moms boyfriend tried to choke me.....

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two nights ago my moms boyfriend tried to choke me and tried to throw me down the steps by my hair and sweatshirt...he also screamed at me and called me names and told me i was worthless...im at my best friends moms house now so i havent been home at all but they know where i am...my mom was there and saw everything but she already went back to him...i reported the abuse to child youth and services but they said that if my mom and her boyfriend come to get me i have to go with them...is this true? what else can i do to stay away from him?

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Re: moms boyfriend tried to choke me.....

Hi,
we're very sorry to read about the terrible situation you have come to find yourself in.
It's always troubling to hear about someone such as yourself being abused and would like to express
to you that no one deserves to be treated this way and appreciate you reaching out to us. . We would like to commend you on your courage to file an abuse report and we hope your mom comes around and gives you the support you deserve.
We're glad to hear you are in a safe place for now and understand your concerns about being sent back into a unsafe inviroment. We are not able to give you a definite answer on your having to return to your mom and her boyfriend if she comes to pick you up because we are not officers of the courts. We can however give you referrals that you may contact about your situation for more of a direct legal answer to your question. they are as follow:


Justice For Children : 1-800-733-0059
Child Help USA: 1-800-422-4453

These agencies work with children of abuse and may be able to answer your questions about your rights
as a minor living in a abusive home. You may also call our 24hr hotline to explore your options on staying safe. We hope that you are well and wish you all the best.

nrs

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My partner tells me he wants to build a life with me and shows it. We have a baby together and i love him to. The issues are we use to argue more and more and the arguments would mostly be about him allowing his mom to say and do things to me. For instances she would turn something so small and make it a big deal and he would soak in what he says to point ge was sensitive about anything you could say she done. There was one time she accused me of being inappropriate with her ex boyfriend because i threw him a blanket as he sleeps. Act like we love each other and say i was just playing. She would allows get involved in our arguments when she stir the pot. Why the baby is in his crib left alone in the room? When i told my boyfriend i would put him in his crib so i could go for a walk and he went off on my not listening to me. The fact she would tell him she would slap me and the dact that she indirectly told me when my child was around in his car seat and i would play it off. There was times i let her get to me i ended up arguing with my partner and her. The last i encountered her my partner was going off on ne in front of his family at family dinner just because his mom wanted me to leave a hat off my son head and i felt it was best he have it on to protect his had she started making that be big deal so he embarrassed me and when i tried to walk away with our child he wouldnt let me leave he was trying forciful trying to make me listen to his mother he kept geabbing on me and i was up against i wall so i put him in a choke hold to stop and i went off he made it even worse claiming i was hitting on him when i wasnt and when i able to put our child in another room she said she wanted to slap i confronted and said that it wasnt from a distance and she walked up in my face and choked me her nail dug in my skin so i punched her as we would being separated. The cops we decided to not press charges. My spouse was mad at me at first after a few weeks he came around and told his mom she was wrong as much i was and apologized. Showed me he wanted a second chance and in his son and my life. The problem is after 3 months and an apology from me she would tell my spouse sorry but doesnt even want to show up for meet she scheduled with my family and i. Now she doesnt want to make it work and be involved. Will she affect our relationship in the future? I love him but should i call it quits? I know we are trying this 2nd chance thing and talked about moving together with the baby and things been okay now. He loves me but shpuld we stay together?

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
It seems like this has been an ongoing dispute between you and your partner’s mom. Often it can be hard for people to make meaningful change quickly and you know her better than we do and know if she can actually stay out of the relationship. We are not in a position to give you advice on if you should stay with him or continue to give him a second chance after all of this. It might be helpful to talk to a couple’s counselor or a neutral third party to mediate a conversation between all three of you so that you can all have room to speak and be listened to.
We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS