If they investigate and the home is found to be highly dangerous, you would be removed from your dad’s care. To learn more about what filing an abuse report might look like for you, you might try calling the expert child advocates at Child Help 1-800-422-4453.

    Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk more about your situation, or need those resources. We are here to listen, here to help.

    Stay safe,

    NRS
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